God values all of His creation. Your spouse is a special gift from God to you. Your spouse is God’s special treasure given to you to cherish and nurture. You in turn should be a blessing to him/her. When you bless your spouse you will be blessed by God in return.
I will share below on some of the ways you can truly be a blessing to your spouse.
1. Be Sincere.
You must be sincere, first in order to please God and then to bless your spouse.
Deceit, dishonesty, falsehood, hypocrisy and the likes will not benefit you, your spouse or your marriage. And it will definitely not please God.
In order to be a blessing to your spouse you must be sincere in all your dealings with him/her.
Let love be without hypocrisy Abhor what is evil; cling to what is good. Romans 12:9
…be sincere and without offence till the day of Christ; Philippians 1:10
2. Be Patient.
Impatience will most time breed anger and resentment. Cultivating a lifestyle of patience with your spouse will bring immense peace and health to your relationship and marriage.
When you learn to be patient with your spouse in areas of his/her shortcomings and weaknesses, there is a great chance that it would inspire him/her to make efforts towards working on and improving on those areas… Especially when you are kind in your patience.
Love is patient… 1 Corinthians 13:4
With all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love… Ephesians 4:2 ESV
3. Be Generous.
Be generous with you; giving yourself to your spouse without reservations will surely be a blessing to him/her. Do not give only a part of you and withhold the rest. Only all of you and all of your spouse can make a whole and healthy ONE.
Also, be generous with your time, compliments, resources, counsel, attention and all. You will be blessed too.
It is well with the man who deals generously… Psalm 112:5 ESV
Whoever brings blessing will be enriched…Proverbs 11:25 ESV
4. Be Loving.
Love your spouse. By this I mean:
Be patient and kind to your spouse. Do not envy your spouse or boast against him/her, do not deal with him/her in pride. Do not dishonour your spouse or be selfish towards him/her. Do not be easily angered or keep record of wrongs he/she does. Do not delight when evil happens to them but rejoice with the truth of God’s word concerning them. Always protect and trust your spouse. Always hope in and persevere with your spouse. Read 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
5. Be Encouraging.
Every one likes to be supported and encouraged in life. Best of all by a spouse. You must be that man or woman your wife or husband can always count on for support. There are so many things that discourage, stress, and wear your spouse outside.
Be that person he or she can come home to and be strengthened and encouraged to keep living, striving and never giving up. Be that person that makes your wife or husband believe he/she is a great and can be greater.
Therefore encourage one another and build one another up… 1 Thessalonians 5:11 ESV
6. Be Prayerful.
One huge way to be a blessing to your spouse is to always pray for him/her. When you continually intercede for your spouse in prayers, motivated by love for him/her, you cause God make every wrong right and release blessings and favour on him/her.
…The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective. James 5:16 NIV
You must trust The Holy Spirit to know your spouse’s prayer needs in when he/she does not share any with you.
Likewise the Spirit also helpeth our infirmities: for we know not what we should pray for as we ought: but the Spirit itself maketh intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered. Romans 8:26
I tell you by experience that one of the greatest ways you can be a blessing to your spouse is by drawing heaven’s attention to him/her.
Are you a blessing to your spouse?
What other ways can we be a blessing to our spouses?
Copyright Ugochi Oritsejolomisan 2015