6 Tips On How To Stop Fornication

6 Tips On How To Stop Fornication

The most visited page on this blog is currently that which I wrote on 6 Ways You Can Avoid Fornication. I have not ceased receiving mails from people (Christians and non-Christians) from around the world who are struggling to stop fornicating. So I thought I should share some tips on how one who is already in it can break free from fornication. Some of these tips might echo what I have already shared in the mentioned article.

You Must Realize That You Are Not Helpless
Do not buy the lies of the enemy; he often tells you there is really nothing you can do about it.  He tells you nobody can live without sex, everyone who says they do are lying… He is the liar, the father of all lies!
For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: 1 Thessalonians 4:3

If God commands it, then He has given you the ability, the power to obey. We can do all things through Christ- Philippians 4: 13
He has promised to help those that trust in Him, those that follow Him… Isaiah 41:10

So now you have to make up your mind that you CAN stop fornication, you must make up your mind that you are not helpless, you must give no room for the thoughts and words the enemy is selling to you. When your mind is made up, you invite and attract God’s help.

1. Stay Away From Your Partner(s)
There is power in proximity; you have to distance yourself from the person(s) you have been fornicating with. I know for some people, it might be any opposite sex… but mostly, the people you have been fornicating with are stronger temptations for you.
I know most times you have to face and conquer your mountains, I believe you need to develop enough spiritual muscles and strength to face and conquer. Besides when it comes to sexual sins, I do not recommend that you go to or invite the mountain… You have to brace up and tell whomever that you no longer want to see them again; you no longer want to continue in sin.

2. Fight The Spirit Of Fornication
You must realize that the enemy is waging war against you with this sin as with any other. His chief mission is to steal, kill and destroy you- John 10:10a
He steals you by keeping you in sin, if you do not stay in sin, satan cannot have his way with you and he wants so much to have his way with you. You see, he sees you as a card against God and if you keep up with sin, you become a trophy for him. I pray not in Jesus name, amen!
Now, you must fight against fornication by renewing your mind with God’s word. Search out scriptures that concerns fornication and any sin, place them all over your house, or however you want to constantly keep them before you, meditate on them (the word of God has cleansing power) to clean your mind of those thoughts. Whenever lust comes to your mind, do not entertain them; shift your thoughts to God’s word.
Spend time in prayer, in study of the word, in Church gatherings that will strengthen your faith. Speak His word over your spirit, soul and body; take it like medicine- that is what it is. Proverbs 4:20-22 THE WORD OF GOD HAS DELIEVERING POWER
Spend time in God’s presence where you receive grace and strength to conquer your flesh.

3. Change Your Choices
You cannot change your life without altering your choices. Those places you go to, those people you spend time with, those movies you watch, those books or magazines you read that sensitize you to fornication, they all need to change into healthy places, people and things.
Surround your self with people and things that encourage you to sanctification.

4. Be Accountable To People
I recommend strongly that you find people (of the same sex) to stay accountable to. People who will pray with and for you, share with you, check on you, be there for you and follow up on you.
Without counsel purposes are disappointed: but in the multitude of counsellors they are established. Proverbs 15:22

5. Run, Run, Run
Just in case you somehow get to get face to face with the temptation to fornicate, I have one word for you- RUN!!!  Flee fornication. 1 Corinthians 6:18
Joseph ran as fast as his legs could carry him, though he suffered for a while, but God honoured him immensely.

6. Finally, a young man mailed me to say that his girlfriend threatened to leave him because he wanted to stop. Most ladies too are afraid that their boyfriends will not marry them if they do not yield to their sexual requests.
My answer– they are not good enough for you! Anyone who wants you to displease God and please him/her does not have any good in mind for you.

Many others and I overcame fornication, you can too!

Do you have your story on how you overcame?
Are you fighting fornication?
Do you find these tips helpful?
Do you know someone who this might help?

Leave your thoughts in the comment box please, also email and share to your friends in social media, might save some!

Copyright© Ugochi Oritsejolomisan 2014





  1. I like your teaching very much, thanks very much. Please I need your prayer and support seriously, because my own case is very bad. I am sleeping with two sisters and the eldest does not know, but the younger one is aware that I have something with the sister and she still allow me into her. Now I am finding it difficult to let the both of them go and they both know I’m married. Please I need you to intercede for in prayer

    1. While I would really love to pray for you, I think you need to make up your mind to be that responsible man, husband and father God has created you to be and refuse to let your legs take you to those ladies.
      Lift your heart and voice to God and surrender all of you to Him asking for His mercy. Yield your heart to The Holy Spirit and follow His leading.
      You can overcome this if you really want to.

  2. I am so happy I come across your article, pls pray for me, I just repented from the sin of fornication and I don’t want to go into it again.

    1. I pray for wisdom to avoid compromise and strength to say “NO” in Jesus name. Amen

  3. What about Paul’s message for those who have a burning passion? The Bible does give us a way out through marriage. I am also struggling with this sin. My boyfriend and I are in love but have only been dating for 2 months. We see each other almost every day. We have already been talking about being with each other for a lifetime but we keep slipping into this sin when he comes over to visit me in the evenings. We are in praise band together at church and his brother is an assistant pastor. I am thinking of not inviting him over to my room anymore and just seeing him outside of my home. This will be hard but at this point other than marrying him I see no other way to combat this. I love all your advice and will practice what you have written here. But my thoughts keep drifting to “why not get married” because we are so in love. What do you think? I don’t want to live with this shame and guilt any longer but I have a burning passion for my lover. Bless you sister!

    1. If you are both sure God would have you get married then go ahead. However, you must bear in mind that marriage is not an escape from sexual sins. Both of you must deal with lust and all other sins, otherwise the problem is not solved.

  4. I and my partner really love each other and he’s promised to marry me. He’s a minister in church and I a chorister, we’ve really being battling with this issue. Infact we are already on a break.. we’re trying to give each other space cos this is not how we want our relationship to go..we feel so guilty especially me. Our love can’t be compared to how the devil is playing tricks with our mind and future by making us a playing card. We really want this to work.. I’m even finding it difficult to pray right now cos I feel so ashamed and Bad for disappointing God. I’ve been crying all day,With a promising heart and prayerful one too I’m pleasing to God to give ud another chance. But how should we go on with our relationship?…please I really need an answer

  5. Hi Uzochi, I’ve always known that furnication is like a slippery pit which when fallen into , it’s very hard to come out.am a minister of the gospel , I love the Lord and iv stayed consecrated to him, for over 7years I stayed without messing up myself or indulging in furnication until I became proud and careless then I fell once and ever since then I’ve been falling into this slimmy pit called furnication. I currently live with my brother and am sexually involved with his wife’s relative that lives with them.Each time I commit it with her I feel terribly bad, I’ll pray and cry but it won’t be long I’ll find myself deep in it again. Pls ma pray for me cos am scared I may never come out of it and it may ruin both me and my ministry.

    1. You can win this bro! You must first agree with God and His word. If He says you can overcome then you can. If you win this battle in your mind, you have a won a large part of the victory.

  6. Please my family I need a spiritual mentor this is my number from Nigeria

  7. Im a president of a fellowship
    Got involved in fornication and looks like i cant stop
    Been with the guilt and feel like an hypocrite
    Im just a 20 yrs old female…scared it will be an habit I cant stop with time
    So many persons look up to me
    Dont know feel ashamed to always beg God for Mercy

  8. Hi Ugochi,
    I am a corper serving in a village clinic where my accommodation is a room in the residential flat in the clinic. I am a Christian medical doctor and in a godly relationship I have been trusting will culminate in marriage.
    Around August, a nurse was employed and offered the only other room in the flat. We naturally became close since we were both working and “living” together. But as time went on, we got so terribly close with a rapid growth in intimacy that has led to the present sin I now wallow in; Furnication.

    The first two times we furnicated, I reported myself to my girlfriend, her descipler, some of my Christian friends and my mother with promises that they would never happen again. I gave extreme attention to prayer and to the word of God, and for more than a month, I felt convinced that it would never happen again. With God’s help, my girlfriend forgave me and restored our relationship.
    But as I write this comment, I have had another three episodes of furnication with several other episodes of caressing with this nurse. I am afraid to tell my girlfriend and I feel the only way I would stop is if I leave or the nurse leaves. Sadly, non of us can because our jobs require a 24hrs presence in the clinic. I need advice…

    I really do.

    I have never been in this situation before.

  9. Hi Ugochi,
    I am currently a corper serving in a village. My accommodation is a room in the residential flat in the clinic where I work. I am a medical doctor and a Christian. I love God and I am in a godly relationship.
    Sometime in August, a nurse was employed into the clinic and was asked to take a room in the flat. We became neighbors, had all things common but in time, we became terribly close and intimate after which we began to furnicate. The first two times left me with so much guilt that I had to tell my girlfriend and my mother with a promise that it will never happen again. It took time but my girlfriend forgave me because she believed they were mistakes. But as I write this, it has happened an additional three times in the last one week. I am afraid of telling her. I understand that I must stop this. I actually hate the fact that it happens. I have even discussed with the nurse, set boundaries but all these have failed. I think that the initial error was the unreserved closeness ( something I actually hardly do. I just wanted to be a nice neighbor). I cannot leave my appartment because I am required to be in the clinic at all times and the nurse too. It feels like we are co habiting. I really need a way forward. I sense that this is ruining my life, the future of my home and my ministry. To think that I was a fellowship exco..

    1. First and foremost, you must understand and believe that you have been redeemed from the kingdom of darkness and it’s power. Colossians 1:13 KJV Who hath delivered us from the power of darkness, and hath translated us into the kingdom of his dear Son:
      Secondly, you are no longer under the dominion of sin or it’s effect. Romans 6:14 AMPC For sin shall not [any longer] exert dominion over you, since now you are not under Law [as slaves], but under grace [as subjects of God’s favor and mercy].
      A very careful observation of the Bible will let you know that God starts the solving of all problems with His Word. God started with the Word. You have to do the same thing by starting with God’s Word.

      Get the Word into your spirit as you draw near to the God.

      Your first step in drawing closer to God is to realize that you know God first in His Word.

      Time spent meditating in the New Testament is time spent with Jesus.

      Most people don’t realize that. So, instead of getting to know the Lord through His Word, they try to know Him through their feelings and that just won’t work.

      Letting the Word dominate your thinking is to allow the Holy Spirit to have control over your mind. As you do that, your feelings will eventually fall in line.

      Remember this: John 1:1-5, :14 tells us that Jesus is the Word. That means, when you spend time in it, you’re spending time with Jesus. When His Word is dwelling in you richly, then Jesus is dwelling in you richly too!

      Psalm 107:20 AMPC He sends forth His word and heals them and rescues them from the pit and destruction.

      Let the Word have dominion over your mind.

  10. this is the main problem i have in my life and i have been trying to stop but to no avail, the worst part is that i do it with prostitute out there, I’m unable to control my self, please i need a help, i want to stop this

    1. Hi dear, if you read this article again, take seriously all written in it and put them into practice, you will gain your victory over fornication.

  11. I am a seventeen year girl struggling to quit fornicating. I had made up my mind to stop I prayed for it and asked God to forgive me I believed that God has no grudge against it. but one night a had a dream somebody gave me a note to say ” Don’t worry. fornicating is no sin and if you doing with a person you promise to marry is not a sin. i woke up while having a feeling to have sex…I told my boyfriend he advised me to say that the note is true and we ended up fornicating but after that i was really disturbed I don’t know what to do should I end the relationship,, the guy seems to be loving so much but the problem is he doesn’t feel that we fornicating sinning against God. I gave him scriptures but he doesn’t want to change and live our lives for Christ together. help me please

    1. My dear, without meaning to sound harsh, anyone who wants to make you disobey God does not love you. To displease God means pleasing the enemy and opens you up to being afflicted by him.
      Your dream is irrelevant because it contradicts God’s word. God’s word is our final authority and I want you to know that it is The Holy Spirit prompting you to do the right thing. Please yield to Him and live your life to please HIm.
      Anyone that does not want to let you live for God should be left alone.

  12. I Became a disciple of Jesus March 1st 2018 I had sex twice and was sexually immoral a few times’. I completely forget about God in the moment but after TEARS AND GUILT consume me, before I became a disciple I would just feel bad but now I feel like Im being rapped as soon as I remember GOD when in the act. My body feels really wrong, and my spirit feels really sad. I start crying and my tears won’t stop, my sister told me that when you become a disciple the Holy Spirit lives in you and it’s like your rapping the Holy Spirit, when I heard this it made so much sense why I felt that way. We are doing this to God and crucifing him all over again making the spirit mourn! I’m praying that God gives me True repentance! True repentance can only be granted please pray for me!

    1. Hi Laura, so sorry I couldn’t respond earlier. You must believe God’s word in 1 John 1:9. The moment you repent, God forgives and does not hold a grudge. But you must fill yourself continually with His word and Spirit otherwise you will keep going back.
      Also put these things I wrote here in practice. The victory is already your, but you must step up and take it!
      Love you! Please let me know how you are doing soon.

  13. Your Comment here…please I need ur help fornication is is affecting my life

  14. Hi Sister Ugochi
    Am very sad and ashame of myself this morning,, I have been battling from this act since childhood.. I am now 29 not married not working, I just finished National Service but am having two children with different mothers.. Please sister I really hate this act and I have been praying and fasting over It but still I found myself in it.. I sometimes stop for a while and promise myself and God that I will not do it again.. I hate myself anytime I do that.. I really need your help and your wonderful message to keep me out of this evil practice..
    I can stop for three months or more sometimes but will fall in it again.. I believe your article will help me because I’m really going to take it serious and practice it.. I fear God and know that he want me to abstain from fornication so please help me.. Please kindly help me in prayers and also need your advice and council through my email.. Thank you.

    1. I am glad you will take the message serious and put it to practice. You don’t have to hate yourself, trust in God and obedience to His word will destroy sin… I will keep you in my prayers.
      Have a super blessed day!

  15. Am very glad to find this…i am really struggling on how to stop this act but to no avail . Just sin right now and it seems am disappointing God.
    Now that i have found this steps or ways to stop,am going to put it in action so that my father in heaven will take me back as a son and duel in me as His temple.
    Please remember me in your prayers…i really need them

    1. I am so glad to hear from you. God is always ready to forgive. I will keep you in my prayers brother. Do not give up or given, you CAN will this!
      Have a super blessed day!

  16. Hello I am going through this situation myself me and my boyfriend are suppose to wait a year for marriage but we both have fallen through the year in this and it’s been tough to wait a whole year for both of us for we have been friends more than we can imagine and now waiting another year to get married has been tough I’m for one scared to lose him cuz if this as well

    1. My dear sister… allow your love for God and your desire to obey and please Him guide your decisions. Also remember that sin is a destroyer, the enemy wants us to sin so he can steal, kill and destroy.

  17. Ugochi
    please i need help. My Fiance lives with me because his accommodation will be ready in April. I feel so ashamed the fornication has been everyday. I tried to stop but i just cant. look at me that used to say i will wait until wedding night is now the one wallowing in fornication. I even started feeling that there is nothing wrong with fornication. We will be going for counselling and we already agreed that we will tell them that we have not fornicated. I even lied to a pastor when he asked me because i was too ashamed. I am scared of what am turning into. I have been praying for financial breakthrough now look at me smh all i get are series of bad dreams i need help

    1. Hi Gift,
      He needs to move out of your house now. He should go and squat with a friend or relative… Both you should resole not to go into fornication again until next month when you get married.
      Apologize to God and to your counselling pastor. Don’t be afraid of the outcome, once you decide to honour God, He will back you up and help you. Ultimately, He will make everything work out for your good.
      Make up your mind to please God regardless what anybody might think or day. Make God proud and He will honour and glorify you.
      God’s grace and speed.

  18. I’m very blessed and liberated by your words.Just committed this kind and particular sin and sound like I’m being disowned by my heavenly father.But now I feel so welcome and accepted by heavenly father.GOD BLESS YOU AND GIVE MORE WISDOM AND MORE BREAKTHROUGH

    1. I am excited you have been blessed! God loves you Elijah, and His love is stronger than sin. Stand strong in the freedom God has given you from sin.

  19. Thanks for your words and i fond them so inspiring… please send me more on how to overcome it as i do go off n On, most times i would walk out but later after few weeks or months i land myself again on the trail, i cry many times why…..

  20. I committed this sin again today. I told myself every time it happened that I won’t do it again but I find myself back in it. When the thought crosses my mind, I ll try to overcome it but no, I ll find myself in it. Every time I engaged in this act, I feel I am getting deeper in it.
    I was tried of the whole situation today that I searched for “how to stop fornication”. And to the Glory of God I came across your article/message.
    Like Phil, I know it’s wrong, and I also teach against it.
    From your message I realized that my prayer like is suffering, I don’t study my Bible like I used to and I have reduced my gathering with brethren to once a week on Sunday (due to relocation).
    I know if I can get these 3 things back online in my life I ll overcome fornication by God’s Grace.
    Am really trusting God that this(fornication) will end premananetly.
    God bless you ma

  21. Hmmmmm!

    Ma! I need your prayers and any other additional support. I see this piece here helpful because I just got into this fornication of a thing just last month, November 2017. And I realized, before my flesh supposedly took the lead I stopped studying the word for no tangible reason, even if I do not of a quality chapters… Thanks once more, but join me in prayers because I know these tips myself, I preach the gospel, make alter call…. As in I know all these still found myself on the opposite of my words and person… Plz I will go back to God but still pray for His mercy on me and grace to continue from where I stopped!

    1. God has given you dominion over sin Phil. I will keep you in my prayers.

  22. ever since I fornicatesd earlier I feel am condemned totally and don’t even know where to start from here

  23. Hi Ugochi, thank you for your posts , I have been committing fornication for 15 years now and when ever the thought comes I don’t know how to overcome it. I don’t like it because after the act I hate myself for it. I usually ask God for forgiveness but I want to permanently overcome the thought and stop it. Pls help me on how to overcome the thought of it. Thanks.

    1. Hi David,
      Please forgive me for not responding earlier. It is a good thing you want to put a permanent end to fornication and the good news is, you can! I overcame it and so many people I know did too, so can you!
      If you take everything I have written here, commit them to heart and walk by them you will put an end to it. You must feed on God’s word regularly, read His word and draw strength and spend time in His presence worshipping and praying.
      Also, make yourself accountable to a responsible believer. God’s grace is there to help you David, you are already an overcomer! Email me again if you need any further guidance.
      Have a super blessed day!

  24. Thank you soon much for your help, fornication is eating me up and I feel am lost and wasting my life each time I found myself in it. I have tried so many times to stop but I still go back to it. Seeing this the first time gives me hope and I know am going to stop with this help in Jesus name. God richly bless you.

    1. God bless you Nana! I am glad your hope and faith have come alive. God is with you and He is on your side, He will surely help you. I cannot wait to hear your testimony!
      Have a super blessed weekend!

  25. This helped me a lot! It gave me the mind to think clearly And to serve God the right way thank u

    1. Praise God Kevin! You are very welcome!

  26. Mama God bless u.. Am a young Pastor in training but I find it difficult to put stop to masturbation and fornicating… When I get close to a woman then it comes in my thoughts ..and even when I don’t feel like having sex with the person, it will start to erect.. Am suffering.. It has been going on over and over again… Help me in prayers MA..

    1. Hi Manuel,
      Take seriously what you read in the post, now read this below and do as it says. Also be careful of the movies you watch, books you read, songs you listen to and people you spend time with. All these are ways you can avoid feeding your mind with sensual thoughts that seek manifestation by actions

      2. Fight The Spirit Of Fornication
      You must realize that the enemy is waging war against you with this sin as with any other. His chief mission is to steal, kill and destroy you- John 10:10aOpen in Logos Bible Software (if available)
      He steals you by keeping you in sin, if you do not stay in sin, satan cannot have his way with you and he wants so much to have his way with you. You see, he sees you as a card against God and if you keep up with sin, you become a trophy for him. I pray not in Jesus name, amen!
      Now, you must fight against fornication by renewing your mind with God’s word. Search out scriptures that concerns fornication and any sin, place them all over your house, or however you want to constantly keep them before you, meditate on them (the word of God has cleansing power) to clean your mind of those thoughts. Whenever lust comes to your mind, do not entertain them; shift your thoughts to God’s word.
      Spend time in prayer, in study of the word, in Church gatherings that will strengthen your faith. Speak His word over your spirit, soul and body; take it like medicine- that is what it is. Proverbs 4:20-22Open in Logos Bible Software (if available) THE WORD OF GOD HAS DELIEVERING POWER
      Spend time in God’s presence where you receive grace and strength to conquer your flesh.

  27. i am a Christian and i have been in a relationship for 4years i tried stopping fornication but it didn’t work so i dont know how to proceed knowing that stopping the fornication maybe stopping the relationship. we are both students

  28. Omg…..thank you so much for your encouraging message. I am still struggling with fornication and I am believing God for deliverance cos I really want to live for God and not in sin anymore.

  29. I’m happy to see this site, it really change me from my perspective about fornication. I tank you for your counselling.

    1. Praise God Bro!

  30. Thanks ma for these steps, I believe they will richly help me. I’m an Evangelist but yet I have never resisted fornication especially with unbelievers. They are the ones who even tell me to stop because they know I’m a child of God & I have been stagnant in my spirit man because of this attitute pls I need more of your good counselling

    1. God’s grace is available bro. You can email me if you need further counselling.
      God bless!

    2. thanks I’m greatful

  31. I overcame…flee fornication I ran from him and I know that it was God that is keeping me because the sex was good… But I can’t serve two masters…I choose GOD

    1. Praise God! He will honour your choice of Him above sin, He will bless you with his very best man for you on the earth.

  32. Thanks for your word
    Tips on how to overfornication
    Well me ive an adict yet iam aborn again
    Iseek your prayers i overcome it
    God bless u all

    1. In Jesus name, as you submit to God and His word, you overcome every sin!

  33. I am fighting masturbation and pornography. I am very weak when a beautiful lady want to fornicate with me; most times I make the move first against my will. I feel guilty and always beg God’s forgiveness after fornicating, masturbating or watching porn. Continuously asking God’s forgiveness over and over again for the same sin is beginning to feel like I take Him for granted. I want a way out! I wish the holy Spirit can arrest me and assist me kill these evil passions I feel and commit to. I want to serve God faithfully. These sins gives me bad dreams at night and my conscience fights me everyday. Pls pray seriously for me – Anonymous (UK)

    1. I will keep you in my prayers, but you must be diligent with these tips mentioned here. You will over come!

  34. This issue is a constant struggle for me. I do well for months and then in one instant I fall apart.
    I Thank you for your advice. I am a Saved Child of God. He has blessed me constantly all throughout my life. I continue in my sin knowing that its wrong to fulfill my own pleasures. I know I need to change and not give in but I also know I need to have faith in the matter. Distancing myself and constant meditation of the scriptures and prayer with My Lord will help. Pray for me. I will appreciate that.

    1. If you give it all over to God and stick with the 6 tips, victory will not elude you!
      I will keep you in my prayers!

  35. I find this interesting, being that I have straight guidelines on how to stay on track.. Thank you ma

    1. Praise God! I am grateful you find it so. Have a blessed day bro!

      1. Thanks again ma

        1. Praise God bro!

  36. Thank You very Much,
    I have the call of God on me, but because of lack of proper counselling I got myself into a relationship, hoping it will please God, but have realized that I may not marry her and i am not even ready now to marry, I want to quit and concentrate on my Ministry because it is interrupting my ministry and i know God is not happy about it and if not by the blood of Jesus by now, I think God had even rejected me.
    My problem is that we have messed up before, we are in the same neighbourhood, the same church, in order to avoid conflict, hatred and bitterness how do I quit cos I know Jesus is not happy at all, and I want to serve with all my heart, all my soul, so how do I cut her from me?

    1. First, you have to make up your mind to please God and trust Him for grace to deal with the consequences your situation might present.
      Secondly, if you know you may not marry her, you have to tell her. Leading her on is deceptive and more destructive than letting her go now…
      Your Church I am sure would feel better when you say what you want now than marry and dump her later.
      God help you do the right thing my brother!

  37. thank you ma, really helpful, I will keep them in mind and share..

    1. Bless God! I am always grateful to know that something I share here helps… Thanks for coming by and for sharing too.
      Have a super blessed day!

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