THINKING FOR YOUR MARRIAGE - Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
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I have learnt that everything we see, are and have is a result of thoughts. A marriage cannot become anything better or grow beyond a couple’s thoughts.
When you keep thinking it will not work, you keep thinking your love lives will not get any better, your finances will not improve, joy cannot be restored, the passion that you once knew cannot be re-ignited.
You set yourself up for all the negatives to take place in your life and marriage.
Your thought pattern affects your talk and action. If you think there is no hope for your marriage, you cannot act any different; your attitude will betray your thoughts because you will act like one who has already given up. No serious efforts will be made towards working on or improving on your marriage. But if you maintain positive thoughts on your marriage, wining and hope full thoughts, then you would put in efforts to make it work.
I have discovered that positive thoughts energize while negative thoughts generally enervates. To bring it a bit more home, when you continually think nothing good will come out of your marriage, you get paralyzed to even try to make it work.
So How Can You Think Good Thoughts?
1. Read the word of God
You cannot think on what you do not know. The word of God is pure and it is light. When you have the word of God stored up in your heart then you can think the word. And the only way you can store up the word is by reading the word. The word of God covers everything concerning your marriage, your spouse and your life. So in order to know the right thoughts to think, get to know what God says about marriage and how to relate to your spouse.
So shall the knowledge of wisdom be unto thy soul: when thou hast found it, then there shall be a reward, and thy expectation shall not be cut off.
Proverbs 24:14
2. Think on the word of God
Reading the word without thinking on it does not affect our minds in any way. The only way we can think on the word is by making it become part of us, and the only way it can become part of us is by consciously thinking on it. Thinking about all God has written concerning marriage and marital relationships.
This book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success.
Joshua 1:8
3. Speak the word
A step further is the need to verbalize these positive thoughts out loud as often as possible. The words we speak carry supernatural power, whether positive or negative. The words we speak go into our future and build our future, so if we believe, think and speak the word of God, it will come to play in our marriages.
This book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success.
Joshua 1:8
4. Cancel every negative thought
When the word of God has become part of you, it then becomes easy to cancel every negative thought that comes to you by replacing it with the positive thought from God’s word, as you cleanse the negatives and invoke the positives by the blood of Jesus. You can do this by praying too.
[Inasmuch as we] refute arguments and theories and reasonings and every proud and lofty thing that sets itself up against the [true] knowledge of God; and we lead every thought andpurpose away captive into the obedience of Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed One),
2 Corinthians 10:5(AMP)
5. Pray
Pray always that The Holy Spirit will continually help you and align your thoughts with the word of God. There is power in prayer!
The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.
James 5:16b
In summary, you are either thinking FOR or against your marriage. When you think good, positive and healthy thoughts you are thinking for your marriage, but when you think hopeless, damaging and negative thoughts about your marriage, you are thinking AGAINST your marriage.
You can think FOR your marriage and cause the forces of heaven to work for you in favour of your marriage. The choice is all yours.
What are your thoughts about thinking FOR your marriage?
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Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a mentor, encourager and influencer. She writes to inspire you to live a full life. Ugochi lives in Canada with her husband Benson and their children; Joshua, Joseph and Josiah.

  • Unyime-Ivy King
    Posted at 14:43h, 25 February

    Great one again, Ugo. You are so right. We live in a world where you here so much negatives about the marital institution, and the lines are divided in such a way that it seems the battle is a ‘you-and-I’ battle of the sexes, instead of ‘our battle.’ Personally, once I am where people start talking negative about marriage, I tune off and avoid such places/people. While challenges are a part of marriage, or any relationship for that matter, the way we choose to handle it, could mar or break our homes, and I am not talking about a ‘peace-at-all-cost’ situation here.
    We become what we confess daily; what we confess is a product of what we have allowed to creep into our hearts and take root. It is important that we watch what we allow to grow in our hearts, and like you have so well pointed out, reading, studying, meditating, and confessing the word of God, is a good way to go. When we feed on His word, it moderates our thought patterns, and helps us in ways we would never have envisaged, because His word has the power to make our relationships. In His light, we will see light.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 15:24h, 04 March

      I totally agree with “tuning off”. And I agree with the power in His word too!
      Your visits are always encouraging. Thanks a lot and God bless you sister!

  • Myne Whitman
    Posted at 17:44h, 20 February

    Great tips, I especially agree with the intro. As a man thinks…

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 15:22h, 04 March

      Thanks Myne, i appreciate your coming by!

  • Pam
    Posted at 15:11h, 20 February

    Thanks for this wonderful post. Great advice and much needed for me today. Stopped by from SITS and very glad to find you! New follower.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 15:22h, 04 March

      Thanks a lot Pam, do have a super blessed day!

  • Mothering From Scratch
    Posted at 13:57h, 20 February

    {Melinda} I love this post. I know from experience that this is SO true. Negative thoughts just kill romance and the hope that things can get better. Have I told you how much I adore your blog?? Such solid biblical, challenging advice.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 14:52h, 04 March

      Aww… thanks a lot for your encouragement Melinda.
      I like “Negative thoughts just kill romance and the hope that things can get better”
      Have a super blessed day!

  • Sara Turner
    Posted at 19:16h, 19 February

    Great advice I’ll have to keep in mind when I eventually find myself married (but I think it’s probably true for any relationship!) Thanks for stopping by my blog and commenting yesterday!

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 23:31h, 19 February

      Yes it is true for any relationship Sara.
      Thanks for coming by too and leaving this note.
      Do have a super blessed day!

  • Cindy Saul
    Posted at 12:16h, 19 February

    I am not married but I enjoyed what you had to say, I think this also applies with my relationship with my friends and family!

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 16:53h, 19 February

      Yes Cindy, in fact it can be applied even to everything about life.
      Our thoughts do build our future.
      Thanks for coming by, do have a super blessed day!

  • Tina Dennis
    Posted at 08:10h, 19 February

    Great advice… Thank you.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 16:41h, 19 February

      Praise God Tina!
      Thanks for coming by, I hope you will come again often.
      Do have a super blessed day!

  • Meredith @ The Laundry Can Wait
    Posted at 05:24h, 19 February

    I like the line, “You are either thinking FOR your marriage or against it.” Great advice.


    • Ugochi
      Posted at 16:40h, 19 February

      Yes indeed, thanks Meredith.
      Thanks for coming by and leaving a note, have a super blessed day!