It was not news for me when I heard it; instead it was shocking because it came from someone I never imagined would be involved in such a messy affair. He was a Christian, single, had a “steady” he planned to marry, yet was having an illicit affair with some woman who was married in the same city where he lived. He (not mentioning names, could be anybody, many have come to report) came to my husband because he wanted out with the married woman so he could focus on his studies and pay the much-needed attention to his girlfriend.
The woman asked him out and showered him with gifts, (he didn’t have much); A comfy accommodation, clothes, school fees and many more, and he paid by spending weekends with her in a hotel whenever her husband travels and that was most weekends. He is afraid to tell her he wants out, he does not know what her reaction would be because she had “invested” so much in him. He was sure she would do something drastic, he was afraid for his life, that of his girlfriend and his future, would he be able to maintain his current standard of life?
Like I said, I know these things happen, married women go for “younger” and “fresher” boys and the married men do the same with single ladies. But it is not supposed to be so among Christians because it is written in clear terms that we should not commit adultery.
As a single Christian man or woman, you should take to your heels from anyone married person who wants to relate with you sexually. Ask your self, “Will I be able to take this from the person I will marry in future?” Also ask, “How can I do this against God?” Like Joseph asked when Potiphar’s wife wanted him in bed with her. Genesis 39 Any married man or woman that comes to you with sexual demands is a tool in the hands of the enemy; it is an effort to make you sow a wrong seed that you will not enjoy reaping in future and incurring God’s wrath.
Growing into adulthood, before I even became a Christian, when married men made overtures at me, the thought that always flooded my mind was my own marriage. When I get married, would I be able to stand infidelity? And I also thought of their wives and children and the thought of what adverse effects it could have on them broke my heart too much to want to do it.
Please do not fall for the pressure of a short lived pleasure, do not allow any person cause you to sow wrong seeds into your feature and most importantly, do not do any wickedness and sin against your God. Wait until you get married to your own wife or husband, you will not regret waiting in obedience. And remember, what goes around does come around .
Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. Galatians 6:7
Have you ever been hassled by a married person now as a single or before you got married? How did you react?
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