09 Mar Exposing Your Marriage.
We consciously or unconsciously expose our marriages to something or someone, good or bad, uplifting or depressing, encouraging or discouraging, favourable or disadvantageous, beneficial or injurious, helpful or destructive…
We often times forget that what we expose ourselves and our marriages to have direct or indirect impact on our marriages.
#1. I remember when my children were much younger and we exposed them to Bible Man; a Christian movie that seemed harmless. Bible Man is a movie where they portray good fighting off evil with the sword as Bible Man and his team declare God’s word against the evil team.
One night between when the electricity went out and when the power generator came on, one of my boys put a knife into his brother’s eyes while they were doing the “Bible Man fight”. He had snatched a knife from the kitchen, in the dark, because he didn’t have another “tool” to “fight” his brother. It was a huge deliverance for my son and my family. You can read the full story here.
#2. A couple I know exposed themselves to pornography after they got married. They were both virgins, clueless and felt they needed the X-rated movies to “teach” them how to have and enjoy sex. After some time, the woman began feeling uneasy about what they watched and what they did, she began feeling God was not in support it all. When she mentioned her worries to her husband, he disregarded her and continued watching without her.
It wasn’t long after that she severally walked in on her husband having sex with other ladies in their home. The home gradually and steadily disintegrated and all attempts to put it back together was futile. I can only hope and pray that some how God will make it happen, it is never too late with Him.
#3. Another couple I know exposed themselves to the counsel of a man who neither knew God nor knew what it meant to be man and wife; he was a polygamist. He secretly counselled the man to marry another wife as a ploy to get the desired attention from his present wife. The man began the process but I cannot quite recall how it ended.
According to Merriam Webster Dictionary; Exposure is the condition of being subject to some effect or influence.
So many couples are exposing themselves to the wrong things and people, they are not cognizant of the dangers there in. Sensual movies, pornography, clubbing, ungodly friends and counsel, ungodly books… After a while, their marriages begin to come under the influence of what they have exposed it to.
Every challenge or question will always give way when exposed adequately and effectively to God’s word.
The joy you seek in marriage, the “high” you want, the satisfaction you seek and many more can all be found in God’s word.
Many times couples go to people and things that only provide temporal solutions or destructive prescriptions. Mean while it would only take ADEQUATE exposure to God’s word to find all the joy, satisfaction and answers we seek.
Let us make a continual, deliberate habit of exposing our marriages to:
- God’s word
- God’s presence,
- Godly atmospheres.
When we do, our marriages will constantly be under the influence of God and His word. And we know, as believers, that God’s word is the only seed that can produce fulfilling and long lasting solutions to the challenges of marriage and bring us the bliss we all so desire.
How To Expose Our Marriages To God.
1. We expose or marriages to God when we pray for our marriages, individually and together as man and wife.
Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans. Proverbs 16:3 (NIV)
If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him. James 1:5 (NIV)
2. We expose our marriages to God when we constantly study the word of God together and as a couple. Seeking the wisdom that can only be found in God’s word, the wisdom to run our marriages and experience the blessedness and joy of marriage, searching for solutions and strengthening as we open our hearts and minds to God.
By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established; Proverbs 24:3 (NIV)
Every Scripture is God-breathed (given by His inspiration) and profitable for instruction, for reproof and conviction of sin, for correction of error and discipline in obedience, [and] for training in righteousness (in holy living, in conformity to God’s will in thought, purpose, and action) 2 Timothy 3:16 (AMP)
3. We also expose our marriages to God when we constantly speak ONLY positive words stemming from God’s word concerning our marriages, speaking words of light and life into our marriage. Our words are seeds and they will produce their like.
You are snared with the words of your lips, you are caught by the speech of your mouth. Proverbs 6:2 (AMP)
…For whatever a man sows, that and that only is what he will reap. Galatians 6:7 (AMP)
…The seed is the Word of God. Luke 8:11 (AMP)
We must never go to people who do not have have the kind of life or home we desire for counsel. We must shun every ungodly counsel no matter who it comes from, it must have a bearing in and on the word of God or we should not even consider it.
He that walketh with wise [men] shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed. Proverbs 13:20
Do not be so deceived and misled! Evil companionships (communion, associations) corrupt and deprave good manners and morals and character. 1 Corinthians 15:33 (AMP)
What are you exposing your marriage to?
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