01 May Lies And Marriage.
Marriage is an escape from my parents or guardians to my independence.
If you get married to find freedom, then you might be disappointed, because real marriage does not allow for independence from one another. There is responsibility and accountability in marriage, so if you are one who does not like to be accountable or responsible, marriage is not an escape, or you will encounter serious problems too.
I want to get married so that I will not have to be sleeping around anymore.
I am afraid this too cannot be taken as true. If you do not deal with sexual indiscipline now, it will still be an issue even after marriage. What happens when your spouse is not there, maybe out of town and you suddenly feel the need? If you are still undisciplined, then you would probably find “another way” to satisfy your urges.
Treat others with respect too, for you will get what you give.
If you are single and hope to be happily married one day, then rid your mind and thoughts of these and some other myths about marriage that I might not have mentioned.
Marry to be a blessing to someone and not for someone to meet all your needs. Prepare yourself in every way you can so that when he/she meets you, he/she will consider you a valuable gift. Wisdom is needed to enjoy marriage, wisdom means applying true information and experiences to your life. Be smart; prepare to enjoy bliss in your marriage!
Through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established: Proverbs-24: 3
Prepare your work outside; get everything ready for yourself in the field, and after that build your house. Proverbs-24: 27
Remember, marriage is not an end, it is a means to an end.
What are other lies do you think people believe about marriage?
What are some you USED to believe?
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Update from 2012
favoredwomanPosted at 20:49h, 05 May
very valid points you have raised. We make the mistake of thinking marriage is setup where we can go in and just collect , but the truth is that marriage is more about giving.
Both parties have to give of themselves(time, energy, assistance, support, verbal encouragement etc)
marriage cant heal you, only God can.
Ugochi JolomiPosted at 11:52h, 06 May
Truth! Only God can heal…
Thanks for coming by sis!
Yulunda G.Posted at 07:55h, 05 May
#2 Resonates for me as marriage does not meet all of your emotional needs. The truth of the matter is that we must seek deeper within ourselves and from our source and build our house as Proverbs so eloquently puts it.
Thanks for sharing and I am glad I saw your post title on SITS Girls.
Wishing you all the best!
Ugochi JolomiPosted at 12:42h, 05 May
Truly, only God, our source can ever satisfy the emptiness we feel and so long to fill. Thanks very much for coming by Yulunda, do have a super blessed week!
Tissy SephaiPosted at 12:46h, 04 May
Lie #2 was so so true for me. When I gave my life to Jesus, I was so obsessed with marriage because I was not used to being without a man. I faced a lot of loneliness, rejection, and also sexual frustration and thought that I needed a man!!! LOL. But now I’m learning to seek God and build a relationship with Him even in times of rejection and loneliness. I desire to get married one day but I desire God more. Well, thats my lil story haha. Thanks for sharing this, many Christian singles need to know!
Ugochi JolomiPosted at 12:40h, 05 May
Amen! I am happy at the turn Tissy, I made some similar turns myself after being misled when I lost my Dad. I was searching so desperately for love in men but of course was never satisfied. We do not have to believe the lies of our emotions or the world.
Do have a super blessed week.
vernonPosted at 10:49h, 02 May
I used to hear the same thing. Those people just don’t want to change. Marriage is about the other person. If you’re self centered then marriage isnt for you. All I know it’s the best thing I ever done for myself.
Ugochi JolomiPosted at 12:33h, 05 May
Self-centredness has been mostly the reason most marriages fail. I pray we all die to self daily.
Justin M. DavitoPosted at 00:20h, 02 May
Excellent! It seems a lot of the “lies” are really our own sin (idolatry) and we think marriage or this certain person will fulfill it.
Ugochi JolomiPosted at 12:31h, 05 May
I believe so too!