A woman came to see her pastor with complaints of how her husband has been mistreating her. She said for the many years they had been married she had never really enjoyed him. He goes and comes as he wills without even telling where he was going and when he would return.
He comes home late and when she asks where he has been or why he came home late he gets angry and violent. She said she was tired of the cycle and wanted a breath of fresh air, she wanted out.
Her pastor sighed after listening to her ordeal (I spared you many gory details) and asked her one question. “Are you willing to work with God to make your marriage work?”
She said she has prayed, fasted and done all she knew to do but she still didn’t see any change in her husband, she said she was tired, didn’t have anymore energy to try, her husband should be made to do the trying.
“Well” the pastor said “You have tried to make your husband change by demanding it, nagging and accusing him and it has not worked. God will have to work through you, a new you because you have to change your approach to the matter. Your praying and fasting can only work with your godly actions and reactions. Besides your husband does not know Christ so what I will tell him might not make sense to him so you have to try again. Are you willing to try again, because of your love for God, your husband and children?”
After pain filled tears and consolation from her pastor she agreed to work with God again. This time her pastor told her how to react whenever he came in late.
So when he came home about 2am next time instead of her usual challenges, nags and accusations she opened the door and welcomed him with a bright smile. She asked if she should run a hot or cold bath for him, she told him his food was ready and asked if she should bring it up for him. With a big nonchalant frown on his face he brushed pass her and went up straight to bed and she met him snoring heavily by the time she went up.
But by this time, she was determined, her will to make her marriage work with God’s backing had been reenergized by her pastor and she was not going to give in to the urge to quit. She continued in this manner and after many weeks of not challenging her husband, not nagging or questioning him in anger and not accusing him of whoring in the city, her husband began to pay her a bit of attention. He began to accept her offers for a bath and a meal in bed.
Not long after, one morning as she knelt by their bedside to pray, she felt him kneeling by her side and as she was try to take that in, she heard him burst into tears, she opened her eyes to hear him pleading and asking for her forgiveness, he asked her to introduce him to this God that has changed her in many ways and promised to make up for all the “rough times” he had put her through. That day, they cried in each other’s arms renewed their commitment to each other.
The man gave his heart to God and became a brand new husband and father and that marriage went from doom to bloom. This is not to say that they stopped having challenges, but because they were willing to make the best of their marriage and because they now had common grounds, they always found a way out of every problem.
I love happy endings, I know you do too and in Christ we all can have a victorious end.
It may be different for other couples, it may be the woman who is giving her husband a tough time in marriage, whatever the case, I believe with a will to refuse every suggestion of the enemy to give up and the will to make marriage work plus God’s help, even the most dire situation in any marriage can turn around for good.
Do you know any similar true success story? I know you have a thought to share after you read this, go ahead and share…
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a mentor, encourager and influencer. She writes to inspire you to live a full life. Ugochi lives in Canada with her husband Benson and their children; Joshua, Joseph and Josiah.