31 Mar Encouragement For The Weary Spouse
In some marriages you might find that one of the spouses are the ones doing nearly all the work for the success of the marriage. So many times they get really tired and almost exhausted from doing all the work.
- They are the only ones that remember the special days and try to initiate a little or big something to memorize it.
- They are the ones always saying sorry or seeking peace and harmony in the marriage.
- They are the ones always eager to create the right atmosphere in the home.
- They are the ones who always sweat to ensure that the marriage is growing and moving from where it is.
- They are the ones who always give and give and never get tired of giving… but now they are exhausted.
…but David encouraged himself in the Lord his God. 1 Samuel 30:6
I want to encourage any exhausted spouse, please re-energize yourself. Encourage yourself even if there is no one to encourage you; refuse to stay exhausted. If exhaustion is not managed and dealt with it can lead to depression and frustration.
Frustrated people often make wrong decisions, if you stay exhausted long enough you might end up making the marriage unbearable by your attitude or worse still one day you might pick up your bags and leave.
Fight off frustration and give yourself reasons to keep on, so that you get invigourated again.
- You are fighting a good course
- You are doing the right thing
- No one should make you change from good to bad
- When you do your part, God will take care of the rest
So let’s not allow ourselves to get fatigued doing good. At the right time we will harvest a good crop if we don’t give up, or quit.I know it is not easy always being the only one on the giving side especially when you are not being appreciated. Galatians 6: 9 (MSG)
I encourage you to receive strength and keep giving, knowing that it is a seed you are sowing into your marriage and you will reap the harvest.
When you keep sowing into your spouse and marriage, you give God the opening to come right where you are and make the necessary changes in order for you to start to receive the same things you have been giving to your spouse.
Giving up or holding back will do nothing but suffocate your marriage and probably cause it to end in a disaster.
I write to encourage you not to allow weariness in your spirit, mind or body when it comes to investing in your marriage. Spend time with God knowing that He only is the source of your strength, vigour, hope and reward. Even when it seems like you are not receiving anything back from all your labour to make your marriage work, God is able to turn it around for you if you do not give up or give in.
Keep loving, keep encouraging, keep giving to your wife or husband …. you will not lose your reward, even in your marriage.
Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again. Luke 6: 38
How do you encourage yourself?
1. When it looks like you keep giving in your marriage and your spouse only keeps receiving.
2. When your spouse, for the efforts you make in your marriage does not appreciate you.
Copyright© Ugochi Oritsejolomisan 2014
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BethPosted at 18:02h, 02 April
There are so many spouses out there that are in this place of discouragement, Ugochi. I’m so glad you’ve taken the time to encourage them and to remind them of the blessings God will bring in their marriage if they remain true to Him and His purposes. This reminds me of the verse, “We work hard with our own hands. When we are cursed, we bless; when we are persecuted, we endure it; when we are slandered, we answer kindly.” –1 Corinthians 3:12-13a Thanks so much for your heart for marriage, my friend! Hugs to you!
Ugochi JolomiPosted at 22:30h, 02 April
This scripture is such a blessing, it is not wisdom to allow weariness stop us from doing the right things. Weariness would sure come but we must fight it off…
Thanks Beth for your many encouragements.
Justin M. DavitoPosted at 01:11h, 02 April
Awesome post! Thanks for sharing!
Ugochi JolomiPosted at 10:34h, 02 April
Thanks a lot sir!
FavoredwomanPosted at 16:01h, 01 April
Great post Ugochi.
The last point you made about frustrated people making poor choices, this is very true.
Marriage needs a lot of sober decisions .
Having hope that the seeds of love , watered by prayers ,invested in the marriage will bring forth fruits , I think helps with easing the frustrations one may experience.
Ugochi JolomiPosted at 16:13h, 01 April
Yes, satan always tries to show us hopelessness but in Christ we have hope that things will turn out right. Thanks for coming by sis!
Angel ThompsonPosted at 18:21h, 31 March
Great post, Ugochi! May I add that sometimes a spouse may feel like he or she is doing all of the sowing, but most times their eyes have been blinded. They are focusing on their own contributions so much that there’s not enough time to look at how their spouse is contributing. For instance, if I’m only focusing on how much work I’m doing to take care of my children and home and getting mad because my husband is gone during the day, I’ll totally miss the fact that, BECAUSE my husband is working, we’re able to have a home.
It’s important for me to take time to recognize even the small things my spouse does and to understand that his ways of giving may sometimes be different from mine.
Ugochi JolomiPosted at 19:44h, 31 March
This is true Angel, sometimes that is the case. We focus so much on our inputs and forget to see the inputs of our wives or husbands.
However, there are some cases where the other spouse is a bit carefree and leaves it all to the other.
So for those in that situation, may be they should start thinking of their spouses in the positive and look for the tiniest things they bring into the marriage and bless God for them, they will start receiving strength and the big things will start rolling in.