21 Easy Ways To Wreck Your Marriage.

21 Easy Ways To Wreck Your Marriage.

21 Easy ways to wreck your marriage.

I am not given to use negative sounding titles, but I had to get your attention with this one. Believe me, I do not recommend, encourage or suggest in any way that you wreck your marriage.

I wrote this specially for those who think that marriage is something you can joke around with. Those who are ready to change spouses like they would a garment, those who do not know the relationship between their marriage and the tree, those who do not take their marriage vows seriously, those who would love their marriage to work but are ignorantly or carelessly ruining it, those who believe that how they handle their marriage has no eternal implications.

This list is in no particular order…
1. Consider yourself first… Always..
2. Always remind your spouse of how good you are and how bad he/she is.
3. Never stop recounting offense.
4. Never admit wrong.
5. Make sure you do for others what you would never do for your spouse, and make sure your spouse knows about it too.
6. Ensure your spouse knows how much you loathe his or her family.
7. Be consistent in comparing your spouse to others in your thoughts, words and actions.
8. Never commend or appreciate your spouse.
9. Always withhold your body from your spouse.
10. Do not work on being temperate, as often as you can, be angry with your spouse… And make sure your words go every inch of the way to show it.
11. Always discuss your spouse in the negative with friends, family or whoever cares to listen.
12. Keep secrets from your spouse.
13. Give no gifts to your spouse, or better still, give him or her what you want, not what they want or need.
14. Make sure you flirt with other people before him or her.
15. Never listen to your spouse or make efforts to please him or her.
16. Remember to tell or show your spouse how worthless he or she is.
17. Make sure you pitch your children against your spouse.
18. Ensure you never agree with your spouse.
19. Never ask God for help to be a better husband or wife.
20. Never follow God’s word for marriage.
21. Never pray for your spouse.

The disunited household will collapse. Luke 11:17 AMP

He who diligently seeks good seeks God’s favor, but he who searches after evil, it shall come upon him.
Proverbs 11:27 AMP

I am hoping that you who are reading this write now do not belong to any of the category of people In the beginning. But I seriously hope that you can share this with someone who you think does not understand marriage or is being careless about how they deal with their spouse. And I am hoping that this post will jolt them into changing their perspective and attitude towards their marriage.

Love endures long and is patient and kind … 1 Corinthians 13:3-4 AMP

However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. Ephesians 5:33 NIV

The list is long I must admit, but hardly conclusive.

What do you think can be added?
What do you think bout this list?

Copyright© Teshuva 2014

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  1. Hello pst,
    this very inspiring, funny although very truthfull at the same time.very good to keep in mind and avoid doing them to be able to have a successfull marrige.because marriage is not a joke or something to toil with,but to handle with love and respect.love you GOD BLESS U 🙂

    1. Yes, marriage is most certainly no joke. God bless you too Deborah!

  2. I have to say that sometimes coming at something from the “negative” has a greater “wake-up factor” than stating it from the positive. And this does not disappoint in that way, Ugochi. These are all so powerful and, sadly, quite funny at times too! Only because I’ve been crazy enough to do them and not think it will negatively impact me or my man! Thank you for painting a picture for us that is more vivid and unnerving than we might want to see, but definitely vitally important for us to consider and learn from! Love it! Hugs, my friend!

    1. Hugs back Beth. Thanks very much for your encouragement. Have a super blessed day!

  3. Very important!

    I would add this – keep in touch with people with who you’ve previously had a romantic relationship.

    As a corollary to that – compare your spouse unfavorably with these people.

    But that said – it’s a two-way street. One can find one married to a person of immense immaturity, a person who practices any of the items in the list…but it’s a choice to take offense.

    The Christlike thing to do is to keep the commitment. period. One cannot control one’s spouse, but one can control oneself.

    And I am not just talking ‘theory’. It’s not easy, but it does work.

    1. Very true Andrew. When we keep in touch with them, we invite wrong emotions and actions.
      Commitment is key, otherwise we will not be able to handle rightly the weaknesses of our spouses.

  4. I am highly blessed by this

    1. Amen! I am grateful to God for this.

  5. This is just the best artical Ugochi. The pastor at our churc just preached on relationships and this week it was Marrage. He stated a lot of the same items you did so this is truly a conformation from God. He also stated the divorce rate is over 50 percent but when God and praying together is in a Marrage first, the rate drops to one in eleven hundred and fifty. Those figures are staggering. Just shows you where our priorities should be. Always God first and everything good will follow. Thank you Ugochi.

    1. I am so glad to know this mom. God will help us to stay on the right course for our lives and marriages.

  6. I can’t think of a thing to add, it’s a good list!

    1. Thanks Rosey! Have a super blessed day!

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