30 Sep Love And Submission 2
Last week, I started on this topic and tried to explain how obeying God’s word is primary to couples accessing His blessings. So when a man or woman obeys God’s word concerning marriage it becomes easy for them to enjoy peace and harmony in marriage. You can read more about it here.
I would love to continue by looking at the command given to the wife on how to relate to her husband. The reason I am talking about this first is because it came first in the book of Ephesians 5.
Wives Should Submit
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands… Ephesians 5:22
This is not a suggestion or an opinion. It is a command and God’s command is non-negotiable. When we obey God’s command we do ourselves a favour.
As Unto The Lord
… as [a service] to the Lord Ephesians 5:22 (AMP)
This really gets me thinking. It means that every time I submit to my husband as my head in marriage, I am actually submitting to God.
He Is The Head Of The Wife
For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Ephesians 5:23 (AMP)
The absence of order in any organization or institution creates chaos. God is a God of order, he has created order in homes and His order should be respected and followed. The husband is the leader, and his directives should be followed, the wife should not usurp authority but can respectfully share her opinion in a matter. This does not connote slavery; it is simply flowing with a God-given structure.
In All Things
Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Ephesians 5:24 (AMP)
My submission to my husband should be in everything, recognizing Him as my head. Just like the Church submits to Christ’s every command, without choosing to do one and leave the other, wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
Not To Sin
I am not advocating that a woman in trying to submit to their husbands now do things that are contrary to God’s word, committing sin. When for any reason a woman has to choose between obeying God and submitting to her husband, she must honour God above her husband.
Learning To Submit
The best way a woman learns to submit to her husband is to first SUBMIT TO COMPLETELY GOD. When a woman has laid her life down in submission to God, submitting to her husband is no longer a challenge.
The reason a lot of wives find it difficult to submit to their husbands is because they have not yielded themselves to God. They do not trust the God in their husbands to take absolute responsibility for them as they obey His command.
All you owe God is obedience motivated by love and His blessings will rest on you. Deuteronomy 28: 1-13 (AMP)
God says we should submit to our husbands as unto Him, so when I submit to my husband, I am actually submitting to God and honouring Him. And He has said He will honour any one that honours Him.
…For those who honor Me I will honor, and those who despise Me shall be lightly esteemed. 1 Samuel 2:30 (AMP)
…To be continued
Are you honouring God in submitting to your husband as your head?
Do you still struggle in some areas, how are you dealing with it?
What are your views on submission as a wife?
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LahyorzPosted at 19:21h, 03 October
You are right that when a woman submits to God, it makes it easier to submit to her husband. The problem with submission I believe arises, when the man has himself is not submitted to God. Jesus not only stated that he did the will of the Father but also acted it out. His example of submission, one that starts from the Head, is the way to go. We do not ask our children to do something without showing them through our examples. In the same way, the man is expected to submit to God so that his wife can submit to him; a leader leads through examples and not through instructions. I am yet to see a woman who has a husband completely submitted to God and she refuses to submit. This is a sensitive topic and with my african heritage, I believe that too much tradition is brought into the church. We are to submit one to another; this is a part of scripture which many tend to forget! Anytime you hear a man complaining about a non-submissive wife, 9 out of 10, he himself is not submitted to his Head, God. All that said, I submit to my husband because no matter what he does, I will not offend my Father and I alone will have to answer to God if I walk in disobedience.
Ugochi JolomiPosted at 21:25h, 03 October
“I submit to my husband because no matter what he does, I will not offend my Father and I alone will have to answer to God if I walk in disobedience”
This sums it all up sis!
susan@avintagefarmwifePosted at 14:16h, 01 October
Good Morning, new blog friend! I love God’s perfect timing, don’t you? I listened to a fabulous sermon by Andy Stanley on this exact topic Sunday morning as I was getting ready for church. You must listen to it when you have a chance. It explains the idea of submission in a beautiful way. Submitting to anyone doesn’t come naturally,does it? You are so correct that we ALL submit to God and the rest will fall into place.
Here is the link to the sermon: http://yourmove.is/
Please let me know what you think! Let’s talk about it.
Ugochi JolomiPosted at 19:48h, 01 October
Very true, obedience first and things will fall in place.
I sure will listen to the sermon Susan, thanks a lot for coming by and leaving this encouragement!