How To Stop Masturbation.

How To Stop Masturbation.

Masturbation is a highly debated subject in some quarters, while in some others it is hardly ever talked about. But it is something real and a concern for many who do not know where to go to or who to turn to for help. Some do not see anything wrong with it, while some are struggling to stop and some stop for a while and find themselves fall right back into it.
I share here some ways I believe one can put a complete stop to this habit. I wrote something about it last week and this is a continuation, if you would like to, you can read my first post on masturbation HERE.

The devil always wants to sell his lies to people who are engaged in masturbation and all other sexual perversions:
“It does not matter”
“You are flesh and blood”
“You cannot stop it”
“God understands, you have to satisfy these sexual urges after all He put them in you.”
The devil is a liar and the father of lies, everything he says to you contradicts directly with God’s command and he must be resisted with God’s word.

In order to overcome masturbation or any other sin;

1. You must AGREE that it is sin.
You must totally agree and believe that masturbation is sin and displeasing to God. This is the very first step to your victory. This is the first step to your victory. When you come to this point, nothing the devil, anyone, or your flesh says can or will convince you that it is okay to continue, or that it does not matter.

Don’t you realize that this is not the way to live? Unjust people who don’t care about God will not be joining in his kingdom. Those who use and abuse each other, use and abuse sex, use and abuse the earth and everything in it, don’t qualify as citizens in God’s kingdom.
1 Corinthians 6:9 MSG

Flee immorality. Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the immoral man sins against his own body.
1 Corinthians 6:18 NASB

2. You must KNOW that you can be forgiven.
A lot of times satan keeps people stuck in sin because he wants them to believe that they have failed God terribly and there fore God cannot forgive them and He keep looking at them as sinners. The moment you genuinely repent and ask God for forgiveness, he forgives you completely and does not remember it anymore.

But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wickedness.
1 John 1:9 NLT
I–yes, I alone–will blot out your sins for my own sake and will never think of them again. Isaiah 43:25 NLT

And I will forgive their wickedness, and I will never again remember their sins. Hebrews 8:12 NLT
Jesus did not shed His blood for nothing. By His blood He purchased our forgivness. By His blood we can be cleansed from all unrighteousness. There is no kind of sin that His blood cannot save and cleanse us from.

He is so rich in kindness and grace that he purchased our freedom with the blood of his Son and forgave our sins.
Ephesians 1:7 NLT

3. You must KNOW that you can stop it.
You must believe and know for sure that you can do all things through Christ that strengthens you. Philippians 4:13
Jesus is willing and able to help you overcome every temptation and sin. He was tempted but He never fell into sin, so He can help us do the same. All you need to do is trust Him and call on Him for help.

For in that He himself has suffered being tempted, he is able to help those who are tempted. Hebrews 2:18 WEB

Sin is no longer your master, for you no longer live under the requirements of the law. Instead, you live under the freedom of God’s grace. Romans 6:14 NLT

For every child of God defeats this evil world, and we achieve this victory through our faith. 1 John 5:4 NLT

4. You must WANT to stop it.
Your desire to stop it must be so strong that you are willing to do all (in righteousness) that it takes to put an end to it. You must make up your mind to please God by obeying His commands. You must make up your mind to honour God with your body.
For God bought you with a high price. So you must honour God with your body. 1 Corinthians 6:20 NLT

But Daniel made up his mind that he would not defile himself… Daniel 1:8 NASB

I have sworn, and I will perform it, that I will keep thy righteous judgments. Psalms 119:106

5. You Must fill your mind with God’s word.
a. By Reading God’s Word.
Like water washes the body clean from dirt, God’s word washes the mind from sinful thoughts. A regular study of God’s word, with focus on verses on sexual immorality, overcoming sin, the blood of Jesus, walking in righteousness and the likes will rid cleanse the mind.

…To sanctify her by cleansing her with the washing of the water by the word. Ephesians 5:26 NET

Sanctify them through thy truth: thy word is truth. John 17:17

b. By Thinking On God’s Word.
What you meditate on, you will act on. If you constantly think on God’s word, sinful thoughts will no longer find room in your mind.
And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. Philippians 4:8 NLT

In my heart I store up your words, so I might not sin against you. Psalm 119:11 NET

6. You Must Pray Constantly.
You must constantly talk with God in prayers. When you spend time with God in prayers, you receive grace and strength to overcome.
So let us come boldly to the throne of our gracious God. There we will receive his mercy, and we will find grace to help us when we need it most. Hebrews 4:16 NLT

Take the word of God, for example these ones I shared here and turn them into a conversation with God. In prayer you receive wisdom and power to overcome. If you do not pray then you make yourself an easy prey for the devil. It is in prayer that you receive power to resist temptation.
Keep watch and pray, so that you will not give in to temptation. For the spirit is willing, but the body is weak.
Mark 14:38 NLT  Spending time to speak in tongue is one way to build your faith to with stand all the fiery darts of the enemy.
But dear friends, use your most holy faith to build yourselves up, praying in the Holy Spirit. Jude 1:20 NCV

7. You Must Be Sensitive To And Yield To The Holy Spirit.
The Holy Spirit is our Helper. He helps us by reminding us of God’s word and constantly telling us where, what, how, with whom…
When you fill your mind with God’s Word, The Holy Spirit will often bring the word back to you when you need it. All you need to do is yield yourself to Him and obey, then you will not fall for the cravings of your flesh. Remember, you receive the power to obey as you spend time in prayer. He enables us to overcome, He is The Power Of God.
So I say, let the Holy Spirit guide your lives. Then you won’t be doing what your sinful nature craves. Galatians 5:16 NLT

8. You Must Avoid Temptations.
There are things you watch, things you read, places you go, people you hang out with, music you listen to… that bombard your mind with ungodly thoughts and stir your flesh toward sinning. You must do whatever you need to do to guard your mind and not expose yourself to these people, places or things.
Cut yourself off from any person, place or thing that feeds your flesh… Your eyes and ears are gateways to your heart and mind, therefore you must be deliberate about protecting yourself from whatever will lead you to sin.

I will refuse to look at anything vile and vulgar… Psalms 101:3 NLT
Stay away from every kind of evil. 1 Thessalonians 5:22 NLT
And don’t let yourself think about ways to indulge your evil desires. Romans 13:14b NLT

9. You Must Make Yourself Accountable To Someone Or People.
Surrounding yourself with the right kind of people is of great importance in overcoming sin. Establish a relationship with someone or some people who you can talk to regularly about what is going on in that area of your life. Someone who will also check up on you regularly to know how you are doing, pray with you and go over God’s word with you.

Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellers there is safety. Proverbs 11:14

Being involved in a local Church where your spirit is constantly fed by regular Bible studies and which has active support groups will help greatly.
We should not stop gathering together with other believers, as some of you are doing. Instead, we must continue to encourage each other even more as we see the day of the Lord coming. Hebrews 10:25 GW

10. You Must Think Of The Consequences.
One of the things you can do to stop a particular sin is to think of the consequences. When you weigh the consequences against the pleasure, you will know that you ought to deny yourself of the pleasure of sin in order to gain a bigger, better and everlasting pleasure.
Don’t you realize that this is not the way to live? Unjust people who don’t care about God will not be joining in his kingdom. Those who use and abuse each other, use and abuse sex, use and abuse the earth and everything in it, don’t qualify as citizens in God’s kingdom.  1 Corinthians 6:9 MSG

In and with Christ, you can overcome the world and all the evil it presents you. Christ in you is greater than the sin fighting against you. I know you can overcome because several others have overcome.
You do not have to stay bound by this sin. It has destroyed lives, marriages and families.
It shall not destroy you in Jesus name. Amen!

What are some other ways you know one can stop masturbation?
If you know someone struggling with this, would you send him/her the link to this page?

Copyright© Ugochi Oritsejolomisan 2017

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16 Comments

  1. It is not easy. I really want to stop!!! but it seems like a Herculean task.
    I am 32 and I must say for 20years this sin has held me bound. I have tried to stop but I always go back to it. I was touched inappropriately as a kid (5/6years) and battled with sexual thoughts all through school, it graduated to using soft objects, clothes tied up in the shape of the male genitalia,pillows to touch myself pillows then it graduated to porn.

    One day my dad walked in while I was at it ( He was a good christian but he never talked to me about it). It is scary I know that its a big sin, hell is real but I don’t know how to stop?. I told my youth pastor about it and he told me once I got married I would stop It ( I entered into a sexual covenant with God not to masturbate or have premarital sex), I even placed a curse on myself, thinking it will deter me ( I said if I masturbate may God should make me barren) .

    I did not sleep with any man until I got married…..I knew God wanted me pure as a young girl, I didn’t mess around – married a virgin ( that masturbates). Today I am married with 2kids ( God was merciful, he still gave me kids ignoring the curse i placed on myself ) but it’s still there.

    The Fear of hell sometimes stops me. (1cor 6:9 9Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, 10nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God).
    Its scary to be separated from God for all eternity, I know the consequences are huge. I need help.

    I also don’t reach orgasm with Hubby unless with his assistance I stimulate my vagina ( is this a sin too). If i don’t touch my clitoris while he uses his hands I don’t reach orgasm. If this is sin….were women created not to reach Orgasm while men do? . Will I need to stop this too?

    Sometimes I want to just give up but I am encouraged with this post. I will work on the points you gave, especially meditating on scriptures that talk about overcoming sexual sins. Its well. thank you for this post

    1. I am delighted that you are encouraged. God bless you!
      Love

  2. Its hard battling with the other world (immorality). Sometimes it feels like a long web of trouble to trouble. I don’t understand myself sometimes, and i have many to say but God got us…….

  3. Your Comment here…thk

  4. thank you very much woman of God, it helped me a lot..more grace

  5. […] countless mails on people wanting to stop fornication and other sexual sins. The one I wrote on Masturbation hasn’t gotten quite that much response but I have received mails from some of my readers who […]

  6. I am a victim. And i know it a sin for long, i have tried almost all what you said yes they work but i am easily distrated and i will go back againt but one thin i’v not tried is geting a counselor i know counseling will not help because it might be a one day or two week stuff. I know what i realy need is a mentor and no one is ready to asist me which i acknowledge long ago that i needed one. someone that can realy be close and help me to get this thin of my head completly. Though am still searching

    1. Hi Samuel,
      It is a very good thing that you want to stop, it shows you are still sensitive to The Holy Spirit. Have you tried talking with your Pastor about it?

      1. No. But i actually have reason for that

    2. Have you quit?

  7. I am a victim

    1. If you stick with the recommendations of this post, you will be on your way to overcoming this habit.
      God’s grace!

  8. Thanks to your previous post, I now agree that it is sin (#1) and I want to stop it (#4). I like your suggestions. I must have faith that I can stop and that I can be forgiven. One problem is that, like with using pornography, it is so yucky and shameful that it is difficult to bring it up in prayer.

    You ask: “What are some other ways you know one can stop masturbation?”

    Two things I’ve been doing to keep me away from porn:

    I used to tell myself that I didn’t deserve nice things (I don’t work hard enough, I don’t care enough for my family; etc.). So when I really needed something “nice” it would be the forlorn comforts of pornography and masturbation or other bad habits. Now I say I *do* deserve nice things and I find more wholesome things to do that I like more.

    I am also spending more time in online Christian spaces (instead of online porn spaces). Often not for guidance or admonition, but for cheering and uplifting messages. This gives me a quick boost.

    Sorry for two such long comments! I hope they might be useful.

    David

    1. I am excited David! No need to apologize, I am happy to know that this is helping someone. And your comment here is a blessing to many who will read and see that they deserve the best and do not need to indulge in any self destructing act for gratification.
      I cannot wait to hear your full testimony!
      Please stay in touch.
      Have a super blessed day!

  9. I am a victim .

    1. You can be a victor bro!

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