I need the men to please educate us about their preferences on this issue and the reasons behind these preferences (that is if you don’t mind men). This issue intrigued me and got me thinking a lot. How can it be? How can what we most of us women mean for good neither be wanted nor liked?
You see, over the weekend I got engaged in a discussion about “men and raw smells”. The conversation was about men who dislike it when their wives use roll- on, body spray/mist or perfume before bedtime. These mean prefer it when their wives smelled just like “themselves” instead of the “sweet” smells of body sprays and all. In fact I even wondered what they meant by “raw smell”; is it raw as in bath with soap but no scent, or raw as in bath without soap or raw as in no bath at all. Just wondering and looking for answers…
I know most women like me do a lot of “preps” for bedtime and I also believe that like me they are not doing it only to please themselves but to smell nice for their husbands too. Now, if what a woman thinks she is doing to please and attract her husband repels him instead, then she needs to know.
Have You Told Her?
My question is; have you communicated this to your wives? Because some women have been told by me to make sure they smell really nice before they go to bed.
Something went wrong in a marriage because the husband wanted the raw smell of his wife rather than perfumed and scented smells, but I didn’t get to know if his preference was communicated to his wife before he reacted the way he did.
One of the sisters with us said she uses a sweet scented soap at night so she does not bother with the body sprays and her husband has never complained, another one said she not only sprays her body but the bed as well, I hardly miss my body spray before bed time and my husband always tells me he loves the way I smell. I love the way I smell too when I use the scents, not that I smell foul without them lol, but I smell rather nicer with them…So I guess it is different strokes for different folks.
I believe it is an ancient practice for women to use use scents before bed, I remember the rigorous preparations with oils and scents Esther and the other ladies had to go through before meeting the king.There is a woman in the Bible who was so spiced up with scented oil in bed, that when she got up to open the door for her husband, the scented oil dropped from her hands…
I rose up to open to my beloved; and my hands dropped with myrrh, and my fingers with sweet smelling myrrh, upon the handles of the lock. Song Of Solomon 5:5
However, now that it has come to my notice that some men love the raw smell of their wives instead of all those perfumes and smells. I want to ask…
To The Men
Which group do you belong to, those that love the raw smell or those who do not? I am very curious; men, do you really not like the sweet smells your wives wear to make you smell something nice when you hold them? Do you really not? Please leave your answer in the comment box and also the article with your friends.
To The Women
Has your husband ever indicated his dislike for scents, do you suspect he does not like them? Please leave your thoughts in the comment box.
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