We do not have to wait for a day or season in the year to talk about love. Love should be the lifestyle in our marriages. It is the bedrock of any successful home. Every other thing rests on the strength of the love in a marriage. Any marriage where love is not strengthened, where love is absent, is already dead while existing. Hence love should be thought about, talked about and displayed every single moment of every single year of our lives and marriages.
However, since somebody did something that was worthy of naming a day a day to remember love, we might as well seize the opportunity to talk about it.
Since the month began, the web has been awash with all kinds of news and information about Valentine’s Day and love. Lots of businesses are seizing the opportunity to make huge sales and draw many to use their services. Encouraging people all over the world to show love to others…Unfortunately, the world does not really understand what love really is.
I want to, in a very simple form list what love is not and what it is. So that when we relate with our spouses we will know and remember how to love them according to what God, who is Love Himself has commanded.
What Love Is Not.
According to the famous Bible passage 1 Corinthians 13, here is the list of things love is not:
- Love does not envy – It means you should not want what your spouse has and resent him/her for having it or wish he/she didn’t have it.
- Love does not boast – It means you should not talk with excessive pride and self-satisfaction about one’s achievements, possessions, or abilities to spite your spouse or make him/her feel small.
- Love is not proud – It means you should not have or show a high or excessively high opinion of yourself or your importance against your spouse.
- It does not dishonour others – This means you should not treat your spouse with disrespect.
- It is not self-seeking – This means you should not have concern for your own welfare and interests before those of your spouse.
- It is not easily angered – This means you should not easily have or display a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure, or hostility.
- It keeps no record of wrong – This means you do not remember the wrongs your spouse do to you and recount them in anger or unforgiveness.
- It does not delight in evil – This means you are not happy when your spouse does wrong, you will not side with him/her or defend him/her.
What Love Is.
Also according to 1 Corinthians 13, I will list below what love is:
- Love is patient – This means you are able to remain calm and not become annoyed under provocations from your spouse.
- Love is kind – This means you should be generous, helpful, and always consider your spouse’s feeling.
- Love rejoices with the truth – This means you rejoice when your spouse does truth and righteousness,
- Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes and always perseveres – This means you should always protect and trust your spouse. Always keep your hopes up concerning your spouse, always believe the best of your spouse, always persevere with your spouse.
- Love never fails – This means that your should never stop loving your spouse no matter what.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a NIV
I hope you did not start pointing fingers at your spouse while you read. You must first take the log off your own eye…
Read through again if you need to, you will see how you are loving your spouse presently and ways you can improve. I don’t think any more should be written now but that we should all go, be and do these with our spouses.
…God’s love has been abundantly poured out within our hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us. Romans 5:5bAMP
Let us go beyond just telling our spouses we love them and actually “do” love them. Let us not only love them on one special day but for always.
Happy Valentine’s Day anyway!
Are you “doing” love to your spouse?
In what ways can you do better?
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