Influencing Your Spouse + Anniversary. - Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
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Influencing Your Spouse + Anniversary.

Influencing Your Spouse + Anniversary.

It is our wedding anniversay!!! Today my husband and I are fifteen years old in marriage. Hallelujah! Thank you Jesus!

One of the things I am so very grateful to God about is His blessing me with a man who totally loves and fears Him, one who would choose to please Him above all in all his dealings.
He always influences me to make the right choices and do the right things. Many times when he senses that I am about to go the wrong way or he sees that my emotions are beclouding my sense of right judgment he steps in and tries to redirect my focus, for this I am truly grateful. Though sometimes his methods are not exactly pleasing,

I know that many times the flesh cannot handle faith except it be put down by the spirit. Click To Tweet

I also believe that on more than one occasion God has helped me to help my husband do the right thing. You see, under normal circumstances, many times we are the constant and best influences the Holy Ghost will find for use in the lives of our spouses, if we let Him.

God Expects It.
God expects couples to influence each other positively. He does not only expect us to model Christ to our spouses by our lifestyle, but to also influence them by words of advice, stirring them up to do the right things no matter the situation.

And let us consider and give attentive, continuous care to watching over one another, studying how we may stir up (stimulate and incite) to love and helpful deeds and noble activities.
Hebrews 10:24 AMP

Truth however, is some people have strong willed spouses who would take no counsel from them, such people can be prayed for and brought under God’s influence, even the hardest heart can be softened by one touch from God.

We do it one way or the other.

I find that some people knowingly or unknowingly influence their spouse negatively by their words and actions. Some urge their spouses on to “Give it back to them” when someone offends them, some instigate their spouses to lie or cheat in their work places, some give their spouses ill advice concerning their commitment to God, jobs, family members, relationships…
This shouldn’t be.

We should, by the help of the Holy Spirit be sources of impact in the lives of our spouses such that because of us they become better than we met them. I have heard countless stories of how men and women have so influenced their spouses that they became great in their commitment to God, their attitude, jobs, relationships and more.

One reason God brings people together in marriage is to HELP each other become better. Click To Tweet

Two are better than one, because they have a good [more satisfying] reward for their labour; for if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow. Ecclesiastes 4:9,10a AMP

We can positively influence our spouses in their-

Jobs – By encouraging them to put in their best.
Thoughts – By encouraging them to think positively about some one or an issue.
Attitudes – By encouraging them to develop a healthy attitude to life.
Reactions – By encouraging them to act or react in the positive towards some one or something.
Lifestyle – By encouraging them to live a healthy spiritual, mental, emotional and physical lifestyle.
Relationship with people – By encouraging them to walk in love towards everyone at all times.
Relationship with God – By encouraging them to pursue God with fervency, seeking Him in His Word and in prayer.
This puts a huge task on all of us since we cannot give what we do not have. We have to strive daily to be positive people or we cannot possibly be positive influences to our spouses or any one else. There are so many other ways to influence your spouse positively and so many areas your spouse may be looking to you for influence.

What are the ways you are influencing your spouse?
What are they ways your spouse is influencing you?

Copyright© Ugochi Oritsejolomisan 2015
Update from 2013

Sharing With: Wedded Wednesday

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a mentor, encourager and influencer. She writes to inspire you to live a full life. Ugochi lives in Canada with her husband Benson and their children; Joshua, Joseph and Josiah.

  • Hope
    Posted at 19:13h, 07 September

    Mama J, congratulations. I pray may more happy years ahead for you and Dad. Thanks for this piece. It’s making me think hard.

  • nkechy
    Posted at 14:18h, 07 September

    Thanks for being an inspiration to me. Thanks for your prayers and thoughts. I love you so dearly….

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 14:22h, 07 September

      It is a privillege Nkechy! I am humbled and grateful to God to know that I inspire you.
      Have a super blessed week!
      Love you too!

  • Deborah Okeke
    Posted at 20:02h, 02 September

    Oh, am so happy for you pastor.15 years of marriage wow is not a small blessing.At the sametime i wish you many more blessing, love,success…. in your marital life in JESUS name.Amen. love you GOD bless

  • Kathy
    Posted at 20:08h, 02 September

    Love that you’re next door to me on #WeddedWednesday! Happy Anniversary! Our 20th is in 2 weeks, so I really appreciate and love your blog! I truly believe that God brings people together in marriage to help one another be more
    Christ-like, to help us with our flaws, blindness and mistakes– you offer such wise words to help our spouses! I’m teaching my spouse about forgiving others, turning the other cheek, praying for our enemies..he holds grudges sometimes with people who are not kind. It’s easier for me to do so. He teaches me so much, though, mostly to stay focused on God when I start getting pulled into the world! Blessings!

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 14:15h, 07 September

      Iron does sharpen iron Kathy, and we must stay humble to get positively influenced.
      Many thanks for coming by and sharing this encouragement.
      Have a super blessed week!

  • Beth
    Posted at 20:02h, 02 September

    First of all, congrats, Ugochi, on 15 years of marriage! That’s quite an important milestone! Secondly, there truly are so many ways we can encourage and influence our spouse toward spiritual, relational and emotional health. I love your list of practical ways to do those things near the end of your post, my friend. There’s nothing better than spelling it out for us. It gives us no excuse to do good! And you must have a really great man in your life because you have developed into such a godly and wise wife and woman. God’s light shines through you and I’m sure is even brighter with your man by your side. 🙂