If your marriage is or was anything like mine then you would have had some days when you discovered that it was nothing like you had dreamed. Even though you knew it would require some work for it to be blissful, you never imagined it would place on you this much demand . All the fantasies in your head did not play out exactly like you imagined and you wondered if you could go through with your vows.
If Yours Is/Was Like Mine.
If we have so much in common, like me you would have made up your mind more than once, that you could no longer cope and you wanted out, you might have, at one time, taken off your ring and slammed them on the table right before your spouse in declaration that it was all over.
If the similarities in my marriage and yours are that much, then as time went by, you would have discovered that you were the problem… Your perspective, stubbornness, raging flesh, disobedience, unyielding nature…
You would have discovered that because you refused to do marriage like God had commanded, you found it too hard and unenjoyable.
Good understanding wins favour, but the way of the transgressor is hard like the barren, dry soil or the impassable swamp.
Proverbs 13:15 AMP
There is a story I read of the first ever miracle Jesus performed. I know you know the story, even if you have never read it, you MUST have heard it told.
A wedding was taking place in a city in Galilee called Cana. Jesus and his disciples were at the wedding, and Mary Jesus’ mother was there too. Unfortunately, at some point during the ceremony, the bride and bridegroom ran out of wine, Mary being a mother and understanding how distraught the bride and her groom might be, ran to her son and Lord, the invited guest who happened to be our Lord who can do all things, they institutor of marriage. She said to Him, “the ceremony is getting sour, they need some sweetness.” (Paraphrased)
Though it was a wedding miracle, it can be related to marriage too. You understand that the wedding ceremony is quite different from the marriage itself…
Notice when you read (In John Chapter 2) that though according to His calendar, it wasn’t time to show His glory, He couldn’t resist the faith of His mother. He intervened and brought sweetness into the marriage. He provided supernaturally the best wine the guests had had in that ceremony.
He did all this because He was invited, called upon and allowed to intervene. He always responds to a call of faith.
The moment my husband and I realized that we both had a hand in the hardness we faced early in our marriage, we surrendered to God’s will and way for our marriage. We began to deliberately do our marriage according to His word and decided to work in obedience to His marriage laws, we both began to enjoy sweetness like we never imagined or even fantasized, and we are still discovering and doing marriage in ways His word has stipulated, growing our relationship by His word.
Jesus came to breathe life, eternal life that comes with love, joy and peace into every area of life, including our marriages.
…I came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance (to the full, till it overflows). John 10:10 AMP
As we celebrate Jesus this season and always, let us remember that our marriage is one of the reasons He was born, to make our marriages enjoyable and pleasing to The Father.
- Let us reflect on the purpose of His birth.
- Let us be grateful and give Him thanks for caring about our marriage.
- Let us constantly commit our marriages into His hands.
- Let us constantly follow His blue print for marriage.
- Let us always “allow” Him to intervene when the enemy wants to sow dryness or bitterness in our marriages.
Have you let Jesus into your marriage?
Do you enjoy His sweetness in your marriage?
I pray that you constantly enjoy the sweetness of eternal life that Jesus was sent to breathe into your marriage.
Have a joy filled Christmas as you remember WHO, WHAT and WHY we celebrate this season as it relates to your marriage!
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