The Spices That Make Marriage Sweet. - Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
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The Spices That Make Marriage Sweet.

The Spices That Make Marriage Sweet.

Hello friends! I have been away for a week or so and I know some of you might have wondered why. Well, I was at one very glorious wedding. It was the wedding of Ezekiella and Moses. Ezekiella is the daughter of my Pastor and spiritual father Dr. Sam Amaga. Never mind, I will share photos with you.
But first I must share the very uplifting words I heard concerning marriage. It was preached by Bishop David Abioye.
Bishop David Abioye is a pastor under my father’s friend Dr. David Oyedepo and was representing Dr. Oyedepo at the wedding.

I decided to share this here because I was really blessed by it and wanted to let as many people as I can get blessed too. I must admit that while taking my notes I might have missed a few words, phrases and sentences and added few words and thoughts of mine but it is basically what God communicated to my heart via the message.

Here goes…

  • There is a difference between a wedding and a marriage.
  • A wedding is a ceremony or event but  marriage is a relationship.
  • A crowd witnesses the wedding but only the couple will experience the marriage.
  • A wedding appears like fanfare but marriage is the main great deal.
  • God gave marriage but the ceremony is man’s.

It is the littles things…

  • Spices might be the cheapest ingredients required for food but they are the ingredients that gives taste and colour to the food.
  • The things that make things work are often very little however the  neglect of these things can make the mightiest things collapse.
  • It is simple steps that make complex matters work. In life, knowledge, not experience is the greatest teacher. Experience is a cruel teacher.

The Spices.
1. Affection/Admiration.
Affection is expressed in simple words “I love you” and with simple actions to show it too. It gives great assurance to your spouse to know that he/she is loved. The measure of  real love is when it is expressed to those whom we think do not deserve it. You know you truly love your spouse if you love him/her even when they have done wrong.

Love is not a feeling, it is a decision.

God SO loved…John 3:16  So in this verse connotes a compelling of love.

…love covers all transgressions. Proverbs 10:12 AMP

Someone who loves does not see error but the need of his/her spouse to be loved.

2. Appreciation.
Every kind gesture must attract appreciation.
…In everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. 1 Thessalonians 5:18

The cheapest way to destroy a relationship is the failure to appreciate your spouse. To express appreciation is to always use the words “thank you”.
It changes the look on your spouse’s face. It encourages and cheers up your spouse.

3. Apology.
Every human being has faults, no one os perfect. The word ‘I am sorry” is scarce on many lips these days. And it is all due to carelessness and pride which can destroy any marriage.

The words “I am sorry” can bring untold peace in the midst of a heavy crises in marriage. Click To Tweet

Peace is gainful, crises is painful. Choose gain!

A soft answer turns away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger. Proverbs 15:1 AMP

4. Acknowledgement.
Always acknowledge the importance of your spouse to you. Don’t make your spouse feel unnecessary or unneeded. No matter how strong one is, someday, the person will need help. Always voice your spouse’s importance to you with the words “I need you”

Two are better than one… Ecclesiastes 4:9

5. Attention.
Everyone including you need attention. The simple words, “I care” are very important. Especially when actions always show same. The greatest care anyone can receive is from their spouse. Your spouse knows you better than any other human on earth and so is in the best position to give you adequate care. Couples must learn to give attention to each other.

Care is a great cure for loneliness and frustration. Click To Tweet

And become useful and helpful and kind to one another, tenderhearted (compassionate, understanding, loving-hearted), forgiving one another [readily and freely], as God in Christ forgave youI hope this blessed you as much as it did me. Ephesians 4:32 AMP

Now below are photos from the wedding:

spices that make marriage workIt’s not about us though… 

spices2Exchange of rings.

spices5Happy Groom. I think he thinks, “it’s about time…”

spices4The kiss…

spices3Happy Bride!

Love you loads!

Are you adding spices to your marriage?
Do you have testimonies of their effectiveness?

Copyright© Ugochi Oritsejolomisan 2015
Couple photos credit: Moments
Sharing with: Wedded Wednesday

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a mentor, encourager and influencer. She writes to inspire you to live a full life. Ugochi lives in Canada with her husband Benson and their children; Joshua, Joseph and Josiah.

  • Charity Orjikalu
    Posted at 15:04h, 05 November

    Thank you Ugochi , I learn a lot , may God increase your wisdom

  • Thomas Takyi
    Posted at 07:46h, 31 July

    Is good to hear such, you are on the right way of marriage, not a fashion but decision of God.

  • Anna Popescu
    Posted at 17:23h, 30 July

    I love this, Ugochi, and thank you for sharing it with us. I love what the pastor had to say about marriage… so true! I’ve written several times about how husbands and wives honor each other when they say “please” and “thank you,” and yes, even “please forgive me.” So I really appreciate how you stress this here.

    Many blessings on your day!

    Love, Anna

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 12:28h, 31 July

      Many thanks Anna. These “little” things do count for much.
      Have a super blessed day!

  • Cheryl Smith
    Posted at 12:23h, 30 July

    Such a wonderful post, Ugochi! And what a beautiful couple! May God bless them with many long and happy years together! I enjoyed reading the pastor’s thoughts and your observations. There is so much wisdom here. 🙂 I also appreciated the bride’s modesty. Thank you for sharing with us here. What a blessing! God bless you, dear friend.

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 15:39h, 30 July

      Amen! Thanks for the prayers Cheryl!
      Have a super blessed day!

  • Beth
    Posted at 01:54h, 30 July

    Is sounds like this wedding truly inspired you, Ugochi! I love the thoughts that your Pastor shared as well as, I’m sure, many that were your own on these important aspects of marriage. It kind of goes well with the challenge I’ve been doing lately at MM. And your Pastor’s daughter is so beautiful! Of course, her groom is quite the handsome fellow too! They make such a lovely pair and I’m sure have “lovely hearts” to match! It’s so great to see a couple beginning with a solid foundation on God’s word and a love for the Lord! Thanks for sharing about this special day! Hugs to you, my friend!

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 15:39h, 30 July

      Many thanks Beth. I appreciate you always.
      Do have a super blessed day!