10 Apr What To Do When You Feel Desperate For Marriage
Almost all single people I know want to get married. Some want to get married in the far future, some in the near future while some are ready to get married now. For those who are ready but have not found or been found it is challenging. Waiting is challenging, especially writing for something you feel ready for. If you cannot see it happening soon, you might get desperate and frantic.
Asking a single person who feels time is no longer on their side to wait, will not be well received in most cases, like when I asked a lady to WAIT for the right man. I have seen many who feel desperate for marriage rush into marriage only to regret it with time. Desperation is not a bad thing, but what you allow it make you do is issue.
What or who does desperation drive you to?
I have seen desperate single people, both men and ladies do some unbecoming things as a result of their desperation.
- Some ladies their desperate moves had Ruth As The Root. The think they could chase down a man just because Ruth did.
- Some singles manipulate, deceive, lie, pretend and make false appearances in order to “make” marriage happen for them.
- Many allow desperation to drive them to hopelessness and depression.
- Others get married to “whoever” without proper information or thought, hoping they will “change” after marriage
- A few others marry hoping they would like the person later…
The list of results of desperation is endless.
Do not allow desperation to drive you into any foolishness. Some people get married only to discover in their honey moon that they should have listened to God from the beginning.
So what or who should desperation drive us to?
Let Desperation Drive You To God.
O God, listen to my cry! Hear my prayer! From the ends of the earth, I cry to you for help when my heart is overwhelmed. Psalm 61:1 & 2a NLT
God is a loving Father, He expects you to run to Him when your heart is overwhelmed with despair. He wants to cradle you in His arms and reassure you of His love. He is true to His word and His promises are yea and amen. He has done all that needs to be done, you only need to trust and wait for the manifestation.
Come to Me, all you who labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28 NKJV
Casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7 NKJV
Cast your burden on the Lord [releasing the weight of it] and He will sustain you; He will never allow the [consistently] righteous to be moved (made to slip, fall, or fail). Psalm 55:22 AMPC
Spend time in singing, praising and worshipping God for who He is. Pour out your heart to Him, let the tears flow if they are near, empty yourself to Him. You will find strength and a fresh perspective. The overwhelming feeling of despair will fade and you will be revived and ready to keep trusting God as you expect a manifestation of your spouse.
Run To God’s Word In The Heat Of The Moment
This is not to say you should only read or think on God’s word when desperate. I am saying that times when you feel pressured and desperate you should run to God’s word. If you have His word stored up in your heart, it becomes easy to be reminded by The Holy Spirit. Also physically opening up the Bible and reading God’s promises concerning you and marriage out to yourself will refresh your heart and your faith.
The statutes of the Lord are right, rejoicing the heart; Psalm 19:8a NKJV
I wait for the Lord, my soul waits, and in His word I do hope. Psalm 130:5 NKJV
Truly, you should run to God’s word for hope and reassurance. His heart concerning you is spelt out in His word and each time you read His word, you find His will concerning you.
For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11 NKJV
God said from the beginning that it is not good for man to be alone. God has a wife and husband for everyone of His children. His word does not change or fail. When you run to God’s word in times of desperation you receive hope and refreshing of your spirit.
Instead of running to things, food, movies or depressing songs, run to God and His word, you will receive hope, love, encouragement and strength.
Take Desperate Faith Steps
I agree with this statement only to the extent that the desperate measures are God breathed. You must take desperate steps to express how strong your desire and faith are.
For as the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without works is dead also. James 2:26 NKV
Examples Of Desperate Faith Steps
I remember the testimony I heard of how a lady bought her wedding dress and hung it in her room. She made up her mind on a date stuck it on her mirror. Every day she declared in faith that come that date, she would get married. She engaged God in her prayers and spoke His promises back to Him. I do not remember how long she did this, but she got married on the said date. God honoured what some people thought was foolishness.
How can you buy a wedding dress when you were not in any relationship talk more of a proposal? But faith appears as foolish to the carnal mind.
I also know a man who told everyone who cared to listen that come so and so date, he would be married. This man was referred to as an over qualified bachelor in the sense that he was getting too old… but he engaged God and kept declaring his faith to the heavens and the earth. He got married two days later than his set date, only because that day did not fall on a weekend.
A lady entered a covenant with God in one of the Churches we pastored. She took on cleaning the Church surroundings every morning, picking up trash and sweeping. She would then go on the Church altar and engage heavens in prayers. It was not long before her husband appeared. He was more than what she had asked for.
Some I know sowed covenant seeds for their spouses.
There are so many testimonies of people who put their faith to work by engaging heaven in their words and actions and God responded in their favour.
A Very Sure Step
Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need. Matthew 6:33 NLT
If you would put your need aside and focus on the above scripture, your desires will come forth in a very timely manner.
If would put God and the prosperity of His kingdom before your desire to get married, God will fulfill your desires and right on time too.
- Seek God in prayers
- Seek God in worship
- Seek God in fellowship
- Seek God in obedience to His word
- Seek God’s righteousness
- Seek and pursue the salvation of souls
He promises to meet your every need. And you know, God’s word does not return to Him void. So if you are desperate, let it drive you to God, His word, faith and obedience. You will be amazed at how God will honour you.
Patient trust in God will always cause God to do exceeding abundantly, above your thoughts, desires and imagination.
Are you single and ready for marriage?
Are you taking “desperate” faith steps to receive your desire?
Did you engage God in any desperate manner before you met your spouse?
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