06 Mar 6 Tips On How To Stop Fornication
The most visited page on this blog is currently that which I wrote on 6 Ways You Can Avoid Fornication. I have not ceased receiving mails from people (Christians and non-Christians) from around the world who are struggling to stop fornicating. So I thought I should share some tips on how one who is already in it can break free from fornication. Some of these tips might echo what I have already shared in the mentioned article.
You Must Realize That You Are Not Helpless
Do not buy the lies of the enemy; he often tells you there is really nothing you can do about it. He tells you nobody can live without sex, everyone who says they do are lying… He is the liar, the father of all lies!
For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: 1 Thessalonians 4:3
If God commands it, then He has given you the ability, the power to obey. We can do all things through Christ- Philippians 4: 13
He has promised to help those that trust in Him, those that follow Him… Isaiah 41:10
So now you have to make up your mind that you CAN stop fornication, you must make up your mind that you are not helpless, you must give no room for the thoughts and words the enemy is selling to you. When your mind is made up, you invite and attract God’s help.
1. Stay Away From Your Partner(s)
There is power in proximity; you have to distance yourself from the person(s) you have been fornicating with. I know for some people, it might be any opposite sex… but mostly, the people you have been fornicating with are stronger temptations for you.
I know most times you have to face and conquer your mountains, I believe you need to develop enough spiritual muscles and strength to face and conquer. Besides when it comes to sexual sins, I do not recommend that you go to or invite the mountain… You have to brace up and tell whomever that you no longer want to see them again; you no longer want to continue in sin.
2. Fight The Spirit Of Fornication
You must realize that the enemy is waging war against you with this sin as with any other. His chief mission is to steal, kill and destroy you- John 10:10a
He steals you by keeping you in sin, if you do not stay in sin, satan cannot have his way with you and he wants so much to have his way with you. You see, he sees you as a card against God and if you keep up with sin, you become a trophy for him. I pray not in Jesus name, amen!
Now, you must fight against fornication by renewing your mind with God’s word. Search out scriptures that concerns fornication and any sin, place them all over your house, or however you want to constantly keep them before you, meditate on them (the word of God has cleansing power) to clean your mind of those thoughts. Whenever lust comes to your mind, do not entertain them; shift your thoughts to God’s word.
Spend time in prayer, in study of the word, in Church gatherings that will strengthen your faith. Speak His word over your spirit, soul and body; take it like medicine- that is what it is. Proverbs 4:20-22 THE WORD OF GOD HAS DELIEVERING POWER
Spend time in God’s presence where you receive grace and strength to conquer your flesh.
3. Change Your Choices
You cannot change your life without altering your choices. Those places you go to, those people you spend time with, those movies you watch, those books or magazines you read that sensitize you to fornication, they all need to change into healthy places, people and things.
Surround your self with people and things that encourage you to sanctification.
4. Be Accountable To People
I recommend strongly that you find people (of the same sex) to stay accountable to. People who will pray with and for you, share with you, check on you, be there for you and follow up on you.
Without counsel purposes are disappointed: but in the multitude of counsellors they are established. Proverbs 15:22
5. Run, Run, Run
Just in case you somehow get to get face to face with the temptation to fornicate, I have one word for you- RUN!!! Flee fornication. 1 Corinthians 6:18
Joseph ran as fast as his legs could carry him, though he suffered for a while, but God honoured him immensely.
6. Finally, a young man mailed me to say that his girlfriend threatened to leave him because he wanted to stop. Most ladies too are afraid that their boyfriends will not marry them if they do not yield to their sexual requests.
My answer– they are not good enough for you! Anyone who wants you to displease God and please him/her does not have any good in mind for you.
Many others and I overcame fornication, you can too!
Do you have your story on how you overcame?
Are you fighting fornication?
Do you find these tips helpful?
Do you know someone who this might help?
Leave your thoughts in the comment box please, also email and share to your friends in social media, might save some!
Copyright© Ugochi Oritsejolomisan 2014
Esther
Posted at 19:26h, 14 JanuaryI am 22yrs old ,I’ve been battling with fornication, even when I’ve begged God over nd over again I still found myself going back into it …I’m not happy about it, always get depressed whenever I think about it , always wanting to kill myself cause I failed God
My partner wants us to abstain from fornication and serve God in truth and spirit but I always make him fall back into the sin but he’s not still breaking up with me which I think it’s the solution
I really don’t know how to stop this ma’am, I’m hindering my walk with God and I’m hindering my partner’s too
What do I do ma?
Precious
Posted at 02:30h, 26 OctoberGood morning Ugochi, I really am suffering from everything LUST(FORNICATION, MASTURBATING, PORNOGRAPHY). I have tried all within my power, I have prayed,fasted,cried even met up with different MEN OF GOD for counseling but after prayers it becomes worse. I know the devil is robbing me of a great blessing through this but I don’t know what to do again. I can’t keep a serious relationship because of this and the relationship now is on shaky ground. I NEED HELP
Stella
Posted at 04:44h, 04 OctoberHi
I am a 20 year old girl an for some time now I have been having sexual affairs with my boss.we both attend the same church and we are workers and he is married.this all started some months back and i know it’s very wrong. I was a virgin until then the truth is that I have tried a lot of times but I always go back even after asking God for forgiveness and promising not to do it again I always return to him I confided on a Christian brother he advised me not to do it again I even made him promises of not doing it again but then i will always answer his calls when he calls. I am so attached to him that I can’t let go and i really do not want to continue in this the fact is that I can’t get away from him because he is my boss. I don’t know what to do I have received numerous counsel and advice but I still don’t know why I keep falling pls help I want to do the will of God in my life
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
Posted at 22:09h, 17 OctoberHi Stella,
I apologize for not responding earlier.
You have to take drastic measures when your eternity is at stake. You might be thinking that since he is your boss you have to continue in order to see your job. But the truth is, your eternity is at stake below are ways you can take your stand to deal with this.
– Let your pastor know
– Resign your job
– Block his number or change your number
Above all, spend time with God and his word.
– Feed your mind with God’s word and replace thoughts about him and sex with thoughts about God and His word.
This is war and you must approach it as such. Your flesh is at war with your spirit and you must put your flesh under by training your spirit.
You can email mr directly at teshuva7@gmail.com
Rhoda
Posted at 03:26h, 22 FebruaryI really wanna stop fornication and watching porn but it seems my efforts are not enough. I’ve tried hard but it’s still not working. Please help me to be strong again. I wanna be close to God again
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
Posted at 21:41h, 25 FebruaryHi Rhoda,
This is what God wants too. He loves you and wants every barrier to His fulness in your life to be removed.
Maybe you are trying hard on your own without depending on God’s word and His Holy Spirit.
It is not by your power or your might, without Him you can do nothing.
Read and meditate on His word concerning overcoming sin and living in righteousness, speak His word continuously over your life, keep constant communication with The Holy Spirit and ALSO do not put yourself in a place where you would fall into the temptation again.
Read this article again and keep all you read in your heart, depending on The Holy Spirit to help you.
You can email me at teshuvah7@gmail.com so we can talk privately.
God is on your side and you can overcome fornication!
Chioma
Posted at 11:59h, 30 DecemberHi, I’m Chioma
I’m tired Ma
I’m so tired
I cry each time
And even during my tastings when I get to spend time with my lover, I fall
He too claims he wants to stop but I don’t really see any effort on his side
He agrees when I say no
But most times I can’t even say no
I am tired
I can’t even pray
I feel I don’t deserve to pray
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
Posted at 00:12h, 13 JanuaryHi Chioma,
I like that both of you recognize fornication as a sin and you want to stop. The first thing I would suggest is that you stop seeing each other, especially places and situations that would put you in compromise.
While you are away from each other, take time to strengthen your relationship with God.
– First repent genuinely with a made up mind not to go back. Bearing in mind that you will depend on Him and trust Him to help you. You will also not make room for the enemy to bring you down.
– Read and study His word.
– Spend time with Him in fellowship, fasting and worshiping and talking with Him.
– Submit yourself to your pastor or another believer who loves God and you can trust.
– Whenever the thoughts of sexual sin come to your mind, begin to worship God and invite His manifest presence where you are.
– Take God’s word…for instance… your body is the temple of The Holy Spirit…and begin to speak to your body and your mind…tell your body it is not made for fornication or any other sin, but for The Lord.
– It is very important that you submit to a seasoned believer for accountability and guidance.
You must believe that you can overcome and God will walk you through.
Please email me again if you need to. I will keep you in my prayers.
Anthony Ziddah
Posted at 07:54h, 07 SeptemberHello, I am Anthony from Ghana. I really love God and want Him to be the master of my lifeyears. I but battling with fornication for the past few years. Anytime i am done with my fasting for God to help me out with it, that is the very day i will fornicate the more. My biggest problwm is, i live with my partner in the same house and though we always claim we have broken up. I am dying because of thus development, I invite God(Holy Spirit) today and then fornicate the next day. I dont think the Holy Spirit will visit me again. Kindly help me please.
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
Posted at 12:55h, 21 NovemberHello Anthony, please forgive me for not responding earlier.
First you MUST believe that YOU CAN stop fornicating because God has given you the ability to. Next, you must stop putting yourself in circumstances and situations that will aid fornication.
And then, read God’s word regularly and pray His word over your life. If you want, I can send you some scriptures to pray. Finally, make yourself accountable and put barriers on yourself when it comes to dealing with the opposite gender. Generally put to practice all you have read in this article.
I hope this helps. Please email me if you need more help.
God bless you.
Anthony Ziddah
Posted at 07:54h, 07 SeptemberHello, I am Anthony from Ghana. I really love God and want Him to be the master of my lifeyears. I but battling with fornication for the past few years. Anytime i am done with my fasting for God to help me out with it, that is the very day i will fornicate the more. My biggest problwm is, i live with my partner in the same house and though we always claim we have broken up. I am dying because of thus development, I invite God(Holy Spirit) today and then fornicate the next day. I dont think the Holy Spirit will visit me again. Kindly help me please.
Daniel
Posted at 18:31h, 23 AprilHi sister,
I agree with this teaching and I am glad. I would like to ask you for prayer(s), I fight with fornicative thoughts, mostly not for sex or erotic, but for that unity with woman, and cuddling etc and woman are so much attractive to me, but I dont want theese soul conections, I want to be free from it and have wife from God.
Thank you very much, God bless you
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
Posted at 18:01h, 25 AprilHello Daniel,
I am glad you want to stop, now it is time to take actions. Following the biblical principles in the article and you will possess the victory if you do not give up.
God is on your side helping you and I will mention you in my prayers.
Innocent james
Posted at 16:11h, 07 AprilGood evening Ma, please pray for me I keep on giving my life to Christ and falling at the same time to fornication. Please am tired of leaving a double life
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
Posted at 18:55h, 07 AprilWhile I keep you in prayers. Please commit to reading this article and allow the word of God lead you.
God is on your side and His help is available.
Miracle
Posted at 21:11h, 11 MarchMa I’ve a serious case with masturbation and watching of pornography and I have been into it for 3yrs now. In my family and environment, they know me as a good boy dedicated to serving God but I know deep down within myself that I’m empty. Ma pls I need ur prayers, I really want to change but it seems like its impossible to break. Even after dedicating my life to Christ again, I still fall flat to the same act again. I am confused and tired of being a hypocrite. I really need ur help and prayers. I feel like giving up, its so hard .
Lord pls come to my rescue.
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
Posted at 21:52h, 11 MarchWill keep you in my prayers Miracle. You commit to taking the steps outlined in the article.
Edgar Pong
Posted at 00:53h, 26 FebruaryHi madam, I have committed this act with my girlfriend and we even have a baby now and I committed myself to marry her.
But now she’s in a different town with the baby, and now I’ve committed the act again,with a different person. Your article has helped me a lot but my conscience won’t let me rest. Please what do I do
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
Posted at 21:38h, 28 FebruaryIf you have repented and asked God for forgiveness, He has forgiven you. It is the enemy who is weighing you down with guilt.
Now, whenever the thought comes to your mind, remind yourself and satan that God has forgiven you. he said if you confess your sin He is merciful and just to forgive you. 1 John 1:19
Michelle
Posted at 23:14h, 03 FebruaryI already repented from the sin of fornication and I don’t want to go into it again. What should I do next, should I wait until I get married to have sex again or should I stay like this for the rest of my life?
Also I haven’t talked to my boyfriend about this decision yet I’m scared of what will be his reaction, any advice? God bless!
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
Posted at 00:47h, 17 FebruaryIf your boyfriend is on the same page with you, meaning, he agrees to please God by living a holy life, you can continue seeing him. But otherwise, choose God over your emotions.
Joze
Posted at 16:41h, 12 DecemberSister,mine is a little complicated. I fell in this sin at around 20 and contracted HIV. I had dreamt of getting married but it was no longer possible for me. So I confined myself to being single but I could not keep up with it for long. I kept having brief ffairs with men and ended up with 4 kids with 3 different men. Am now 38, but I however hard I try , I can’t get a life partner and I also can’t stay single. What can I do?
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
Posted at 23:03h, 15 JanuaryCommitting your heart, body and life to Christ is a great place to start. Get a Bible and read it everyday and ask The Holy Spirit to reveal The Father to you. Read the Book of John and, Romans chapter 6, and 1 Corinthians Chapter 6 and 16.
Also, find a Church and begin fellowshipping with other believers and take one day at a time.
If you can, find a devoted and mature believing woman that you can make yourself accountable to.
Ask for God’s help daily and listen for His guidance as you read the Bible. Even when you don’t feel perfect, continue leaning on God and step by step you will become the woman you desire to be.
Henry
Posted at 19:15h, 24 AugustI like your teaching very much, thanks very much. Please I need your prayer and support seriously, because my own case is very bad. I am sleeping with two sisters and the eldest does not know, but the younger one is aware that I have something with the sister and she still allow me into her. Now I am finding it difficult to let the both of them go and they both know I’m married. Please I need you to intercede for in prayer
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
Posted at 20:48h, 05 SeptemberWhile I would really love to pray for you, I think you need to make up your mind to be that responsible man, husband and father God has created you to be and refuse to let your legs take you to those ladies.
Lift your heart and voice to God and surrender all of you to Him asking for His mercy. Yield your heart to The Holy Spirit and follow His leading.
You can overcome this if you really want to.
Modester
Posted at 12:31h, 17 AugustI am so happy I come across your article, pls pray for me, I just repented from the sin of fornication and I don’t want to go into it again.
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
Posted at 12:03h, 19 AugustI pray for wisdom to avoid compromise and strength to say “NO” in Jesus name. Amen
K
Posted at 13:01h, 02 JulyWhat about Paul’s message for those who have a burning passion? The Bible does give us a way out through marriage. I am also struggling with this sin. My boyfriend and I are in love but have only been dating for 2 months. We see each other almost every day. We have already been talking about being with each other for a lifetime but we keep slipping into this sin when he comes over to visit me in the evenings. We are in praise band together at church and his brother is an assistant pastor. I am thinking of not inviting him over to my room anymore and just seeing him outside of my home. This will be hard but at this point other than marrying him I see no other way to combat this. I love all your advice and will practice what you have written here. But my thoughts keep drifting to “why not get married” because we are so in love. What do you think? I don’t want to live with this shame and guilt any longer but I have a burning passion for my lover. Bless you sister!
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
Posted at 17:08h, 15 JulyIf you are both sure God would have you get married then go ahead. However, you must bear in mind that marriage is not an escape from sexual sins. Both of you must deal with lust and all other sins, otherwise the problem is not solved.
Phebian
Posted at 07:17h, 28 MayI and my partner really love each other and he’s promised to marry me. He’s a minister in church and I a chorister, we’ve really being battling with this issue. Infact we are already on a break.. we’re trying to give each other space cos this is not how we want our relationship to go..we feel so guilty especially me. Our love can’t be compared to how the devil is playing tricks with our mind and future by making us a playing card. We really want this to work.. I’m even finding it difficult to pray right now cos I feel so ashamed and Bad for disappointing God. I’ve been crying all day,With a promising heart and prayerful one too I’m pleasing to God to give ud another chance. But how should we go on with our relationship?…please I really need an answer
Ralph
Posted at 18:19h, 09 MarchHi Uzochi, I’ve always known that furnication is like a slippery pit which when fallen into , it’s very hard to come out.am a minister of the gospel , I love the Lord and iv stayed consecrated to him, for over 7years I stayed without messing up myself or indulging in furnication until I became proud and careless then I fell once and ever since then I’ve been falling into this slimmy pit called furnication. I currently live with my brother and am sexually involved with his wife’s relative that lives with them.Each time I commit it with her I feel terribly bad, I’ll pray and cry but it won’t be long I’ll find myself deep in it again. Pls ma pray for me cos am scared I may never come out of it and it may ruin both me and my ministry.
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
Posted at 16:10h, 16 MarchYou can win this bro! You must first agree with God and His word. If He says you can overcome then you can. If you win this battle in your mind, you have a won a large part of the victory.
Felix Murphy
Posted at 16:43h, 24 FebruaryPlease my family I need a spiritual mentor this is my number from Nigeria
V
Posted at 01:36h, 15 NovemberIm a president of a fellowship
Got involved in fornication and looks like i cant stop
Been with the guilt and feel like an hypocrite
Im just a 20 yrs old female…scared it will be an habit I cant stop with time
So many persons look up to me
Dont know feel ashamed to always beg God for Mercy
Eve
Posted at 02:04h, 13 NovemberHi Ugochi,
I am a corper serving in a village clinic where my accommodation is a room in the residential flat in the clinic. I am a Christian medical doctor and in a godly relationship I have been trusting will culminate in marriage.
Around August, a nurse was employed and offered the only other room in the flat. We naturally became close since we were both working and “living” together. But as time went on, we got so terribly close with a rapid growth in intimacy that has led to the present sin I now wallow in; Furnication.
The first two times we furnicated, I reported myself to my girlfriend, her descipler, some of my Christian friends and my mother with promises that they would never happen again. I gave extreme attention to prayer and to the word of God, and for more than a month, I felt convinced that it would never happen again. With God’s help, my girlfriend forgave me and restored our relationship.
But as I write this comment, I have had another three episodes of furnication with several other episodes of caressing with this nurse. I am afraid to tell my girlfriend and I feel the only way I would stop is if I leave or the nurse leaves. Sadly, non of us can because our jobs require a 24hrs presence in the clinic. I need advice…
I really do.
I have never been in this situation before.
James Ben
Posted at 00:57h, 13 NovemberHi Ugochi,
I am currently a corper serving in a village. My accommodation is a room in the residential flat in the clinic where I work. I am a medical doctor and a Christian. I love God and I am in a godly relationship.
Sometime in August, a nurse was employed into the clinic and was asked to take a room in the flat. We became neighbors, had all things common but in time, we became terribly close and intimate after which we began to furnicate. The first two times left me with so much guilt that I had to tell my girlfriend and my mother with a promise that it will never happen again. It took time but my girlfriend forgave me because she believed they were mistakes. But as I write this, it has happened an additional three times in the last one week. I am afraid of telling her. I understand that I must stop this. I actually hate the fact that it happens. I have even discussed with the nurse, set boundaries but all these have failed. I think that the initial error was the unreserved closeness ( something I actually hardly do. I just wanted to be a nice neighbor). I cannot leave my appartment because I am required to be in the clinic at all times and the nurse too. It feels like we are co habiting. I really need a way forward. I sense that this is ruining my life, the future of my home and my ministry. To think that I was a fellowship exco..
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
Posted at 22:31h, 01 JanuaryFirst and foremost, you must understand and believe that you have been redeemed from the kingdom of darkness and it’s power. Colossians 1:13 KJV Who hath delivered us from the power of darkness, and hath translated us into the kingdom of his dear Son:
Secondly, you are no longer under the dominion of sin or it’s effect. Romans 6:14 AMPC For sin shall not [any longer] exert dominion over you, since now you are not under Law [as slaves], but under grace [as subjects of God’s favor and mercy].
A very careful observation of the Bible will let you know that God starts the solving of all problems with His Word. God started with the Word. You have to do the same thing by starting with God’s Word.
Get the Word into your spirit as you draw near to the God.
Your first step in drawing closer to God is to realize that you know God first in His Word.
Time spent meditating in the New Testament is time spent with Jesus.
Most people don’t realize that. So, instead of getting to know the Lord through His Word, they try to know Him through their feelings and that just won’t work.
Letting the Word dominate your thinking is to allow the Holy Spirit to have control over your mind. As you do that, your feelings will eventually fall in line.
Remember this: John 1:1-5, :14 tells us that Jesus is the Word. That means, when you spend time in it, you’re spending time with Jesus. When His Word is dwelling in you richly, then Jesus is dwelling in you richly too!
Psalm 107:20 AMPC He sends forth His word and heals them and rescues them from the pit and destruction.
Let the Word have dominion over your mind.
bidemi
Posted at 05:00h, 15 Julythis is the main problem i have in my life and i have been trying to stop but to no avail, the worst part is that i do it with prostitute out there, I’m unable to control my self, please i need a help, i want to stop this
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
Posted at 12:50h, 27 JulyHi dear, if you read this article again, take seriously all written in it and put them into practice, you will gain your victory over fornication.
Dorah
Posted at 14:53h, 13 JulyI am a seventeen year girl struggling to quit fornicating. I had made up my mind to stop I prayed for it and asked God to forgive me I believed that God has no grudge against it. but one night a had a dream somebody gave me a note to say ” Don’t worry. fornicating is no sin and if you doing with a person you promise to marry is not a sin. i woke up while having a feeling to have sex…I told my boyfriend he advised me to say that the note is true and we ended up fornicating but after that i was really disturbed I don’t know what to do should I end the relationship,, the guy seems to be loving so much but the problem is he doesn’t feel that we fornicating sinning against God. I gave him scriptures but he doesn’t want to change and live our lives for Christ together. help me please
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
Posted at 12:55h, 27 JulyMy dear, without meaning to sound harsh, anyone who wants to make you disobey God does not love you. To displease God means pleasing the enemy and opens you up to being afflicted by him.
Your dream is irrelevant because it contradicts God’s word. God’s word is our final authority and I want you to know that it is The Holy Spirit prompting you to do the right thing. Please yield to Him and live your life to please HIm.
Anyone that does not want to let you live for God should be left alone.
Laura Monic
Posted at 21:30h, 07 JuneI Became a disciple of Jesus March 1st 2018 I had sex twice and was sexually immoral a few times’. I completely forget about God in the moment but after TEARS AND GUILT consume me, before I became a disciple I would just feel bad but now I feel like Im being rapped as soon as I remember GOD when in the act. My body feels really wrong, and my spirit feels really sad. I start crying and my tears won’t stop, my sister told me that when you become a disciple the Holy Spirit lives in you and it’s like your rapping the Holy Spirit, when I heard this it made so much sense why I felt that way. We are doing this to God and crucifing him all over again making the spirit mourn! I’m praying that God gives me True repentance! True repentance can only be granted please pray for me!
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
Posted at 22:00h, 28 JuneHi Laura, so sorry I couldn’t respond earlier. You must believe God’s word in 1 John 1:9. The moment you repent, God forgives and does not hold a grudge. But you must fill yourself continually with His word and Spirit otherwise you will keep going back.
Also put these things I wrote here in practice. The victory is already your, but you must step up and take it!
Love you! Please let me know how you are doing soon.
Joshua David
Posted at 03:53h, 23 MayYour Comment here…please I need ur help fornication is is affecting my life
Richard
Posted at 02:58h, 23 AprilHi Sister Ugochi
Am very sad and ashame of myself this morning,, I have been battling from this act since childhood.. I am now 29 not married not working, I just finished National Service but am having two children with different mothers.. Please sister I really hate this act and I have been praying and fasting over It but still I found myself in it.. I sometimes stop for a while and promise myself and God that I will not do it again.. I hate myself anytime I do that.. I really need your help and your wonderful message to keep me out of this evil practice..
I can stop for three months or more sometimes but will fall in it again.. I believe your article will help me because I’m really going to take it serious and practice it.. I fear God and know that he want me to abstain from fornication so please help me.. Please kindly help me in prayers and also need your advice and council through my email.. Thank you.
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
Posted at 10:29h, 23 AprilI am glad you will take the message serious and put it to practice. You don’t have to hate yourself, trust in God and obedience to His word will destroy sin… I will keep you in my prayers.
Have a super blessed day!
Glory sey
Posted at 19:04h, 21 MarchAm very glad to find this…i am really struggling on how to stop this act but to no avail . Just sin right now and it seems am disappointing God.
Now that i have found this steps or ways to stop,am going to put it in action so that my father in heaven will take me back as a son and duel in me as His temple.
Please remember me in your prayers…i really need them
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
Posted at 11:38h, 22 MarchI am so glad to hear from you. God is always ready to forgive. I will keep you in my prayers brother. Do not give up or given, you CAN will this!
Have a super blessed day!
Anonymous
Posted at 23:21h, 16 MarchHello I am going through this situation myself me and my boyfriend are suppose to wait a year for marriage but we both have fallen through the year in this and it’s been tough to wait a whole year for both of us for we have been friends more than we can imagine and now waiting another year to get married has been tough I’m for one scared to lose him cuz if this as well
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
Posted at 11:41h, 22 MarchMy dear sister… allow your love for God and your desire to obey and please Him guide your decisions. Also remember that sin is a destroyer, the enemy wants us to sin so he can steal, kill and destroy.
Gift
Posted at 02:16h, 07 MarchUgochi
please i need help. My Fiance lives with me because his accommodation will be ready in April. I feel so ashamed the fornication has been everyday. I tried to stop but i just cant. look at me that used to say i will wait until wedding night is now the one wallowing in fornication. I even started feeling that there is nothing wrong with fornication. We will be going for counselling and we already agreed that we will tell them that we have not fornicated. I even lied to a pastor when he asked me because i was too ashamed. I am scared of what am turning into. I have been praying for financial breakthrough now look at me smh all i get are series of bad dreams i need help
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
Posted at 17:02h, 16 MarchHi Gift,
He needs to move out of your house now. He should go and squat with a friend or relative… Both you should resole not to go into fornication again until next month when you get married.
Apologize to God and to your counselling pastor. Don’t be afraid of the outcome, once you decide to honour God, He will back you up and help you. Ultimately, He will make everything work out for your good.
Make up your mind to please God regardless what anybody might think or day. Make God proud and He will honour and glorify you.
God’s grace and speed.
Elijah
Posted at 22:16h, 10 JanuaryI’m very blessed and liberated by your words.Just committed this kind and particular sin and sound like I’m being disowned by my heavenly father.But now I feel so welcome and accepted by heavenly father.GOD BLESS YOU AND GIVE MORE WISDOM AND MORE BREAKTHROUGH
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
Posted at 10:32h, 11 JanuaryI am excited you have been blessed! God loves you Elijah, and His love is stronger than sin. Stand strong in the freedom God has given you from sin.
Oscar O.
Posted at 05:39h, 30 DecemberThanks for your words and i fond them so inspiring… please send me more on how to overcome it as i do go off n On, most times i would walk out but later after few weeks or months i land myself again on the trail, i cry many times why…..
Mayor
Posted at 14:25h, 29 DecemberI committed this sin again today. I told myself every time it happened that I won’t do it again but I find myself back in it. When the thought crosses my mind, I ll try to overcome it but no, I ll find myself in it. Every time I engaged in this act, I feel I am getting deeper in it.
I was tried of the whole situation today that I searched for “how to stop fornication”. And to the Glory of God I came across your article/message.
Like Phil, I know it’s wrong, and I also teach against it.
From your message I realized that my prayer like is suffering, I don’t study my Bible like I used to and I have reduced my gathering with brethren to once a week on Sunday (due to relocation).
I know if I can get these 3 things back online in my life I ll overcome fornication by God’s Grace.
Am really trusting God that this(fornication) will end premananetly.
God bless you ma
Phil.
Posted at 07:35h, 20 DecemberHmmmmm!
Ma! I need your prayers and any other additional support. I see this piece here helpful because I just got into this fornication of a thing just last month, November 2017. And I realized, before my flesh supposedly took the lead I stopped studying the word for no tangible reason, even if I do not of a quality chapters… Thanks once more, but join me in prayers because I know these tips myself, I preach the gospel, make alter call…. As in I know all these still found myself on the opposite of my words and person… Plz I will go back to God but still pray for His mercy on me and grace to continue from where I stopped!
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
Posted at 12:59h, 20 DecemberGod has given you dominion over sin Phil. I will keep you in my prayers.
Emmanuel
Posted at 03:33h, 06 Septemberever since I fornicatesd earlier I feel am condemned totally and don’t even know where to start from here
David Chika
Posted at 03:48h, 27 JuneHi Ugochi, thank you for your posts , I have been committing fornication for 15 years now and when ever the thought comes I don’t know how to overcome it. I don’t like it because after the act I hate myself for it. I usually ask God for forgiveness but I want to permanently overcome the thought and stop it. Pls help me on how to overcome the thought of it. Thanks.
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
Posted at 14:20h, 29 JuneHi David,
Please forgive me for not responding earlier. It is a good thing you want to put a permanent end to fornication and the good news is, you can! I overcame it and so many people I know did too, so can you!
If you take everything I have written here, commit them to heart and walk by them you will put an end to it. You must feed on God’s word regularly, read His word and draw strength and spend time in His presence worshipping and praying.
Also, make yourself accountable to a responsible believer. God’s grace is there to help you David, you are already an overcomer! Email me again if you need any further guidance.
Have a super blessed day!
Nana Yaw
Posted at 20:03h, 24 JuneThank you soon much for your help, fornication is eating me up and I feel am lost and wasting my life each time I found myself in it. I have tried so many times to stop but I still go back to it. Seeing this the first time gives me hope and I know am going to stop with this help in Jesus name. God richly bless you.
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
Posted at 20:40h, 24 JuneGod bless you Nana! I am glad your hope and faith have come alive. God is with you and He is on your side, He will surely help you. I cannot wait to hear your testimony!
Have a super blessed weekend!
Kevin chambers
Posted at 03:53h, 28 DecemberThis helped me a lot! It gave me the mind to think clearly And to serve God the right way thank u
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
Posted at 18:11h, 29 DecemberPraise God Kevin! You are very welcome!
manuelantwii
Posted at 09:04h, 24 NovemberMama God bless u.. Am a young Pastor in training but I find it difficult to put stop to masturbation and fornicating… When I get close to a woman then it comes in my thoughts ..and even when I don’t feel like having sex with the person, it will start to erect.. Am suffering.. It has been going on over and over again… Help me in prayers MA..
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
Posted at 11:06h, 24 NovemberHi Manuel,
Take seriously what you read in the post, now read this below and do as it says. Also be careful of the movies you watch, books you read, songs you listen to and people you spend time with. All these are ways you can avoid feeding your mind with sensual thoughts that seek manifestation by actions
2. Fight The Spirit Of Fornication
You must realize that the enemy is waging war against you with this sin as with any other. His chief mission is to steal, kill and destroy you- John 10:10aOpen in Logos Bible Software (if available)
He steals you by keeping you in sin, if you do not stay in sin, satan cannot have his way with you and he wants so much to have his way with you. You see, he sees you as a card against God and if you keep up with sin, you become a trophy for him. I pray not in Jesus name, amen!
Now, you must fight against fornication by renewing your mind with God’s word. Search out scriptures that concerns fornication and any sin, place them all over your house, or however you want to constantly keep them before you, meditate on them (the word of God has cleansing power) to clean your mind of those thoughts. Whenever lust comes to your mind, do not entertain them; shift your thoughts to God’s word.
Spend time in prayer, in study of the word, in Church gatherings that will strengthen your faith. Speak His word over your spirit, soul and body; take it like medicine- that is what it is. Proverbs 4:20-22Open in Logos Bible Software (if available) THE WORD OF GOD HAS DELIEVERING POWER
Spend time in God’s presence where you receive grace and strength to conquer your flesh.
grace
Posted at 05:17h, 18 Septemberi am a Christian and i have been in a relationship for 4years i tried stopping fornication but it didn’t work so i dont know how to proceed knowing that stopping the fornication maybe stopping the relationship. we are both students
Mimi
Posted at 04:57h, 05 AugustOmg…..thank you so much for your encouraging message. I am still struggling with fornication and I am believing God for deliverance cos I really want to live for God and not in sin anymore.
Michael akubo
Posted at 10:34h, 03 JulyI’m happy to see this site, it really change me from my perspective about fornication. I tank you for your counselling.
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
Posted at 11:26h, 03 JulyPraise God Bro!
chukwu
Posted at 03:56h, 24 JuneThanks ma for these steps, I believe they will richly help me. I’m an Evangelist but yet I have never resisted fornication especially with unbelievers. They are the ones who even tell me to stop because they know I’m a child of God & I have been stagnant in my spirit man because of this attitute pls I need more of your good counselling
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
Posted at 09:27h, 24 JuneGod’s grace is available bro. You can email me if you need further counselling.
God bless!
chukwu
Posted at 02:08h, 12 Julythanks I’m greatful
Shelly
Posted at 16:02h, 12 FebruaryI overcame…flee fornication I ran from him and I know that it was God that is keeping me because the sex was good… But I can’t serve two masters…I choose GOD
Ugochi Jolomi
Posted at 11:00h, 13 FebruaryPraise God! He will honour your choice of Him above sin, He will bless you with his very best man for you on the earth.
tandeka gilbert
Posted at 22:54h, 13 NovemberThanks for your word
Tips on how to overfornication
Well me ive an adict yet iam aborn again
Iseek your prayers i overcome it
Thanks
God bless u all
Ugochi Jolomi
Posted at 14:47h, 24 NovemberIn Jesus name, as you submit to God and His word, you overcome every sin!
Obinna
Posted at 04:24h, 25 OctoberI am fighting masturbation and pornography. I am very weak when a beautiful lady want to fornicate with me; most times I make the move first against my will. I feel guilty and always beg God’s forgiveness after fornicating, masturbating or watching porn. Continuously asking God’s forgiveness over and over again for the same sin is beginning to feel like I take Him for granted. I want a way out! I wish the holy Spirit can arrest me and assist me kill these evil passions I feel and commit to. I want to serve God faithfully. These sins gives me bad dreams at night and my conscience fights me everyday. Pls pray seriously for me – Anonymous (UK)
Ugochi Jolomi
Posted at 15:09h, 04 NovemberI will keep you in my prayers, but you must be diligent with these tips mentioned here. You will over come!
Marcus
Posted at 16:22h, 24 JuneThis issue is a constant struggle for me. I do well for months and then in one instant I fall apart.
I Thank you for your advice. I am a Saved Child of God. He has blessed me constantly all throughout my life. I continue in my sin knowing that its wrong to fulfill my own pleasures. I know I need to change and not give in but I also know I need to have faith in the matter. Distancing myself and constant meditation of the scriptures and prayer with My Lord will help. Pray for me. I will appreciate that.
Ugochi Jolomi
Posted at 10:33h, 25 JuneIf you give it all over to God and stick with the 6 tips, victory will not elude you!
I will keep you in my prayers!
Paul
Posted at 12:21h, 09 MarchI find this interesting, being that I have straight guidelines on how to stay on track.. Thank you ma
Ugochi Jolomi
Posted at 13:58h, 09 MarchPraise God! I am grateful you find it so. Have a blessed day bro!
Paul
Posted at 12:57h, 22 AprilThanks again ma
Ugochi Jolomi
Posted at 13:59h, 22 AprilPraise God bro!
Owusu
Posted at 03:46h, 08 MarchThank You very Much,
I have the call of God on me, but because of lack of proper counselling I got myself into a relationship, hoping it will please God, but have realized that I may not marry her and i am not even ready now to marry, I want to quit and concentrate on my Ministry because it is interrupting my ministry and i know God is not happy about it and if not by the blood of Jesus by now, I think God had even rejected me.
My problem is that we have messed up before, we are in the same neighbourhood, the same church, in order to avoid conflict, hatred and bitterness how do I quit cos I know Jesus is not happy at all, and I want to serve with all my heart, all my soul, so how do I cut her from me?
Ugochi Jolomi
Posted at 18:22h, 08 MarchFirst, you have to make up your mind to please God and trust Him for grace to deal with the consequences your situation might present.
Secondly, if you know you may not marry her, you have to tell her. Leading her on is deceptive and more destructive than letting her go now…
Your Church I am sure would feel better when you say what you want now than marry and dump her later.
God help you do the right thing my brother!
frances
Posted at 22:15h, 06 Marchthank you ma, really helpful, I will keep them in mind and share..
Ugochi Jolomi
Posted at 12:02h, 07 MarchBless God! I am always grateful to know that something I share here helps… Thanks for coming by and for sharing too.
Have a super blessed day!
Love