The Time I Failed To Love
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The Time I Failed To Love

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The Time I Failed To Love

When I met him I took a liking to him because he was always reaching out to me. He always found me where ever I was, to greet me with a hug and a smile,  and I had no problem hugging him back at all.
A time came though when I started getting irritated at his hugs, I even found myself cringing when he reached out to hug me. I could not figure out why I started feeling so uncomfortable, I would often look for reasons to walk away when I thought he was walking towards me, my smiles in his direction reduced and he even complained a couple of times to tell me I refused to smile at him, respond to his greetings, or hug him. I would tender a flimsy apology and offer a fake smile.

I got to know he had been involved in some sinful act and I thought to myself, ‘No wonder I became irritated at him.’ I had not even made an attempt to talk it over with him, to know if it was something he was willing to overcome, something he was struggling to overcome…

My irritation towards him got even stronger and stronger. One day I had to mention it to God and I felt so ashamed of myself in God’s presence.

Love is not irritable… 1 Corinthians 13:5 NLT Click To Tweet

I Was Completely Out Of Line

Love does not give up on people when they goof. Love seeks to draw them close and help them out. If I claim to be a child of love I should not have reacted the way I did to this boy who attended the same church I did and always reached out to me, pushing him away will not help anything. I should have rather embraced him, maybe God would use me to help him out.
Who knows, maybe his continual reach to me was because he needed help, and I was putting myself out of his reach. Lord have mercy!

Look What Manner Of Spirit We Are Of

In Luke 9, Jesus faced heavy rejection from the people of Samaria because even though He intended to visit them and bless them, they were upset because they thought He will be going to Jerusalem from there. At the time Samaria and Israel were great enemies.
He sent His disciples to go and get the city ready for His visit but the disciples observed that they would not receive Him and they were upset. They asked Jesus…

And when His disciples James and John observed this, they said, Lord, do You wish us to command fire to come down from heaven and consume them,  even as Elijah did?
Luke 9:54 AMPC
I can imagine how angry these man were, angry enough to want to call down fire to consume the people of Samaria, and perhaps Jesus’s response might have even infuriated them more. Look what He said to them;

But He turned and rebuked and severely censured them. He said, You do not know of what sort of spirit you are. Luke 9:55 AMPC

What did He mean by this, what sort of spirit was He talking about?

For the Son of Man did not come to destroy men’s lives, but to save them (from the penalty of eternal death). And they journeyed on to another village. Luke 9:56 AMPC
Jesus came to save men from eternal death, and He was in essence, saying to His disciples that they are of the same spirit, the spirit to save instead of destroy, to save instead of condemn, to love instead of hate, to accept people instead of reject them.
I failed to reflect this spirit in my dealing with this young man…

We Are Saviours

No, this is no heresy!
And saviours shall come up on mount Zion to judge the mount of Esau; and the kingdom shall be the Lord’s. Obadiah 27

Therefore thou deliveredst them into the hand of their enemies, who vexed them: and in the time of their trouble, when they cried unto thee, thou heardest them from heaven; and according to thy manifold mercies thou gavest them saviours, who saved them out of the hand of their enemies. Nehemiah 9:27

God called men saviours. Jesus is our saviour, He came as our saviour, He lives in us and expects us to be saviours in the world. He does not want us to condemn or push people off. He does not want us to esteem ourselves too holy or spiritually superior to reach out and help a growing believer.

Love would reach out and pray for someone struggling with a particular sin, talk to the person about it and continue interceding until a change occurs.
That is what Jesus would do, in fact, I believe Jesus is still praying for men to turn away from sin and live unto Him, and here on earth, He wants to use me and you.

When we reject people because they have not come up to our level of spiritual growth and understanding, we might chase them away and into the world and the devil.

Please make no mistake, I do not allude to us not confronting sin, or condoning it. I am saying that when a fellow believer makes a mistake, like we all do, we should not push the person off and away from the love that would have helped them.

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Pushing People Off Is The Easy Route

Sure it is! It is so easy to push people out, especially, members of our spiritual family, when we feel they have sinned. It is easy to cut people off because we think we are more righteous than they are… our spiritual pride stops us from doing what Jesus would do… loving them when they are in their dark places. Pushing people off is the easy route.
It is hard work to talk with them, pray with them, intercede for them, disciple them and allow ourselves to be used of God as saviours to deliver them from their dark places. It sure is hard work and it takes love, patience, humility and determination to be used of God in this way.

I failed and had to repent. I trust God that I would allow His love in me flow out unto this brother of mine and compel me to pray with him, disciple him, intercede for him and trust God for His deliverance from this sin.

Have you been in a place like this before?
How do you think believers should treat one who is still growing in faith?

Copyright© Ugochi Oritsejolomisan 2017

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a mentor, encourager and influencer. She writes to inspire you to live a full life. Ugochi lives in Canada with her husband Benson and their children; Joshua, Joseph and Josiah.

  • Cheryl
    Posted at 00:45h, 08 August

    Oh, this is so full of truth! It is so easy to push others down, as if we, ourselves, are not fallible and as susceptible to fall as anyone else. If only we would think of our own shortcomings and the many times we have fallen short of God’s glory, perhaps we would not be so quick to judge others. I am so ashamed to say that I have been guilty of this SO many times…way too many. God forgive me and help me to love as Jesus loves. Thank you, sweet sister, for this admonition. It struck straight to my heart, and it was needed. God uses you so many times to help and bless me. I love and appreciate you!

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 16:30h, 09 August

      God have mercy on us and help us to keep growing in our love for Him and others. Many thanks for coming by Cheryl, and leaving these truths. Do have a super blessed day!

  • E. Luminous Aghosa
    Posted at 14:18h, 07 August

    I have been in similar situations a number of times, offended by the sinful deeds of another believer(s). But then, God showed me the state of my heart and I realized that I was just as needy of the Father’s mercy as the person(s) in view. At other times, the Father made me see the Love of Jesus that I never deserved.

    Just as you have mentioned love is the key. God is Love and when He dwells in us, we should exude this love bountifully.

    Believers in a body have different levels of experiences with the Lord. There are babes and weak brethren on one hand and there are mature and strong brethren on the other hand. The Father wants the the strong to bear the burden of the weak and the mature to help nurture the babes.

    Paul urged the believers to seek to restore any believer who may have been overtaken by sin. The point is, if any part of a body aches, it will affect the whole body negatively some way. It is thus needful for us to watch out for one another and not allow the evil one to take advantage of anyone, especially the weaker ones among us who may be easily swayed.

    May we love like our Lord Jesus.

    Lots of Love to you Dear Ugochi.

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 16:27h, 09 August

      Amen Bro! Many thanks for coming by, do have a super blessed day!

  • John Abang
    Posted at 07:37h, 07 August

    Mummy, this is another reminder from the Lord to display our inherent nature of love to even the unlovable.
    Love heals! It covers multitude of shortcomings and restore someone back to the right path.
    Loving someone does not depend on the person’s disposition.
    Many thanks mummy and more grace to be use by God.

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 16:26h, 09 August

      I totally agree with your Pastor J! God help us to love others like He loves us. Thanks very much for coming by, please give your wife my love. Do have a super blessed day!