27 Aug Marriage And Traditions
Every nation, tribe or tongue has its traditions. These traditions form their decisions, attitudes and ways of thinking and doing things. Some of these traditions are helpful while some are degrading and harmful to the people.
I know a tribe where it is hospitality for a man to entertain his male guests with his wife or wives, subjecting their wives to suppressed pain. This is horrible isn’t it?
I also know a tradition where when a man marries a wife he has invariably married all her family and their responsibilities. This is not a written tradition but it is a well known one.
Recently I heard about one where a bride-to-be had to cook for her to be father-in-law in order for him to judge if she was a good cook and whether she was qualified to marry his son.
I could go on and on but it might bore or scare you. There are so many marriages suffering today as a result of the traditions of men, traditions imposed on people by fore-fathers who maybe were inspired by a myth, a god, an insecurity, a situation or a reason just to satisfy there selfish purposes and feel important.
So many traditions are stifling intended joys out marriages, so many husbands and wives are bearing unnecessary burdens and pains because they must succumb to the laid down traditions that deny them marital bliss some of them are very certain it is ominous not to follow these traditions so they must follow traditions. These things happen mostly in The East and in Africa.
It surely does not have to be so, especially for followers of Christ. We are not subject to any tradition that goes against the word of God and harms us in anyway. By the blood of Jesus we can remove ourselves from these traditions and their consequences. When we were born into the covenant we were automatically removed from this bondage, but we must know it and enforce it otherwise we will be bound and hindered, we will not enjoy the bliss and joy that God from the beginning ordained for marriage.
Beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ. Colossians 2:8
Have you heard of, or experienced any tradition that affects marriage in a bad way? Please share in the comments.
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SusannahPosted at 18:29h, 28 August
This is so true! What a blessing to be covered in the blood of Christ and not be held to the bondage of our human traditions. God is so good!
UgochiPosted at 23:54h, 28 August
Halleluyah!!! Thank God for the blood of Jesus!
Esther OnimisiPosted at 11:33h, 28 August
I know of one where the ladies pay dowry to the men. The ladies are in charge and the men are the house keepers. Very interesting and conflicting tradition. Will write more as I remember. Have a great day ma. Thanks for this post.
UgochiPosted at 11:42h, 28 August
Wow! What a big twist! God have mercy! Thanks for sharing with us ma, have a super blessed day!
AlliPosted at 10:55h, 28 August
As a pastor, along side of my husband, I’ve seen many couples get so caught up in the planning of the wedding ceremony itself (I’m not belittling the significance of the ceremony) that they fail to adequately prepare for their marriage. And once the glitter and glam is over, I’ve even seen some young women go into a post-wedding depression.
We do everything we can on our part to provide extensive premarital counseling, including a lengthy questionnaire that helps them to see past the ceremony. And, of course, we pray for them. Our desire is to see their marriage flourish and prosper!
This may not be a formal tradition, but it’s one we’ve seen many times over the years.
UgochiPosted at 11:43h, 28 August
What you said is very true. However, I meant traditions that go against God’s word concerning marriage.
Thanks a lot for coming by, have a super blessed day!
LahyorzPosted at 20:40h, 27 August
Our minds are supposed to be renewed by the Word but we sometimes choose which parts! As a result, Christ is over-shadowed by our traditions, for example. In some african cultures, the man is put on such a high pedestal that even when he comes to Christ, he cannot surrender his headship. I wish he would learn from Christ, who being the head and Lord of his bride, the Church, expresses his love by service (‘washing her feet’) and by dying in her stead. This would make many marriages better. Yes, the woman has her part to play; she surrenders to her head as he leads the way by expressing his selfless love just like Christ did!
UgochiPosted at 11:37h, 28 August
Renewing our minds by God’s word is very key to debunking our marriages from the bad grip of traditions.
RoseyPosted at 20:20h, 27 August
It’s wonderful that we live in a part of the world where we do not have to be bound by awful traditions like the ones you stated. I’ve seen the Bible twisted though, to represent selfishness in a marriage (submission comes to mind instantly). Thankfully as we grow older and recognize the true meaning of such passages, it helps a lot, but in the mean time twisting truths can cause a lot of hurt. Praying for discernment when reading helps, or it does for me. 🙂
Waving hello while I’m here! 🙂
UgochiPosted at 11:30h, 28 August
So true Rosey, some make fake traditions out of scriptures too. Thank God for His Holy Spirit.
Thanks a lot, waiving hello too Rosey.
Myne WhitmanPosted at 15:33h, 27 August
This is true and can be dangerous to the marriage and the well-being of the partners. Like the one of burdening the husband with the financial responsibility of the wife’s near and extended family.
UgochiPosted at 11:29h, 28 August
It is sad how people allow themselves to carry unnecessary burdens and miss their bliss.