02 Sep Telling Family
Mr. John (Not real name) could not contain his wife’s indifference to the things that really mattered to him. He always felt disrespected by his wife and he felt it was okay to tell his mum and siblings all about what went on in his home.
Now, you would agree with me that if anyone had any idea, or even just imagined that their brother’s or son’s wife was not treating them right, they probably would not be able to let it just pass. This is not right, but it would be a NATURAL /CARNAL reaction.
As a result there is always fights on phone between his wife and mother or siblings and his wife cannot understand why he takes these matters to them instead of talking with her to resolve them, she felt like he is reporting her to them and feels insecure in her marriage. Mr John wants peace in his home, but he has already talked too much.
Some wives do this too, sharing their matrimonial issues with their parents and/or siblings. This can lead to really ugly circumstances.
Couples should learn to deal with their marital issues themselves. The first thing they must do is look to God’s word for guidance, to know how to handle whatever it is that is going on, they must take to God first and foremost. If they think they must must share with anyone, it must be someone who would not be biased in judgement. Some one who would handle it objectively and most importantly someone who is deep in God and His word.
Sharing your marital issues with parents, siblings is not healthy because they would naturally want to take sides with you against your spouse. Especially if they do not know God or uphold His word in their own lives. It will pose serious threat in your marriage because trust and security will be shaken.
Every marriage has challenges, I have been married for 13 years, I have never shared and do not to share my marital issues with my mother or siblings. I have shared with my spiritual mentors and very few times.
PS – When it is life threatening however, I would suggest you speak up, but still to the RIGHT persons!
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