My Jeans And My God. - Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
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My Jeans And My God.

My Jeans And My God.

My Jeans And My God.
I was in my early teen years, still innocent, trusting and unassuming.  There was in our neighbourhood a lady who had become like a family friend and has gained trust in our home. She was a very jovial lady in her mid-thirties I believe. She never got unnoticed when she walked into a room; she had a way of throwing in some happiness and made everyone laugh with her jokes. I used to run errands for her go to the stores or just help her out when she needs my help. We spoke the same language so I just kind of saw her as a relative. My mum never objected, she is full of trust; she brought us up to help anyone who is in need of our help.


The Wrong Move.
This day, I was home in the early evening when she came by and asked if I could accompany her to see a friend, my mum naturally agreed. So off we went and we chatted about everything from what I wanted to study to what I would love to be in future. I did not have any cause to raise an eyebrow or wonder. We got to her friend’s house, it happened to be a male. That didn’t bother me at all because it might be her boyfriend; she is old enough to have one.

When we got into the house he led us to the sitting room upstairs.  And when we got upstairs he invited us to another room which I discovered to be his bedroom. It was large and had a sitting area, I wondered a bit as to why they wanted me in there with them but dropped it since she was there with me. I refused to take my eyes off the TV, trying to mind my business. Suddenly it started; one of the greatest ordeals of my life, her “friend” walked up to me and started talking funny, I thought it was a joke until I looked around to discover my “big friend” was no longer in the room.
Next thing this huge guy with hard short breaths pulled me from the sitting area and carried me into his bed. I started calling “my big friend” but it dawned on me, she was in the know of what was going on. I looked at the door and realized it was already latched. I knew I had to fight, how I would be able to stop this hefty guy from doing what he wanted was still unknown.


My Jeans.
He put his hands on me, pleading and forcing, making annoying and frightening promises in between his short smelly breaths and pleas; I WAS SCARED! I thought to myself that if this guy had his way with me, I would probably not be able to walk again or I would die from bleeding. I kicked, hit, and fought to keep his hands off me. He held unto the waist of my jeans, struggling hard to undo the buttons, I cried and fought. My jeans had four buttons and he had undone two, in my fear I aimed hard with my knees and got him between his legs, and boy, did I really get him. He took his heavy, sweaty, smelly self-off me and held “himself”, groaning in pains. I ran to the door, quickly unlatched it, ran down stairs and saw “my big friend” waiting downstairs, sitting in front of the TV. I didn’t say a word, I just ran to the car (if I had cash on me I would have taken a taxi).

She joined me in the car few minutes later and we went home in silence- she didn’t say a word. That made me even angrier. How could she do this to me, how could she have wanted to use me this way after all the trust my family had in her? Of course now I know better, but I cannot help wondering how things would have been with me if they had succeeded. Thank God He delivered me from their wicked thoughts and plans.

When I got home I couldn’t tell my mum or dad… (Sounds familiar?). Couldn’t tell my brothers, I have three, which were all grown then, I was afraid they might kill her. I think I might have mentioned it to one of my sisters, not too sure.

These things happen every day; most times it does not end up like mine. We need to be careful, we need to be prayerful, we need to mind younger people under our influence, so they are not taken for granted, we need to teach and preach caution to them.  We need to love them and earn their trusts so they can share any and everything with us.

My God!
But I have to say I am grateful to God that He delivered me, He had mercy on me and did not allow me to be taken by the craftiness of the enemy, I know the real enemy behind this and I am glad I got the victory over him. Looking back, I can testify that God loves me, He didn’t allow what I could not bear to come upon me, and He made a way of escape for me, Halleluiah!

There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it. 1Corinthians 10:13

The LORD was ready to save me: therefore we will sing my songs to the stringed instruments all the days of our life in the house of the LORD. Isaiah-38:20 

Do you have a story, can you relate to this?

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Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a mentor, encourager and influencer. She writes to inspire you to live a full life. Ugochi lives in Canada with her husband Benson and their children; Joshua, Joseph and Josiah.

  • Yemisi
    Posted at 00:46h, 16 April

    I find this story frightening. I don’t have children yet, but it is quite alarming to think of all the potential permutations and combinations of evil that could be coming at them.
    Then again, it is amazing when we think about all the things that God protects us from on a daily basis.
    Thank you for sharing this story!

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 13:16h, 16 April

      It is indeed amazing: God’s protection!
      Many thanks for coming by sis, have a super blessed day!

  • Nana ama
    Posted at 00:15h, 19 March

    Wow, God is indeed able!
    I thank God for this your awesome testimony!
    By the way, nice blog, why haven’t I found you since, but it’s all good!

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 13:58h, 19 March

      Yes He is indeed able! Thanks for coming by Nana, and thanks for the compliments too.
      God be praised, He is awesome!
      Do have a super blessed day!

  • Deborah Okeke
    Posted at 18:09h, 16 March

    hello pst,
    sorry to know u have such an experience,too bad indeed for such attitude to come from a neighbour ur family trust so much.’i’t’s a very educative experience to share with our young ones,at the same time we need to build our relationship with our younger ones so that they could be able to share their experiences with the adults around them. love u Remain bless

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 19:31h, 16 March

      I agree Deborah, I am sure God allowed me to experience it so that my story can make parents and children very cautious in their relationships.
      And again, parents must make themselves reachable and trustworthy for their children to be open with them.
      Love you too Debs!

  • wycliffe S
    Posted at 07:30h, 16 March

    What an awakening testimony!
    Thanks Ugochi. I will have to share this with the young people that I lead.

  • Frances Okoro
    Posted at 12:05h, 14 March

    OmG, that was simply God saving you.
    And yes, we may be meek in spirit but when it’s needed, we have to fight.

    I’m saddened at your fear at telling your parents what happened.
    So many kids hide a lot in them and I pray that I can be a best friend to my kid, so much so that she/he can tell me everything that happens to them.

    I thank God for your life and for disappointing and frustrating the plans of the wicked…I do hope that lady has realized what wicked act that was though.
    was it that she would have been paid? This is terrible.
    We can trust no one with our kids, no one.

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 07:36h, 15 March

      Many children keep these things out of fear, we have to encourage our young ones and children to tell us stuff. And like you have opined, it begins with building a healthy and trust filled relationship with them.

  • Anna Popescu
    Posted at 15:28h, 14 March

    Ugochi, what an awful experience for you! I am so thankful that God filled you with what to do and the strength to carry it out. You’re right, these things happen everyday in this sin-sick world…


    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 07:34h, 15 March

      It is amazing Anna. We must encourage everyone around to speak up and speak out.
      I never stop thanking God for this mighty deliverance.
      Have a super blessed day Anna!