23 Mar Three Purposes Of Marriage.
Myles Munroe rightly said that when the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is inevitable. Some couples knew what marriage was for and about before they got married, if you belong here, this would merely serve as a reminder or refresher.
Some did not know at all, might be struggling and cannot find direction in their marriage as a result, if you belong here, this I believe would help you understand the reason God created marriage, and hopefully you would adjust your mind, spirit and attitude to work your marriage to fulfil its purpose.
I do not consider this list exhaustive for more research from scriptures could produce for us more reasons for marriage.
But I have discovered the following as primary:
Now the Lord God said, It is not good (sufficient, satisfactory) that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him. Genesis 2:18 (AMP)
I believe this is the fundamental purpose for marriage, to provide companionship for each other.
Who is a companion?
A companion is a helper or one who serves as a helpful friend (someone you know well and regard with affection and trust). In marriage however it goes beyond ordinary friendship to covenant friendship because it is endorsed by the blood of Jesus.
As your spouse’s companion amongst other things you are to: love, care for, be a confidant to, assist and pray for your spouse.
You are to ensure that you help your spouse become and achieve all that God has called him/her to achieve and become. While both you make sure you discover and achieve the vision for your marriage.
You can read more about vision for your marriage HERE.
We all need to ask ourselves; “Am I fulfilling my role and part of this covenant relationship, what can I do to make it better?” Click To Tweet
Please note that these are not conditional responsibilities, the only condition is that we are legally married. It does not depend upon our spouses’ meeting their own responsibilities. With God, obedience to His instruction is always taken very seriously.
And God blessed them and said to them, Be fruitful, multiply, and fill the earth… Genesis 1:28 (AMP)
Another basic reason why God created marriage is in order to multiply men on earth. Male animals had female animals to reproduce with but Adam had no female counter part to ensure the multiplication of his kind.
This does not end with child birth, it entails all that is necessary to raise that child in a way that pleases God, teaching them and praying that they continue in God’s path. And it is not without a reward.
For I have known (chosen, acknowledged) him [as My own], so that he may teach and command his children and the sons of his house after him to keep the way of the Lord and to do what is just and righteous, so that the Lord may bring Abraham what He has promised him. Genesis 18:19 (AMP)
Let me add another verse of scripture just to assure wives that they are expected to be part of this too:
My son, keep your father’s [God-given] commandment and forsake not the law of [God] your mother [taught you]. Proverbs 6:20 (AMP)
Raising children is a very serious responsibility for couples because we are only stewards, their real owner is The Almighty who gave them to us and we are going to be held accountable one day for how we raised them.
As the church is subject to Christ, so let wives also be subject in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her. Ephesians 5:24-25 (AMP)
You will all agree with me that marriage can bring out all the ugly in a person, I am a very good example. Things you never knew were lodged deep in you and things you thought you had conquered will all come pouring out in this highest form of relationship called marriage. When all those ugliness start surfacing, it becomes training and retraining time for us.
God uses marriage as a more severe training ground for us because the one you are closest to usually hurts you the most. We naturally tend to over look many offences of others but when our spouses do the same things it gets to us so much more. I know I am not alone on this…
In the scripture above, God likens the marriage relationship to that of Christ and the Church, He loves us and we submit to Him.
I believe it goes beyond the physical, it is preparatory for our final union with Him… we (The Church) submit to Him and He presents us to The Father without spot or wrinkle.
Both husbands and wives need to submit to this special training in God’s hands, it is the greatest opportunity for spiritual growth and maturity, and if we miss it, it affects every other part of our lives.
Do you agree or disagree with any of these reasons?
Do you have some more you would like to add?
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Copyright© Ugochi Oritsejolomisan 2015
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VernonPosted at 07:22h, 30 March
I agree. Marriage is a training ground for both parties. But when both are willing to take a look at themselves it’s the most beautiful thing to witness.
Me and my wife had have our shares of disagreements. And if it ends on a sour note I know for certain that she will be doing the something I’m doing. Asking God to help her see her part and give her the courage to make amends.
Our marriage is far from perfect but everyday I can feel it growing. The point I’m trying to make is you have to be committed to changing yourself not the other person.
Ugochi OritsejolomisanPosted at 16:14h, 30 March
I totally agree Vernon, it is a big mistake to think we can change our spouses. Plus it is very frustrating when we even try.
Marriage is a huge training ground for us, to die to self and walk in the spirit.
Thanks for coming by, do have a super blessed week!
BethPosted at 19:00h, 25 March
I agree and was just dealing with a woman earlier whose husband does not have his heart in the marriage. He is only staying at this point for the kids. You’re multi-faceted reasons for marriage would certainly give him something to think about, Ugochi! We often look at marriage as something for us to gain from, when in reality God designed marriage to be about giving to our partner, giving to our family and growing deeper in the Lord. Thanks for your insight and challenge to us all, my friend!
Ugochi JolomiPosted at 14:21h, 26 March
That is so sad. Selfishness is at the root of many marital issues….
I pray he allows God get through to him and restore his marriage.
Many thanks Beth, I always appreciate your coming by.
Have a super blessed day!
Ifeoma SamuelPosted at 14:23h, 25 March
It is good we set our hearts and align with God’s words about marriage at all times. Thanks for the reminder.
Visiting from the link up.
Ugochi JolomiPosted at 14:18h, 26 March
Yes Ifeoma, thanks for coming by.
Do have a super blessed day!
Andrew Budek-SchmeisserPosted at 09:58h, 25 March
Great points – we can’t have kids, so I would add one more, and that would be ‘synergy in the Lord’.
We can be so much more together, doing the Lord’s work, than we can individually. Like a number raised to a power, rather than merely added, our effectiveness is made exponential.
Oh, and I’m here from Wedded Wednesday.
Ugochi JolomiPosted at 14:18h, 26 March
Very true Andrew, we can serve God better together.
Many thanks for this addition, do have a super blessed day!
AngelPosted at 18:24h, 24 March
Every married couple needs to be reminded of this. There is so much happening in the world and in our minds that can keep up from focusing on the purposes of marriage. Thank you, Ugochi, for an important article.
Ugochi JolomiPosted at 14:16h, 26 March
I totally agree with you Angel.
Thanks for coming by, do have a super blessed day!