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My Thoughts On Spousal Abuse.

My Thoughts On Spousal Abuse.

Last week I read of how a man beat his wife to death, this is one out of so many others I have read of between last year and now. I also read, I think some months ago, that a woman stabbed her husband to death, these things have me wondering.

How can you literarily hurt the one you claim to love? Click To Tweet

I do not know that kind of love. This is the kind of love God taught us…

Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have. Love doesn’t strut, doesn’t have a swelled head, Doesn’t force itself on others, Isn’t always “me first,” doesn’t fly off the handle, doesn’t keep score of the sins of others, doesn’t revel when others grovel, Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, puts up with anything, trusts God always, Always looks for the best, Never looks back, But keeps going to the end. Love never dies. 1 Corinthians 13 :4-8 MSG

Also read Ephesians 5:22-29

Marriage ought to be a union of love, the kind of love Christ has for the Church. I know if Jesus walked the earth in these times He will totally frown at these happenings.

The truth is, especially for believers, these signs are not hidden from us. I remember a lady who told me how she saw her husband displayed some anger fits before they got married but she brushed it aside.

This desperation or lust that makes a lady go ahead and marry someone who cannot control his anger is devilish. Some people may not even display anger to their fiancés or fiancees but when you see a person being violent to another person, you should know they can be the same way to you too. But, people say they are in “love” and ignore these danger signs, go ahead and marry…

When The Deed Is Done.
Okay, now that you are married to an abusive person, what should you do?
Abuse has many forms; verbal, emotional, physical… but I believe one has to even be physically alive in order to deal with the other forms of abuse.

I never saw my parents hit each other and when I started hearing of men especially hitting their wives I took a decision;

No man would have the privilege of hitting me twice. Click To Tweet

I know that women say and do a lot of things they shouldn’t do, but truly, that’s not enough to make any man lay their hands on their wives. If God was to give a knock for every wrong, no one would be remaining on the earth today.

I Know, God Hates Divorce.
This is a very tricky subject matter because physical abuse was not mentioned as ground for divorce. But I know for sure that God would not expect any woman to remain under a man who beats her until the point of her death.

I believe any woman who is being physically abused should step aside and pray for her husband from a safe place. God can change the hardest of hearts, but the person must first be desirous for change. The same goes for men who are married to violent women.

God hates abuse as much as He hates divorce. Click To Tweet.

Anything that goes against love, He hates!

I Recommend Life!
Anything that does not represent God’s character of love cannot be loved by God. I am not recommending divorce but I am recommending life. Every person has the right to live and fulfil their destiny and anything that wants to take that away is not of God.

While the woman or man runs to safety, they can intercede for their angry or disturbed spouses from far and trust God for a change in them.

I am actually broken hearted by the number of women… and men who have lost their lives because of an abusive spouse.

  • While I believe they were warned not to go ahead and marry the person.

The LORD directs the steps of the godly. He delights in every detail of their lives. Psalm 37:23 NLT

  • I do not believe they must pay by death, they were forgiven the moment they realised and asked for mercy, they do not have to die for it.

I must repeat that I am not prescribing or recommending divorce, I am recommending life!

What are your thoughts on spousal abuse?

Copyright© Ugochi Oritsejolomisan 2016

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Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a mentor, encourager and influencer. She writes to inspire you to live a full life. Ugochi lives in Canada with her husband Benson and their children; Joshua, Joseph and Josiah.

  • ebiichyke
    Posted at 07:46h, 12 May

    Bless you Ma. Talking about it openly will certainly help. Like you rightly put it, its not about divorce, its about remaining alive. People see it as a failure when their marriages are troubled so they hide the truth from even family and close friends. Our parents taught us to stick it out but certainly not in the face of very grave dangers. People should be encouraged to work away from abuse and stay safe. Wives blame themselves for their abusive husbands attributing to what they said or didn’t say. It could also be vice versa.singles should be taught to walk away from abuse and not turn to painters trying to paint white what is black. You are a blessing Ma’am. God bless you

  • Lora Lovin Osburn
    Posted at 21:16h, 11 May

    Bless you sister for tackling a difficult; but very real subject. You did well.

    I appreciate you stopping By The Lamp Light and leaving kind words for me.

  • Beth
    Posted at 15:44h, 11 May

    Such an important message, Ugochi! I think this is more common place than we might ever imagine. I do hope this helps those who are in that kind of situation. It truly is a choice for life when we seek to protect ourselves in those kinds of situations. Thanks for sharing your wise and biblical advice with us, my friend!

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 17:37h, 11 May

      I really do hope it does Beth, the deaths are getting too many.
      Many thanks for coming by. Do have a super blessed day!