The Power Of Gratitude In Marriage - Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
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The Power Of Gratitude In Marriage

The Power Of Gratitude In Marriage

the power of gratitude in marriageEvery person has a natural bent towards complaining and murmuring about the things they do not have instead of thinking on and being grateful for the things they do have. The same thing goes for our marriages, lots of couples wish their marriages can be like that of The Jones’s, The Nwachukwu’s, The Adebayo’s or The Adamu’s, they forget to realize that every marriage has its challenges.
Complaining depreciates a thing while thanksgiving on the other hand will make it appreciate. It is a great thing to be grateful for your marriage, not because it is perfect but because you appreciate God for the ways your marriage has been blessed, if you take the time to think, you will figure that your marriage has been blessed in ways more than one. Gratitude injects positivity and possibilities into your marriage while ingratitude, complaining, comparing and murmuring would inject the exact opposite. In fact, complaining only worsens situations.
Do you remember how those that forgot the daily miracles they received and complained in the wilderness were all destroyed and couldn’t enter Canaan? 1 Corinthians 10: 10
Do you also remember how Jesus gave thanks for the little in Matthew 14: 19? And how the five loaves and two fishes fed the multitudes with still much left?

Gratitude will indeed create the right atmosphere for God’s presence in our marriages and make it better.

Benefits Of Gratitude
Research conducted by Robert A. Emmons of UC Davis and Michael E. McCullough of the University of Miami have uncovered interesting facts about gratitude and its effects on human fulfillment.
It showed that people who are grateful and thankful:

  • Have more emotional brainpower
  • Have a more restful sleep
  • Are less susceptible to anxiety
  • Are hardly depressed and/or knows better how to shake it off
  • Are less likely to be mentally or even physically ill
  • Are always more willing to forgive
  • Have a higher gust of energy
  • Always attract positive and delight-filled people

You can imagine if every couple decides to be grateful and thankful for their marriage, what kind of positivity will be injected into their marriages and how every marriage will be filled with life and health bustling in it.

Gratitude will:

  1. Keep your eyes on the blessings of your marriage and so help build positive emotions concerning and in your marriage.
  2. Help you stop complaining because you see reasons to be thankful.
  3. Keep the atmosphere conducive for God and His miracles in your marriage.
  4. Will keep you mentally sound and alert for inspirations from God on how to work your marriage better.
  5. Encourage forgiveness, joy and laughter in your marriage.
  6. Reduce tension and friction between you and your spouse and cause you to enjoy your marriage some more.

Death and life are the power of the tongue Proverbs 18: 21 Instead of complaining, murmuring and killing your marriage on a daily basis, decide to be grateful for the blessings your marriage has been to you and by this make room for many more. Think of the thing(s) that you SHOULD be grateful and thankful to God for and celebrate God for them. Learn to let your spouse know on a regular basis those things you are grateful for and ways that your marriage has been a blessing to you.

“Without gratitude, life (MARRIAGE) can be lonely, depressing and impoverished. Gratitude enriches human life. It elevates, inspires, energizes and transforms…” Robert Emmons (The insertion is made by me)

I will praise the name of God with a song; I will magnify him with thanksgiving. Psalm 69:30
Thanksgiving will magnify God in your marriage and make the bad good, the good better and the better best.

Are you grateful for your marriage?
How have you been showing gratitude for your marriage?
Do you thank God for your marriage?
Does your spouse know you are grateful?

Copyright© Ugochi Oritsejolomisan 2014

Sharing With: Living Proverbs, MYHSM, Wedded Wednesday

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a mentor, encourager and influencer. She writes to inspire you to live a full life. Ugochi lives in Canada with her husband Benson and their children; Joshua, Joseph and Josiah.

  • lindsy garcia
    Posted at 18:59h, 09 April

    Okay I just subscribed to you , the amazing tips and encouragement you have for marriages is so great. I was all sad and hateful one moment and by the time I finished reading this I started to realize I need to start being grateful to God for giving me some one to love and being grateful to my husband for loving me when he could have chosen anyone else . It’s the little things that count but some times the enemy just blinds us, but I’m determined to try this to give this last shot to find that happiness again even if I’m the only one giving thanks .

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 22:09h, 09 April

      I am so grateful you were ministered to by this. Gratitude and thanksgiving to God from a genuine hearts unleashes enormous power that turns things around, even our marriages.
      We can run the enemy off our homes when we keep the right atmosphere for the fullness of God’s presence. I am still learning this Lindsy, but I KNOW God always responds with wholeness to a grateful heart.
      Thanks a lot for stopping by, if you look around some more you will find some more really great articles and you might want to recommend to someone you know too.
      Have a super blessed day!

  • Beth
    Posted at 18:34h, 13 March

    This is so good, Ugochi! What a difference gratitude and “rejoicing always” makes in our hearts and marriages. I just read yesterday, “Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.” (Proverbs 21:9) I think quarrels come from complaining and a complaining spirit. No man {or woman} wants to live with someone who’s critical and discontent in spirit. And when we yield to God’s good encouragement to thank Him, we are doubly blessed! Thanks so much for this beautiful word, my friend!

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 16:06h, 16 April

      Thanks so much Beth. I just so this comment now, so sorry for the late response.

  • Allison B
    Posted at 18:45h, 11 March

    A few months ago my husband started telling me how grateful he was for me and would thank me for the little things I do like laundry and clipping coupons to save money. It was a surprise, but I loved it. I found myself reminding him of all the things I was grateful for. It’s amazing what a huge change this has been in our marriage. It really is the little things that help. And I agree, you should never try to compare marriages. You really don’t know what is going on behind closed doors.

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 14:50h, 12 March

      It is a great seed indeed, when a husband or wife initiates it, it does not take long and his/her spouse will begin to do the same. The results are amazing… Thanks a lot for coming by Allison, I hope to see you often, do have a super blessed day!

  • Anna Popescu
    Posted at 16:12h, 11 March

    Ugochi, I really appreciate this one. My husband and I always thank each other for the things we do for the other, even the little things. It is truly amazing how God blesses this “thank attitude” more and more! Gratitude/thankfulness results in even more of the same, so it’s definitely a win-win. And regarding how we treat our spouses, if we look for those behaviors for which we can be thankful (rather than dwell on those we don’t like so much), it never fails to draw out even more “good”!

    Blessings to you & yours!

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 14:47h, 12 March

      This is great! It is indeed a win-win and I am learning to do this intentionally Anna. I see it yielding awesome results.
      Thanks a lot for coming by, do have an awesome rest of the week!

  • Pary Moppins
    Posted at 15:31h, 11 March

    I just finished reading “Choosing Gratitude” and am now doing its 30 day Bible study. A grateful heart is so important especially in a marriage. Thanks for sharing.

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 15:34h, 11 March

      It is a choice Pary, there are times that I have had to intentionally choose gratitude even when my head is screaming “complain!”
      Thanks a lot for coming by, I do hope you will come back again. Do have a super blessed day!

  • Justin M. Davito
    Posted at 07:12h, 11 March

    Awesome! I just had a post on complaining last week.

    It is crazy how much being thankful for things totally helps!


    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 13:44h, 11 March

      It totally does Justin! Thanks a lot for coming by, have a super blessed day!

  • Susie (The Esthetic Goddess)
    Posted at 21:45h, 10 March

    I am so very grateful for my hubby and put him in my blessing every night! We tell each other on almost a daily basis we are both thankful for each other. My hubby and I are both on our second marriages. We have been together for 7 years but really took our time getting to know each other and let everything in our relationship happen naturally. I think because we were both happy being single, meeting someone we enjoyed spending time with just added to our happy lives!

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 13:46h, 11 March

      This is great! Being thankful is indeed a great thing. It attracts all the positivity to a life and all that is around the person. Thanks for coming by Susie, do have a super blessed day!

  • Rosey
    Posted at 21:42h, 10 March

    This is a great post. I was just talking about this with a friend yesterday. When you think someone else has this picture perfect marriage, once you get to know them, you find out like everyone else, they do not. That’s 100% always true. 🙂 If I start getting grouchy about something my husband said or did, I start saying the things about him that I love and/or appreciate. Works like a charm to chase away the ‘unappreciatives’ when they try to come and visit. 🙂

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 13:48h, 11 March

      I call that a “thought shift”. I often employ this too, remind myself of all the good in him and our marriage. Thanks for coming by Rosey, have a super blessed day today!