16 Jun Adultery…Not Falling Again.
I have written a couple of series on adultery and I am trusting that someone has had a definite encounter with grace reading them. I know that some believers who fall into adultery did not set out to do so, they probably thought they were too strong and/or let down their guards. But after someone commits adultery, is remorseful, confesses, and asks for forgiveness, and is forgiven.
I want to by The Spirit of God offer some action points that can be taken to avoid falling again. I am trusting that this will be the last article on this adultery series, but if I am lead otherwise I will not hesitate to put it up.
So here they are:
1. Make Up Your Mind.
If you are still playing with lust, if you still secretly desire a fling now and then, if you occasionally play with adultery in your heart, then you will fall for it.
But if you make up your mind to fight and win over the demon of lust and adultery, if you totally and sincerely desire to live holy and stay faithful to your spouse, if you submit your thoughts, desires, and emotions to God and ask Him for grace to win, then you will.
But Daniel made up his mind that he would not defile himself … Daniel 1:8 NET
2. Cut off.
As much as is within your power and beyond, cut off from this person or persons you committed the act with. There is something about sexual sin, or any other sin for that matter, if drastic steps are not taken with the help of The Holy Spirt, there are strong pulls towards that particular sin again and again.
Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt… 1 Corinthians 15:33
3. Stay Accountable.
Commit yourself to an accountability team. Your pastor, a godly friend or godly friends and spouse should be or form form part of the people you can submit to accountably speaking.
I heard about a man who had to go for an official duty with a female colleague and about half way through the journey the lady started making advances at him. He stopped to make a phone call to His pastor while she listened, and told him his ordeal, his pastor counselled him on what to do and that was how he escaped that snare.
Communicating to your spouse about all your challenges in this regard will help, especially if you submit to his or her help. When men make passes at me, I always tell my husband about it and many times he has to pick my phones when they call and that helps to keep them off. Many times I give out my numbers because these men hide behind the need for help, but they end up asking for more than the discussed help.
As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens the wits of another. Proverbs 27:17 GW
4. Standing Strong With God in His Word.
You gain strength to have dominion over sin as you deliberately feed on God’s word. God’s word is food for your spirit, giving you spiritual nutrition and energy to fight temptations and sin.
This Book of the Law shall not depart out of your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, that you may observe and do according to all that is written in it. For then you shall make your way prosperous, and then you shall deal wisely and have good success. Joshua 1:8 AMP
Your word have I laid up in my heart, that I might not sin against You. Psalm 119:11 AMP
5. Continuous Prayers.
In prayer grace and strength is released to you for dealing with the flesh and sin. Especially when you pray God’s word that you have been meditating on concerning dealing with the flesh and the sin of adultery.
All of you must keep awake (give strict attention, be cautious and active) and watch and pray, that you may not come into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak. Matthew 26:41 AMP
The earnest (heartfelt, continued) prayer of a righteous man makes tremendous power available [dynamic in its working]. James 5:16b AMP
6. Fellowship With The Holy Spirit.
Spending time with The Holy Spirit, asking for His continual in filling and help is very important. The Holy Spirit is the believer’s helper and without Him you cannot overcome adultery or any other sin.
But I say, walk and live [habitually] in the [Holy] Spirit [responsive to and controlled and guided by the Spirit]; then you will certainly not gratify the cravings and desires of the flesh (of human nature without God). Galatians 5:16 AMP
Peter denied Jesus seven times, but after he got filled with The Holy Spirit, He spoke openly and boldly to the Jews and leaders.
7. Avoid Undue Proximity With The Opposite Sex.
When you spend regular and too much time alone with a man or woman who is not your spouse, you might be opening a door to sexual sin.
I suggest that you do everything possible never to give this situation a chance.
….and don’t give the devil a chance. Ephesians 4:27 CEV
8. Do not ignore the signs.
Sometimes when someone is giving you suggestive attention, you should not encourage him or her in any way. Do not be silent and act like its nothing or he/she would go away. Do not keep silent because sometimes silence can be encouraging.
Speak out if you have to! Confront the person and let them know you see the signals but are not interested, please do this in a public place.
Do not participate in the unfruitful deeds of darkness, but instead even expose them. Ephesians 5:11 NASB
Just in case you are faced with temptation by someone you have fallen for before, it is no time to negotiate or explain. It is better to scream or make a fuss and gather a crowd than to fall and hurt God, you spouse and your family.
It is unwise to stand in the face of sexual temptation and implore negotiation, find a way of escape and flee, even if you have to leave your coat behind like Joseph did.
Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. 1 Corinthians 6:18 NIV
It is possible never to fall adultery again, but you must put up a fight against it. Anyone who is willing can win this through Christ!
- So what do you think?
- Is it possible?
Copyright© Ugochi Oritsejolomisan 2015
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