02 Feb How To Respect Your Spouse.
Everyone wants to be treated with respect, you want to be respected and your spouse wants you to treat him or her with respect too. Even your children, no matter how young want to be treated with respect.
RESPECT means to feel or show deferential regard for; esteem or admire.
The Free Dictionary
Someone who is loved, valuable and worth something.
Here are some practical ways I believe you can show respect to your spouse.
1. It begins from the heart.
If you love your spouse, you must train yourself by the help of The Holy Spirit and His word. You must work hard at holding your spouse in high regard in your heart, in your thoughts.
Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life. Proverbs 4:23
If you can settle this then your words and actions will mostly follow suit.
2. Talk nicely to your spouse.
This means talking with the right tone and body language.
A SOFT answer turns away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger.
Proverbs 15:1 AMP
A word fitly spoken and in due season is like apples of gold in settings of silver. Proverbs 25:11 AMP
It is however difficult if you are angry, embittered or irritated about anything. Truth is, it is hard to speak nicely to your spouse in anger, bitterness or irritation. So the best thing to do is make sure not to allow these negative emotions settle in you.
Also make sure to speak to your spouse nicely whether in public or private. It is not true respect if you only talk nicely to your spouse in public but with disrespect in private. It will not make him or her feel respected by you.
3. Don’t Belittle Your Spouse.
One way you show your respect for your spouse is the way you speak about him or her in their absence. Whether to children, family, friends or colleagues.
He who belittles and despises his neighbour lacks sense, but a man of understanding keeps silent.
Proverbs 11:12 AMP
You must ensure that you speak about your spouse in a manner that would cause others to hold him or her in high regard.
Refuse to speak to others about his or her faults, some shallow minds might not be able to handle it.
4. Stand up for your spouse.
Above all things have intense and unfailing love for one another, for love covers a multitude of sins forgives and disregards the offenses of others.
1 Peter 4:8 AMP
Even when your spouse makes a public mistake, do not join others in beating him or her up. I am not saying you should make excuses for or defend wrong doing, but what would battering him or her with and in the presence of others do to help?
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. Ephesians 5:25 NIV
Wives, understand and support your husbands in ways that show your support for Christ. Ephesians 5:22 (AMP)
You can apologize for him, when the need and occasion calls for it and then discuss it in details with him or her later, in private. That would make more impact than public battering.
5. Your in-laws.
Your respect for your spouse should spill over to his or her family members.
Let everything you do be done in love (true love to God and man as inspired by God’s love for us). 1 Corinthians 16:14 AMP
You cannot claim you have respect for your spouse while you disrespect your in-laws, it does not add up.
Every person wants to be respected and treated respectfully. You and I do, so why should we not give respect to our spouses, since like them, we also desire to be respected?
It is important that you respect your spouse no matter what. When you do, irrespective of the way you are treated, you sow a seed and will reap the harvest.
I know I may have missed some other ways to show respect for your spouse.
Please if you think of, or know of any that might be added, leave it in the comment box so that other readers and I might learn.
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