Many people believe the reason they have challenges in their marriages is because they married the wrong person. While I believe going against God’s will for your choice of spouse can pose serious threat to a marriage I do not think you can undo evil with evil.
Every marriage, including the ones “made in heaven” have serious challenges when husbands and wives choose their thoughts about their marriages over God’s.
Any marriage that will not take God’s word as manual to run their homes will experience hardness.
…but the way of transgressors is hard. Proverbs 13:15
Once a couple make up their minds to follow God’s written laws as guide for their marriage, they will have a smooth sail.
This Book of the Law shall not depart out of your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, that you may observe and do according to all that is written in it. For then you shall make your way prosperous, and then you shall deal wisely and have good success.
Joshua 1:8 AMP
It will be a willing defeat for couples to resign to the conclusion that they were not meant for each other. This will stifle any drive to work at their marriages.
If you got married ignorantly, not knowing God’s will concerning the man or woman you should marry, God’s mercy is available to work you through challenges in marriage. If you believe God did not approve your choice of spouse and you went on any way, God’s mercy can still avail for you if He finds genuine repentance.
I am not encouraging anyone to marry against God’s will. What I am Doing is encouraging those who are already married and facing challenges not to quit because they believe they are in the wrong marriage.
If bigamy is not the case, then I believe you can be hopeful for and work by God’s word for a positive change.
- Agree that your marriage can work
- Discuss your challenges
- Commit yourselves to working at your marriage
- Go to the word for the solution
- Pray without ceasing
- Discuss your struggles
- Stay humble and teachable
- Make up your minds not to quit working at it
- Be accountable to each other
I know it is difficult when one person is not agreeing that it can work, but when the other person holds on to God and asks for a change of heart, God is willing and able to turn the heart of even the hardest of hearts around.
Don’t give up on your marriage!
What do you think about this?
Do you know anyone who thinks their marriage is suffering because they are not meant for each other?
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