Several times people use the story of stagnant water as an allegory of someone who always wants to receive and keeps receiving without giving out. THIS WATER SMELLS!
Have you ever been in a relationship where you seem to be the only one doing the chasing, loving, giving, calling, writing, visiting…?
It can be very tiring you must agree, the draining effect of a receiver who is never tired of receiving and cares less about making any input into a relationship can be pretty overwhelming and in many cases lead to the frustration and perhaps a complete burnout on the giver’s part.
Most times those who give are blind to the fact that they get almost nothing in return but then when the sudden realization occurs it can take a great and negative toll on the relationship.
Flash backs, reminiscing, playbacks and memories begin to tell the giver how lop sided the whole relationship has been and if this giver is not strong or resolute enough, it can cause emotional numbness, withdrawal, and sadly a disintegration of what might have been a very successful and impact full relationship.
Some couples have complained of the frustration of being the only one reaching out to their spouses especially in terms of emotions. They complain that their spouses do not make any investments in their own lives.
I believe all spouses (Me inclusive) need to consciously step out of being the constant receiver of love and affection and become an active giver. This is because no matter how long our spouses hold up, one day it is going to become an issue for them. When someone keeps giving and does not receive in return, it can be very discouraging and emptying.
BUT I THANK GOD FOR THOSE IN CHRIST WHO CAN CONSTANTLY RECEIVE FROM HIM IN ABUNDANCE TO SHARE CONTINUALLY…
Now, even this CANNOT be an excuse for anyone to keep collecting without giving back, even God frowns at it and there is a reward for it.
“…the world of the stingy gets smaller and smaller.”
Proverbs 11: 24 (Message)
So I encourage that we look out for ways we can invest in the lives of our spouses and be the husbands or wives to them that God intended for us to be. Be generous with your love and smiles…
Refuse to be stinking water or reservoir that only collects and does not give out. Give love, encouragement, support, care, affection, joy and happiness to your spouse, and watch what joy you would enjoy in your marriage and what joy you can experience WHEN YOU GIVE even when it is not convenient.
“Give away your life; you’ll find life given back, but not merely given back—given back with bonus and blessing. Giving, not getting, is the way. Generosity begets generosity.”
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a mentor, encourager and influencer. She writes to inspire you to live a full life. Ugochi lives in Canada with her husband Benson and their children; Joshua, Joseph and Josiah.