Marriage does not depend solely on age. Age is only a number and it does not have much to do with maturity. I agree that most times maturity comes with age but I have seen some cases where younger people are more mature in thoughts and actions than their older counterparts. So with this in mind, I would like to list five signs to know you or perhaps someone you know is not ready for marriage.
1. You are not thinking about it
If you are too busy about your business to think of life with someone else then you are probably not ready for marriage. You are not ready to accommodate anyone else in your life right now. Any one who talks to you about marriage might irritate you because you are still very full of your self, your life and your pursuits so much so that you are not even considering sharing it with someone. You are what you think.
For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he… Proverbs 23:7 KJV
2. You do not dream about it
If you are not passionate about getting married, then it means you do not dream about it. It is not a dream yet for you because like I said above, you are not thinking marriage, you are still too self inclined. If marriage is not yet one of your dreams then you are not ready for it, if you mistakenly get married, you will not have the passion that is required to keep your marriage alive and aflame.
Abraham had a dream for his son to marry in the covenant and he pursued it with passion until it came to pass.
3. You are not preparing for it
If you stop at dreaming about getting married without taking the necessary steps to prepare yourself for marriage then you still are not ready to be married. Preparing your spirit, emotions and attitude, growing up and maturing in your thoughts… Whatever you do not prepare for you will not succeed in. It is like desiring and dreaming to be a pilot, but you do not take time to go through the aviation school to get the necessary preparations. You are not ready to fly any plane because your dreaming and desiring it alone cannot make it happen. If you attempt it, you will crash the plane and whoever is on board with you. David prepared himself with the lion and bear, so he could face and defeat Goliath.
4. You are not planning for it
While preparing has mostly to do with you, planning has to do with your marriage, how you want it. Please I do not mean the whole wedding ceremony, I am talking of the marriage itself. The kind of person you want for a spouse, the kind of home you want, the kind and number of children you plan to raise. It means designing an overall blue print for your marriage, putting down a scheme that you plan to work out in your marriage.
And the Lord answered me, and said, Write the vision, and make it plain upon tables, that he may run that readeth it. Habakkuk 2:2 KJV
5. You are not praying for and about it
Finally for those of you who have a relationship with God, if you are not praying about it, you are not ready too. Prayer is what it is that puts all other things together to get you ready for marriage. Even if all the other things; your thinking, dreaming, preparation and planning are all in shape, only God can make them produce the desired result for you. And it is only in asking Him, that He can make it happen.
The preparations of the heart in man, and the answer of the tongue, is from The Lord. Proverbs 16:1 KJV
Are you ready for marriage? Do you know anyone who is not ready? Can this help? Is there something else you might want to add? Please do not leave without leaving your thoughts.
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