A Tragedy Too Close.
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A Tragedy Too Close.

A Tragedy Too Close.

Two Sundays ago I had to do something that I dread doing all the time. Something I can never get used to doing even though my job often demands it.
We were in a planning meeting for an upcoming program in Church and I stepped out with a pastor, we were headed for a quick survey in a nearby store on some items we needed to get. We spent a bit of time there and upon our return my husband met me outside and told me our father in The Lord had asked that I locate one of our young adults and stay with her to comfort her.

He said there had been a fatal accident involving her parents and that it didn’t look too good. Click To Tweet

Well, I thought, okay, we would pray and God would heal and restore…
Not long after we went in, my husband asked that I leave immediately with one of the pastors and locate the young lady’s house. I got a bit worried, I asked questions…
“What if she asked what I was doing there?”
“What should I say to her when I get there?”
“What exactly had happened?”

I did not understand my husband, he too was a bit flustered in his reply and I noticed he was a bit low and his words were heavy.

I Always Think I Am Not That Strong.
With heartbeat racing, and mind wondering, I joined the pastor in her car and we headed to the young lady’s residence. We had gone about half way when I got a call from one of the ministers in Church who told me the young lady’s father, who is a minister in our ministry had died on the spot with his younger son and his mother was very critical in the hospital.

I lost it then! The pain and shock hit me so hard. My sister who was driving kept telling me it was not true, she insisted that even if it was, God was going to bring them back alive. I hoped… and prayed too…

When we eventually came to see the lady, we met her in her living room, trembling in a corner on her couch, looking at me with bulging eye suspicion. She asked us what was going on and what we were doing at her house, through teeth so clenched I was scared. I later learned she was aware of the accident and nothing more…
I asked for a glass of water, just to make sure she could open her mouth, she took a little and continued quaking…

Later my husband came and she eventually perceived…her dad and brother were dead. Click To Tweet

The trembling increased.
While we were in her room trying to pack a bag for her to go home with us, I got a call that her mum had passed away too and I fell to the floor and did a bit of a hushed cry, I no longer completely hold it in…

I Never Had It So Close.
I have watched movies where family tragedies like this happened… but this was no movie…this was happening to a family in our church, a family I know closely, our hearts ached for the other children, our hearts were broken in pieces, it was too heavy to bear. Our hearts ached for our father and mother in The Lord, they have lost three children all at once. Our Church family all over the world was in pain…

But we take solace in God’s word in 1 Thessalonians 4:13-18 CEB
13 Brothers and sisters, we want you to know about people who have died so that you won’t mourn like others who don’t have any hope. 14 Since we believe that Jesus died and rose, so we also believe that God will bring with him those who have died in Jesus. 15 What we are saying is a message from the Lord: we who are alive and still around at the Lord’s coming definitely won’t go ahead of those who have died. 16 This is because the Lord himself will come down from heaven with the signal of a shout by the head angel and a blast on God’s trumpet. First, those who are dead in Christ will rise. 17 Then, we who are living and still around will be taken up together with them in the clouds to meet with the Lord in the air. That way we will always be with the Lord. 18 So encourage each other with these words.

Their death is VERY painful, heart wrenching painful and we totally wish they were here.

But God has them and the devil has lost them forever! Click To Tweet

We rest in the knowing that we will get to be with them in the church in paradise, rejoicing as we worship and praise our God eternally.

  • We trust God for strength for them and the courage to not stop living but live and fulfil God’s purpose for them.
  • We trust God to be that church family that they can look back at and know that we are there for them.
  • We trust that God will take care of their other children and make something beautiful out of this terribly painful situation.

…To provide for Zion’s mourners, to give them a crown in place of ashes, oil of joy in place of mourning, a mantle of praise in place of discouragement. They will be called Oaks of Righteousness, planted by the Lord to glorify himself. Isaiah 61:3 CEB

If you or anyone you know is grieving, please encourage them with these two verses as you pray for them.

Do you know any close family tragedy like this one?
How did you deal with it?

Copyright© Teshuva 2016
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Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a mentor, encourager and influencer. She writes to inspire you to live a full life. Ugochi lives in Canada with her husband Benson and their children; Joshua, Joseph and Josiah.

  • Cheryl
    Posted at 14:59h, 23 March

    Oh, dear friend! What a horrible thing for this precious family! So heartwrenching! And for you, too, to have to deal with and grieve. May the God of all comfort bless and be with all of you in this tragic situation. I do apologize for not seeing this earlier. For some odd reason, I have stopped receiving ALL blog posts from several bloggers whom I have subscribed to by email. I have been on the phone with our ISP for HOURS, and they cannot figure it out. I miss getting your posts and the posts of others. Please forgive me for not responding sooner to this sad event in your life. God bless you, dear sister.

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 16:43h, 23 March

      Amen! Many thanks for your kind words Cheryl.I pray the subscription situation is resolved quickly.
      Have a super blessed day!

  • Deola Phillips
    Posted at 23:31h, 18 March

    I lost two friends in 2012!.. it all seemed like a joke… One of them is a male.. he just drank water after a Sunday service and he started coughing. One thing led to another, he landes in the hospital.. I and a friend went to visit him at his residence not knowing that would be the last time we would see him.. we gisted about different stuff.. he told us he was gonna customize our shirts, spoke about resumption, he saw us off to the bus-stop and spoke Hausa with the bike man.. it all still seems like yesterday.. ever green memories.. Isaac was a brother and a friend.. very sacrificial.. age wasn’t a barrier while relating with younger folks for him.. I remember then I wore a new pair of peep toe to church which was somehow tight and you can’t believe Isaac gave me his palm slippers to put on and he wore my peep toe from the Church junction to Jakande first gate (we boarded a bus) and it was when he was about to alight at his bustop (osapa) that we exchanged.. prior to then he had massaged my legs in church! Tell me which guy can put on a ladies shoes and comfortably walk on public road ignoring stares?!!!!! my brother he was! I miss him…
    Also lost a lady (Elizabeth) a babe who fought a through her life, a survivor to d core, she didn’t let her sickness put her back to the ground!… I miss them a lot.. but God knows best.. I found a write-up I wrote prior to their death( the summary is when sm1 dies and u hope for a miracle n then the clock ticks n it seems miracle doesn’t happen) I wrote that out of ignorance because I know miracles happen whether in life or death!
    I love u mama.. Grace all d way.. pls pardon my errors, don’t intend reading through b4 forwarding.

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 15:00h, 19 March

      I love you more Dee! It is well, the pain is real but God is a good God and He is the God of all comfort and peace.
      Have a super blessed weekend!

  • Chigbo Oguoba
    Posted at 14:11h, 17 March

    My dear sister am just sitting in a car wash and reading through this. He is one of the few persons that inspired me so much from a distance. Humility personified. Sure the household of God has lost something of great value but like Papa declared the kingdom of darkness must give up at least ten thousand souls to God’s Kingdom. I feel pained as this is a great loss to my two families FFC and FGBMFI, but your beautiful write up has said it all, our respite is in the Lord Jesus. My heart goes out to his immediate family and Papa Amaga. May their souls find peace in the Lord.

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 12:55h, 18 March

      Amen bro! It is very difficult to say the least but our God is the God of all comfort.

  • Joann Gonzalez
    Posted at 18:46h, 16 March

    I agree so with Beth and will lift up family and dear friends. I will pray for the peace that pass’s all understanding. Life here is so so short. My brother in law who was a paraplegic had a notice from the Doctor the he was going to die soon. He was told this to prepair him. Family and friends went in one by one to say there goodbye. I went in and Raymond looked at me and said, Joann I’m dyeing ang going to die very soon. Knowing Raymond was a Christian I said, oh Raymond your just going to leave a little before the rest of us. I said, your going to be whole and have a new body, you will be able to walk and soon will see streets of gold and all the things the Lord has prepared for us. You will be able to talk to the saints already there. I told him he was just passing from this world to the next. He wasn’t sad when he left.He would no longer be here but we are the ones left to deal with the absence of that person or in that child’s case several most important people. God will use her and her testimony to help many and will bless her in ways she has never imagined. I will be praying for strength for her to get through this difficult period in her life. I love you Ugochi.

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 13:16h, 17 March

      Many thanks mom. I appreciate your soothing words.
      I love you too!!!

  • Justice Justin
    Posted at 17:49h, 16 March

    Am so so touched by the write up

  • Beth
    Posted at 17:45h, 16 March

    It’s always so devastating when someone we know and do live and “faith” with dies unexpectedly and in this case, several of your dear brothers and sisters in Christ, Ugochi. What a painful season you and your church family are walking through. I will lift you all up as well as thank you for being a place of comfort and strength for this family. I just read at another blog about two unexpected deaths. It is a constant reminder that we do not know what today or tomorrow holds for any of us, so we must make every moment count for the Lord and His kingdom! Hugs to you!

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 13:09h, 17 March

      I agree Beth, we must make every moment count.
      Thanks very much for your kind words.
      Have a super blessed day!