10 Signs Of Looming Adultery

10 Signs Of Looming Adultery

Adultery does not just happen! There are several subtle events that lead up to it. You see, satan is a tricky devil, many times he does not announce himself, he comes in stealthily.
Like in any other sin, he first muddles the mind and deceives it to believe that nothing can go wrong or even if any thing does go wrong, it can be handled. Some other times he makes the mind steel and cold and damns the possible consequences of the action(s) it is trying to make one take. Adultery is a very deadly sin as it hurts the people involved and others who probably had nothing to do with it, plus it has eternal consequences too.
I shared some adultery proof strategies HERE to help couples avoid adultery but today I want to share in this post today, some signs for anyone to know that the spirit of adultery is trying to get a hold on them. This is to help the person take quick actions or steps to cut off the death line the enemy is throwing at them. So here goes:

1.You are getting too comfortable with a particular person of the opposite sex.

2.You dress up or “dress down” with this person in mind.

3.You often find yourself imagining this person naked.

4.You often find yourself longing to be with this person even when with your spouse.

5.You make even the silliest excuses for wanting to be with them.

6.You begin to lie to your spouse in order to spend more time with this person.

7.You find yourself thinking more and wanting more of this person.

8.You are constantly (even if in your thoughts) comparing your spouse with this person.

9.You begin to find faults and “fall out” with your spouse too often.

10.Even when “something” tells you you are threading on dangerous grounds and you know somehow it is true, you live in denial and go on…

I implore every couple to be cautious as the enemy is working tirelessly to tear marriages apart. He knows the power that a united couple can muster against his kingdom so he fights.

He also knows that adultery can deny us eternal life with Christ.
Let marriage be held in honor (esteemed worthy, precious, of great price, and especially dear) in all things. And thus let the marriage bed be undefiled (kept undishonored); for God will judge and punish the unchaste [all guilty of sexual vice] and adulterous. Hebrews 13:4 (AMP)

But as for the cowards and the ignoble and the contemptible and the cravenly lacking in courage and the cowardly submissive, and as for the unbelieving and faithless, and as for the depraved and defiled with abominations, and as for murderers and the lewd and adulterous and the practicers of magic arts and the idolaters (those who give supreme devotion to anyone or anything other than God) and all liars (those who knowingly convey untruth by word or deed)—[all of these shall have] their part in the lake that blazes with fire and brimstone. This is the second death. Revelation 21:8 (AMP)

We all must fight back by throwing his tricks straight into his face and refusing all his baits.

Be well balanced (temperate, sober of mind), be vigilant and cautious at all times; for that enemy of yours, the devil, roams around like a lion roaring [in fierce hunger], seeking someone to seize upon and devour. 1 Peter 5:8 (AMP)

With God it is very possible to live a sanctified married life.

So what do you think? Do you know any more signs we could add to this list?

Copyright© Ugochi Oritsejolomisan 2013


Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan a Christian, a minister of the gospel, an author, a speaker and a writer. Her book "To Kiss Or Not To Kiss." Is a favourite of its readers. She writes to inspire you for a better life in God. She is wife to Benson, mother of Joshua, Joseph and Josiah.


  1. I think this list is so helpful, Ugochi because it clearly points out the danger signs that so many caught in this sin want to ignore. I also like and agree with what Joan added to your list in her comment above. Thanks so much for sharing such your wisdom on such an important topic!

    1. Thank you so much Beth, thank you for being a blessing and an encouragement.
      I appreciate you, have a super blessed week!

  2. Just found you on another blog. I’m not religious but I just wanted to drop in and say, you are gorgeous. Your skin is flawless. One of my friends is in Lagos right now and he will be leaving in a few days, I think. No comments on adultery but carry on.

    1. Thanks for coming by. I am not religious either, I enjoy a relationship with God. Thanks for the compliments, pictures these days can do a lot of things to the skin. Do have a super blessed day!

  3. You’ve put together a solid list. I, like you, do believe that a happy, faithful marriage is possible. My personal belief is that there should be 3 people in a marriage: You, your spouse, and God. XOXO

    1. Definitely! Any house built on The Rock cannot collapse. If God is in the marriage, darkness cannot overcome the marriage.
      Thanks a lot for coming by, I appreciate you.
      Have a super blessed day!

  4. Hi Ugochi

    I’m new here. Great blog. As regards adultery, it starts from the mind. From out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. Likewise out of the abundance of our thoughts comes action. So your list is correct.

    1. I agree with you Abraham, every sin is first conceived in the heart. Thanks a lot for coming by, I hope you will come by more often. Do have a super blessed day!

  5. Your list above is a good one. I’d like to add that when stresses or discontent come into your marriage, be sure to turn to God and then together with your spouse do the same. Often people can “fall into” the sin of adultery by looking for comfort in the wrong place. Be alert and don’t ever let down your guard.

    Blessings, Joan

    1. I completely agree! I have heard of several adulteries that resulted from “seeking comfort”.
      Going to God is very key in every marriage and every thing else. We can never go wrong in God.
      Thanks a lot for coming by Joan, I appreciate your addition to the list.
      Do have a super blessed day!

  6. Very good protection list when heeded. For pastors and those who counsel, be sure to keep the door open and have someone else sit in when the client is opposite sex. Never say to the client “If you were my wife, I would treat you better.” Those words caused my dear friend to end up loosing his wife, and she was the church treasurer.

    1. I definitely agree! I have seen my husband do this all the time. And words like you mentioned do a lot of havoc in the mind when spoken.
      Thanks a lot for coming by Robert, I do hope to see you more often.
      Do have a super blessed day!

  7. The thing about adultery, is that a man committing adultery is not responsible, and the woman committing adultery is not reliable. Responsible and reliable is what we are as sexes to God, and we are if we are oriented towards The Son in everything we do. And Christ was He.

    The signs you point out are really alarm signals. As you say, they are signs of Satan working.

    1. Very true, we must be founded on Christ to avoid or overcome adultery.
      Thanks a lot for coming by, I sure hope you will come by more often.
      Do have a super blessed day!

      1. Thank you! You too! *smile*

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