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Some Kinds Of Wives

Some Kinds Of Wives

kinds of wivesIf you are like me, you want to be a better wife to your husband (or is that not so?) I really want to be the best help-meet I could ever be to my husband, but I fail many times. I however do not give up trying, resting in my Father’s love and strength. (If you are a man, don’t stop reading; you could help a lady with some of the things shared in this post).

I discovered 5 kinds of wives as I studied recently, and I asked myself some hard, thought provoking questions. I thought what I learnt was worth sharing so here goes:

1. LIKE JEZEBEL (1 Kings 21:25)
Don’t gasp for breath now! It may look like this is extreme; Jezebel would have been a great asset to her husband in the positive. Jezebel had a strong influence over her husband, she was a strong personality, and she had the ability to get things done, even the most difficult things. She was never stranded or lacking of ideas and solutions. She was a force behind her husband and a very strong one at that. The only thing wrong was that she always influenced to do wrong and hideous things.

Or maybe she knew no better…

I want to use my influence over my husband in the positive only. I want to be the second reason he is praised at “the gates”.

Perhaps a little different from Jezebel, she was just a “yes wife”. Anything he says I will do. She agreed to join him in his wrongdoing, she couldn’t stop him, and she couldn’t help but join him.

I want to be able to convince my husband, through prayer and loving persuasion not to do wrong. Not that he is given to doing wrong but sometimes, our husbands cannot see as clear and deep as their wives can.

3. LIKE ABIGAIL (1 Samuel 25)
Abigail was an intercessor for her husband, even though she knew he was full of folly, she never stopped believing God for a change in his heart. He disregarded God and had no respect for man, yet when his life was at stake this Abigail whom he may not have given the best of treatments as his wife, loved him enough to intercede and got his life spared (at least for the moment).

I want to be able to always stand in the gap for my husband, his needs, worries, desires, emotions, job, profession and every other thing to God for a change. I want to be able to always lift him into the loving hands of God and love him and stay devoted to him in spite of his imperfections (especially since I am not perfect too).

kinds of wives
Priscilla’s husband was a tent maker. She was his partner in every sense of the word. She stood with him and laboured with him to make a success of their business. She wanted so much to make sure he never lacked support or encouragement from her. Even when a young man Apollos needed mentoring she partnered with her husband in order to ensure his spiritual understanding and growth, she was a strong supporter.


I want to partner with my husband spirit soul and body, I want to help him make his dreams come true, knowing that as I do that, God will ensure that my own dreams come true too.

5. LIKE SARAH (1 Peter 3:6)
Sarah was a meek and submissive wife to her husband Abraham, she never questioned her husband any time he shared his encounters with God, and we all know he had several of those encounters. Now I know she goofed once, and it was major, on a general note, she was very loyal, devoted, obedient and submissive to her husband.

I want to be all that, and it is possible, seeing that the Bible admonishes that we emulate Sarah as a role model wife.

I want to pick all the qualities in Numbers 3, 4 and 5; I want to be a complete and priceless wife to my husband, to be a true help meet to him in all areas of his life. The reason is that I know it will please the heart of God and I do sincerely want to please God and make Him proud to be my Father.

So what are the qualities you desire from the kind of wives as stated above?

What kind of wife would you love to be to your husband?

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(Update from 2012)

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Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a mentor, encourager and influencer. She writes to inspire you to live a full life. Ugochi lives in Canada with her husband Benson and their children; Joshua, Joseph and Josiah.

  • Faith
    Posted at 17:57h, 08 October

    I an so grateful for this blog.I learn great insight for Godly living in various spheres of life.may God continually use you for his glory. As a young Christian lady. I’m trying my best to become virtuous everyday and I pray I will become the best helpmeet for my spouse . May all the good things God desired for my spouse locate me as he has found me. Bless u mama. More grace

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 09:24h, 09 October

      Amen Faith! God will indeed grant your heart’s desires and I know your marriage will draw many into God’s kingdom! I have joined in the count down…
      Have a super blessed day!

  • Deborah Okeke
    Posted at 00:01h, 03 October

    Hello pst
    i encourage every wife to read ths article.1 learn alot from the lives of these women,thier faith ,weakness,trials,wisdom…..;me in particuler,pray to be the best help mate in the future to come.Welldone pastor very interesting article i like so much.u ar great blogger.Remain bless 🙂

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 10:57h, 03 October

      Praise God you have learnt a lot! Now I trust God that you would make a great helpmeet for a fine godly gentleman Deborah. Have a super blessed day!

  • jay
    Posted at 14:59h, 02 October

    Want a good wife so amma wait on Jesus. Don’t won’t the one that will give me headache and be a stumbling block in my getting to heaven. Hmm

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 10:53h, 03 October

      That is great wisdom, waiting on God. And I know He would give you the perfect one, just for you. Have a super blessed day Jay!

  • Frances Okoro
    Posted at 09:35h, 02 October

    Hope to inculcate these words of wisdom in the future. Thanks ma’am

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 10:28h, 02 October

      Praise God! Always good to prepare ahead!

  • Erica Layne
    Posted at 04:35h, 02 October

    What a beautiful analysis! Thank you so much!

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 10:31h, 02 October

      God be praise! Thanks for coming by Erica!
      Have a super blessed day!

  • Beth
    Posted at 15:02h, 01 October

    I love what you’ve done here, Ugochi–viewing each of these biblical women through the grid of aspiring to be a loving spouse. I think it’s true that even with the women who made “big mistakes” here, if they had harnessed (or when they did) the potential God placed in them, everyone would’ve seen a difference. That’s what I long for too, my friend–to make a difference and be seen as a shining light for the Lord. Thank you for being a shining light for the Lord as well, my friend! Hugs to you!

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 15:21h, 01 October

      I believe every godly woman would seek out ways to harness all that God has deposited in her to make her life as a wife count for something. Thanks for coming by with you encouragements Beth, do have a super blessed day!

  • favoredwoman
    Posted at 21:11h, 30 September

    So many times, I too have prayed to be able to be a good helpmeet.
    I don’t strive to be the perfect wife just the best for him because I realise that in doing so, God will also meet my needs.
    Blessings .

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 11:13h, 01 October

      I bet most women desire this too. And with God we cannot go wrong…
      Thanks for coming by sis, have a super blessed day!