The natural man wants to retaliate immediately to offense. The flesh wants to show that it is not stupid and cannot take rubbish from anyone, that is the natural man.
However for believers we are in this world but not of it, we cannot operate like the world and it’s systems. We cannot pay back evil for evil, it may be gratifying to the flesh but destructive to the spirit.
We must react differently to offense no matter how bad it hurts, we must represent our kingdom and our Father. When we bless the people who hurt us we behave like people called of God and we obtain a blessing.
Never return evil for evil or insult for insult (scolding, tongue-lashing, berating), but on the contrary blessing praying for their welfare, happiness, and protection, and truly pitying and loving them. For know that to this you have been called, that you may yourselves inherit a blessing from God–that you may obtain a blessing as heirs, bringing welfare and happiness and protection. 1 Peter 3:9 AMP