This is for all single brothers who are “seeing” a girl with the intention of marrying her, whether or not you have made your intention known, I thought to help you know one or more reasons why she may not pull through in a decision to marry you.
The reason I share this is to help all single brothers buckle up and “be” a husband before they actually become one. There are so many qualities or godly traits that single sisters would love to find in the man that they would yield themselves to.

Below are some reasons I gleaned from personal experience and encounters with some single acquaintances and friends.

1. You do not seem to know your purpose; you lack direction.|
2. You act like a certified satisfied mediocre.
3. You behave irresponsibly.
4. You do not take her seriously.
5. You always avoid discussing both of you together or any other issues that bother on commitment.
6. You do not pride in her, hardly want to introduce her to the people in your life .
7. You do not treat her any different than the other ladies.
8. You treat her in disrespect and disregard.
9. You ignore her corrections.
10. You won’t ask her opinion; you want to make every decision for her.
11. You show little or no concerns for the things that concern her.
12. You make her buy into your dreams and visions but will not give hers a thought.
13. You have not given her reason to feel secure in your love.
14. You are more interested in “having” her than loving and marrying her.
15. You are not just the one for her, or she is not seeing from God’s perspective!

Do not despair brother if you find yourself struggling with one or more of the above, if you would connect with God and get rooted in Him and His word and His Spirit, you will begin to exhibit the fruits of the Holy Spirit and you will find yourself being and becoming a husband and when that happens, the “sister” will get attracted to you and not hesitate.

Galatians 5:22-23
22 But the fruit of the [Holy] Spirit [the work which His presence within accomplishes] is love, joy (gladness), peace, patience (an even temper, forbearance), kindness, goodness (benevolence), faithfulness,

23 Gentleness (meekness, humility), self-control (self-restraint, continence)…
Okay now, is there something else you might want to add to the list? All sisters and brothers speak up please!

Copyright© Ugochi Oritsejolomisan 2013


Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan a Christian, a minister of the gospel, an author, a speaker and a writer. Her book "To Kiss Or Not To Kiss." Is a favourite of its readers. She writes to inspire you for a better life in God. She is wife to Benson, mother of Joshua, Joseph and Josiah.


  1. honestly, mama J, i just saw this post…………….. it is hard to say but it is true cos this post of your really hit me hard cos i find myself in that group. Jezzz………………have mercy on me

    1. Lol! Then do something about it Bro.
      Have a super blessed day!

  2. Good posts for the single guy!

    1. Thanks Justin. Praise God!

  3. This is a highly enlightening post, Ugo. Loved it. Good learning points there as well.

    1. Amen! Thanks a lot sis!
      Have a super blessed day!

  4. Hi Ugochi…wonderful list! Many relationships would survive and thrive if both parties were self”LESS” when it came to the other. Thanks for sharing…have a blessed week my friend!

    1. Very true Michell. Thanks for coming by and have a super blessed day!

  5. LOL!!! I agree with all!

    1. Lolol!!!
      Thanks for coming by Cindy!
      Have a super blessed day!

  6. Makes sense. Good post and reasons.

    Happy Sharefest!

    1. Thanks Khloe! Have a super blessed day!

  7. I’m all over #1!!! That is a serious deal breaker. Not only will she not marry you, she won’t seriously date you either. Maybe dinner and friendly conversation…the end. #sitssharefest

    1. Ha ha! Lol! So true for wise sisters!
      Thanks for coming by, I appreciate you!

  8. A woman definitely deserves respect, someone who will take her seriously, and is proud of being with her.

    Stopping in from SITS!

    1. Definitely!
      Thanks for stopping by OneMommy, do have a super blessed day!

  9. {Melinda} It makes me sad that many women settle and marry men who do one or more of the above. Certainly, we can’t expect perfection, but a commitment to her (shown through respect, love and honor) and to God are non-negotiables. I’ve been trying to get this message through to my teenage daughter. She gets so frustrated by how many of her friends sacrifice their self-image and dignity for a guy who doesn’t treat them well.

    An awesome post, as always! Happy Sharefest!

    1. It is very sad what many women have become, thank God for your daughter, I am glad she knows something is wrong with her friends’ attitude. Tells me she is different.
      Thanks for coming by Melinda, do have a super blessed weekend!

  10. Valuable information for men who want to get married!

    1. Amen Lu!
      Thanks for coming by, do have a super blessed weekend!

  11. Agree with all the reasons, and they cover most of it.

    1. Amen Myne, thanks for coming by and do have a super blessed weekend!

  12. All great reasons!!!
    I’m stopping by from Our Everyday Harvest!


    1. Thanks for coming by Mary. Do have a super blessed weekend!

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