My Marriage And The Tree. - Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
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My Marriage And The Tree.

My Marriage And The Tree.

My-marriage-and-the-treeI read an intriguing story sometime ago about an island Northeast of Australia, Solomon Islands; where they perform a very unique form of logging. The story says that if a tree needs to be cut down and it is too big to be handled by an ax, it is brought down by negative yelling. Woodsmen with special powers creep up on the tree just at dawn and suddenly scream at it at the top of their lungs. They continue this for thirty days. The tree dies and falls over. Their theory is that the hollering kills the spirit of the tree. According to the villagers, it always works.
That article, I cannot remember the exact one I read, generated a lot of debate, people said the Islanders are only trying to attract tourists to their country. Every one said something about the whole story being a big stupid lie.

It Is Nothing New.
I do not doubt that this could happen, it wouldn’t be the first time a tree would be cursed to death. These Islanders know and practice something many believers hardly believe, much less practice.

And when he saw a fig tree in the way, he came to it, and found nothing thereon, but leaves only, and said unto it, Let no fruit grow on thee henceforward for ever. And presently the fig tree withered away. Matthew 21:19

Our Lord and Master cursed a fig tree to death, the difference besides motive will be that the tree He cursed withered immediately, while the Islanders had to curse for thirty days. Cursing the trees in both cases yielded the same result with the only difference in the time of fruition.

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The Rice Experiment.
I also read about a Japanese scientist Masaru Emoto and his rice experiment. He placed two cups of plain cooked white rice in two separate jars, since the water content was important to the experiment, he cooked it before hand. He put them in his classroom and asked his students to bless the rice in one jar and yell at the other one every morning before classes. He recorded that in three weeks, the rice that received the blessings remained white and fluffy as on the day it was made while the one that received the unkind yells had turned into a black mass.

Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. Proverbs 18:21
As believers we must refuse the natural bent to think on and speak negativity of, into and about our marriages. We must speak positive words, godly words, what we desire and believe God to see in our marriage, despite what we see or experience presently. It may happen immediately like the fig tree, or over time like the Islanders’ tree, but it WILL happen if we do not faint or give up.

We must, like God our Father call those things that be not as though they were. Romans 4:17

God saw darkness and created light with His words. We must speak life into our marriages, creating what we want in spite of what we see and watch as it blossoms into that EDEN it was created to be from the beginning.

I believe in the power of words, I have read of its impact from the Bible, I have had first hand experiences too. The people of Solomon Islands and Masaru Emoto’s experiment only goes to strengthen me in the knowing that whatever I say is very important.

What I say to, in and about my marriage has a direct and powerful impact on my marriage.

I choose to speak life to my marriage.

What about you?

Copyright© Ugochi Oritsejolomisan 2014

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a mentor, encourager and influencer. She writes to inspire you to live a full life. Ugochi lives in Canada with her husband Benson and their children; Joshua, Joseph and Josiah.

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  • Funmi Akinmade
    Posted at 14:20h, 07 November

    Quite interesting, inspiring and true Sis! A wonderful reminder to get on the same page as God by speaking his words. Thank you and stay blessed!

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 15:33h, 07 November

      Amen sis! It really is inspiring and I had to share. You have a super blessed weekend!

  • Deborah Okeke
    Posted at 18:37h, 06 November

    hello pst,
    very powerfull what u’ev written. the power of life lies in our tongue. we should use it to bring in life in to our marriage
    and in to our relationship with our love ones. GOD bless u pst love you

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 10:51h, 07 November

      God bless you Deborah. Love you too!

  • Treasure
    Posted at 19:42h, 06 November

    Very apt and inspiring.I choose to speak life to my marriage and all that concerns me.

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 10:52h, 07 November

      Amen to that! Have a super blessed weekend!

  • Rosey
    Posted at 13:05h, 06 November

    I choose to speak life into my marriage too (and into my relationship w/my children, my friends, etc.). It matters to them, and it matters to me. 🙂

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 16:01h, 06 November

      Amen! Thanks for coming by Rosey, have a super blessed day!

  • Beth
    Posted at 17:57h, 05 November

    Oh yes! Such powerful metaphors for what we can and should do with our marriages. I feel so much more connected and prepared to give to my husband when he speaks with loving intention toward me each day. I know it is the same for him when I do that. Problem is, … we lose sight of the power of love and how God works through those encouragements to build our spirits and deepen our bond with each other. I’m going to remember this post, Ugochi, and really focus on only speaking good and loving words into my marriage. I might also try that “rice experiment” too just out of curiosity. 🙂 Thanks for being a faithful cheerleader to our marriages, my sweet friend!

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 16:00h, 06 November

      Thanks very much Beth, I always appreciate your coming by Teshuva!

  • Debby Dyk
    Posted at 16:29h, 05 November

    Wow! what an excellent discussion with good lessons
    thank you

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 16:00h, 06 November

      Praise God sis! I learnt a lot and decided to share.

  • Jeffrey
    Posted at 14:28h, 05 November

    The fact of the matter is that, we can’t get or see beyond what we say. come to think of it, if God could create the entire world by spoken words, judge man by spoken words, bless man by spoken words and curse man by spoken words, that goes a long way to tell us on the important of our words. Our physical strength is of little effect compare to the power in our spoken words. The sucess and failure of any marriage is a factor of the spoken words by the couples. what ever you call your partners is bound to manifest in their character, when you don’t like what you see in them, speak out what you wish to see and i asure you within a short while you shall see the manifestation. learn to speak the right words in your marriage regardless of what you see. God bless.

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 15:59h, 06 November

      God bless you bro! Thanks for coming by!