I met a young lady recently who shared a couple of concerns she had for her marriage. As she started talking about her matrimonial bed, she began tearing up and I must confess, I choked a bit on that bitter lump that always comes up to my throat at instances like this.
I had to signal to her to sit down because I thought if she continued talking she might break down in tears. Now that I write, I think I was a bit more concerned that I would embarrass myself and join her in crying…(I cry too easily and it can be quite embarrassing).
She said that her husband allows his family members to share their matrimonial bed and she wasn’t very comfortable with this. She asked if it was okay and how she could make her husband see reasons with her and learn to treat their bed differently.
Now this is not the first or second time I have been confronted with this issue. So many years ago, a husband and his wife would vacate their bedroom for his mother, they would move to the guest room or children’s room, I can’t quite remember.
He didn’t think his wife had qualms with it and he didn’t seem to think their was anything wrong with the move, until he was made to see some truths. After he saw, he made the necessary changes and their was peace in the marriage.
I will let you share your thoughts on this issue, but first let me tell you what I think about this matter.
Marriage is a covenant.
…Because the Lord hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant.
God sees marriage as a covenant that He is a witness to.
So I consider the matrimonial bed sacred. That is where marriage covenants are constantly renewed as couples enjoy sexual pleasures with each other. Yes, sex is a covenant bond between couples, and since most times the matrimonial bed is where it happens, I consider the bed very sacred.
If you have no other room to accommodate family members or any other person when they visit, then make alternative arrangements for them. They could visit you but at night you could find some place else for them to sleep in.
I do not find it funny to think that you would have someone else sleep with you and your spouse in the same room, how much more the same bed.
I believe the love and respect we have for our marriages should reflect in the way we handle everything that concerns it.
I think giving up your matrimonial bed to anyone else is no acceptable practice, it is sacred and should be treated as such.
If you find that your spouse is ignorant of the sacredness of your bed, you should take the time to show them the reason behind its sacredness, and trust God for a change.
So what do you think?
Is the matrimonial bed too sacred to share or not?
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