3 PURPOSES FOR MARRIAGE - Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
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There is a common saying that when the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is in evitable. Some couples knew what marriage was for and about before they got married, if you belong here, this would just serve as a reminder or refresher.

Some did not know at all, and might be struggling and cannot find direction in their marriage as a result, if you belong here, this I believe would help you understand the reason God created marriage, and hopefully you would adjust your mind, Spirit and attitude to work your marriage to fulfil its purpose.

I do not consider this list exhaustive for more research from scriptures could produce for us more reasons for marriage.
But I have discovered the following as primary:
Now the Lord God said, It is not good (sufficient, satisfactory) that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him.
Genesis 2:18 (AMP)
I believe this is the fundamental purpose for marriage, to provide companionship for each other.
Who is a companion?
A companion is a helper or one who serves as a helpful friend (someone you know well and regard with affection and trust). In marriage however it goes beyond ordinary friendship to covenant friendship because it is endorsed by the blood of Jesus.
  • As your spouse’s companion amongst other things you are to: love, care for, be a confidant to, assist and pray for your spouse.
(You can read more about vision for your marriage HERE.)
We all need to ask ourselves; “Am I fulfilling my role and part of this covenant relationship, what can I do to make it better?”
Please note that these are not conditional responsibilities, the only condition is that we are legally married. It does not depend upon our spouses’ meeting their own responsibilities. With God, obedience to His instruction is always taken very seriously.
And God blessed them and said to them, Be fruitful, multiply, and fill the earth…
Genesis 1:28 (AMP)
Another basic reason why God created marriage is in order to multiply men on earth. Male animals had female animals to reproduce with but Adam had no female counter part to ensure the multiplication of his kind.
This does not end with child birth, it entails all that is necessary to raise that child in a way that pleases God, teaching them and praying that they continue in God’s path. And it is not without a reward.
For I have known (chosen, acknowledged) him [as My own], so that he may teach and command his children and the sons of his house after him to keep the way of the Lord and to do what is just and righteous, so that the Lord may bring Abraham what He has promised him.
Genesis 18:19 (AMP)
Let me add another verse of scripture just to assure wives that they are expected to be part of this too:
My son, keep your father’s [God-given] commandment and forsake not the law of [God] your mother [taught you]. (My emphasis)
Proverbs 6:20 (AMP)
Raising children is a very serious responsibility for couples because we are only stewards, their real owner is The Almighty who gave them to us and we are going to be held accountable one day for how well or how not well we raised them.
As the church is subject to Christ, so let wives also be subject in everything to their husbands.
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her,
Ephesians 5:24-25 (AMP)
You will all agree with me that marriage can bring all out the ugly in a person. I am a very good example, things you never knew were lodged deep in you, things you thought you had conquered will all come pouring out in this highest form of relationship called marriage. When all those ugliness start surfacing, it becomes training and retraining time for us. God uses marriage as a more severe training ground for us because the one you are closest too usually hurts you the most. We naturally tend to over look many offenses of others but when our spouses do the same things it gets to us so much more. I know I am not alone on this…
In the scripture above, God likens the marriage relationship to that of Christ and the Church, He loves us and we submit to Him.
I believe it goes beyond the physical, it is preparatory for our final union with Him… we (The Church) submit to Him and He presents us to The Father without spot or wrinkle.
Both husbands and wives need to submit to this special training in God’s hands, it is the greatest opportunity for spiritual growth and maturity, and if we miss it, it affects every other part of our lives.
So those are my thoughts on the basic purpose of marriage. What would you add?
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Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a mentor, encourager and influencer. She writes to inspire you to live a full life. Ugochi lives in Canada with her husband Benson and their children; Joshua, Joseph and Josiah.

  • Kelly Blackwell
    Posted at 14:42h, 06 February

    What a wonderful time for such a post. Thank you Ugochi. Yep the ugly sure does come out, but how wonderful to know that if we are living God’s purpose in our marriage this ugly time is also a time to get out those issues in a safe place. I am so thankful that God has blessed me with a husband who can love me through and through. As always I am blessed by the insights the Lord has given you. Have a wonderful day!

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 16:50h, 06 February

      It is a blessing to be loved in spite of…
      But thank God He works in us to take out the bad and pit in the good.
      Thanks a lot Kelly, for coming by and leaving this note.
      Have a super blessed day!

  • Meredith @ The Laundry Can Wait
    Posted at 06:12h, 05 February

    I would have to agree with all of your reasons!


    • Ugochi
      Posted at 08:47h, 05 February

      Great to hear that Meredith!
      Thanks for coming by and leaving this note, do have a super blessed day!

  • Meg Hodson
    Posted at 05:46h, 05 February

    Visiting from the Monday Mingle. Following via GFC and Twitter. Would love a visit back?



    • Ugochi
      Posted at 08:46h, 05 February

      Thanks Meg, I appreciate you.
      Do have a super blessed day!

  • martin udoh
    Posted at 09:32h, 05 February

    Im blessed by your words of wisdom concerning marriage relationships,all the reasons you have given above are on point to my own view.in the area of procreation God gives us children that we parents will raise them for his kingdom.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 16:48h, 06 February

      Yes bro and it is a great responsibility.!
      Thanks for coming by and leaving this note.
      Have a super blessed day!

  • Dionne
    Posted at 18:32h, 04 February

    I cracked up at the line that marriage can bring out the ugly! So true! Thank you for stopping by recently with encouraging words. I appreciate your biblical based teaching here that is pro-marriage all the way. We need more encouragement these days for our marriages for sure. Blessings to you for being a part of that.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 08:45h, 05 February

      Thanks Dionne, makes me laugh too thinking of it.
      I appreciate your coming by and leaving this note too
      Have a super blessed day!

  • Beth
    Posted at 16:04h, 04 February

    I might add spiritual purity and expression, which might fall under “companionship” but I think goes to a deeper level. Our spouse serves as our only outlet for sexual expression and pleasure and it’s like the glue that God uses to bond us together. But I love all of your points and find them to be solidly biblical, Ugochi. I always appreciate your wise words here, my friend! Thanks for your passion for marriage.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 08:44h, 05 February

      I completely agree Beth. Our spouses are our only outlet for sexual expression…
      Thanks for coming by and leaving this note.
      Have a super blessed day!

  • Ugochi
    Posted at 14:57h, 04 February

    It is right there friend, listed under the roles of a companion.
    Thanks a lot for coming by, have a super blessed day!

  • Blond Duck
    Posted at 13:59h, 04 February

    You forgot love. 🙂