The Extraordinary Marriage
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The EXTRAordinary Marriage.

The EXTRAordinary Marriage.

Getting Your Marriage Out Of Mediocrity

We hear a lot about fighting mediocrity, getting over the average and striving for excellence, the unusual and the extraordinary. Most of the time however, when we read or hear about fighting mediocrity, it is often regarding our jobs, businesses, goals and our general pursuits.

I believe couples should strive for excellence in their marriages too! I believe we should fight mediocrity in our marriages like we fight it in our jobs, business, academics, professions and such. After all, the state of any marriage affects every other aspect of life.

Many times couples resign to “fate” thinking that what they have is the best they can get. Some others know it can be better but are not willing to put in the extras that will take their marriage to the next level.

It is very easy to settle down for status-quo; a so-so, common, standard, conventional marriage. Click To Tweet

This is because many couples do not take the time to think on how they can make their marriage exceptional.

What if all couples decided to add the EXTRA to their marriages, to take it from the ordinary to the Extra-ordinary?

We need to deliberately and constantly think of things we can do to take our marriages from ordinary to extra-ordinary. This is especially important because of the extremely busy world we now live in with pressures on all sides for our time; from  jobs, businesses, children, family, friends and so on.

If every couple takes the time to think of that little EXTRA they could do to take their marital relationship out of the normal to the extra-ordinary, it would pleasantly surprise them to know the kind of bliss they have been missing.

It only takes some little EXTRAS to make all the difference! Click To Tweet

  • Some extra smiles
  • Some extra phone calls
  • Some extra care
  • Some extra touches
  • Some extra kisses
  • Some extra hugs
  • Some extra communication
  • Some extra giving
  • Some extra loving
  • Some extra affirmation
  • Some extra encouragement
  • Some extra prayers
  • Some extra patience
  • And some more extras…

Why should we settle for a mediocre marriage when we can have an exceptional, unusual and extra-ordinary marriage?
Why settle for less than God’s available best for our marriages?

First thing I believe couples should do is to sit down with each other and set goals for their marriage.
-Where do they want their relationship to be at a certain time?
-What areas do they expect growth and change? where do they need to add some little extras to make it extra-ordinary?
-Then at the end of the set time, they should evaluate their relationship and know how they did and what more extras to add.

Do not throw your hands in the air and give up on your marriage, just that EXTRA thing, mile, or patience might just make the difference.
Do not sit back and relax because your marriage is doing great. No matter how great your marriage is, if you add some extras you will enjoy greater bliss.

Do you believe your marriage can go from ordinary to extraordinary?
Are you willing to add those extras to make it happen?

Copyright© Ugochi Oritsejolimsisan 2015

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Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a mentor, encourager and influencer. She writes to inspire you to live a full life. Ugochi lives in Canada with her husband Benson and their children; Joshua, Joseph and Josiah.

  • Mary Geisen
    Posted at 12:23h, 11 February

    Great ideas! I soak in these words to be able to share with my sons who will be entering the stage of marriage in their lives in the future. Blessed to be your neighbor at Beth’s today.

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 12:28h, 11 February

      Many thanks Mary. I am sure it would be a great help to them as it is helping me.
      Have a super blessed day!

  • jay
    Posted at 19:25h, 10 February


  • Andrew Budek-Schmeisser
    Posted at 16:48h, 10 February

    I agree that it’s important to make the extra effort, but one should keep in mind that “Great is the enemy of good”.

    We aspire for greatness, but in reaching up, we can damage what makes a nice if unspectacular marriage. The extra effort is important, but if it can’t be maintained, it can make things worse, because it can then be seen as manipulative.

    Abraham Lincoln said that God must have loved the ordinary man, as He made so many of them. There is really nothing wrong with an ordinary marriage; it should never be held in contempt, because it can offer a safe place, and comfort, when things go horribly wrong.

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 11:49h, 11 February

      I agree with you Andrew, we must all appreciate where we are while we strive for the best God has in store for us.

      But I still opine that we must not try to maintain only without reaching out to improve what we have. Sometime when we only maintain it can lead to a plateau and resultant regress.

      Every child of God that understands their place is no ordinary person, by the blood of Jesus we have been lifted to a higher place hence Jesus declared in John 10: 34 & 35
      Jesus answered them, “Has it not been written in your Law, ‘I SAID, YOU ARE GODS’? “If he called them gods, to whom the word of God came (and the Scripture cannot be broken), quoting the verses in Psalm 82: 6

      We are not mere men, all because Christ lives in us!