When Shadows Loom Over A Marriage. - Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
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When Shadows Loom Over A Marriage.

When Shadows Loom Over A Marriage.

Every body likes attention. We all love to be paid compliments. We all love to be loved like we have never been loved before, like our hearts crave to be loved.
Believe me the enemy is very tactical and strategic in his approach against homes, especially at this times when he suspects that the time for his eternal condemnation is fast approaching. His target is mainly couples because he understands that when a marriage is devastated, it goes beyond man and wife to affect children as well.
So he comes with enticing promises of the things you long for, or he tries to get to you by presenting your spouse’s areas of short comings to you… and then some people will go “oohhh and ahhhh…” enjoy the attention and long for the promises and give in…

The Lady.
I saw a lady making sweet promises to a man, how she would treat him right, love him right, take good care of him. How she was willing and able to have children for him…

Gently, but steadily, this lady gained possession of the man’s mind and he couldn’t stop thinking of her. He compared his wife’s every word and action to those of this lady and suddenly began to lose interest in his wife.

Although nothing happened between this man and the lady but even in bed, he imagined he was with the lady, it got that bad.

I think it is time every married man and woman say NO to these creeping agents of the enemy. Click To Tweet

He Came At Me Too.
I remember once when one government official started making passes at me, calling me up at odd times, and making promises he thought could turn me from my husband to him. I immediately told my husband that their was this man…

I was hoping my husband would call him and chase him out of my life forever. He told me instead that I shouldn’t stop him from calling, he said it could be an opportunity to win him to Christ.

Believe me, I KNEW I was not called to win that one, so I barred his line! Click To Tweet

After a brief moment of peace he started calling me with another number, after the first pick, I barred that one too and stopped taking calls from numbers not stored on my phone. I think he got the message at that point and left me alone.

This man was trying to get through to my mind, thank God by His help I was able to refuse him entrance.

Some couples have allowed “people” into their homes by letting them have their minds. Shadows of the other lady or the other man are walking about in their homes and wrecking havoc in their marriages. Causing unhealthy comparisons, making their spouses feel like they are competing with someone over their hearts. They never do anything right anymore…

Every man and woman must refuse them entrance into their minds by refusing to entertain them in any way. The truth is, once they cannot have the mind, they cannot have their way.

It is the responsibility of couples to set up boundaries to protect their minds and marriage and also make themselves accountable to each other.

We live in evil times and the enemy is not relenting. We MUST not let down our guards, we must not entertain the enemy.

We must be wise not to pray when God commands to flee!

That would be doing the right thing at not such a good time.

…and do not give the devil an opportunity to work. Ephesians 5:27 ISV

Abstain from all appearance of evil. 1 Thessalonians 5:22

Are you fighting off shadows in your marriage?
Have you set healthy boundaries for your marriage?
Are you accountable to your spouse?

Copyright© Ugochi Oritsejolomisan 2015
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Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a mentor, encourager and influencer. She writes to inspire you to live a full life. Ugochi lives in Canada with her husband Benson and their children; Joshua, Joseph and Josiah.

  • Olu-Johnson
    Posted at 13:05h, 12 October

    christian couples, children of God should not be ignorance of the devises of devil, he’s seeking for families to devour but I pray we will not fall victim in Jesus Name. Be open minded to your spouse, guard your HOME from agents of darkness and do your best to make your marriage WORK. God’s BEAUTY will rub upon our homes in Jesus Name.

  • Beth
    Posted at 15:46h, 30 September

    Such a powerful and relevant post, Ugochi! I think this is such a rampant problem for married people. We just don’t talk about it because it might tarnish our reputation–especially if we were the ones doing the pursuing or fantasizing! But God’s word tells us that if we think lustfully, we have committed adultery in our hearts. I’m glad that you put up those strong boundaries with that man who was pursuing you. Sometimes our godly husband’s hearts are so hungry to see people won for the Lord that they don’t see the predator at the door! My hubby was the same way at certain times. Great post, my friend! I’ll be sharing!

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 12:40h, 05 October

      I know Beth. Many times they don’t see the intentions of these men…
      I had to deal with it by God’s grace and wisdom.
      Many thanks for coming by Beth.
      My blogging has not been too good lately, so much to do.
      I am trusting God for wisdom on time management so I can do more…