Few years ago, someone tried to convince a friend of mine to move to another country with her children while her husband remains in their home country to face his job. She told her that life and living is so much easier and much more comfortable in this suggested country. “Why suffer there, when you can have so much comfort over here?” She asked.
I have never liked married couples living apart from each other. I have never understood how they are able to keep the marriage going in earnest and how they are able to really make up the times the spent apart. I have also wondered if they understood how this could affect their children and how they (the children) are able to get the much-needed contributions in their lives from both parents.
But other than some of these peculiarities and on a very temporal basis too, I really do not believe in couples living apart from each other. Whether we know it or not it cannot be the same as living together and seeing each other every day. I agree that not every couple that live together is closely knit, but living together as couple does to a very large extent foster love and unity. It also helps training our children in a healthy balance. Though I am not an expert in psychology I know that there are some psychological implications on children whose parents do not really live together.
It baffles my some what traditional marriage mind when I hear couples deciding to live in different states or countries, when in truth they can make very necessary adjustments in order to keep their families living together in one house, state and country. So many times when we allow this distance we give room for the enemy and the Bible advices us that we should: “Neither give place to the devil” Ephesians 4:27
Marriage from a distance I know truly does create some distance between the couple, so many times this is very subtle, but with time the effects become glaring.
What do you think about marriage from a distance? Please share your thoughts…
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