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Men And Raw Smell

Men And Raw Smell

men and raw smellI need the men to please educate us about their preferences on this issue and the reasons behind these preferences (that is if you don’t mind men). This issue intrigued me and got me thinking a lot. How can it be? How can what we most of us women mean for good neither be wanted nor liked?

The Issue
You see, over the weekend I got engaged in a discussion about “men and raw smells”. The conversation was about men who dislike it when their wives use roll- on, body spray/mist or perfume before bedtime. These mean prefer it when their wives smelled just like “themselves” instead of the “sweet” smells of body sprays and all. In fact I even wondered what they meant by “raw smell”; is it raw as in bath with soap but no scent, or raw as in bath without soap or raw as in no bath at all. Just wondering and looking for answers…

I know most women like me do a lot of “preps” for bedtime and I also believe that like me they are not doing it only to please themselves but to smell nice for their husbands too. Now, if what a woman thinks she is doing to please and attract her husband repels him instead, then she needs to know.

Have You Told Her?
My question is; have you communicated this to your wives?  Because some women have been told by me to make sure they smell really nice before they go to bed.

Something went wrong in a marriage because the husband wanted the raw smell of his wife rather than perfumed and scented smells, but I didn’t get to know if his preference was communicated to his wife before he reacted the way he did.

Different Strokes
One of the sisters with us said she uses a sweet scented soap at night so she does not bother with the body sprays and her husband has never complained, another one said she not only sprays her body but the bed as well, I hardly miss my body spray before bed time and my husband always tells me he loves the way I smell. I love the way I smell too when I use the scents, not that I smell foul without them lol, but I smell rather nicer with them…So I guess it is different strokes for different folks.

I believe it is an ancient practice for women to use use scents before bed, I remember the rigorous preparations with oils and scents Esther and the other ladies had to go through before meeting the king.There is a woman in the Bible who was so spiced up with scented oil in bed, that when she got up to open the door for her husband, the scented oil dropped from her hands…
I rose up to open to my beloved; and my hands dropped with myrrh, and my fingers with sweet smelling myrrh, upon the handles of the lock. Song Of Solomon 5:5

However, now that it has come to my notice that some men love the raw smell of their wives instead of all those perfumes and smells. I want to ask…

To The Men
Which group do you belong to, those that love the raw smell or those who do not? I am very curious; men, do you really not like the sweet smells your wives wear to make you smell something nice when you hold them? Do you really not? Please leave your answer in the comment box and also the article with your friends.

To The Women
Has your husband ever indicated his dislike for scents, do you suspect he does not like them? Please leave your thoughts in the comment box.

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Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a mentor, encourager and influencer. She writes to inspire you to live a full life. Ugochi lives in Canada with her husband Benson and their children; Joshua, Joseph and Josiah.

  • Lady Kennedy
    Posted at 23:00h, 27 February

    Your post has sparked a flame! I guess all men have their likes and dislikes. This has definitely proved that! Keep up the good work.

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 09:54h, 28 February

      I know, I am just amazed to know that some do not like scents. Thanks a lot for coming by, hope to see you more often, do have a super blessed day!

  • Susie (The Esthetic Goddess)
    Posted at 23:53h, 26 February

    I love light scents. The type you can only smell if you give someone a hug. My hubby like scent too and he always smells yummy!

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 13:51h, 27 February

      My husband and I do too! Thanks a lot for coming by Susie, do have a super blessed day!

  • Joe Pote
    Posted at 20:51h, 26 February

    Hah! Interesting questions, Ugochi!

    I suspect this has less to do with male versus female than simply different personalities and preferences.

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 23:15h, 26 February

      True Joe, but you know, women are mostly the ones who usually love the scents, splashing on themselves and some even on the beds. I am learning a lot from all these responses…

  • Stanley
    Posted at 17:56h, 26 February

    Just to give something else to think about, most perfumes and scents aggravate my allergies. Sometimes to the point of pain.

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 23:14h, 26 February

      Ouch, that is serious! This is really something else to think about. I am sure your wife/wife-to-be would understand and smell natural for you. Thanks a lot for coming by and leaving this food for thought, I hope you will come by often, do have a super blessed day!

  • Rosey
    Posted at 17:47h, 26 February

    I love scents, but my husband is not a fan. I quit wearing my favorite perfume long ago because he just doesn’t like the manufactured smell. Sometimes I miss it, mostly it doesn’t matter.

    He’ll make a comment about perfume on someone else too, if they walk by and you can catch a whiff. Not a rude comment, and not something they hear, but just something to me like, “I don’t know why people spray all that perfume on.” I don’t even know if he knows how adverse to scents he is, I’ve never asked him, just noticed it on my own over time. 🙂

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 23:11h, 26 February

      Wow! It was great he let you know. This could cause some major damages in relationships. Some people just don’t like some things and when it has to do with marriage, we must learn to let go and make sure “it doesn’t matter” even if we miss it.
      Thanks for coming by and sharing your husband’s preference.
      Have a super blessed night!

  • Esther Onimisi
    Posted at 15:18h, 26 February

    This is very interesting. My husband has never complained about perfumes or deodorants. I use them a lot. In fact I do not know anyone that likes the natural or raw smell of the body. Maybe I never asked. Thanks for this post ma. It is an eye opener. Have a great day ma. Greetings to all yours.

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 17:12h, 26 February

      I was surprised to know that some men do not like scents too. Hence I decided to blog about it and was even more surprised by some of the responding comments. My husband has never complained, he always tells me I smell nice… I believe he means it, lol. Thanks a lot ma for coming by again , please send my love to every one at home.
      Have a super blessed day!

  • Chris Braley
    Posted at 00:17h, 26 February

    I think it can be nice. Like anything else it is best done in moderation. Any scent can be overwhelming, some are stronger than others. Something subtle to bed, not something overpowering I have to smell all night.

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 12:04h, 26 February

      I agree with you Chris, overwhelming scents aren’t my favourite either, especially not at bed time.
      Thanks a lot for coming by and leaving your preference, I hope to see you often.
      Do have a super blessed day!

  • LuAnn Braley
    Posted at 00:13h, 26 February

    I emailed the link to my husband, to see what he thinks. He says he likes what sprays, etc, that I use, but I think it’s as much to please me as to indicate a preference on his part. Waiting to hear what he has to say. :O)

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 11:59h, 26 February

      Ha, ha, ha, you think so? Any way, let’s wait and hear. I really wish you are wrong though, I want him to love scents, too many men are saying they like au natural.
      Thanks for coming by and sharing with us LuAnn, I hope you come back to let us know what he prefers.
      Have a super blessed day! Love

  • Grace
    Posted at 20:15h, 25 February

    I used to do those bed time spray until I realised my husband prefers the natural to spray. Every woman should check which their husband prefers.
    Thanks Mum.

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 11:56h, 26 February

      I agree with you Grace, every woman should find out what their husband prefers. Little things like this do matter.
      Thanks a lot for coming by, I sure hope you will come by often. Do have a super blessed day!

    Posted at 13:07h, 25 February

    For me I like raw smell than using any scents. When I got married to my wife I told her what I like and what i dislike when am at home with her. Thanks ma

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 11:53h, 26 February

      Well, well, this is sure a surprise to me, I really thought most men would love scents on their wives…
      It is good you let your wife know, communication is key so she does not assume anything and displease you.
      Thanks for coming by toady, I hope to see you more often.
      Do have a super blessed day!

  • Justin M. Davito
    Posted at 14:49h, 24 February

    I think it may depend. If it is just perfume before going to bed (sleep), it may be the “natural” smell. But if it is before being intimate with my wife, I may enjoy some nice smells.

    But I think communication needs to be open and I need to communicate with my wife before, during, and after intimacy, etc.


    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 12:40h, 25 February

      Yes indeed, communication would save many from misunderstanding. Nice smells are really nice!
      Thanks for coming by and sharing your view and preference. Do have a super blessed day!

  • Beth
    Posted at 18:07h, 24 February

    What an interesting topic, Ugochi. I don’t think I’ve ever heard that some men like the “raw” smell of their wives before. I suppose I’d prefer to refer to it as “natural” rather than raw, but I can see where this is a comfort. I like it when my husband smells of cologne, but when he just smells like himself {minus body odor! ha!}, I think I like that better. It reminds me that I am “home.” 🙂 Thanks so much for your heart, my friend!

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 12:49h, 25 February

      I know Beth, it is always different strokes for different folks. I cannot stand any foul smell either, lol!
      Thanks a lot for coming by and sharing your preference, do have a super blessed day!

  • Nze
    Posted at 15:33h, 24 February

    I think I am a lover of raw smell… makes me feel more at home.. still don’t know if I can kiss a lips covered with lip stick of any color.. I like natural a lot.. yeah 😀 😀

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 12:43h, 25 February

      I see, you are a lover of au natural. I hope your wife or would be wife knows this.
      Thanks a lot for coming by and leaving your thoughts, do have a super blessed day!