Pornography And Marriage
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Pornography And Marriage

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Pornography And Marriage

She couldn’t handle it any more she said, she had borne it for too long, the girls and in her home, plus the beatings. I was in tears my self as she sobbed from across the table.  She had “caught” her husband with girls in their home committing the act as they watched it on video. At first he apologized but subsequently he grew hard and hit her instead any time she questioned his infidelity. When asked why they had pornographic videos at home she said her husband bought them to “teach” them sex since they were bought novices in the area both being virgins. She became uncomfortable with them at some point and expressed her disapproval; he dismissed it in anger, now it had become an addiction for him. Soon she could no longer satisfy him and he resorted to having girls from outside who would do it like they did it in the video, slowly destroying their marriage.

A man told of how his wife claimed he was too old and lacked the energy she required for satisfaction in bed, she got the sex videos and brought in younger men who still had the energy to meet up with the variety as provided by the pornographic videos she had been watching. That was how the beginning of the end of her marriage began.

Another woman introduced porn to her husband for “learning” and “arousal” since he hardly touched her. He got addicted and couldn’t get enough from her, and then he turned to others…

All three marriages are no more…

Marriages do not crumble in one day and pornography has become a major tool in the hand of the enemy for the utter destruct of the blessed institute of marriage.

You do not need pornography to teach you sex, just like you do not need to teach a child to drink from her mother’s breast. Sex comes naturally, God is perfect, and as you grow you get better in it; the discovery of how to excite each other in your matrimonial bed is a sheer adventurous pleasure.

Pornography is a spirit, the spirit of lust that has no good in mind for you. When you open yourself to pornography you open yourself to strangers and invaders who only seek you and your marriage’s destruction. You get discontented with your spouse and begin to wish you could get it from the people on the screen or someone who could do it like them. Pornography is demonic and destructive, no one; single or married has any reason to engage in it. Like any other sin, it is something we all must run from.

Flee from sexual immorality… 1 Corinthians 6:18 ESV

Do you know anyone who lost his or her homes as a result of porn? Do you know any that was able to deal with it and get restored? What are your thoughts on Pornography?

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Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a mentor, encourager and influencer. She writes to inspire you to live a full life. Ugochi lives in Canada with her husband Benson and their children; Joshua, Joseph and Josiah.

  • unyime-ivy king
    Posted at 01:32h, 19 August

    Pornography is a silent destroyer that is gradually taking giant strides into as many homes as would allow it. The devil tricks us by gradually desensitizing us to the gravity of evil, such that we gradually come to accept perversion, as normal. It is horrifying because I have been in a women’s group where a Reverend lady recommended that women watch porn videos with their husbands for sexual stimulation. I out rightly disagreed, and she did not take kindly to the fact that I had opposed her. Pornography is wrong, evil, and degrading. It wreaks havoc in homes and destruction in its wake. Let us flee from all appearances/suggestions of evil! Thanks for sharing sis.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 13:49h, 20 August

      Wow! We cannot invite strangers into our homes to teach us practical sex, some things come naturally, like God made them. Pornography is SIN and it high time that it is called what it is, no matter the reason for indulging.

  • Dunni
    Posted at 12:23h, 17 August


    I stumbled on this article and I have a question to ask regarding sex in marriage. Got married last September and attended a women’s meeting and I was shocked by the suggestions I heard regarding pleasing your spouse. What are your views on oral sex? Personally, i think the idea came from pornographic videos.

    I would love to read your thoughts on this.

    Thanks for this resource.


    • Ugochi
      Posted at 14:46h, 11 September

      I am so sorry Dunni for the late response. My thoughts on oral sex? I believe the way God created it is that the male sex organ goes for the female sex organs, or vice versa not for the mouth… Even animals, both wild and domestic know this. It comes naturally.

  • Baba
    Posted at 22:28h, 13 August

    Our generation is big mess! Thank you for shouting this loud. My prayer is that this truth will permeate our world in Jesus name.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 22:30h, 13 August

      Amen!!! This too is my prayer sir.

  • Mothering From Scratch
    Posted at 13:22h, 27 July

    {Melinda} Definitely another way that the enemy has warped, distorted and tried to devalue God’s perfect design and plan. I know of a couple who is struggling with this issue in their marriage, but they have turned it over to God, sought counseling and accountability and they are healing. Praise God!

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 15:06h, 27 July

      Halleluyah! That is definitely going to be one loss for the enemy!

  • Rosey
    Posted at 19:45h, 24 July

    One of many tools the devil is oh so happy to have in his big bag of tricks, and this is a good one because there are so many people who brush it off as acceptable. I’ve seen oh too closely what it does to a marriage, and if the person indulging refuses to eliminate it, things do change, never for the good, and sometimes for the end (if not physically, then emotionally which can be just as bad). A blessing robber…that’s a term I think would be fitting for pornography.

    You don’t shy away from the challenging/controversial topics one bit, do you? 🙂 High five for putting the topic out there. I know not everyone agrees w/my opinion, not even some people I love dearly, but for me, I’m 100% on how I feel about it.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 20:17h, 24 July

      It does change things for the bad and eventually for the end. I like the term “Blessing Robber”. So sad most people disagree yet it has destroyed countless marriages.
      Thanks a lot for the encouragement, some things just have to be said!

  • Daisy Grau
    Posted at 19:44h, 22 July

    This is so true. It is a shame the many ways sin has twisted God’s beautiful union….

    On a positive note, it is good you could be there for the woman going through such destruction. Blessings to you and the ministry that is your blog.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 21:31h, 22 July

      It is such a shame. I pray their eyes are opened to this twist.
      I praise God for the privilege to lend a listening ear. Thanks a lot for coming by Daisy, have a super blessed week!

  • Becca
    Posted at 00:04h, 23 July

    What sad stories. I believe pornography is a tool Satan uses to tear marriages apart. You are so right in saying it is another sin that we must flee.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 14:43h, 23 July

      And we can escape every trick of the enemy, he has no good intentions for us no matter how pleasurable his offers are!

  • Jennifer
    Posted at 19:51h, 22 July

    I lost my first marriage to pornography. It started off with my x husband watching videos, then it went to videos and magazines, then to swingers magazines, then to him working is a store..then to him beating me with ultimatums, and finally divorce. In between all of this, I begged, pleaded, blamed myself, enabled him and so on. We finally divorced and now he and his new wife make online pornographic videos together. To any woman facing this, it has nothing to do with you..he is sick…you cannot fix him, hand him over to the Lord in prayer.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 21:35h, 22 July

      Oh, what a pain! It all begins with a little opening and then the enemy creeps in and wrecks a havoc.
      Thank God you came out alive and out of the kind of life he planned to have you in.
      And yes, committing such people to God is the key solution!
      Thanks a lot for coming by Jennifer, do have a super blessed weekend!

  • Kendra @ AProverbs 31 Wife
    Posted at 14:49h, 22 July

    I am sharing this on Facebook for sure!

    And do I know of a home torn apart by pornography? Yes, my own. Only by the grace of God, are my parents by together, even though my dad is still serving time. God can turn ashes into beauty yes, but oh that we wouldn’t burn down the sacred beauty of our marriage in the first place!

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 14:59h, 22 July

      Oh What pain it must have caused! it is certainly a destroyer!
      But I am so glad there is an open door for healing and restoration.
      Thanks for the share!