Marriage is one very important part of any couples life. If the marriage does not make any progress from where it is, it affects every other part of the couples’ lives. Anything that does not make progress begins to decline after a while.
Today I want share a very simple post on a list of things I believe every couple should work on improving this year. As I always like to say when making a list, this is by no means exhaustive, I am sure most of you would have other things to add. Let me begin…
Talking to each other about any and every thing should be worked hard on. When there is silence in a marriage it builds a barrier that when given time will become very tangible and destructive too.
Every couple should work on listening attentively to each other, not just listening to the words but to the heart of each other. So many times we listen to the words without trying to understand the heart and the message it is trying to convey.
Couples should work harder on spending both quality and quantity time alone. This has to be intentionally and deliberately planned out. What we do not plan we can hardly achieve. Plan and work on spending time alone together like you used to while courting; dates, story telling, reaffirming love for each other, playing, laughing and doing whatever you like and just having fun all by yourselves.
Spending quality and quantity time is a very strong booster for marriage.
Marriage cannot do any better than the level of trust couples have for each other, husbands and wives should work hard at earning and building trust for each other. Where trust has been broken or lost, it should be brought up, discussed and resolved.
Where there is trust, couples will be completely open to each other without fear of being ridiculed, judged or taken for granted.
Touch is a very important brick among the many that make a healthy marriage. Couples should improve on their touchery. It speaks volumes when you touch your spouse affectionately. I read somewhere that touch improves human interaction and brings out the social side of a person.
Touch should not be limited to sex only, it should become a part of the communication mode in marriages.
Sex is God’s introduction of intimacy on a whole new level and ecstasy for husband and wife; It has both spiritual, physical and health benefits. Some couples’ sex life is great, some not so great, while for some others it is almost non-existent. What ever category it is in, it needs work, to make it good and even better than great.
We all know that sex and the lack of it has been a great tool in the hands of the enemy against many marriages, so couples should take necessary steps to improve their sex lives.
Reading the word of God individually and as a couple has immeasurable benefits for any marriage; it is the marriage’s lifeline. The word of God contains the guide to life and marriage; lack of the word in any life and marriage is a big minus. The word of God provides health and stability to a marriage and thus cannot be neglected.
Couples should cultivate a regular time for Bible study together.
Praying together should be initiated and improved on in marriage. When you join hands or come together in prayer to God, you excite God’s heart. He sees you as one and delights in hearing your voices as one in prayer. Plus, praying together enhances the spiritual bond between man and wife.
God expects our marriages to go from good to great, great to very great and very great to bliss full…. But we have to work it out with Him.
But the path of the just is as the shining light, that shineth more and more unto the perfect day. Proverbs 4:18
These are the thoughts that came to mind as I pondered. What are your own thoughts?
I know you might want to add some thing(s) that you believe couples should work on for a better marriage this year. Go ahead and add in the comment box.
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