The most visited page on this blog is currently that which I wrote on 6 Ways You Can Avoid Fornication. I have not ceased receiving mails from people (Christians and non-Christians) from around the world who are struggling to stop fornicating. So I thought I should share some tips on how one who is already in it can break free from fornication. Some of these tips might echo what I have already shared in the mentioned article.
You Must Realize That You Are Not Helpless
Do not buy the lies of the enemy; he often tells you there is really nothing you can do about it. He tells you nobody can live without sex, everyone who says they do are lying… He is the liar, the father of all lies!
For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: 1 Thessalonians 4:3
If God commands it, then He has given you the ability, the power to obey. We can do all things through Christ- Philippians 4: 13
He has promised to help those that trust in Him, those that follow Him… Isaiah 41:10
So now you have to make up your mind that you CAN stop fornication, you must make up your mind that you are not helpless, you must give no room for the thoughts and words the enemy is selling to you. When your mind is made up, you invite and attract God’s help.
1. Stay Away From Your Partner(s)
There is power in proximity; you have to distance yourself from the person(s) you have been fornicating with. I know for some people, it might be any opposite sex… but mostly, the people you have been fornicating with are stronger temptations for you.
I know most times you have to face and conquer your mountains, I believe you need to develop enough spiritual muscles and strength to face and conquer. Besides when it comes to sexual sins, I do not recommend that you go to or invite the mountain… You have to brace up and tell whomever that you no longer want to see them again; you no longer want to continue in sin.
2. Fight The Spirit Of Fornication
You must realize that the enemy is waging war against you with this sin as with any other. His chief mission is to steal, kill and destroy you- John 10:10a
He steals you by keeping you in sin, if you do not stay in sin, satan cannot have his way with you and he wants so much to have his way with you. You see, he sees you as a card against God and if you keep up with sin, you become a trophy for him. I pray not in Jesus name, amen!
Now, you must fight against fornication by renewing your mind with God’s word. Search out scriptures that concerns fornication and any sin, place them all over your house, or however you want to constantly keep them before you, meditate on them (the word of God has cleansing power) to clean your mind of those thoughts. Whenever lust comes to your mind, do not entertain them; shift your thoughts to God’s word.
Spend time in prayer, in study of the word, in Church gatherings that will strengthen your faith. Speak His word over your spirit, soul and body; take it like medicine- that is what it is. Proverbs 4:20-22 THE WORD OF GOD HAS DELIEVERING POWER
Spend time in God’s presence where you receive grace and strength to conquer your flesh.
3. Change Your Choices
You cannot change your life without altering your choices. Those places you go to, those people you spend time with, those movies you watch, those books or magazines you read that sensitize you to fornication, they all need to change into healthy places, people and things.
Surround your self with people and things that encourage you to sanctification.
4. Be Accountable To People
I recommend strongly that you find people (of the same sex) to stay accountable to. People who will pray with and for you, share with you, check on you, be there for you and follow up on you.
Without counsel purposes are disappointed: but in the multitude of counsellors they are established. Proverbs 15:22
5. Run, Run, Run
Just in case you somehow get to get face to face with the temptation to fornicate, I have one word for you- RUN!!! Flee fornication. 1 Corinthians 6:18
Joseph ran as fast as his legs could carry him, though he suffered for a while, but God honoured him immensely.
6. Finally, a young man mailed me to say that his girlfriend threatened to leave him because he wanted to stop. Most ladies too are afraid that their boyfriends will not marry them if they do not yield to their sexual requests.
My answer– they are not good enough for you! Anyone who wants you to displease God and please him/her does not have any good in mind for you.
Many others and I overcame fornication, you can too!
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