02 Jun Cultivate Your Love
Where there is no love there is no life. Yes, you can be alive without love but without love you cannot really live. A life without love is frustrated and sad. When there is no love in the heart, the heart is dead, not physically, but it is dead any way.
Love is what brings the rhythm to the heart beat, love it is that brings the joy to the heart and the whistle to the lips. Love makes a life strive and thrive, love births resolves, purpose and persistence. LOVE IS LIFE!
And the Lord make you to increase and abound in love one toward another, and toward all men , even as we do toward you. 1 Thessalonians 3:12
Grow your love, if your love is not growing it is dying.
Lack of love in a marriage makes it mundane, boring and lusterless. It becomes a routine rather than a joy living together as husband and wife. The house becomes a mere shelter rather than a living home.
Any couple that allows their love for each other wane or die is knowingly or unknowingly sending their marriage to a death sentence. If you are not deliberately, consciously working on sustaining growth in love for your spouse, you will soon lose affection for him or her.
What ever is not cultivated will not grow. We must learn to cultivate our love for our spouses, we must learn to fan the flame of love in our hearts by disallowing negative thoughts and emotions from quenching it.
Before I share some tips that I know would grow love in our hearts for our husbands or wives, let me share some love killers that we must beware of:
-Anger (Implosive or explosive).
-Dwelling on our spouses’ faults.
-Lack of communication.
-Taking each other for granted.
-No show of affection.
-No telling of affection
Okay, now you think the opposite of those would mean cultivating love? Definitely!
And this I pray, that your love may abound yet more and more in knowledge and in all judgment; That ye may approve things that are excellent; that ye may be sincere and without offence till the day of Christ. Philippians 1:9-10
-Be sensitive to each other.
-Declare your love for each other and show it too.
-Be very affectionate. Even if you don’t know how, ask your spouse what this means to him or her and then practice it. Soon enough you would become a pro affectionate.
-Don’t hold back yourself from your spouse.
-Love your husband or wife how he or she wants to be loved. Ask…
-Major on your spouse’s pluses rather than minuses.
-Create quality and quantity together times.
-Do not ignore any hurt, deal with it, do not sleep over it.
-Be open to each other.
-Let God’s word be your guide.
Marriage, like I often say is not for lazy people. Any marriage that succeeded was worked on with resolve and persistence. Every marriage can succeed if couples allow the life that love brings to flow in their marriage.
Do not give up or get lazy; work at it. God says you shall eat the fruit of your labour. Labour in your marriage.
I know there are many ways you can grow your love for your spouse. Which one would you like to add to the list?
Copyright© Ugochi Oritsejolomisan 2014
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