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6 Ways You Can Avoid Fornication

Ways to avoid fornication

6 Ways You Can Avoid Fornication

The debate among singles whether fornication is a sin or not is on the increase, especially among those engaged to get married. The Bible is very clear on this matter and this article will not only show it is wrong, but will also help singles know how to avoid fornication.
It would be helpful to those of you who want to keep their marriage bed undefiled, those who want to lay the right foundation for their marriage. Or for those who know someone who does…

First you must be one whose Lord is God and who takes His word as final authority over your life. You must be one who believes and seeks to obey Him in all your ways. You must be one who is ready to swim against the tide of the world and follow the narrow path of unpopularity of this world we live in. you must be one who believes that if God says not to do it then you would ensure to obey. If this is established then let me show you that God does not approve of pre-marital sex (fornication).

For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication. 1 Thessalonians 4:3

But that we write unto them, that they abstain from pollutions of idols, and from fornication, and from things strangled, and from blood… Acts 15: 20

These are just two of many scriptures showing how God wants us to handle our bodies. He lives in us and demands that we should treat our bodies like His temple that it is. You do not own your body!

What? Know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s. 1 Corinthians 619-20

I always tell singles and those already in a relationship to make it very inconvenient for them to have sex with their fiancés/fiancées before marriage. Let me explain:
You should visit and meet each other or spend time together in places where it will be impossible for you to commit the act. Visits to each other’s homes, or even friend’s homes where you can be “left alone” can pose a serious threat.
I hear some ladies say they went to cook or clean for their fiancés and I tell those who want to listen that it is not very appropriate for them to do that, there is time for every thing. I might subscribe to you cooking and sending to him but not going over to his house to do it. You should avoid making room for “mistakes” to occur.

…And do not give the devil a foothold. Ephesians 4:27

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One thing to also beware of is touches; yes touches. When you start touching each other, you increase the chances of arousing your sexuality.
And when you continue touching each other so, your defences get weaker and weaker to the point where you will no longer be able to resist the urge to go on and do “it”, this is because the mind is very powerful and thoughts of what could happen with you two will keep playing in your mind.

…And do not give the devil a foothold. Ephesians 4:27

Thinking of the consequences of fornication will put godly fear in you, especially if you are a true believer in God and you believe that Jesus can return any moment and will not take you with Him if He finds you in sin. Since no one knows when His return will be, you should live everyday like it is “The Day”.

Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators,nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind. 1 Corinthians 6:9

5. PRAY.
For it is in prayer you receive wisdom and power to over come all. Prayer causes you to be filled more with God’s Spirit. If you do not pray then you make yourself an easy prey for the devil.
Notice that I put this towards the end, if you pray and leave the above mentioned undone then you are setting yourself up.

Watch ye and pray, lest ye enter into temptation… Mark 14:38

Finally on this list, I advise that when face to face with the temptation to commit a sexual sin, instead of conversing with each other or the enemy, you should do one very important thing God recommends: RUN!

Joseph ran for his life and he enjoyed God’s blessing, Samson remained and lost his glory, which would you choose?

Flee fornication… 1 Corinthians 6:18

I pray this helps in ways more than one way, and remember to email or share with a friend or loved one.

Is there anything you would like to add to the list or any thing you would like to share? Please scroll down to the comment box and share your thoughts.

Copyright© Ugochi Oritsejolomisan  2013


Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a mentor, encourager and influencer. She writes to inspire you to live a full life. Ugochi lives in Canada with her husband Benson and their children; Joshua, Joseph and Josiah.

  • Ayoka Abigail
    Posted at 17:34h, 09 February Reply

    Hi,I can’t seem to stop fornicating. This h
    Journey has been had and I think I keep falling into this sin because of my desire to be married and have a companion and this has led me to having sex with many men and I feel so awful. I just want my own husband so that I won’t have to keep trying the men admiring me. Please, what can I do.
    I’m really tired.

  • Vincent
    Posted at 09:55h, 12 January Reply

    Thank you for putting this out there. I agree with your opinion and I hope more people would come to agree with this as well.

  • Bakare victor Oluwatosin
    Posted at 06:39h, 15 August Reply

    Thank you very much ma for this. I actually ignorantly found myself in fornication (or aldultry because she is no longer with her husband) she came over and she spent the first night at my place we slept on the same bed but we didn’t do anything together I didn’t touch, but she came again the next day this time with her daughter and we were getting closer together my intention was to just cuddle but in the end I found myself in sin it was afterwards I came to myself and since last night I’ve not been myself because I preach against sin and now I myself have also sinned I’ve been praying for mercy and forgiveness since last night but I still feel uneasy with myself I still feel like it should have never happened in the first place and now I’m very scared of what the consequence will be, how do I beg my father to remove the consequence, how do I still go out to talk people how do I approach the holy spirit now, how do I make up for my ignorance and foolishness what can I do. How do I make this thing a thing of the past?

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 16:43h, 31 August Reply

      Dear Victor,
      The moment you are genuinely sorry and repent before God, He forgives and forgets the sin. He sees you as he sees Jesus because he took your place. Repenting means you turn away from the sin and Never go back.And you do not have to do it by your strength, stay In His word and lean on The Holy Spirit.

  • Sadden
    Posted at 10:08h, 11 August Reply

    I live with my BF we’ve been dating for almost four years now. We started having sex two years into our relationship. Now I’m trying to rebuild a relationship with God and want to let go of fornicating. He told me it’ll be really hard for him and still desires me to touch him(help him ejac)). I told him that’s part of fornicating. He grew up Christian like me but isn’t ready to be on the same path. He wants to get married but isn’t ready financially etc.. and if we were to be engaged we’d get married a year later anyway. With the current economy and being jobless, I can’t gather my stuff and go live alone. Trying to stop fornicating is going to be a long battle. I’m on a two-week fast and we can’t keep our hands off each other. It’s really hard when two people aren’t on the same page spiritually. He told me without us doing it, he might fall back into old habits(masturbating/porn). Any suggestions? If we were on the same we’d sleep in separate bedrooms and such.

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 16:47h, 31 August Reply

      Hello dear,
      When it comes to choosing God and over sin and its pleasures, you have to be aggressive and be ready to make whatever sacrifice necessary to get back with God. When it comes to sex, it is not wisdom for both of you to live in the same house. I know this economy is tough but you must understand that when you make the decision for God, He makes a way for you. All he wants is your obedience, leave the rest to Him.

  • Success david
    Posted at 17:22h, 21 August Reply

    Please ma’am have given my life to Christ, I really wanna serve God with all my heart, but sadly enough am still wallowing in SIN of masturbation and fornication, God has a lot of promises concerning my life he wants to fulfill but I feel it’s been delayed Cos of my sinful lifestyle please ma’am where do I start from, I feel something has left me already even after doing such act I just want God to forgive and deliver me from every sharkles Of SIN. Can my glory and promises Of God upon my life be restored back am just so sad I can’t boast of my salvation to others bcos have not been faithful to him please ma’am help me out ,,, the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 18:08h, 07 September Reply

      Hi Success,
      Sorry I didn’t respond earlier.
      You cannot overcome any sin by trying in the flesh.
      You must fight it in, and by the Spirit. You must feed your spirit so strong that it leads your flesh, and your flesh can no longer submit to sin.
      Start by feeding on God’s word, especially scriptures that declare your victory over sin. When you do that on a consistent basis, meditating on, and speaking them over your life. You will be empowering your spirit to victory.
      If you don’t mind, you can email me at teshuva7@gmail.com and I will let you know how we can chat and talk privately.

      God bless you.
      Praying for you.

  • Olufemi
    Posted at 02:48h, 16 August Reply

    Please I need help…I masturbate since my childhood up till now.like 10years ago till now. I fornicate almost every week now it has caused so many harm to me.i really need help I always feel depressed.

  • ABiola
    Posted at 18:34h, 25 October Reply

    God bless you ma for the words I don’t know how you will encourage me fornication as caused a big thing in my life I’m praying for God’s healing I have repent from my sins but the major challenge is that my fiance there is no how I can be with her that fornicating will not come in and we have been together for long we have been doing it before now I don’t know what to do

  • Joe
    Posted at 06:29h, 17 April Reply

    Hello.. Am really struggling with lust. I have lost my consciousness and I don’t know how to get it back. Am worried. Help please

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 13:22h, 18 April Reply

      Hello Joe,
      The only remedy to darkness is light. The word of God is light, so the best place to start is from the word of God. First pour out your heart to God in repentance and KNOW that every genuine repentance receives forgiveness. 1 JOHN 1:9
      Then begin reading the Bible, you can start with the book of John and Ephesians; pray along with the scriptures you read.
      God’s word is like water and it cleanses us as we read with the simple purpose of becoming Christ-like. Ephesians 5:25
      I will mention you in my prayers.

      God is on your side!

    Posted at 14:47h, 01 April Reply

    Thank you I will do just that . I will calmly talk to him and let him know using the words you just gave me . Thank you so very much this things awakes me at night and I have had a bad dream last night about it

    Posted at 11:51h, 01 April Reply

    How do I explain because he just don’t get it. And it’s hard when he is being ni e and thinks everything is ok but I’m ready to leave

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 12:13h, 01 April Reply

      Tell him you are a believer and it is against your faith to continue. You want to make peace with God and you have nothing against him you just need to move out and sort yourself out with God.
      You know him, you know his temperament and the best way to say it to him.
      Be nice about it and let him know you love him but really do not want to go on offending God.

  • Karren Bowers
    Posted at 08:47h, 01 April Reply

    I am living with an ungodly man I try to explain fornication and I have my own apartment I just rented to get out of this. But why haven’t I moved yet? It’s as if I feel guilty but I love God but it doesn’t bother him to get drunk sell weed have ungodly family and friends. One over cuss and of course fornicate. I know my body is Gods temple I need to leave I need to run

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 11:46h, 01 April Reply

      Yes Karen. You need to leave, you need to run. For the salvation of your soul, for peace with God and health to your body. ❤️

  • Prince Philip
    Posted at 08:21h, 11 March Reply

    My name is prince Philip pls i need urgent help before i proceed i want to thank you for your post it really helpful
    But my problem are too numerous in these aspect of fornication
    1, I lust after women easily
    2, Have been masturbating for good seven years now
    3, I can’t stay a week without sex
    4, have been having a lot of night mare (sex in the dream)
    Pls i don’t know if there is anything u can u to help me becos things are getting worse everyday
    Pls we need to talk private if possible or on WhatsApp

    Thanks God bless u

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 21:51h, 11 March Reply

      Hi Philip,
      You need to change the environment you allow yourself into. We will talk later.

  • Yomi
    Posted at 06:36h, 02 February Reply

    You words are very touching…
    Am having so many problem
    *lack of focus in my career
    *am 25yrs old guy without no serious relationship and I hate the fact that when ever I have the urge of sex, I get to sex any of my female friends that i have been wanting to sex..
    *I keep on going back to my promise I made to god about my sex life that I won’t have sex with any girl till I get married. But its not changing.
    *whenever I sin I feel so bad till the extent of me wanting to kill myself .

    Pls help me with ur words. .

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 00:52h, 17 February Reply

      Sorry for not responding earlier. Although God hates what you are doing, he loves you deeply with all of His heart. You do not have to kill yourself. Repent and take conscious steps towards living a better life. You can do this by studying your bible at least daily and spending time with God in prayer and fellowship, asking Him to empower you via His word to live for Him. Stay sensitive and practice the word you read.
      Also, get to your pastor or another believer who you can be accountable to and believ that you can be all that God has created you to be.

  • Julius Mensah
    Posted at 22:44h, 01 November Reply

    Thanks for the advice

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 19:06h, 18 November Reply

      You are very welcome.

      • Kenneth
        Posted at 08:42h, 07 July Reply

        Sister ugochi, believe me or not, each time I fornicate, it all seems like I just murder someone, my conscience begin to battle me like Go is about to destroy me…so many times I have prayed and faster to avoid fornication, but the more I still find my self in it, pls I need God counsel through u.. Cuz am not enjoying it fornicating and beginning to battle wit my conscience that am condemn already..I wonder if Go will ever forgive again.. Pls I need your help

        • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
          Posted at 20:25h, 07 July Reply

          Our God is an ever loving and forgiving Father, If you genuinely repent, He forgives.
          I think you should take the time to read this article again slowly and take note of the measures you need to take to allow The Holy Spirit help you overcome.
          God has done all that He needs to do to help us deal with temptation and sin, He has given us all we need to overcome.
          We need to do our part by guarding and guiding our hearts according to His word.
          Just take the time to read the article over again and allow The Holy Spirit minister to you how you need to position youirself to receive His help.
          Please chat with me again after you have done this.
          God bless you.

  • Nancy
    Posted at 05:55h, 23 October Reply

    Thanks alot for this article. I really need help. Am Anglican born and raised under Anglican Church. I met a guy on my for an introduction. He shows so much love care and concern. We met on 1st September 2019, he proposed to me on 28th September 2019. Our love grew stronger. One problem that I have now is that he is a Catholic and he says I should change to his religion. I love my religion am committed to it and my plan and prayers to God was to give me a partner who is of the same religion that we shall be able to pray together in the same church with our children but now I see that is going to be difficult in this relationship. I love him and he loves me so much but am now confused on what to do cos I don’t feel comfortable attending his church it’s like I won’t be praying and surely won’t grow spiritually. What should I do now? I tried to talk to him about it and he said there’s nothing I can do apart from following his religion when we get married

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 17:44h, 30 October Reply

      Hi Nancy,
      I am sorry you find yourself in this spot. I believe you should ask yourself which one you value most; your relationship with God or your relationship with this guy. That will help you make a decision.

  • Dazzlin
    Posted at 18:30h, 25 August Reply

    Ma am having a serious challenge which is sex,the worst of it only married men are the serious with me,my parents are trying there best but I don’t lky bording them with my financial challenges,ever since I fornicate I hardly pray,am a worker in church too wat will I do am into a deep challenge,I always see myself as abandon project..

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 20:45h, 05 September Reply

      God never abandons anyone who will call out to Him.
      Commit to reading your Bible, especially the book of John everyday, if you cannot pray just sing in worship to God and call on Him asking His mercy..
      The word of God cleanses our hearts like water cleanses our bodies. It also changes our desires.

  • Mimi
    Posted at 06:26h, 25 July Reply

    I just had sex yesterday with my boyfriend. I know it is wrong. God warned me but I thought I could handle it. I know I might need to break up with him. He goes to church but he is carnal and don’t think it is wrong even though he promised to not touch me again till we marry but ask if he can sleep with someone if he feels tge urge, which i reply no he cant. My problem now is that I am sadden in my soul and can’t even pray. I needed to talk to some one. God warned me you know and He was clear.

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 23:48h, 29 July Reply

      Ask for forgiveness and refuse to let the enemy trap you in a guilt that God has delivered you from. They blood of Jesus has taken care of your sin. Repent, do not go back, feed on God’s word and depend on The Holy Spirit.
      Spend time worshipping God in songs and in tongues if you can speak in tongue. Never depend on your strength, keep your eyes on Jesus.
      God has forgiven you if you have asked Him for mercy. Each time the devil makes you feel like He has not, remind him of:

      1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. and

      Isaiah 38:17 (KJV) Behold, for peace I had great bitterness: but thou hast in love to my soul delivered it from the pit of corruption: for thou hast cast all my sins behind thy back.

  • Kaeven
    Posted at 08:38h, 25 June Reply

    Please ma my own problem is about x-ray thought of fornication( anytime I set my eyes on any female or am alone the thought will just come bringing about their sexual parts images) Everytime and I have been praying and trying to control myself but the problem still persist please how can I be sure free from this thought?Please help me out of this.Its really disturbs me.

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 12:12h, 19 August Reply

      I am sorry I did not respond earlier. I believe if you fill your heart with God’s word and continue thinking and meditating on it, your mind will be rid of all those sensual and sexual thoughts. Feed your spirit and your spirit will grow strong and overcome the flesh. Keep reading, meditating and speaking God’s word out loud to yourself.

  • Kaeven
    Posted at 08:37h, 25 June Reply

    Please ma my own problem is about x-ray thought of fornication( anytime I set my eyes on any female or am alone the thought will just come bringing about their sexual parts images) Everytime and I have been praying and trying to control myself but the problem still persist please how can I be sure free from this thought?

  • idowu ayodele
    Posted at 09:40h, 11 June Reply

    Ma,I’m Ayodele am married but I don’t know what really happen to me,I have pray towards it that any formication stuff God should take away and make my body holy.but I do see myself in the mist of ladies,they will be disstopin me that I should go out with them.before I know am on bed with them.pls help I have a soft heart,I want to get out from such thing.what should I do not to do such thing again.thank you.

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 12:18h, 19 August Reply

      I am so sorry for not responding earlier. Please forgive me.
      If you fill your heart with God’s word. If you will think constantly on God’s word, speak it out loud to yourself and follow the guidelines in the article you read, you will overcome.

  • Ojo
    Posted at 07:44h, 28 May Reply

    Please ma my own problem is about x-ray thought of fornication( anytime I set my eyes on any female or am alone the thought will just come bringing about their sexual parts images) Everytime and I have been praying and trying to control myself but the problem still persist please how can I be sure free from this thought?

  • Collins
    Posted at 03:30h, 10 February Reply

    Thank you very much for this article . God bless you.

  • Kunle
    Posted at 13:20h, 26 November Reply

    Thank you for this article. Pls ma the problem I have is I still have sex in my dream despite giving my life to Christ and it really disturbing me pls what can I do to stop it

  • Ann
    Posted at 23:42h, 26 September Reply


  • Ann
    Posted at 23:36h, 26 September Reply

    Please there’s this guy I met recently ,I really like him,his a very nice person .But he wants to touch and do other things .He is saying if I date him ,he wouldn’t do those things if I don’t want it . But I av bn thinking It won’t be wise to be in a relationship with him ,because without the fear of God in him,one day I might sin against God ,cause I can’t do it alone.But I really like him,I have told him no,But I don’t know how to stop talking to him .Please what do I do ? Should I risk dating him ?how do I get over the feeling I have for him so I don’t put my self in a situation of sexual sin?

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 14:43h, 01 October Reply

      My dear, if you continue “seeing” him, one day you will bow to the pressure because you are emotionally attached to him now. What you feel for him is in your flesh. Your spirit knows it is wrong. Follow your spirit dear, God wants His best for you, do not settle for less.
      If you allow your heart to be ruled by God’s word, your flesh will soon give up, the emotions will give up too.

  • Jazzmine Rios
    Posted at 21:28h, 02 July Reply

    I love this article! Im a 19 year old girl who like any other woman desires to be loved. I know that the man for me will love God more than he loves me but unfortunately Satan has sent a lot of fake prince charmings my way to push me off course and sadly he has succeeded multiple times but I know God and he’s full of love and forgiveness. I don’t want to be vulnerable anymore and I want to be strong.

    I understand that dating is part of the process to get married and I’ve heard that people typically date for about 2 years before getting engaged but I know God works in mysterious ways. So I have a couple of questions.

    1. Is it okay to date multiple people? Not all at once but for example how am I supposed to know if a man is truly for me? Falling in love at first sight sounds magical but I want a man who obviously is a devoted Christian but other things fall into play as well such as success, his family, his aspirations, his ministry and all these other things that should be in alignment with my path. But I feel like obviously I’m not going to know unless I date him and get to know him better. What if there are red flags? I don’t like him so I date someone else, is that okay as a Christian woman to “explore” in a pure way of course?

    2. I obviously am not ready to date because my life is in a process of building itself up towards independence but there is a guy who I met online (a while back) we have talked on snapchat so I know he is legit and he wants to meet me, he said he is willing to take things slow and I truly don’t want to date him but I don’t think it would hurt just to meet him in person in a public setting (am I wrong?) because I feel like we could be friends and I could tell him my testimony and invite him to church. However if he’s not willing then I’ll tell him I can’t be friends with him? Or what should I say because I understand those verses in the bible that tell us not to associate ourselves with worldly people ( James 4:4, 1 Corinthians 15:33) and I feel like I have this problem a lot with people who are willing to be my friends but not willing to go to church. So my question basically is would it be dangerous for me to meet him in person even though it’s in a public setting? Dangerous for me in a spiritual aspect?

    3. Is it okay to have male friends and hang out with them?

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 13:22h, 27 July Reply

      Please do forgive me for not replying you earlier. Now to answer your questions;
      1. You can know who to date by praying even before you go on your first date. You don’t have to go by trial and error, if you do that you will continue dating men in multiples. The Holy Spirit is your guide, if you ask Him, He will tell you who to see or not see.
      What I am telling you is not mystical, we have The Holy Spirit so that we do not make mistakes. All we need to do is listen.

      2. I think you have already answered this second question. Do not meet him please, except you pray and God says yes.

      3. It is okay to hang out with make friends, as a young believer, most of the people I hung out with are males. But I made sure they were spirit filled and disciplined believers who influence me to love God and serve Him more.

      God bless you dear… Keep reading God’s word and spending time in His presence. You will not miss it.

  • Emma
    Posted at 18:13h, 22 May Reply

    am grateful

  • Nzeogwu Joy Petra
    Posted at 17:15h, 23 April Reply

    Well-done for this change that is affecting us positively MA.
    I’ve been dating this guy for 7years. We planned to settle down a year from now. He spoke to me about sex (he wants us to stop having sex and focus on God) which I’m totally in support of this decision but my problem is this: do I need to break up with him? Because I feel we already committed fornication. Will God still be in support even if we stop fornicating??

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 17:47h, 23 April Reply

      God bless you Sis. You only need to break up with him if you are not sure you should marry him. But if you have prayed and have peace in your heart then God supports it.

  • Nahum
    Posted at 08:37h, 18 April Reply

    I grew up in a christian family and I am now 18 and a christian. But for the last 3 years I masturbate and watch porn constantly. Every time after I do such things, I immediately regret it and confess my sins. But after a day or two, I find myself in such things again.I quickly delete all things related to porn and II download them again and again.A year ago I had a non christian girlfriend with whom I didnot have sex or kissed but I broke up with her after my family found out about us. I donot know what is happening to me. I do believe Jesus was crucified for my sins. But am I really a born again christian? Is there a demon inside me without my knowledge? Why am I being like this and what should I do? please help me I am suffering.

  • Janice
    Posted at 19:28h, 04 March Reply

    Hey I wanted to know if I’m doing wrong by being around this guy even though I lusted after him in the past I had a fantasy of us kissing but not sex. I have been dealing with lusts for awhile now but now it’s like I’m finally trying to gain control over it. I had remembered that bible verse flee from youthful lusts and I got scared that since I had a thought about the guy that I couldn’t stay with him. I asked a friend and they said I can if I don’t continue to have lustful thoughts. I stopped but sometimes I feel like it was for the wrong reason. I know now I was being selfish but not intentionally. I should have been stopped because of God. For some reason lately I had these thoughts trying to come into my head and make me lust I don’t know why cause I’ve never had a problem with that. It’s not like the guy is tempting me to do anything sexual outside of marriage. When I’m away from him it happens when I’m around him it doesn’t. I just don’t want God to be like you went against my word cause I’m around the guy and I had lusted a while back but I’m not lusting anymore I just feel like I’ve ruined my relationship with God and the guy.I think about this a lot I feel like God isn’t gonna forgive me. I feel that the guy would consider marriage in the future hopefully as well even though we are only friends but the bible talks nothing of dating just marriage. I feel like the devil might be making me think I’m not worthy of forgiveness as well and also what is lust exactly? And do you think I’m wrong to be around the guy even though I’m not being tempted by him to do anything? Your advice would be greatly appreciated thank you.

  • Esther
    Posted at 06:44h, 12 February Reply

    Pls l need your advice, l am into relationship with a guy just l month now, l go to his house once in a while the last time l went there he demanded for sex which l say no, l told after marriage, but is not okay with it saying l dont love him, so he say what of kissing, in other to prove l love him l kiss him gave him which was a sustained kiss, so am confused and think kissing is a sin

  • Chiagozie
    Posted at 11:37h, 14 January Reply

    I keep trying to change, I really wanna change
    I don’t want to involve myself in this
    It has caused a lot harm
    Wat should I do3

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 12:46h, 18 January Reply

      Hi Chiagoziem,
      If you earnestly practice all that you have read here, leaning on God’s strength, you will overcome and continually overcome.
      God’s grace is sufficient for you.

      • Victor
        Posted at 13:39h, 23 January Reply

        Hi, I have been fasting and with 4 days into the fasting I found myself fornicating. Please do I continue or stop. I need your help and advice. Thank you.

        • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
          Posted at 13:49h, 23 January Reply

          Don’t stop fasting! Repent and continue fasting with a refocus on drawing grace, strength and wisdom from God to dominate your flesh.

  • fortunate
    Posted at 10:50h, 12 December Reply

    I really need a change, I keep trying but I see my self always going back to it even after praying and asking God for forgiveness.I really want to change

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 14:53h, 14 December Reply

      My Dear,
      If you take everything you have read into serious thought and action, you will overcome.
      Have a super blessed day!

    • Jumi
      Posted at 12:39h, 28 December Reply

      Mrs Ugochi pls respond to my mail. It urgent!

  • Winner
    Posted at 10:17h, 26 November Reply

    Am not into fornication, not even once. But i want to visit a male friend because its his birthday which it will be only two of us. Am scared that it might lead to something else that am not ready for, how can i avoid it.

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 09:19h, 28 November Reply

      I think it is not wise to visit a male friend whom you are emotionally involved with all by yourself. I suggest you take a friend along or talk to him about meeting up somewhere public; a park, restaurant or any other place where it would be inconvenient for anything to happen.
      I hope this came to you in time. Have a super blessed day!

  • PJ
    Posted at 17:57h, 07 November Reply

    Father Lord help me overcome the spirit of lust. I crave to be holy and keep myself inline with the tenets of the holy spirit. I need help and urgently.

  • Anthonia
    Posted at 22:07h, 21 October Reply

    Sometimes I see my self going back to fornication even when ve promised God that I won’t… M deeply sorry for what I did and I want to start with God again but m feeling guilty and I cant boldly pray to Him(God) anymore. I still feel bad nd unforgiven. I have indeed failed Him… I am ready to start again with Him..
    NB: ever since my last fornication this month ve been engaged in lies and cheat. Can I really be forgiven.?

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 17:56h, 24 October Reply

      God forgives as long as we repent genuinely. He is always ready and willing to welcome a repentant heart.
      Spend time in God’s word, spend time praying, spend time fellowshipping with other believers. Sin shall not have dominion over you.

      • Felix
        Posted at 05:39h, 12 November Reply

        I find it very difficult. Each time I try to pray I feel like am the baddest criminal and I feel like ooh God can’t answer my prayers for 8 year now am facing the same problem all I want is know how to pray and pray to God to forgive me my sins.

        • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
          Posted at 10:40h, 16 November Reply

          God loves you beyond your faults Felix. And He forgives the moment you ask Him to. Only the enemy wants you to believe you have gone to far and deep for God to forgive, but the devil is the father of lies.
          Praying to God is simple, just talk to Him about it, tell Him to forgive you and believe He has because He said He will in 1 John 1:9

      • Martha
        Posted at 10:05h, 15 November Reply

        Thank you Ma for this inspiring article, the only addiction I have is “fornication” I don’t mess around though but I fornicate with my fiance but somehow I see it as a sin and I’ve asked for forgiveness from God &I promised not to do so until I’m married but I keep seeing myself doing it over and over again. At some point I just feel maybe there’s no point asking for forgiveness cause I’m still gonna do it but somehow it struck my heart that God isn’t happy about this & just want to make it up to him, I want him to forgive me and help me not to sin again. I really love God &I I know he does too. I want to be dead to my flesh and alive to my spirit man. I pray God helps me.

        • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
          Posted at 10:43h, 16 November Reply

          Hi Martha,
          God never holds back forgiveness the moment you ask He forgives. 1 John 1:9
          If both of you depend on God for help and practically follow the steps mentioned in this article, you will live free of fornication.

  • onyeka
    Posted at 05:28h, 01 October Reply

    Gud day ma.!
    My problem z dat I kip having sex wt aged prostitute often nd often and I have been trying to stop it even wt prayers I cant stop it
    What is your advise to me

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 21:26h, 02 October Reply

      If you read the article carefully and make up your mind to take the steps mentioned, you will be embrace the victory won for you in Christ.

    Posted at 13:43h, 18 September Reply

    Pls Help Me pray,,, all what they are saying is all about me,,, i need prayer serious

  • Aog
    Posted at 02:11h, 26 August Reply

    I m blessed by your post. Thanks

  • Blessing offiong
    Posted at 03:49h, 24 August Reply

    goodmorning aunty ugochi,tnx for ur inspiration words,,please there is sum tin dat has been bothering me,,n I really need ur advice,,am a single girl who is tryin to survive,n care for her family am into cathering ,men ave broken my heart a lot,n I ave men who are still cumin,am 25yrs n I believe am of age to settle down,,n I also need a sum1 dat will be aisisting me in one way or d other,cuz to be frank it’s not been easy,,ave tried abstaining from men,,cuz wat dey after its just sex,,aunty ugochi I really need ur advice on dis…please wat do I do…abut dis…

    • Obiaro nathan
      Posted at 16:24h, 02 October Reply

      Hello dear.,,, the fact that you recognise your challenges shows how strong you are…. I can assure if only you could look deep inside you to find out your greatest potential… This will give you speed in life and attract a responsible man to settle with
      Focus on your strength and let God handle your familys issue…..
      Serve God with your potentials and see men serve instead of taking advantage
      Remain blessed dear…
      Am nathan

  • Blessing offiong
    Posted at 20:18h, 21 August Reply

    Hi ugochi,,pls I really need ur prayers n advice,,,I abstained from sex for almost 4mnths,,I keep having dat urge for sex,I ran into an old friend a male who is now married,,n we had sex,,can God ever forgive me,,cuz I feel so bad…please what do I do?

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 09:11h, 22 August Reply

      Blessing God cannot only forgive you, He will forgive you if you repent and commit to not doing it again as you lean on His grace.
      Just admit your sin to Him, tell Him you are sorry and ask for His forgiveness. And He will forgive you. Read 1 John 1:9
      Another thing you must do is never to let the enemy taunt or haunt you with the sin. Once God forgives you of sin you don’t have to feel guilty anymore. The enemy will want to bring it up again and again but you must always remind him that it has been cleansed by the blood of Jesus, God has forgiven you, and God has forgotten about it. God is not keeping record of that sin anymore. God bless you dear…
      Feed your spirit with God’s word, meditate on His word, speak His word to yourself always, pray consistently and
      depend on The Holy Ghost our Helper. You are an overcomer!
      Have a super blessed day! ❤️

  • Leonard
    Posted at 15:26h, 21 August Reply

    That was a wonderful one Ugochi. May God help us all

  • Anathi
    Posted at 12:35h, 12 July Reply

    The article is helpful thank you.Lately I don’t have an urge to pray and I don’t feel the presence of God in my life.I am a food addict every time I do a fasting and prayer I break before time and I love fantasies and lust plz pray for me I need a deliverance.

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 12:47h, 12 July Reply

      Hi Ananthi,
      If you can commit yourself to read God’s word at least twice a day beginning from the book of John, one chapter in the morning and one in the evening, I believe the desire for God and holy living will be stirred up in you again. Also, if you can add a chapter of Proverbs too maybe in place of one of John either in the morning or evening…
      Get involved in your local Church, join a service team and attend bible meetings… these are ways you can stir up godly desires again.
      Let me know if there is any more counsel you need.
      Have a super blessed day!

  • definite sengamayi
    Posted at 14:35h, 11 July Reply

    i benefited a lot from this site. some of the issues i read from here were quit similar to my situation and i am relieved by responses. i wish if God can also forgive me from the sin of fornication.i seperated with my bf because of this. he was not able to abstain fron this and i was feeling very guilt but my question is that ‘Can God realy forgive me and will i fing a boyfriend who is ready to abstain from fornication?’.please heip me with prayers so that God may forgive me.i need to leave a blameless life.

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 12:42h, 12 July Reply

      God forgives anyone who repents with a genuine heart. He desires very strongly to forgive and looks forward to your asking. And my dear, there are many godly men who stand for God and His word, if you keep the faith and trust God, He will make your paths to cross. I will keep you in my prayers. If you need any more help please go ahead and email me. God bless you!
      Have a super blessed day!

  • Nana Boateng
    Posted at 02:54h, 29 June Reply

    Pls,I can make up my mind that I wanna leave a righteous life with my fiancee,we can pray n personally feel the spirit of God on me,buh in no time its either I watch porn and masturbate or fornicate with my fiancee,we regreat after dat,buh its bn hunting me to the extent of me not being able to praY,wen am about to pray,my hear begins to beat faster and then I stop,I always ask for forgiveness buh this time I feel tired and I feel its not gonna be accepted…plsss help mi out.

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 21:16h, 29 June Reply

      God never stops forgiving. He will forgive you as many times as you ask. But my dear, you can stop sexual sins, I did, so many others did, so can you.
      Do not let the enemy deceive you, open your mouth and ask for forgiveness no matter how fast your heart beats, do not stop.
      If you take everything I wrote in this article and put them into practice, you will overcome!
      Please email me if you need any further assistance.
      Have a super blessed day!

  • Valentine
    Posted at 13:02h, 18 June Reply

    Before I gained admission into the university, I promised God that I won’t have sex until marriage but few months after gaining the admission, I had sex nd when my first result came out, it wasn’t that good.I cried and prayed for forgiveness nd promised him that I won’t do it again for him to give me a better result next semester.Just today ,after few weeks of resumption, I had sex again nd it’s been hurting, It’s now like am playing with him which I wouldn’t dare…..i dunno what to do now, I don’t know what to say to him this time around…pls help me beg him for forgiveness nd give me advice on how to stay away from it.

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 18:18h, 20 June Reply

      Hi Val,
      So sorry I didn’t reply earlier, please forgive me. Now, just open your mouth and ask for His forgiveness. If you are truly sorry, God is never tired of giving forgiveness. Do not let the enemy keep you away from God by leaving this sin unconfessed. The moment you ask God to forgive you He forgives, it does not matter how many times you ask as long as you are truly sorry and work hard while depending on Him not to go back.
      Everything I have written here is great advice Val, and if you will commit to putting them to good use, you will be victorious.
      Please email me if you need more assistance.
      Do have a super blessed day!

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  • Chris
    Posted at 12:34h, 31 May Reply

    Pls I need your prayer for me to overcome the sin of fornication and masturbation. I want to free

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 00:11h, 01 June Reply

      Hi Chris,
      I will pray for you and I am sure some of my readers here will too. But you also need to commit to put in efforts in praying too and doing everything written in here. God is willing and more than able to help you of you call out to Him in sincerity.
      God bless you!

      • Chris
        Posted at 15:49h, 02 June Reply

        Thanks and I am very grateful for your concern

  • P. Sando S. Gono
    Posted at 22:49h, 15 April Reply

    Hi Ugochi,
    I am P. Sando S. Gono
    Thank you so much for broading my understanding and helping to save many souls for God. May the Lord increase you in knowledge as you continue to help many.
    Let me just talk about sex, because of it desire, fornication comes.
    Now, let us take this for kid study.
    If one were to enroll at an institution, he or she is offers a hand book which contains rules and regulations of that institution. And if anyone violates any of these rules, they will be punished.
    God invented sex. He designed the hormones that triggers our desires. Sex isn’t wrong. Sex is good, a gift from a God who loves us.
    And his simple guideline and regulation is simply wait until marriage. But as there is forgiveness if we made mistakes and confessed, also, destruction awaits us if we continue in them!
    “Those who live according to the sinful nature have their minds set on what that nature desires: but those who live in accordance with the spirit have their minds set on what the spirit desires ….you.
    However, are controlled not by the sinful nature but by the spirit, if the spirit of God lives in you. (Romans 8:5,9)”.


  • aidyll
    Posted at 11:34h, 14 March Reply

    hi ugochi ma’am ….I desperately need guidance and counselling …iam a 20 year old girl,both me and my boyfriend are born and brought up in christian households … we both had decided to have a committed relationship when we got together 2 and a half years ago …but we got trapped in the devils trap of fortification…both of us are feeling very guilty and now we know the consequences of a prayerless ungodly relationship …we were caught and entangled in a cycle of fornification and though we had a number of times tried to give it up but unfortunately we gave in to temptation ….but now we both want to take the steps and like your point mentioned in tip No. 2 , we have decided to make it ‘inconvenient’…we want to commit ourselves to God now and considering each other for marriage when the right time comes and not to defile our future marriage now …from now we are trying to have a new beginning , by the will of God …Ma’am I want to know if we are on the right track and if we are worthy to be forgiven?

  • aido
    Posted at 10:29h, 14 March Reply

    Ugochi please reply me at my email ….I need some guidance on my life

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  • Travienna
    Posted at 11:04h, 18 January Reply

    Will God forgive me I’ve asked for It

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 00:38h, 19 January Reply

      Hi Travienna, God always forgives when we are genuinely sorry and want to make things right.
      His love is bigger than any sin we could ever commit.

  • Iva
    Posted at 15:13h, 21 December Reply

    Been aware that it is wrong for some time now. It destroys my soul. Just when I think it’s out of my system I eventually succumb to the fleeting pleasures. I need guidance from God and more inner strength. A stronger mind and conviction so that I can overcome the world and endure until the end. At this point Fasting could be very much needed.

    • Nao
      Posted at 06:00h, 24 January Reply

      You are not alone ! God is with you ! By His Strength you can do everything !!

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 04:07h, 25 January Reply

      Dear Iva, if you follow carefully what I have outlined here, I am sure you will overcome. Also read the post on How To Stop Fornication. Make up your mind to win and you will!
      You can contact me again if you need to at teshuva7.gmail.com

  • Kasandra Morrison
    Posted at 15:52h, 14 December Reply

    I feel as though I CANT stop committing fornication. I am on a current break with my boyfriend so he is staying with his mom while my daughter and I reside at our former home which we all lived at one point. He said he needed space and a break from drama which HE caused. So now, when he drops my daughter off or when we have discussions it’s like we are TEMPTED to touch each other and once we touch each other it leads to sex. So he will end up going to work from my house. The space to me seems to be asked for so that he could be doing whatever it is HE wants to do . I want to stop dealing with him in that way and keep it about our daughter. It is just very hard.

  • Princess
    Posted at 14:44h, 30 October Reply

    I used to hear the word fornication all the time from the pastor but, didn’t know what it means but, now after reading this I kinda understand but, I have committed that sin now is it too late? I think not because I was already saved and already baptized and gave my life to the Lord but, nor have I married neither one my new baby father or my older one of course he is in prison now so, it is hard for me to be faithful but, I don’t know if I try I believe that I can make a choice between the two but, fornication has been done all I can do now is pray repent and hope that let’s me and my family back into his life from this sin but, when you have two lovers it is hard to choose one and leave the other dang. I wonder I know God could help me make that decision to huh plus, I have three kids by one and one kid on the way by the new one that is free.
    Please help if anyone has any ideas or suggestions?

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 19:02h, 19 November Reply

      I am so sorry for replying this late Princess, please pardon me.
      Your life can never be too messed up for the blood of Jesus. All you need to do is repent and stop having sex with whom you are not legally married to. You are pregnant right now if I understand your comment, that too is not a sin that cannot be forgiven.
      If the father of your baby is willing, then he should do the needful and marry you. Even with the children you have had, you can turn your life around by stopping fornication and turning your life completely over to God. But to continue in sin after knowing you are wrong and asking for forgiveness is taking God’s grace in vain.
      I pray you submit to God and receive His grace to do only that which pleases Him.

  • Mbu Gaston
    Posted at 22:41h, 22 October Reply

    Plz help me. I just brake up with my gf. And am really willing to Give my all self to God now but the thoughts of her sleeping with another man is killing me I can’t even sleep at night because of that. I really love her and want the best for her what can I really do?

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 18:56h, 19 November Reply

      Hi Mbu,
      I am so sorry for this late response, please forgive me, I was not able to reply you sooner. Now sir, you must realize that you cannot please God and yourself at the same time, You should shift your focus to God and how you can improve on your relationship with Him and allow Him to sort this lady out. If you really love her, you would leave her alone while you pray and trust that she too becomes willing to to give her all to God.
      God is calling you to a higher place in Him, please answer the call.

  • MCO
    Posted at 15:12h, 09 October Reply

    This is really inspiring! I thought God has abandoned me. Please Mrs Ugochi, I really need one on one chat. I think I am going to make mistakes that might cost me my happiness and heaven at last. Please come to my aid. I need proper counselling.

  • Dav
    Posted at 15:45h, 27 July Reply

    Please I totally need your help urgently bcos am dying internally.
    I feel my soul is departing from me. if you can email me or I can I will be happy. Pls Sis am dying. Am Dav


    • Bro Darrell
      Posted at 08:00h, 15 November Reply

      Brother David, sin kills your spirit immediately, thats why you feel death on the inside. You will live again if you repent from your heart of all your sins

      Repent ye therefore, and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, when the times of refreshing shall come from the presence of the Lord; http://biblehub.com/acts/3-19.htm

      Harden not your heart, the Day you hear the voice of the Lord, come to him and He will in No way cast you out but will recieve your unto himself for the son of man came not to condemn the world but that the wold through Him might be saved.


  • J
    Posted at 14:54h, 30 June Reply

    Hi Ugochi,
    I came across your post as I have been in search for advice/answers for my long standing issue.
    I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 3 years and not long after we first started dating (around 100days or so) we fell into sexual sin and eventually made decisions that had made us regret. During the early times we felt very ashamed and wanted to stop, however, couldn’t. We repeated this cycle for almost 2 years on and off. I have been serving my church as a group leader, and taken up other responsibilities to serve God, but obviously had been living a fake life – as behind the scenes I was sinning against God for my own desires. During this cycle, I cannot say with full confidence, but I feel my boyfriend and I became very tired of repenting and talking through the issue over and over. Which lead us to have hardened hearts to truly repent and turn away from sin. Over those times, I did repent with all my heart but obviously fell away again as it was my weakness – and sometimes I would have the assurance that God would really help us through the issue if we read tried to seek for His grace and wisdom – but another problem was that I always felt I was the only one feeling strongly about ‘repentance’ and seeking what was right in God’s eyes. My boyfriend was brought up in a Christian family, but I believe he has not yet received Christ as his Lord. Hence, I felt it was more difficult at times to talk about the seriousness of the issue and how we should go about keeping away from our weaknesses (sexual sin). Though he wasn’t disrespectful or any kind, I did felt he wasn’t quite on the same boat as me. I had mixed emotions over the two years of hardship, hatred was definitely one and I also unconsiously had been blaming my boyfriend for all that had happened – even though I did admit I was responsible too. But eventually I came to realise and God struck me to repent that what we have done was a deadly to our souls – both mine and my boyfriends – and I have come to a point to repent to God about how I didn’t act wise enough to lead the relationship in a Godly way but how I allowed my desires to drive over me and not only affecting my own soul but how that decision had crushed my boyfriend’s soul too. I felt very bad, almost like I needed to take responsibility in taking my boyfriend’s life to turn to God. So I had a lot of trouble getting through that thought too, because I know that I can’t make one’s life change – but only God can – in the right time and right way. SO- Ever since last year (for about 9months) we have not shared our bodies – although there were a few times where we felt uncomfortable (touching and what not going overboard) – however this also has been a few months- it is a struggle for my bf as he told me once that its hard since we are taking steps backward from what we have done, which I agree. Now, my question is – in a bigger picture – I would like to ask the obvious question – should a couple break up if they have fornicated but have now put a stop to it? – but I know the stop to the action of sexual sin is just a superficial issue – but the core is whether we both repent and come clean in front of God – and by this cleansing, we strive in Godly relationship. I guess I’m having mixed feelings as well as thoughts because I feel my boyfriend is not pursuing the same thing as me – at least not yet(though he is trying – he’s been taking up spiritual workshops at his church recently for his spiritual growthetc.). I know I shouldn’t be persuaded with the thought – if I wait he will change – but that’s not really my question. I’ve started to have less feelings for him as I feel if we continue like this – our marriage won’t glorify God. I know there are consequences to this sin, hence, why our relationship is in struggle many ways because of it. I am thinking of asking my boyfriend if we can take time off for about a month or so – not seeing or contacting each other – and asking for guidance to God whether we should really continue this relationship or not. If it can be restored, i really want God to restore our relationship and head towards the way it pleases him. At the end of the month when we meet again, if we were both assured that God would(?) help us – then we would really take a shot at it and ask God to really lead our relationship and we both make an effort to invite God into our lives – reading the bible together – praying together – attending group bible studies – potentially attending same church under same ministry – etc. But I guess if either one of us feels that its not in it for God – we would go our separate ways for the best of each other.. (At this stage I ‘feel’ God wants me to break up – (because of our past but i do feel my decreased passion for him is a big influence in this feeling)) – but I want to make sure we both agree as well as that I want to be sure (plus im not quite not ready for the breakup). So I’m thinking of sharing this thought and idea to my boyfriend and suggest doing it – I hope you can give me other suggestions if you can or your thoughts on my idea that i just have shared. It was a long post. Thank you so much for putting the time and reading it – I look forward to your comment.

    • J
      Posted at 16:00h, 30 June Reply

      I also want to add that – I did at one point for a long time – felt our relationship was unequally yoked – but i had a lot of hypocrisy in my heart towards my boyfriend – so I had thought lowly of him just because I think he has not truly repented or truly follows the Lord. Then again, who am I to finger out that he is such a person – as I am equally responsible for our actions. I want to stop the blaming – stop feeling guilty over this – stop the hatred on myself and this relationship. I wish my boyfriend would come forward to God – and we both start again – fresh – with God’s grace and mercy of cleansing our sin – working towards a Godly relationship. (Though my love for him has faded- and I know that ‘sparks’ and ‘romance’ is not the true love we should seek as Christians.) I really want to help my boyfriend – as a person and as a girlfriend to become a born again person in Christ. Even if at the end – he chooses to leave me – i think i will feel less guilty knowing that he has turned his life towards God. But most of all I would want to become the Godly man that God would be happy for me to marry. (Am I being a bit selfish in wanting him to become Godly man – so that I can be with knowing that he is truly God’s child?)…..

      Anyways, thank you so much in advance.

      • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
        Posted at 15:30h, 21 July Reply

        Hello J,
        Please I sincerely must apologize for not responding to this mail early. I have been a bit unavailable on my blog for a while.
        Now J, your boy friend is not born again from all indications so you sincerely should not consider him for marriage. He is a creation of God nonetheless and Jesus died for him like for everyone els, but it is not your responsibility to save him.
        You should pray for him as it is a responsibility of all Christians to pray for lost souls, but you should not consider him for marriage. That would be unequal yoking and displeasing to God.
        I know this is hard considering your emotions and all, but you must give up your emotional pleasure in this case so that your soul will be at peace with God.
        When you please God, He will bring His best man for you as husband. Decide to please God at all costs and God will manifest His Blessing to you at all cost.
        I hope this helps you J, please do let me know.

        • Mr Enejo Sunday
          Posted at 02:15h, 19 November Reply

          Yes my dear, it really helped me and am grateful for that encouragement. Thanks and God bless you richly Mr.s

      • Bro Darrell
        Posted at 08:09h, 15 November Reply

        Sister, your witness for Christ is lacking power because of your compromise with sin. You must LEAVE the sexual affair and boyfriend and dedicate your life, mind, body, and soul back to God and Jesus will clean you up completely.

        18 “Come now, let us reason[a] together, says the Lord:
        though your sins are like scarlet,
        they shall be as white as snow;
        though they are red like crimson,
        they shall become like wool.

        Acts 3:19
        Repent ye therefore, and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, when the times of refreshing shall come from the presence of the Lord;

    • Imoke David
      Posted at 21:42h, 15 October Reply

      God’s blessing dear sis. Permit me to tip in by saying that jesus the christ was 100% man and 100% GOD thus, he was tempted with all form of sin while on earth.but he was able to overcome bcos he allow whole-hearted the spirit of God and the will of God to rule his life. no doubt it was not easy for him, thats why several of his prayer he will say if its possible let this cup pass away from me.nevertheless not as i will but let ur will b done.likewise xtian 2day can overcome and live above fornication if only we will follow christ footstep.God bless.

    • Bro. Chigozirim
      Posted at 10:03h, 07 November Reply

      first u have to give ur life to christ, read john 3vs1-7 ,john 8vs32, john 14vs6 after reading all this verses pray as Holy Spirit of God to fall upon u.

  • Joyce Keelson
    Posted at 00:54h, 05 June Reply

    help I v slept with 17 guys including my fiance. I’m about to get married to my fiance but I v cheated on him twice and I feel awful. Please help me out because I feel guilty looking at my fiance face.God please help me

    • Bro Darrell
      Posted at 08:17h, 15 November Reply

      Sister, marriage will not cure the demon of lust. If you need to call off the wedding and get delivered from Lust. Repent fully before God with all your heart. Don’t let the devil trick you into believing that God is not hearing you. God hears you. BE HONEST with GOD and TURN from your sin and ASK GODs help because without Gods help you cannot fully stop sinning it takes Gods power to overcome sin. DEPEND, TRUST, and RELY on Jesus to ABSOLUTELY CLEAN YOU FROM THIS SIN…once you do, you will be so happy and you will feel new. 🙂 God bless you… remember MANY other christians are facing the SAME temptations as you but God delivered them out of them all but you must CONTINUALLY come to CHRIST…CONTINUALLY… also reading the bible the KJV helps because each time you read it, God gives your spirit a bath and cleans stuff from your life.

      18 “Come now, let us reason[a] together, says the Lord:
      though your sins are like scarlet,
      they shall be as white as snow;
      though they are red like crimson,
      they shall become like wool.

      Acts 3:19
      Repent ye therefore, and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, when the times of refreshing shall come from the presence of the Lord;

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 19:08h, 19 November Reply

      Dear Joyce, I am sorry for this late response.
      If you truly repent and stop sinning against God and your fiance, God will forgive you.
      Do not allow the enemy torment you with guilt.

  • elvis
    Posted at 00:22h, 05 June Reply

    my name is elvis i fear GOD. i want to live holy. i fand it dificult to resist women. wen i told a girl that i can not continue in sin anymore the girl will give me like three days wen she call me after that three days i will still come back ,what will i do to be able to resist women.

    • Bro Darrell
      Posted at 08:22h, 15 November Reply

      Bro Elvis, Gods answer for you is to have your own wife to AVOID fornication (get rid of all numbers of females and change your phone number, move to a new place if you have to…do ANYTHING to AVOID going to HELL and being dragged back down into sin)

      The Bible States, Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 1 Corinthians 7:2

      You must also know that getting married and having a wife will not deliver you from the demon of lust, you must fully REPENT of fornication and ask GOD to deliver you from LUST and GOD is FAITHFUL and HE will deliver you…

      You CAN have a new life in Christ, its possible to overcome lust, many others have been delivered and you can too. Amen

  • Chinaza
    Posted at 09:15h, 26 May Reply

    Thank you so much, Ugochi for this article, God bless you. I have this problem with lust. My mother’s husband’s sister’s son came to stay with us(my mum’s husband had died before I was born) I wouldn’t say he’s my cousin as my mother was only married to his mother’s brother but my dad is completely different. I never had feelings for him but lately, I began lusting after him. I’ve been having affairs with him (no penetration though) and I feel most guilty about it. I would decide never to do so again but after some time, I’d find myself in it. I don’t know what to do, whether it’s necessary to tell my family about my affair with the guy or just quit everything and not telling them. I feel like the worst person on earth and a very big disappointment to God. Please I need reply. What do I do please

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 09:29h, 26 May Reply

      Right now, what matters is that you stop sexual sin with this person. If telling your family will help, then go ahead. The most important thing is that you apply everything written in this article, if you do so with a genuine heart of repentance and change, you will rise above sin.
      God’s grace is available to help you Chinaza!
      Have a super blessed day!

      • Chinaza
        Posted at 09:38h, 26 May Reply

        Alright thank you! God bless you for me and keep touching lives, your reward is in heaven

  • Ms. Martin
    Posted at 04:30h, 12 May Reply

    Is masturbation fornication

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 23:07h, 13 May Reply

      Yes it is, all sexual perversions are sin.

      • israel
        Posted at 01:23h, 14 May Reply

        I was filled with the holy spirit last month and I masturbated a couple times after but repented. It doesn’t happen often in between months. But I really want to over come this. I know God wants to use me mightily! Will this stop my spiritual Growth?? Will it kill the holy spirit in me??? I stay grounded in the word and prayer. Church every Sunday. I’m serious about my walk with God. I just slipped a few times. Need answers please!!!

        • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
          Posted at 01:48h, 17 May Reply

          Sin always hinders spiritual growth. Sin quenches The Holy Spirit in a man.
          But if you genuinely repent God forgives and if you commit to stay Holy, He will be there to help you.
          Work on your prayer and study life, slips always come in when we neglect these two things.

      • Anonymous
        Posted at 10:07h, 14 May Reply

        Is watching porn a sin

        • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
          Posted at 10:39h, 14 May Reply

          Yes it is! You are exposing yourself to the demon of lust.

          • Shaunie J
            Posted at 15:19h, 06 November

            I am asking that you please keep me in your prayers. I have battled with lust for a while since I was a kid.. Finally when I decided to live right and practice celibacy, my God brother introduced me to a guy that he claimed to be a man of God but wasn’t even saved at all. Anyway, I ended up being wrapped up and tangled up with him and ended up finding myself wrestling with demonic lust demons.. We fornicated all the time. We fornicated to the point where I knew I had to stop I couldn’t take it anymore! I knew it was wrong!The holy spirit convicted me all the time. Finally, we ended on, breaking up because he knew that I couldn’t have kids day one(I told him this in the beginning before we got together) and he was still young and wanted his own so he left me. But in the midst of it all, somehow, I kept finding myself going back and forth with this dude for a whole year! When I wanted to leave him alone, he kept coming back claiming that he loved me but then he would turn around and leave me again after we fornicated making the excuse that he loved me but I couldn’t have kids. He played mind games with me over and over! Every time he came to my home we fornicated and fornicated.Everytime my mind was made up that I was done, he kept coming back and I wanted to stop! I know he meant me no good, but my mind told me that I loved him and that he loved me too. So my request is that you please pray for me that I learn to say NO with the boldness of God! And that this soul tie will be broken because this is not the way I was raised and I have young children who I have and I’m sure is watching me too!! All I wanna do is live right and please God, but this spirit won’t leave me alone. I’m beyond tired! Any help and prayer is appreciated!! I want to be free!!!

        • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
          Posted at 01:45h, 17 May Reply

          It is sin! Watching porn brings lust and lust is sin.

        • ndama roland
          Posted at 13:06h, 01 November Reply

          if u are fighting sin and u dont see watching porn as a sin then that is your first problem my dear. there is no sin that does not begin from the mind. all you do starts on your mind. your mind is dedicate in a way that any thing it receives, it will always push you to produce it out(passing unto action).understand that your mind stores every bit of whats u see. your eyes sends what you see to your mind and your mind will like to make that thing go to action.
          our primary definition to is ” anything you do, say or think that does not glorifies God” thinking goes with SEE.know that. when you start seeing those porn acts, your mind will be deviated to acts that are like those scenes.
          To end up with, porn watching is a sin that will lead you to other sins.

      • Shaunie J
        Posted at 14:51h, 06 November Reply

        I didn’t know that. Thanks for clarifying that masturbation is a sin. All this time, I thought it wasn’t that harmful because we’re not actually penetrating, but I’m glad that I now know the truth!Thank you for this passage it has helped me.

  • NZR
    Posted at 00:09h, 09 May Reply

    Hi! This is very helpful! But I need further advise. Can you please email me asap??? GB!!

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 14:49h, 09 May Reply

      Just sent you a mail.

      • Anonymous
        Posted at 15:14h, 09 May Reply

        Please could u tell me how do I know if I’m a fornicator or not what exactly leads to fornication n please help me to overcome all my difficulties in life

        • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
          Posted at 11:45h, 10 May Reply

          Engaging in sexual activities with someone who is not your wife or husband is fornication. As for what leads to fornication; lust is the culprit, the sinful desire in the flesh.
          If you read the post carefully, you discover how you can avoid and overcome fornication.

          • Anonymous
            Posted at 20:11h, 10 May

            Thank you so much for answering my doubts 🙂

          • Motlatsi Tsolo
            Posted at 19:43h, 12 September

            I just need more posts on this message

        • GodsPrincess
          Posted at 04:25h, 12 May Reply

          Read above

  • Rebekah Musa
    Posted at 07:41h, 22 April Reply

    Hello sister Ugochi (sister in Christ)

    My name is Rebekah and I am 19 years old. I would first like to say thank you for your tips, they are really helpful. I love God so much and I really want to do His will but every now and then I get myself involved in fornication.I haven’t actually done it but the touching and feeling is still a sin. I dated this guy when I was 17 and he broke up with me for another. It was during that relationship that I broke my promise of never allowing another man to see my naked body. I felt very distant from God and I prayed that God would end the relationship and I believed that He actually answered my prayer. Anyways, to cut the ling story short, my relationship with Christ was going well but then his gf broke up with him. I ended up helping him to get through the heartache and got myself involved in another round of fornication. It’s been like this all the time. Like I would make up my mind to not see him but every now and then, it’ll happen again. Right now I feel like such a horrible person because God has done so much for me and I always let Him down. I know that I am such a disappointment to God because I give into temptation so easily. I am scared that one of this days God is not going to forgive me.
    Please, my request is that you pray for me. Pray that God will give me strength to stop going back to this guy and focus on God. I want to be pure and I only want my husband to take my virginity. I know that you don’t know me but God can hear your prayers. God bless you and thank you once again.

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 10:01h, 25 April Reply

      I will pray for you Rebekah, but you must do your part and see grace work for you. Follow all the steps listed on the blog and you are sure to have victory over fornication and temptations.
      Have a super blessed day!

      • Chioma
        Posted at 23:44h, 03 September Reply

        Pls good morning ma
        For me to be writing at this hour u wil understand how difficult it is for me to get pass fornication
        I was disvirgned by aunt husband at the age of 17 and I got pregnant he took me for an abortion that almost claimed my life,after then I gained admission into the university then i fell deep into fornication
        Ill promise God to stay a way in less than 1week I’ll do it again am tired sister ugochi I need ur help

    • GodsPrincess
      Posted at 04:18h, 12 May Reply

      First thing is recognizing that you are doing something wrong. You cannot correct something if you don’t think there is anything wrong. So if you are searching for help that means you’ve made the first step. Next is to repent, repent means to turn the other direction. If you were fornication you decide that’s it! No more! God knows you cannot do this on your own. This is spiritual. You are a spiritual being as God is spiritual, we were made in his image and likeness. Ephisians 6:12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms…you cannot come against spiritual things with a carnal mind and. Carnal weapons. Our weapons is prayer, fasting, reading the word and attending a church. The only way to overcome is by the renewing of your mind (the word). If it’s something I learn is you cannot fight something of the flesh if you are in the flesh. If you are in the flesh, you desire the things of the flesh. If you feed you spirit (in prayer, fasting, reading the word of God, going to church to receive and renew your mind) then you are feeding your spirit. As we feed the spirit more it dominates the flesh. crucify the flesh daily!! I’m not saying you won’t have thoughts or be tempted, but when you are God will give you the strength. Seek Him.

  • Shack
    Posted at 17:02h, 20 April Reply

    Hello, I’m Shack from No Excuses Ministries, I was doing a flyer on fornication and I ran into your blog can you, please send me a pdf of this blog for I can apply it to my site please Thank you

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 09:15h, 21 April Reply

      Thanks a lot for the gesture. Please can you inbox me a little about what your blog does.
      I visited but need some more information.

  • Cobby
    Posted at 23:51h, 17 April Reply

    I really really need ur hlp, so pls email me

  • mariana
    Posted at 21:39h, 13 April Reply

    I keep telling God that I won’t do it again, but I can’t control it 🙁 I know it’s wrong. I know it doesn’t please God. I don’t know what to do anymore. I need God more than He needs me, I acknowledge that. I just wish I could control myself. I’m tired of lying, cheating on God.

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 14:08h, 14 April Reply

      You can control yourself Mariana, if you read the word of God on fornication and constantly think about them and also pray those words into your heart, you will be on your way to your deliverance. Also, follow the steps you read here carefully and you will discover your victory over fornication.
      God’s grace!

    • Rob
      Posted at 21:32h, 20 May Reply

      Stop beating ur self up! Your guilt causes u to sin more! GOD has forgiven u for all ur sins passed present and future! The more u know he loves u the less u will sin! :)) his grace ……

      • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
        Posted at 14:39h, 24 May Reply

        God’s grace is available and it abounds, but we shall not continue in sin because our ‘future sins’ are taken care of.

  • Alexander cross
    Posted at 22:23h, 29 March Reply

    I wish it was that easy,. I wish life is as easy as writing
    Nice article tho, but its so easy, CU’s I’m ain’t seeing any similar experience,.have you ever been in any critical situation where the level of your sexual hormones is making decisions so rapidly? I’ll been there and ma, I got confused. The best thing I’ll pray for is, GOD SHOULD DIRECT MY STEP THROUGHOUT TODAY,LET ME NOT BE IN A CRITICAL STAGE OF LIFE THAT MAKES YOU ANGRY. that’s all.

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 18:48h, 01 April Reply

      Your sexual hormones can be put under control. When you say yes, God will open your eyes to the help He has provided.
      You can win this bro!
      Have a super blessed weekend!

  • Etukudo ekong
    Posted at 12:55h, 13 March Reply

    Please admin. I think I need help.
    Email me.

  • Gift A
    Posted at 11:44h, 11 March Reply

    Thank you ma for this wonderful site! I am getting to loving it the more each time l get to read any of your articles. God bless you more! My life personally is in need of a Help right now & l trust God to show me mercy once more… I sent you a mail ma.

  • Mercy
    Posted at 17:28h, 07 March Reply

    I am confused. I know the right thing to do but I don’t know why I get scared to take a step. I have lived with my with my boyfriend for over a year. I just graduated from the University. When I met him, I lost interest in the things of God.I even stopped going to Church bcos I knew that cohabitation is wrong for a Christian. Late last year, I started thinking about my life and eternity. I knew that I had a straight ticket to hell. He doesn’t believe that we are fornicating. He doesn’t like to hear that word. I made a decision to leave him and start a new relationship with Christ Jesus. But I am scared of one thing, people know us together. I am afraid of what they would say. There are girls waiting to take my place in his life but that is not my fear, my other fear is how many men are willing to abstain from sex outside marriage?

    • Derek
      Posted at 00:26h, 12 March Reply

      Forget about wah pple say .Christ in you your hope of glory

    • Emmanuel
      Posted at 22:59h, 13 March Reply

      I greet my able admin..
      Hello Mercy…
      Be afraid for your own life foremost…the truth is God will by one or more means warn those men out there..please do not be sober for what will not profit you dear,be happy to abstain from evil!the best is always for the best…the bible says (if ye know what is right and do it not,ye have sin)…so cheer up,if u need a boyfriend or spouse,go for the one who your value more than a sex patner..see it is obvious that most girls end up not marrying the one the open up their privacy to or serve..so be strong if you want to make God proud.,its never too late now to go on your knee and ask God for mercy(its now or never)..i thank God you can see the future of iniquity…thank you for going back to God…rejoice i say rejoice

  • Emmanuel
    Posted at 20:18h, 21 February Reply

    i greet my able Admin…….
    @Emmanuel Nnaemeka, times are not always thesame for everyone…what i would love you to do is pray for good and holy friendship….i remember when i was still just 18-19yrs i came to an understanding that what will really call love is different from what was exhibit…the question was how do i know am not lost,huh…i found out that most time 90% of teen and youth go into relationship because of selfish and harmful desires…..ask yourself why you are in that relationship?if i have a way to s

  • Emmanuel
    Posted at 21:06h, 18 February Reply

    With all due respect to my able Admin,i saluate……my dear friends,
    if you have take time to notice,you will notice that fornication is one most dangerous act…a man left for desert cause of temptation of fornication,but to his surpise he still felt strongly that hurge while there.so he noted it…..the only cure to that spirit is Gods word and his fear(remind yourself his wrath),when it comes tell your what God wants and what is word say(for am renew in the image of chirst),keep saying it till you forge

    • Akhona
      Posted at 18:00h, 19 February Reply

      Hi Sir Í am girl of 30 I have a problem with fornication,we dated when i was not born again and we have a child together but now I am born again and we are still in a relationship,I want to stop it but I can’t,and I can’t marry him cause he is q Moslem.please help,I am really not comfertable with this,every time I meditate on the Word óf God and declare that I am the righteousness óf God in Christ Jesus but I’m still not comfertable.

      • Emmanuel
        Posted at 22:36h, 20 February Reply

        i humbly respect my able Admin………Akhona

        sorry to say…what made you think he is interested in you or your religion?….what is your own view on the baby?…..what have both of you decided to do…?…………….

        Dear u need to understand that our mistake can only be corrected by excellence,you making decision regarding what made u err against God is a very vital issue to carefully and watchfully sort out..i will plead with you to sit and prayerfully annalyse things…….

        If i am to be truthful to you:God wants us to balance our action know fully its do and dot…He wants us to be wise in serving him cause;satan is looking for a way to affect the believers with foolish ideas which the bible says end in destruction…..what you think matters aloyt and hes response matters alot

        • Akhona
          Posted at 16:11h, 03 March Reply

          Amen thank you Sir,I am praying every day about it,and I know my God is gonna help me. Thanks a lot that was wise response indeed.

          • Efua
            Posted at 21:27h, 21 June

            Hi Akhona. ..I belive God will direct you as you pout your heart out to our Father. I’m sincerely concerned about your child. I believe you would like to nurture your child in the way of the Lord. May God grant you His grace.

  • Binu singh
    Posted at 03:52h, 15 February Reply

    I am engaged with a guy it has been 8 month but we try to ignore our attraction, fornication but we are not able to do it so it has been few weeks we have been in distance which have help us lot.Do fornication will lead to hell if we repent of our sin does it be forgiven by god or not?

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 18:14h, 16 February Reply

      Dear Binu,
      It is a good thing you have acknowledged your wrong, that is a great step towards God.
      Fornication does lead to hell:

      Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind… 1 Corinthians 6:9

      If you ask God for forgiveness from a genuine heart and make up your minds to do whatever it takes not to sin again, He will forgive you.

      If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9

      Stay free from sin Binu, you can as God has given you the grace!

  • Jonathan
    Posted at 02:42h, 13 February Reply

    surely dis article is very helpful if you can follow it. pls Admin am confused about my relationship and I need advice pls email me @ ubjonath@gmail.com
    thank you

  • Symo
    Posted at 16:13h, 09 February Reply

    help please. Av been in a relationship. wev been fornicating a lot n av been looking 4wad to stopping. I go to confession , seek spiritual guidance but situations cme I find myself sinning. I called for a breakup but that never stopped us from fornicating. am helpless and wonder how God sees me…guilt, darkness n great fear of what really my life is.

    • melli
      Posted at 14:36h, 10 February Reply

      I am going through the same thing i try prevent other sins , do good but find it hatd to stop fornicating especially when i get sexually aroused

  • Akua
    Posted at 09:27h, 24 January Reply

    Thank you for the great work. The number of comments tells us how people are battling with this stronghold. I want to add on to the list of suggestions. If you have the opportunity to live with parents, family or friends (Christian friends) do not hesitate. Living alone is a sign of maturity but it comes with its own temptations.

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 18:42h, 16 February Reply

      Great tips Akua! Many thanks!

    • Uyinmwen freda
      Posted at 01:58h, 05 March Reply

      Wow! I’m superb about ur post ma. Thank u very much for ur word of inspiration. God almighty will bless u and ur household. And most especially may God give us all d willing heart to serve Him. Amen

      • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
        Posted at 17:27h, 05 March Reply

        Praise God Freda! I am so glad it blessed you so.
        Have a super blessed weekend!

  • Franca
    Posted at 19:28h, 23 January Reply

    Hi, I am a single lady of 26yrs. I have dated a total of 5 guys since I was 19 yrs and I have slept with all of them. I love having sex but I know it’s wrong and I feel guilty after each act. Every time I have the urge, I watch porn and masturbate. Am dating a guy at the moment and we are fornicating, am scared that if I stop he will leave me. I know God is not happy with what am doing. Please how do i stop. How do i stop having these urges.

    • Emmanuel
      Posted at 17:50h, 12 February Reply

      please i beg of you stop at once..when its come to adultery or any thing sex,it will take more than confession,it need your right stand ,you need to sit and ask yourself the gain or how it all have affected your life for good…men will troop in for any woman but not for her ugly side..am not trying to tell you its going to be easy,it would not.but you need to know thats what defines you (and truly who are you)….sit and look your past ,present and future tell me who will you be?

    Posted at 22:17h, 29 November Reply

    PLS spying at a girl in d bathroom IS IT fornication..?

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 12:40h, 30 November Reply

      Lust is a sin. Besides, when you think it, Jesus said it is as bad as doing it.

      • Iwuji c Francis
        Posted at 10:28h, 02 December Reply

        Admin, I need help on how to. Avoid. The sin of fornication always want to have sex all time, and each time I make. Up. My mind not to temptations. Keep. On. Coming. I need help. Thanks

        • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
          Posted at 11:23h, 02 December Reply

          Dear Francis,
          If you dilligently read and observe the suggestions on this article, you will be on your way to winninf the battle over fornication. If there is something more you would want to discuss, please send me a private mail at teshuva7@gmail.com
          God bless and keep you!

  • mary
    Posted at 17:18h, 16 November Reply

    I do have one man who always give me money but want to have sex with me, some time I will avoid him completely but due to one reason or the other I will go back now I really want to be completely surrender to Christ how will I avoid him? because I have even told him I want to work for God he should continue helping me I will pay him back wen I have he was not happy over it. please advice me.

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 15:14h, 17 November Reply

      Hello Mary,
      You do not have to sell your body to any man to make money. There are millions of ways you can make money without sinning against God.
      Any man or thing that will make you anger God wants to destroy you. You must flee from that man and never go any where near him again.
      Send me a mail at teshuva7@gmail.com so we can talk some more.

      • Denisepleadtheblood
        Posted at 12:59h, 19 November Reply

        Hello Mary, at one time of my life I been there right where you are. The bible say that we all have sin and come short. Understand it takes a well made up mind to serve the Lord. Whether you’re relationship was for the money or just wanted to be loved. Sometimes we as women missed a lot growing up especially if it was no Father in the home and that may not have been your case but never the less God want us to live a life that is pleasing to Him and so does the devil
        God says that he that comes unto me I will no other wise cast him out God will give you the ability to resist the devil. He know that we can’t do it by ourselves when you pray and tell God I need your help and help me because I can’t help myself and God if you don’t help me um gonna mess up He then comes in to your aid and gives you what you need because he knows your heart. God will help

  • Valisa
    Posted at 03:46h, 16 November Reply

    I really find your post here very helpful. I am a 43 year old woman who has been saved for some years now. I long to be married but as I grow older I am not confident that I will be blessed to get married and so I have been in relationships where I have fornicated because I don’t want to be alone and I desire companionship. I don’t want to be alone and every time I tell someone I am celibate they leave and then I am alone again. I want to obey God, but I want marriage too and I feel like I am too old now to get it.

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 15:18h, 17 November Reply

      I understand the need for you to have companionship but sacrificing your relationship with God and eternity with Him for your emotions and feelings would be the biggest mistake anyone could make.
      If you make up your mind to stay away from such men and honour God with your body, He will send His man your way. The one who would lead you in obedience to God’s word, the one who will love you like He(God) does.
      You can email me at teshuva7@gmail.com so we can talk come more.

  • oluwola olayinka
    Posted at 14:39h, 15 November Reply

    Hello ugochi please I have some little problem with me dat make me to be nervous dat can God forgive me again, couple of years ago I gave my life christ but nothing changes in my life. I do fornication everyday on Sunday I will still go to church to give my life to christ. But my fornication is not dat I slept with a girl but I do watched porn movie on Internet and I will masturbate.

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 15:20h, 17 November Reply

      I am glad you know that what you do is wrong and desire to stop. God’s grace is available and He has given you power to overcome every sin.
      If you follow the article you will be able to undo that desire and replace it with the desire and power to overcome.
      Will talk to you some more.

      • Dee
        Posted at 08:16h, 13 December Reply

        Thank you I needed to see this it is good to know that I’m not the only one who suffers with this I will follow those instruction and take advantage thank you

  • Tanyu Elvis
    Posted at 00:09h, 06 November Reply

    Brethren We Should Be Careful With The Devil After Confessing Jesus Christ. Be Ready To Say “NO” To Any Past Sexual Relationship(s) Because “…The Old Has Gone And The New Has Come”.When I Came To Know Christ And Understanding 2 Cor 5:17 As I Quoted, It Didn’t Cost Me Anything To Say “NO” To A Girl I Wanted To Marry And We Loved Each Other Very Much. But Did That Relationship Begin In Christ? Certainly “NOT”. There Was Need To Be Completely Renewed. So When You Have Said YES To Jesus, Get Rid Of Your Old Self Completely And Swiftly. You Can If You “WILL”. And Please Watch Out For Your Old Relationships Because They Are Potential Traps Of The Enemy For You. Some Will Pretend That They Have Repented Just To Get You. And “If After They Have Escape The Pollutions Of This World…And Are Again Entangled There In, The End Will Be Worse For Them..” 2 Peter 2:20. You Can Only Win This Race By Fighting It With The Sword Which Is The Word Of God, Read It And Meditate On It.Please RUN For Your Dear Life(Eternal)

  • Sharee
    Posted at 17:00h, 02 November Reply

    Hi..im a 17 yr old christian and my boyfriend and i fornicate a lot but we are trying to stop. I feel inspired by what you wrote but my fear is tht it might be too late. I missed my period and thnk i may be pregnant. Need advice plz. What should i do?

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 17:08h, 02 November Reply

      Hello Sharee,
      First, it is not too late to stop. The enemy might be telling you to keep on fornication, you might be pregnant after all. Don’t listen to him. God is watching to sèe your next move and a move towards obedience would be the best for you.
      Second, go for a pregnancy test to confirm if you are truly pregnant.
      Third, if you are DON’T KILL YOUR BABY! Seek support…
      Please email me at teshuva7@gmail.com so we can talk some more.

  • Peter
    Posted at 01:21h, 24 October Reply

    Hello admin. Plz i really need ur help i feel am finish. I hate havin sex but i find my self doin it i give my life 2 christ every day but still find my self goin back after a period of time. Plz help me am loosing my destiny. Plz i dnt knw wer 2 start from plz help me am supposed 2 be in my finar year now in medical school but, dis has been my set back plz help me. Can i still go 2 medical school? Plz u can text me plz i really need ur advice. My spiritual life is really goin down. Plz dis is my number u can send it. 09051805535. Plz

  • Ebenezer
    Posted at 09:53h, 21 October Reply

    please I am a guy found my self in many adultery and at dis present time I av a very serious relationship but I am having numerous gfs which av committed adultery with now I want to leave them all and concentrate on my relationship, I never touch my fiance we had nothing together ,we hardly spend stone togeda, please advise me how can I go about it? how will I tell the other girls I am of Christ now we can’t be together again? please I really love God and like seriously a worker in d vineyard of God… please I want to work for God the more, advise me please…. thank you will b waiting for your reply

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 14:12h, 21 October Reply

      You know Eben, your life depends solely on the choices you make from now on. Thank God you have made the choice to follow Christ, your past is past but your future now depends on the choices you make from now on.
      As for how you will tell the other girls… first tell the one you are presently with that you had so many girls but have nothing to do with them anymore. Then go ahead and call all the other girls one after the other and let them know that you are now in Christ and do not wish to continue sinning and offending God.
      Now it is not easy, but it is something You MUST do and immediately too.
      God will help you as you make up your mind to live for Him only.

  • Aderonke
    Posted at 00:17h, 20 October Reply

    hello admin,
    I have dated a lot of guys but only had sex with one in 2013, but I broke up with him 15months ago because I don’t want to continue fornicating. The point now is even after I broke up I still kissed two guys whom I wasn’t dating. I want to be a changed person but I easily have feeling for guys. I clocked 20 this month and I really want to start a new life. Please advice me and is there still hope for me to meet a good man? please reply

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 14:19h, 21 October Reply

      Hello Aderonke,
      First of all, YES, there is plenty of hope for you to meet a great man.
      Firs things first, you must accept Christ as your Lord and Master, you must submit your will completely to Him. Only The Blood of Jesus can cleanse and change any person.
      Please email me at teshuva7@gmail.com so that we can talk some more.

  • olohi
    Posted at 08:15h, 17 October Reply

    Hello Ugochi,
    thanks for this wonderful topic. I laid back again after i promised God still i get married.for over 14 years of my teenage life has being trapped in this. i decided to not do this again when i got into the university. And since then,i did not for over 5 years. Now i fell,i have asked God for forgiveness. Please i need scriptures and studies in the bible to stay in God. He loves and he wants to use me.please help me. Thank you ma for your soon response.

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 13:21h, 19 October Reply

      Dear Olohi,
      If you meditate on the scriptures I have shared in the post, you will overcome. If you follow the advice given as well, you will overcome. God is on your side and He is able to keep you!

      Now unto him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy, Jude Verse 24

  • Miss Anonymas
    Posted at 08:42h, 16 October Reply

    Dear Ugochi

    i am in a relationship of 3 years 6 moths,when i met this guy,i was a prayerful person, stayed a year with him without fornicating,after that i felt m making him suffer for what he does not believe in,so i gave in,we started fornicating,he was not a christian at the time and he was drinking. but in my fornicating, i prayed so hard, i prayed for him to change, bt it seemed my prayers were not being answered. and i stopped praying for him,bt instead i prayed to God to make my heart hate him,so as to make it easy for me to leave him because i really loved him bt i knew if he ws to get btwn me and God then he is not worth it so i ws silently working on how i ws gonna leave him, one day i invited to an all night prayer,it ws good he enjoyed,bt he still went back to beer(i ws stil praying my dangerous Prayer for leaving),i kept on inviting him till he came to me and told me he wants to leave sex,leave beer and give his life to Christ…that was after another year. Write now we both struggling to stay pure,we can stay a few months without fornicating bt we always go back to it…we always praying and asking for forgiveness from God,it almost feels we deceiving Him,sometimes i cnt pray thnking i am not even worthy to call Him “Father”…I hate sin!!

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 11:50h, 16 October Reply

      My sister,
      I sincerely think you need to run away from anything that keeps you away from God. It sounds hard but you know, God gives us our will to choose between Him and any other person or thing.
      I pray you understand and choose to depend on God’s grace as you make the right choice.

  • Nonso Arizona
    Posted at 13:12h, 10 October Reply

    Hello, Ugochi!

    What a wonderful piece you’ve shared with your readers/followers. May God continue to give your more knowledge to convey those that seek Him, in Jesus’ name. Amen! Well, I remain immensely grateful to God for the power He gave me to resist fornication some three years ago, though the temptation keeps coming – but there’s always an escape route. Praise God! However, I’m burdened in my heart at the moment about a young lady in her twenties, a member of my church, whom I fell in love with. Ugochi, judging by human perceptions she’s so fit for a wife. We do love each other and we hope to get married some day, if God wills. But, I realised that I made a mistake at some point when I hurriedly told the lovely girl that I would love to marry her even before the awareness of my pastor and having not prayed well enough. I admit that ill step, sir. Afterwards, when this information came to him (my pastor) he was so disappointed in me and said that I drifted. I went and apologized to him, confessing that I had been waiting for the right time to tell him about the relationship.
    But, in the process of counseling me, he raised an issue about the girl which I found so worrisome and ‘unfair’. But, before my conversation with him I’ve had a couple of contrasting dreams about the girl. In one of them, I found her in my room with cheery smile on my face and I shifted on my bed for her to lie beside me. On the other ones, we had misunderstanding and when I asked her to come so that we would make peace she was reluctant; and in the latest one I saw her adorned in white gown (like a wedding gown) coming towards me, but she walked past me without showing any sign of familiarity. Really, I believe that dreams should never be taken lightly whether they seem good or bad, and I understand that their are familiar spirits which the devil deploys to deceive and put man in a state of perplexity. But my concern here is about what my pastor said about the girl’s spiritual identity. He first asked me how much I knew about the girl and I incoherently answered him what I can’t even remember. Then he said that the spirit of fornication trails the girl. I mean, I didn’t quite get that. Ugochi, this girl and I took it upon ourselves to seek God with our whole hearts believing that whatever beautiful love we share can only be protected and preserved by God, coupled with many other things we aspire to do for God as our worship unto Him for the rest of our lives. Also, we declined from sexual intercourse because we want God to have good basis for bringing us together and we have some measure of fear for God. I’m sobbing as I’m sharing this story of my live with you. We are so fond of each other! When she sees me, she shows an infallible joy by the beautiful smile that reflects on her face as if I’m her world. Indeed, she’s beautiful even on the inside, by my evaluation. When I had no cloths she bought some for me. We fast (even dry) and pray together. We keep encouraging each other with kind words and positivity. I love her so much! We flood our WhatApp with beautiful words, like no man’s business. We always make out time to keep our communication waxing. Any time we sense that we are becoming so encumbered to each other, we would agreeably separate and seek God. We keep reiterating every now and then how much we need God in our lives, and that kind of keeps us together. Honestly, I have quite a lot to say about us but I feel that I’ve bugged you already with my over worded story. Please, kindly advice me on this as the spirit of the Lord directs you – God bless you!

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 10:15h, 12 October Reply

      I’ll inbox you Nonso.

      • Nonso Arizona
        Posted at 18:14h, 16 October Reply

        Hi, Ugochi! I’m pleased that you acknowledged my comment – thank you! But, I’ve been having some challenge trying to login to my account. So, I want to give you an alternative e-mail address to write me: nonnynwang@yahoo.com; it similar to the previous one and so unique to me….hahaha! About my story, I have quite a lot to discuss with you because many things are springing up and they seem to be tilting to our (my beloved and I’s) favour. However, I would love it to read your first reply on the first version of my story (which already know about) and then I’ll brief you on subsequent events for further counselling, and this time in confidence. And quickly I want to apologize for any inconvenience you will go through repeating your reply but this time to my new e-mail address. I believe that our heavenly Father is sustaining you and your beloved family; thanks, once again.

      • Joselyn
        Posted at 00:43h, 16 April Reply

        Ma, I believe when a question is asked it is most likely something not peculiar to the asker as the Ans you share can help a thousands of others.

        Not asking for mails not to be sent. Just believe that an Ans should be given for d sake of the general readers.

        God bless you ma

  • Nail
    Posted at 05:29h, 08 October Reply

    I am in a complicated relationship with this guy I love and he loves me too but I want to stop fornicatinf with him. When he is not around am able to stay of sex but when he comes around I fall. I feel breaking up with him will help me stop but am scared to break it off.

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 09:39h, 08 October Reply

      I believe that anything or person that will hinder your relationship with God should not be tolerated. This may sound rude but it is the truth. Do not be scared, God will heal you and bring you to the man He has prepared for you.
      Obeying God will always position you for favour.

  • Niron
    Posted at 01:35h, 19 September Reply

    It’s very helpful for me

  • fanny
    Posted at 22:07h, 18 September Reply

    heylloo everyone. pls I seriously need help. I was raped as a child and never mentioned it to anyone till now. it’s been affectionately me greatly. I don’t have any feelings having sex, even it’s just to please the man in question. it really meant nothing to me since I considered the most important moments ‘virginity’ being taken away without me even being able to recall. I really need my conscience back. I also have a fiance now we had known each other for about 4yrs before he proposed. we used to have sex once in a while. but since he proposed and I became a ‘born again’, I have come to take the decision of no sex till marriage. it troubles my mind all the time coz now know it’s wrong to have sex before marriage. confused if I should abstain and go on or cancel the proposal,

    • Benjamin
      Posted at 14:34h, 05 October Reply

      My dear, my opinion though…
      I think you should abstain totally and move on with the relationship but if your man insist on the sex then let him go. Because its just gonna continue to be one sin upon another.

  • Ernest Gyan
    Posted at 10:46h, 18 September Reply

    Hello Dear,
    I am struggling with fornication and it is causing a great despair in my life. I am a Christian who takes delight in worshipping the Lord. I live with my parents and I was able to stay pure in life until they brought in a lady from my hometown to stay with us. She has been so tempting and I have been falling for her even though I pray that I will be able to resist temptations but I still fall. I know I have tried so much to flee from fornication, I pray for forgiveness of the sin so often that I think God is pissed off with me. Why should I be committing the same sin repeatedly and be asking for forgiveness all the time. Please I need your advise, I find it difficult to pray now since it seems I’m deceiving God. Sometimes I fast for forgiveness of sins but I get caught into the same trap immediately I break the fast. Now I am confounded, I do not know what next to do

    • Victor
      Posted at 00:49h, 06 October Reply

      Hello Gyan, I just want u to know and understand that God does not get pissed up with us any longer after Jesus has borne all our sins and condemnation on the cross of calvary, Jesus has brought us abundant Grace..despite our sinfulness, God still so much loves us and care about us though He hates sin. He has exhausted all His anger on d body of Jesus Christ on the Cross. Get closer to God with faith in d Grace of Jesus and believe that you are the righteousness of God through Jesus Christ. God Bless You.

      • theresa
        Posted at 19:59h, 13 October Reply

        victor I love ur answer.be blessed.no matter our weakness we re still the righteousness of God through Christ.once we know it it ll be easy for us to stand firm.

    • Emma Fekoya
      Posted at 09:59h, 30 November Reply

      Victor has answered well, but I just want to state this that SEX is for Marriage and Marriage is for Sex. Therefore, in addition to all the scriptural passages quoted I need us to see and understand 1 Corinthians 6:18 FLEE FORNICATION………………
      Sex outside marriage does not understand any language. The only method to handle it, is to take a drastic step of FLEEING! Joseph applied it. Stop trying, talking, tonguing, casting out, binding etc. FLEE!

  • Anonymous
    Posted at 10:26h, 28 August Reply

    Dear Ugochi, Thank you so much for this your post. I am one lady who loves God but then I am in a relationship that I was involved in fornication once with the guy and I fought with my conscience through that period and asked God for forgiveness. I tried to explain to him how I will not want to ever commit fornication again and he says it will be very difficult for him but he will try. What do you advise I do, should I hold on to this relationship or do I RUN?

  • Mevis Aurell
    Posted at 14:25h, 12 August Reply

    Sometimes I feel like what am doing is wrong and want to quit fornication…but then I feel like I will lose him to someone else.He argues about fornication and feels that it is right to do it though I know that it really affects him.and his commitment to church is very weak since we decided to engage in fornication. We’ve known each other for over three years now…please help
    Waiting for your reply soon

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 09:30h, 13 August Reply

      Hello Mev,
      There are times in our lives when we have to make tough decisions. This one of those times. You must choose what is more important to you, keeping this man or losing God and heaven.
      When you choose God above all, He will give you His best man, one that loves Him and lead you to obey Him.
      Any man who encourages you to sin and offend God does not love you. And he definitely does not love God too. Plus, you should have nothing to do with such a man.
      I know your emotions are all entangled and you feel like you cannot live without him. The devil sells lies to us and our feelings are many times contrary to God’s words.
      But I promise you, living in peace with God will bring you great joy, peace and satisfaction.
      It is not easy Mev, but you can do it… I can help walk you through it.

      Please if you need to talk further, send me a direct mail @ teshuva7@gmail.com

  • daniel sackey
    Posted at 18:54h, 10 August Reply

    I love it and l
    I have learnt a lot from it
    thank you very much

  • Naa
    Posted at 09:14h, 09 August Reply

    I am a girl of 28 years, I don’t know a boyfriend but guys I consider my friends all want to sleep with. Most of them makes it feel it they are in love and care and is ok. I really want to stop but the only solution is to let them all go and am scared to be alone with no one around. What do I do

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 09:08h, 11 August Reply

      Naa, I understand your fears. But I know it is better to be alone with God than to have friends and be with the enemy.
      Let them all go and make friends with God. God will will send you godly and genuine friends.
      Have a super blessed day!

    • Felix Pius
      Posted at 09:06h, 31 August Reply

      good morning to you all. God bless the author of this article in Jesus name. please I would like you to email me @Ugochi Jolomi because I want you to come teach some teenagers about fornication, you can email me::

      @felixpius2015@Gmail.com and please email me @Amaa

  • Goodness A I G
    Posted at 18:35h, 05 August Reply

    pls, help me out I used to fornicate once in a while. I ve been battling with this, and each time I do it, i filled perplex and I fill something ve been taking away from me. pls, people of God what can I do?

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 09:10h, 11 August Reply

      Hello Goodness,
      If you follow the steps you have read, God’s grace will enable you.

  • odofin funmi
    Posted at 20:14h, 01 August Reply

    I have a boyfriend, he doesn’t stay in Nigeria, and while he was around, we have sex, but now his not around, he want me send him pictures of my body, this I do before, but now I think my conscience is telling me it’s wrong, is it really?

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 14:04h, 03 August Reply

      It is wrong. There are things that are not decent and this is one of them. It is pornography and pornography is wrong. Both of you ought to wait till after marriage to see eachother’s “bodies” and when it is that time it will not have to be over the WEB or any form of social media.
      Plus, fornication is not approved by God as you have read, so I strongly counsel that love for God and desire to please Him should compel both of you to stop.
      I will keep you in my prayers Funmi, nothing is impossible with God.

  • Emmanuel Nnaemeka
    Posted at 13:29h, 04 July Reply

    am 19 and have been into a relationship since last 2yrs during my s.s.c.e, to be frank i have never indulged in sexual immorality ever since then,now friends are influencing me seriously and i have fallen a victim of the principle “do not touch”cos i d’huge her these days and that have polluted my thoughts a little bit though sex haven’t come into play i feel guilty…….especially when i kissed her just because we were positioned in an isolated area.
    I explained things to her and she got me right,should i quit the relationship Or continue in abstinence? i dont want to offend God sexually,please help me with an advise

  • timothy
    Posted at 16:25h, 29 June Reply

    wen i think am alone .is when i always have this challenges.she always come.even uninvited.hw can i chase her .cause i can hold my self wen she is around.i dont want to offend her.pray and advice me

  • Anonymous
    Posted at 03:48h, 24 June Reply

    I let myself go recently multiple times. I feel like I am a disgrace and now fearful that I have ruined my future. I know that Jesus will forgive me, but the acts that I committed cannot be erased from my memory. I am full of regret and worry. It crosses my mind everyday, the acts that I had committed with the people that I did them with. I am now trying to grow my bond with the lord and Jesus Christ and make sure that I repent from all future temptation. I want to thank you for this article. You are a blessing to the internet and the world.

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 09:32h, 24 June Reply

      If you have asked God for forgiveness He has forgiven you but you must now forgive yourself. Guilt can hinder you from your relationship with God. If you carry on like this then it means you do not believe God’s word on forgiveness.
      You should read the article on How to stop fornication so that you live free of this sin. If you follow the steps written in this on and that one you will be equipped to fight and win fornication.
      You can win this!

  • foly
    Posted at 22:55h, 21 June Reply

    hi. i’m 19, and i have technically lost my virginity to my boyfriend (without penetration, but i guess we have done every other thing). the guilt of this has plagued me because it happened twice, even when i thought i could stop it. he is a student pastor, and he intends to go on to bible school after graduating this year, but with the situation of things, he is very down spiritually. i dont know how to forgive myself or him, i feel i’m trapped in this relatnship cos i dnt wnt 2 eva share my body with any oda man. i love my boyfriend. please what do i do?

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 09:43h, 24 June Reply

      Hello Foly,
      I am glad that you yielded to The Holy Spirit’s promptings. If you follow everything you have read, you will be equipped to never fall for fornication again. Refuse guilt, if you have asked for forgiveness then God has forgiven you. You are nineteen with so much ahead of you to achieve, I suggest you focus on your education so that you will not live a mediocre life.
      You are not trapped in this relationship Foly, true love will always do the things that please God only.
      Read your Bible and never cease talking to God, and make up your mind that you will, and can live free of sexual sin.
      You can win this!

  • Dan
    Posted at 23:32h, 17 June Reply

    M afraid now, thinking av lost everything cus of my act of fornication, is there any way I can regain back my glory?

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 13:44h, 18 June Reply

      God is a forgiving God and a restorer too.
      Ask for mersy and start building your faith and life against fornication and as you take those steps God will back you and he will restore your joy of salvation and all that the enemy has stolen.

      Posted at 17:19h, 18 June Reply

      Happy tO find this today
      so inspiring n touching
      may the Blessing of God never
      seize flowing in your family ma
      God bless you

  • Queen kay
    Posted at 12:48h, 16 June Reply

    Nice write up….keep up the good work and may God richly bless u

  • lady lucy
    Posted at 06:39h, 30 May Reply

    Thanks a million admin.

  • cassie
    Posted at 01:20h, 24 May Reply

    I feel like I’m stuck in sin and I can’t get out I been praying for years for god to deliver me from fornication and it seems as if it’s not working…im too weak to do it on my own and I’m just praying he would take the urge away from me and it seems like nothing is working

    • Keona Jacobs
      Posted at 15:23h, 03 June Reply

      Hello everyone We can do all things through Christ who stregthens us. I was delivered from the spirit of fornication and felt relief after I was delivered. I wanted to choose God with all my heart. I thought about if I did it again I would be worse condition. I thought about God dwelling in me and how fornication welcomes evil spirits from that person and who ever he has slept with and those spirits they have given him can com inside me. Pray!!! pray!!! prayme!. Cry out to God!!! You can cast that demon out and the name of Jesus!!! Choose LIFE!! not death.

      • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
        Posted at 15:59h, 03 June Reply

        Hallelujah!!! Amen!!!
        Thanks for sharing this encouraging testimony, I know someone will be blessed by it.

    • Melissa
      Posted at 14:53h, 09 June Reply

      Pray and ask God to crucify your flesh until your husband. Ask and truly believe in your heart and it shall be done. Also don’t even put yourself in a situation where it can happen. Flee from sin. Love you!

  • michael
    Posted at 18:33h, 15 May Reply

    I love dis site am encourage….d testimony of other strengthen ones faith….I fell into fornication not too long am also a youth leader in my church……almost all the ladies I slept with her harlot…..I tink abt these consequence…..bt fail to let go….but I really want to come out….

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 11:20h, 20 May Reply

      You can come out, if you heed this steps discussed. You already have dominion over sin, you only have to excercise it!

      • SEAN
        Posted at 23:09h, 23 May Reply

        Hello I have committed a great sin against God. I am fighting porn addiction and it is hard for me to resist fornication because there is a lady that has the hots for me. I just looked at porn a few minutes ago after I asked God for forgiveness. Now I feel really angry and ashamed of myself. I ask for the Holy Spirit to come upon me to purify my mind and heart but I just go back to it. I think God has given up on me. I have joined 12 step groups to fight this. But when I am alone is when I am most vulnerable. Just recently I was with the woman who likes me and we ended up fornicating. I was so angry with myself that I have been in a bad mood all week and feel like a failure. I want to do what’s right as a I am a struggling follower of Christ. Could you please pray for me

  • owura
    Posted at 06:44h, 20 April Reply

    having promiscuous sex before Marriage creates an ungodly soul tie, which needs to be broken through the blood of Jesus. pray and fast about it, tell God to set you free from this bondage with Satan there is a lot with sex in the spiritual realm than the physical.

  • Malisa
    Posted at 23:52h, 16 April Reply

    Please pray for me I can’t stop

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 11:28h, 17 April Reply

      You can do ALL things through Christ who gives you strength. Philippians 4:13
      Make this your every moment confession!

    • Kevin Rivera
      Posted at 18:42h, 21 May Reply

      Dear Malisa, Its really hard to avoid fornication when your in a relationship with anyone who seduces you or causes you to be tempted, even with a stranger. Think for a moment and think if this sin is worth losing my salvation Jesus has given to me. I struggle a lot with my single life, for I have never had sex, but it’s not easy controlling ones sexual urges. I’m 22, and it’s been hard, but God has helped me avoid fornication by just not being in a relationship, but I’ve had a heavy addiction with pornography, for or would be the only way for me to avoid fornication, but that itself is sin. I always try to run away from my urges, but remember fornication is one that can affect your body. God has been graceful, and wants you to seek him, shout out to him to free you!! I’ll pray for you for I love you in Christ. Remember not to give up, do it for God and your body the temple of Christ. Gby

    • Gudani
      Posted at 16:43h, 21 November Reply

      Abba father !!!
      Help us oh Lord!

  • Arkorful PE
    Posted at 22:14h, 15 April Reply

    please am a true believer of God and even some of the gifts of but can’t stop fornication I have prayed and fast bat still I now feel my giftence has gone and God not with me anymore what should I do woman of God.

    • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
      Posted at 13:14h, 16 April Reply

      Hello Bro,
      I promise you, if you heed everything I have written here, you are on your way to victory!
      Meditate on the scriptures I have share here also.
      When you meditate on scriptures regularly, filling your spirit with God’s word will help you.
      Joshua 1:8

      • Teddy
        Posted at 05:59h, 27 April Reply

        I wish i knew about what you wrote before now.
        I remember who i was before, the devil dare not tell me nonsense i will cast him out straight.
        I knew where i began to fail, i lost touch with God though i was born again but i hardly pray or read my bible, then the devil started creeping in little by little.
        I know i will overcome this sin by God’s grace.

        • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
          Posted at 12:50h, 27 April Reply

          I am excited about your positivity! When you agree that you ca stop, then you are in a right place. And you must know that it is never too late to make a turn in the right direction. Now that you recognize where you missed it, get back to studying God’s word, spending time with Him in fellowship and prayer and never neglecting the assembly of the brethren. You will overcome!

  • Onome
    Posted at 19:59h, 15 April Reply

    Thanks for d post and the bible verses. now i have a new weapon to fight the spirit of furnication

  • Augustine
    Posted at 19:23h, 30 March Reply

    Hello ma my greetings to u, how are u and your family doing? Ma, am so happy to fine this site is helpfull to what am looking for, i have been passing throught this problem of fornication since how many years now and i have pray to God to help me depart from it and also meet so meet some pastors and tell them about it and there prayed for me. But in all i still found myself living in sin..So when i was serching google to know if i will fine any help and i found this your site findout is helpful for me, i only pray to not go back to the old age.. Pls i still have more thing that you will on about my life.. Thank u once more for your helpful site..

  • Nyamekye doris
    Posted at 21:53h, 07 March Reply

    God richly bless u for letting me know this secret.

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 16:32h, 08 March Reply

      Praise God Doris! I am glad it is helpful to you.

  • Shelly
    Posted at 20:25h, 11 February Reply

    This has helped me a lot I know the word of God and I struggled for years I stop seeing him because the bible told me too flee fornication he’s engaged to someone else now and the devil wants me to think I missed out on my husband but I refuse to commit fornication for any man!!

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 09:56h, 12 February Reply

      The devil is a liar! God has a man for every one of His daughter, He will bring your husband to you, just keep the faith.

  • nana twumasi adjei
    Posted at 01:02h, 19 January Reply

    I am much disappointment of myself.i cant restrict myself of watching pornographic because am very addicted to it badly.I have prayed severally to God to put that curse on me but still no avail.Sometimes will be sitting quietly enjoying my movies but all of a sudden my mind quickly aproach and controls my heart to watch porno.please i need prayers because its hunting me more and more

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 09:49h, 19 January Reply

      I will keep you in prayers Nana. You can win this if you continually feed yourself with God’s word and remove yourself from things, thoughts, places and people who might be tempting…

    • Nakita
      Posted at 23:26h, 02 March Reply

      Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak. Matthew 26:41 For the spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power love and self discipline. 2 Timothy 1:7 No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it. 1 Corinthians 10:13

  • koksy
    Posted at 09:04h, 08 January Reply

    i always commit fornication, pls i want to abstain 4rm it. pls i need God’s forgiveness and ur prayers

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 10:16h, 09 January Reply

      Hi Kosky, when you ask God’s forgiveness with genuine repentance, He forgives. Now if you follow everything you have read here, I believe you will deal with it. I will keep you in my prayers.

  • Rebeccah
    Posted at 02:45h, 28 December Reply

    I got into things when I was pretty young. When I was 10 a female friend I had tried to make me fornicate with her. I was very innocent at that age and didn’t know what was going on. I got curious though and then I started going online and accidently stumbled on a porn site. I didn’t really know what was going on there either but I kept getting more and more curious to the point where I was doing some really stupid things that lead me to a VERY dark path. Out of nowhere, I lost everything. I had no one to talk to and no more distractions. This was when I gave my life to God. After this, I had met a man(now my fiance). Before this, I’ve never been in a “real” relationship so, again, I got curious. Now that I’m saved God has delivered me from pornography and a lot of other horrible things of the kind, but now I’m struugling with fornifacation. No matter what I do it seems I can’t stop and I want to so bad. I don’t want to seem like a hypocritical christian because God knows I have a huge desire to serve him. I’m battling but I almost feel as if I want to give up. I know I can’t though. I don’t want the desires of my past to come back, I just need help and prayer.

  • mari
    Posted at 09:31h, 22 November Reply

    Can I really stop fornication???

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 14:45h, 24 November Reply

      Yes you can! I stopped, many others stopped, so YES YOU CAN!

      • yemiii
        Posted at 11:50h, 10 May Reply

        Pls how do you stop when you do it with your colleague

        • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
          Posted at 13:17h, 10 May Reply

          Make up your mind, talk your colleague, pray, and if your colleague.
          Refuse to be in the atmosphere that will allow that to happen.
          Take all the steps you need to take, your eternity is at stake!

  • gustavo
    Posted at 19:06h, 03 November Reply

    Thanks ma..am having serious challenge… am not happy with the path my life is taken. I do things i dont wish to and it hurts after… i dnt feel Gods presence anymore… i need him back in my life… am suffering from the sin of fonication.. i need help..

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 15:08h, 04 November Reply

      Dear Gustavo, if you follow diligently the tips I shared here and also read I am sure you will overcome. I will keep you in my prayers. Meanwhile you can mail me directly if you want to talk further.

  • Miciah
    Posted at 06:29h, 04 October Reply

    You are a great inspiration Mum, God bless you for sharing.

  • Henry
    Posted at 19:18h, 21 September Reply

    Thanks so much ugochi! I just told a girl who had been my sex partner that I don’t need to fornicate with her again . She started sending me text messages, cursing me & my generation but the funny part of it all is ; she texted me that over her dead body I will progress or have a cry of a baby in my family. But am not moved at all b’cos I know I ve got a good reason to quit. What do u think?

  • Rose
    Posted at 04:26h, 09 September Reply

    Hello, thanks for the post. My story is that at a young age, I began watching porn and that has shaped my life into my desires today. I’ve always wanted to know what it felt like. I had a pornography addiction and thus led to masturbation. In high school, I was tricked by a boy to do something I have never done before and that was to give him a blow job. I have done this twice for him until I pulled away. Then for no reason whatsoever, my desires came back and I fornicated with a stranger I had never met before. Also, I was recently in a relationship where we kissed, touched, and had sex OUTSIDE. I feel so ashamed of myself. I prayed and cried and promised God to change me yet I did not have the willing heart to overcome it. I’m currently talking to another man who I’ve had sex with within a week of meeting. Its not that I cant keep my legs closed but its desires and thoughts from the mind like you said. Just wanting to “have fun” but I feel so ashamed of myself. I wish I can go back and change my life as a whole. I want God to take over and heal me but I do not hear his voice when I’m in those situations. I would like to repent to finish my school work then start dating but I do not know how to truly give myself to God and forgive myself, and move on.

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 12:55h, 09 September Reply

      God is more interested in your present and future than your past. And if you call on Him in total surrender He will help you, that is the beginning point. He is the one who has put in you the desire for a fresh start and it is left for you to pursue Him in search of fulfilling that desire.
      Please send me a mail at teshuva7@gmail.com , I would like to talk with you some more.You can overcome this!!!
      Have a super blessed day!

  • Okafocha CJ
    Posted at 14:55h, 03 September Reply

    I have done all could to let go of this mess, but there seems to be a force behind that always pull me back each time. Jesus please take the wheel. I can’t do this on my own. so I’m letting go of my trust in my strength. Jesus please, please, take the wheel

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 16:41h, 03 September Reply

      If you surrender completely to God and avoid situations that can lead to you committing this sin, He will help you overcome.

  • Ss
    Posted at 18:49h, 03 August Reply

    I love ur post.as I speak to u now I want to give up on myself fr failing God.I’m tired of disappointing him n always asking fr forgiveness…I’m indeed reaping d consequences. pls pray with me

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 01:49h, 06 August Reply

      You cannot give up at all, you can overcome this through Christ. Spend time with God in prayer and study of the word. I will keep you in my prayers.
      If you need to talk some more with me you can reach me at teshuva7@gmail.com.
      Stay in God’s grace.

  • bianca
    Posted at 15:22h, 02 July Reply

    Thank u admin

  • bianca
    Posted at 14:54h, 02 July Reply

    I’m 18. I love my boyfriend a lot and I’m a true believer. I want to get married to him next year just to not fornication but my father wouldn’t allow me to get married at this kind of age.can I have a secret wedding and then later have the one with family and friends around? I don’t want to commit fornication

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 14:57h, 02 July Reply

      Hello Bianca. Give me a couple of hours and I will send you an email.

      • Joselyn
        Posted at 01:30h, 16 April Reply

        Ma, I have realized in the course of my word study that marriage comes to play not necessarily because of aging but because of “burning”.

        Many Christians like myself are.encouraged to get married than to have burning passion that makes us fornicate or masturbate or even commit adultery. But in the case of Bianca here, she wants to get married at 18 (that’s if she isn’t already married), even though we would think ordinarily that’s a young age where she should face her studies like her father rejected. Another senerio for adults is where the man they are dating are not financially stable yet even d lady is yet to gain financial stability and as such waiting till then for marriage.

        The questions now are
        1. Getting married to avoid burning passion regardless the age is something. Since marriage ain’t all about sex, with other values accrued to Marriage, should people be encouraged to get married when they obviously arnt ready for the responsibilities but can be saved from fornication?

        2. Since adults who are waiting to gain fianacial balance are still “burning” at their individual levels (thanks to the society), should they be made to get married to avoid fornication (talking from the church perspective and not family now), when they are still struggling to make ends meet

        3. For an adult lady who is dating a financially unstable guy and has burning passions she is fighting with, knowing fully well that the man she is with may need about 3 more years to be stable logically speaking except a miracle takes place), should she leave the man she has grown to love to marry a financially stable man who is ready for marriage regardless of what God thinks of such a man, all so that she stops fornicating?

        4. If great Paul said it’s better to marry than to burn… Then I think we should just marry who is ready to marry us because at a certain age in some culture, you begin to get pressured till u are married. But with many rites and processes, in the western culture some men can’t go tru the stress of legal marriage but will go for the church wedding. My question is how do we cajole our partners to marry us since we don’t want to fornicate seeing all the stress involved?

        5. Lastly, a lot of my friends are getting married already and all of us have all had se* with our partners. But one of us is getting married in 2 months time and she tells the rest of us that we shouldn’t date anyone who isn’t ready for marriage. She said we should go for who is ready…. The question is should we really go for who is ready regardless of how we feel towards the man or should we just wait for our spouses?




        • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
          Posted at 06:02h, 16 April Reply

          Hi Joselyn,
          Thanks for taking the time to read this blog and asking these questions I believe are bugging many single people today.
          My answer is a bit lengthy and the numbering does not necessary tally with yours, but in them you will find answers to all the questions you have asked.

          Let me begin by saying that marriage does not cure fornication.
          The cure for sin is resting on the redemptive work of Christ on the cross, obedience to God’s word and leaning on His Spirit.

          1. Concerning the scripture you talked about…1 Corinthians 7:7-9 AMP
          7 I wish that all the people were as I am; but each person has his own gift from God, one of this kind and one of that. 8 But I say to the unmarried and to the widows, [that as a practical matter] it is good if they remain [single and entirely devoted to the Lord] [a]as I am. 9 But if they do not have [sufficient] self-control, they should marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

          Apostle Paul was a Eunuch by choice, he was talking to the Corinthian Church and us. He is saying that he wishes everyone can be like him and stay unmarried in other to devote themselves completely to God without the distraction marriage can pose. He said further that some people are called to be Eunuchs, it is a gift, they can stay unmarried and not burn.
          He advised that those who are not called to be Eunuchs (Widows and singles) should marry so they do not burn with passion. He wasn’t prescribing marriage as a cure to the sin of fornication.

          Responsibility for a believer includes the ability to say no to desires of the flesh. So no matter how responsible anyone is, if they are not responsible in the area of controlling the flesh, they cannot be said to be responsible. Remember, marriage does not cure fornication.

          2. Financial stability is relative. In my own opinion, a financially stable man is one who has a roof over his head, a steady income, financial prudence, can feed his wife and has a great future. This is especially true if the lady is not a liability, that is, she is virtuous.

          When I married my husband, there was nothing in his financial or material state to attract me. I only saw love for God which was my greatest desire, and I saw a man who has a great future with God.
          He had roof over his head, a job and could take care of me to an extent, at least we had food on the table. I know many other couples like us who started with almost nothing but have a different story today.
          We should marry more for love. Love does not fail, but money can fail.

          3. If anyone has to cajole someone to marry him/her, then there will be plenty of cajoling to stay in the marriage, this cannot be sustained for too long and there will definitely be a collapse someday.
          For any marriage to succeed, the man and woman must be convinced in their hearts not by some cajoling…

          Please remember that marriage does not solve the problem of fornication.

          4. What does your friend mean by “ready”? Is she talking money?
          I believe that money is important in marriage but should not be the “reason” for marriage. Ladies must be willing to marry God’s plan for their lives regardless of whether or not the man has arrived financially. The basics I mentioned earlier is enough to start a marriage.
          Marriage thrives better on love than any other thing.

          If it does, we would not have the problem of adultery. Fornication is sin like lying, stealing, cheating, hatred, unforgiveness…
          It must be dealt with by the help of God’s Word and Spirit. The Bible says because of Christ’s work on the cross, ‘sin shall not have dominion over us.’ So we must fight to put sin where it belongs, we cannot run into marriage with hopes of conquering fornication.
          No person will be with their spouse 24/7, so when his/her spouse is not around and he/she is “burning” what happens? Will they now look for the next available man or woman to help quench the passion?
          So you see, we need to deal with sin like it should be dealt with, there is no escape from sin except by yielding to The Holy Spirit and obeying God’s Word.
          Joseph refused fornication, not by running to get married but by refusing to do great evil and sin against God.
          This should be our reaction to fornication and any other sin.

          For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: 1 Thessalonians 4:3

          I trust that this reply has answered your questions.

          I think you should read MARRIAGE FOR? and LIES AND MARRIAGE. Please share with your friends too. It answers some of the questions in more details.

          Hope to hear from you again. Have a super blessed weekend!

  • Wycliffe I
    Posted at 09:25h, 06 May Reply

    I find this information very vital to me as a youth leader. Its a lesson worth sharing with people of all ages.
    Thanks and may your good work be blessed.

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 14:19h, 06 May Reply

      Amen! Praise God. I am glad you find it so.

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 14:21h, 06 May Reply

      Amen! Praise God! I am glad you find it so Wycliffe. Have a super blessed day!

  • Ndubuisi
    Posted at 13:25h, 29 April Reply

    Hi. Fornication is only as powerful as one lets it – I’ve lost many a battle to fornication. It’s one sin that shatters my relationship with Christ. Perfect example of doing what I will not and finding how much of a depraved state I am without Christ in me. I struggle with pornography thus leading to masturbation but sometimes it feels like I can never fall into sexual immorality only for me to fall into it again. Being unmarried makes it harder but everything is possible with GOD so I fight on. Thank you for your post Ugochi and everyone that contributed.

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 13:31h, 29 April Reply

      It is a big struggling when you try to win over it by yourself. Surrendering completely to Jesus, dumping pornography for good, fleeing every situation that might suggest it with you, leaving friends and atmospheres that aid it… will put you on the way to victory.

      • Ndubuisi
        Posted at 17:27h, 29 April Reply

        Amen. I just learnt it’s not a battle we were called to fight but one we are meant to flee.. Proverbs 5:7-8. 1 Corinthians 6:18 makes it perfectly clear.. I felt very free after commenting and confessing to the LORD.. Thanks again and may the good LORD continue to be with you as you do HIS work..

      • O.k
        Posted at 09:30h, 18 September Reply

        Wow!!! “This kind of blog dey???” Sorry for bad language but am so filled with hope, answers and instructions on the way to go from here on, after reading a whole lot of your posts and contributions from folks like me. My problems can really be fixed by a push of a button.. that’s Jesus! That is what i have sumnarized from all I’ve read here.
        Ma! You are blessed with wisdom from above.. I am unfortunately guilty of almost all the sins mentioned here(masturbation,pornography,premarital sex, fornication, cheating, dirty talks, dirty thoughts…etc) am 31 today and i want to get married so i can stop fornication but i know better now that its not by marriage that i over come fornication but by giving my life completely over to Jesus. Am gainfully employed as a civil Engr. Am an Msc graduate and i live in a onebedroom rented appartement.
        I need Jesus badly in my life because sin has kept me in chains and stopped me from progressing to be the Godfearing man i should be. Am in so much financial mess due to a gambling habit i picked up recently. Am in debt of nearly #400,000 but deep down i know once i repent fully and embrace Jesus completely i will be made free and whole again. But my current relationship with my girl friend has kept me in all these sins and more.. each time i try to focus on God only..she says am breaking up with her but when i try to continue with her i leave God’s presence and all these sins come back and mess me up more..please apart from the obvious advise of Repentance and Godly living.. how do i become the man am suppose to be and who should be my choice for a wife? (An entirely new girl or one of the 3 girls I’ve had and kept on fornicating with?)
        But truth is i want to settle down ma.. i need help.. feel free to publish reply and inbox me more personal advice..
        God bless and happy sunday..

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  • Ngina Otiende
    Posted at 20:08h, 06 March Reply

    Love this Ugochi. I’ve written and talked about pursuing and protecting purity and sad to say it’s not a very popular stance. I think in today’s culture we want to have our cake and eat it, live boundary-less lives, abandon discipline and common sense, “have fun”…and still reap God’s blessings and cover! Such a needed perspective today. (and i loved your post on 14 friends couples should watch out for! On point! Shared it and folks loved it)

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 20:54h, 06 March Reply

      Very unfortunate Ngina! But God will help us to help one person at a time as we let our world know it displeases God and that it is possible to leave sex until after marriage.
      I am grateful to know you loved my couples’ friends post and shared it too. Thanks a lot for taking the time to leave this encouragement, have a super blessed weekend!

  • Paul Hubert
    Posted at 07:06h, 07 February Reply

    Very sensible advice and undoubtedly needed by many.
    Not everyone has the same weaknesses and it is our own weaknesses we must both recognize and address.

    However, as to mutuality in a relationship, not everyone wants to communicate. My wife is especially solitary and private and we know we don’t communicate well. We also married late and are celibate – she doesn’t like physical touch at all! 🙂

    THAT keeps ME pretty safe! 😆

    Another area to address is unfaithfulness – including that of the MIND and imagination – and my fantasies are things I have had to reject. Not sexual ones, but those putting myself into another time (earlier or later) and finding someone who is ‘more compatible’ – when I KNOW God has chosen my wife FOR me!

    So, I confront them and REJECT them and confess to God that all He does in my life is RIGHT and that I have responsibilities, one of the first of which is to give my wife all the love and respect and honor she deserves!

    The PRACTICE of godly love, then, is another aspect of this.

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 08:51h, 07 February Reply

      Wow! Thanks a lot for the lessons you shared here. I bet you and your wife are working on communicating well, God is your help.
      Yes, it is good to confront and not ignore our challenges, ignoring them won’t make them go away.
      I appreciate your coming by and leaving this note, do have a super blessed weekend!

  • Dex
    Posted at 01:44h, 04 February Reply

    Good article, Ugochi.. and i so agree with the last one: RUN. Even if it means leaving your job, just trust God to provide and get out of the situation.
    Don’t forget to check us (and maybe write a guest post) at http://christianstt.com .
    Have a blessed day!

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 10:55h, 04 February Reply

      Thanks a lot Dex. Running is very great at times like that. I just left Christianstt and bless God for all the good work going on there. Let me know how you want me to contribute. Thanks for coming by, do have a super blessed day!

    Posted at 11:17h, 30 January Reply

    This article is very useful I like the experiences shared. but my situation is I fell into a relationship with a lady whom am in the same house. Have tried several times to stop fornicating with her. Is very difficult now because cant leave the house to a new place. help me dear ones what shld I do.

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 23:10h, 30 January Reply

      Flee!!! Like Joseph did, especially since you are struggling with stopping. I believe if you really want to stop, you have to be drastic about it. Take action, physical in this case and run for your life! Even if you have to go squat somewhere…

    Posted at 07:32h, 24 January Reply

    So so enormous……….these articles are true and real……. I am trying them and now they are helping…………UGOCHI….more power to your elbow.

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 10:57h, 24 January Reply

      Praise God Cornell! I am grateful to know you are receiving help from here. Thanks for coming by and leaving this note, do have a super blessed day, love!

      • Ruben Nicolas
        Posted at 15:19h, 29 January Reply

        Thank God for this article im struggling with sexual sin, and i don’t wanna do it pray for me

        • Ugochi Jolomi
          Posted at 16:59h, 29 January Reply

          God strengthen you and help you overcome. May He open your eyes to see your escape from temptations in Jesus name. Amen!

  • edgar machiya
    Posted at 10:55h, 18 January Reply

    l believe everything said is true,but l wonder whether this is practical. Young people are fornicating out there regardless of them knowing the truth.l love God and l fear him.l don’t want to fornicate.l have a problem that all my girlfriends are living me because l don’t wanna have sex with them.what can l do???????????????

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 09:28h, 20 January Reply

      If anyone is willing, God is able to grant them strength and grace to deal with their flesh. We all can do all things through Christ who gives us strength. God is not a task master, He will not ask you to do what you are not able to do. 1 John 5:3
      Any girl that wants you to disobey God is not worth marrying, wait for the one whom will share the same grounds of faith with you. And MAKE UP YOUR MIND TO OBEY GOD!

  • Bright
    Posted at 06:55h, 17 December Reply

    That was truly an inspiring piece. Thank u so much. Most of the time, sexual sins are committed in ‘private’ places, if we can, therefore, eliminate this factor, I believe we will be victorious.
    No matter how ‘strong’ u think u re in the Lord, God will NOT guarantee u complete protection from sexua sins if u don’t FLEE.
    Thus, bottom line is, don’t stay alone with that person. It is always wiser to go to the gates to fight the enemies who have come to attack us than to allow and fight them in our rooms.

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 09:59h, 17 December Reply

      I agree with you Bright. To avoid and to flee is very important in the bid to please God in our sexual lives. Thanks for coming by Bright, I hope to see you here often.

  • Shonna
    Posted at 03:29h, 12 December Reply

    To those women and men out there who are struggling in this area. I would like to encourage you to please be STRONG. Lean on the Father to help you. I know it can be extremely hard when you are used to living a life of sexual immorality. Most of us have, but we must remember that this who are fornicators and adulterers WILL NOT enter the Kingdom of heaven. There are not is, ands or buts.
    That being said, lean on his strength, and as our sister points out in this article, there are some action steps that we must take to avoid this sin and cleave to sexual purity. This also means leaving out kissing, touching, and all those other things “in between” that make us think what we are doing is okay.
    I have learned that having certain boundaries are key. For example, some of the ones I stick to (that are just personally for me, you don’t have to agree..) are- not talking on the phone with men. If they must contact me for a school project or work business, then it must be through email as a first option. (then if not possible, by phone), no texting my phone, I don’t give hugs, only hand shakes to men, When I am in public speaking to men, i keep ALL conversations about appropriate topics (I never talk about my relationship status, children, goals, dreams, finances… I always make sure that I am not like an open book for a man. It can be that for some men, when they see a vulnerable side of you, they can prey on you, even subconciously (not good). I also don’t go on dates or eat private lunches with men at work or school. I go to every length to never ride alone in a car with a man or let HIM discuss his personal life with me (such as kids, relationship status, goals, dreams, family issues and so on.
    Some may think that these are extreme, but when the bible says flee fornication, you have to begin to actually hate that sin! Don’t give room for it nor entertain that evil spirit.
    Everyone’s boundaries will be different but it is best to have some. It is already hard enough struggling against it within ourselves let alone having to deal with outside pressure. Also, it is better to keep someone at a distance ( from the begining), than to try and have someone back off once you have let them get too close and you both then become tempted.
    We must never rely on the strength you think someone else has but make sure that you are not sinning. Lastly, I would like to pose a question to all my brothers and sister that are battling with this. What do you think is that main thing that causes people to commit sexual sin? I have thought about this question, and I will state my opinion. I believe there are many factors, however there is one BIG ONE that comes to mind for both the believers and the unbelievers. BE CAREFUL OF YOUR EMOTIONS!!
    Once you open up your heart to someone ans start telling them about your whole life or venting to them about your problems or how difficult it is for you to be a single mother or things like that, it opens a door. Also when you begin to spend all of your time with someone and go out on dates and let them into your space and cooking for them (like was mentioned on this article), it begin to lead you down a path to fornication in most cases. Please be careful. Dont be so quick to think “oh I really like this person” and then start acting as if your already married to that person. Feel out the situation and make your choices wisely. Once you have already slept with someone, it then becomes harder to get out and its easy to indulge and keep going back and it can easily become a stronghold or in worst cases, an addiction. Please be wise brother and sisters.

  • Nicole
    Posted at 00:56h, 02 December Reply

    Hi Ugochi-

    I was searching for encouragement tonight and found it here! Thank you. My boyfriend and I have already sinned, and I want to stop, I’m not sure if he is completely on board! I feel like he needs to want to stop fornicating for himself, but I am committed to treat my body as a temple and honor God. Thanks again for your article. God bless!

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 11:14h, 02 December Reply

      Amen! You are heading the right direction, and God will help you as you stand to please Him in obeying Him.
      I will keep you in my prayers.

  • brighton
    Posted at 17:14h, 09 November Reply

    I can’t seem to get out of this sin , please help me, I don’t want to die and go to hell, I feel within me they is a great calling of leading people to God but it cannot function as long as I am in this sin, please help me people of God I want to live a holy life and be a servant of the Most High God.

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 14:05h, 11 November Reply

      God has given you the grace to live holy. If you depend on Him and follow the outlines in the article, you will overcome fornication. You have the power in Christ Jesus. You can email me to talk some more if you want.

    Posted at 09:53h, 31 October Reply

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  • james haizel
    Posted at 17:50h, 04 October Reply

    Thanks alot and may God bless you more and more. I pray that God’s grace will forgive us and help us to live as His words says in Jesus name amen.

    Posted at 05:32h, 23 September Reply

    I need your prayer I don’t wish to be committing fornication but I find it difficult and I am very aware that the coming of Jesus is near. Please advice and pray for me because I want to live a holy life and please send me daily advice too. God bless.

    • Ugochi Jolomi
      Posted at 15:10h, 23 September Reply

      God bless you Tosin, I am glad you want to stop fornication, that means God is working a good work on your heart. The article you read is a huge advice Tosin, if you will commit yourself to go through with it, you will not have to fall for fornication again. I will keep you in my prayers, and if you want you can send me an mail at teshuva7@gmail.com and I will be glad to talk more with you.
      God bless you!

  • charmaine
    Posted at 12:55h, 17 September Reply

    I really needed this. Thank you so much.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 13:20h, 17 September Reply

      Praise God! I am grateful you found it helpful.
      Do have a super blessed day!

  • Kareen
    Posted at 14:31h, 16 September Reply

    Thank you for your timely response Ugochi. May your ministry to encourage the brethren in righteousness and true holiness be enlarged. May the blessings overtake you. And may the God that is more than enough (El Shaddai) be your portion. Amen

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 14:43h, 16 September Reply

      Amen Kareen! I pray you will stay in God and overcome the flesh and its desires in Jesus name, amen!

  • Ama
    Posted at 00:29h, 16 September Reply

    I’m a lady and most guys try to take advantage of me, especially when they see that i truly love them. Them. Recently i tried to date another guy and this guy is trying to force me into fornication which i don’t want to do. Meanwhile he is in the church and a preacher I don’t understand why he should be fornicating.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 14:42h, 16 September Reply

      Hello Ama, so many people live in their flesh though they are professed believers.I am glad you do not want to fornicate but if you hang out with fornicators long enough they might influence you. Any man that wants you to disobey God is not the right man for you. Whether he is a preacher or not. Flee from such men, keep your self holy and God will bring His best man to you.

  • kareen
    Posted at 14:14h, 15 September Reply

    Thank you. I came across this site randomly because of an incident involving my child. But as I read I use this counsel for myself. I am not sexually active but it is soooo harddddd! !!! It hurts! This has been the life I was acquainted with not abstinence! Nevertheless I press. I live like a hermit in my home. I don’t really socialize. And my male suitors I keep at a distance as I am a very affectionate touchy feely person. I am not in a relationship right now but I so desire my husband because I don’t know how long I can bear up. I find myself masturbating, something I never liked even before I converted. Now I do it. I am blessed physically in that I am beautiful, tall, shapely and well endowed and talented and I am presently doing my degree in theology, and so I am faced often with men thinking I have a boyfriend or having sex. I have neither but I long for it!! Yet I am afraid of a relationship or falling in love because my sexual desire for him will increase and I know I don’t have that will power. And my past experiences with relationships were meet, mutual like, exchange contact info, plenty communication, and by a month or so sex! So I don’t even know this friendship thing! I feel so hopeless in this area that I just think to just do it and get it over with. Sighhh. Anyhow like I said thanks for the counsel.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 15:12h, 15 September Reply

      Hello Kareen, it is a good thing that you came clean on your challenge. God knows where you are and He knows you have the ability to control your sensuality otherwise He would not say, “For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication:” 1 Thessalonians 4:3 His commandments are not too hard,”For the [true] love of God is this: that we do His commands [keep His ordinances and are mindful of His precepts and teaching]. And these orders of His are not irksome (burdensome, oppressive, or grievous).” 1 John 5:3
      Amplified Bible (AMP)
      If you make up your mind and depend on God, think of the consequences of committing fornication or masturbating, you will buffet your body as you STUDY THE WORD AND SPEND TIME IN PRAYER… following the steps as written will help you put your sexual desires under control. YOU CAN DO IT, if you really mean it and follow hard after God. I pray you make the choice. Have a great week ahead!

  • Igbinoba Lino
    Posted at 18:00h, 09 September Reply

    what is the advice for those who are engaged already?

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 08:43h, 18 September Reply

      This same as what is written in the article. Sex is legal in God’s book ONLY AFTER MARRIAGE, no matter how seriously engaged the two people are. If you read carefully, you will discover that those in relationships were mentioned too. I pray you make the right decisions in your relationship and allow God to be glorified in it. Thanks a lot for coming by, do have a super blessed day!

  • Jennifer
    Posted at 14:43h, 03 September Reply

    Still going through d pain of leaving a relationship i built…I really want to stay away from sexual sin, but i know that joy will come in the morning.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 09:48h, 04 September Reply

      You can do it Jenny, you can overcome if you make up your mind and follow the ways mentioned in this article. I will keep you in my prayers.

      • jonathan
        Posted at 09:06h, 14 September Reply

        Thanks to God almighty for His grace in your life Ugochi. God bless you.

        • Ugochi
          Posted at 10:02h, 14 September Reply

          Thanks to God brother! Thanks for coming by and have a super blessed day.

  • John
    Posted at 15:29h, 22 August Reply

    I really appreciate this article because so many people are currently fighting their way out of sexual sin and with an article such as this one, I think we’ll have a better chance in winning this battle.

    I pray that God Almighty that gave you the inspiration to write down this article will continue to increase you both in faith and in wisdom in Jesus Name; all what you have written will not stand against you in Judgment in Jesus Name. Amen.

    God Bless you

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 13:35h, 17 September Reply

      Amen Bro! Sorry for the late response. Thanks for coming by, do have a super blessed day!

  • Chinedu nwankwo
    Posted at 13:57h, 16 August Reply

    Lovely and indeed wonderful advice to us, but sister I have something to ask, firstly I had an encounter with Christ just last year January in which later I was filled with The spirit of God, but a time of temptation came to commit fornication with my step mother’s house-help which I avoided for some time but a time came when it appeared impossible for me and I struggled but the pressure was too high then I failed, now my question is based on how hard I fought not to commit it, can God intentionally allow someone to fall just for a purpose? Because now I am a youth leader.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 13:57h, 20 August Reply

      My brother, God does not want us to learn from experience of sin, He would rather that we learn from His Instructions as written in His word. Only disobedience makes us learn by experience, and many times experience is a cruel teacher.

  • Jeffrey
    Posted at 10:04h, 26 July Reply

    I sincerely appreciate your article, but would like if you can talk more on the areas of identifying sexual preys before marriage. What I mean is simply that, there are some persons that are sexual traps because of some certain things they do, like the way they dress, talk, mentality, their hobbies and even the places they love going. I think is high time we started addressing the issue of preparedness before dating, some things are unavoidable when some things are not avoided. Men are attracted by what they see while women by what they hear. When women start dressing decently according to 1peter 3:3-5 and the men start talking responsibly the problem and sinful nature of fornicating will be minimal. God bless

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 14:39h, 26 July Reply

      I agree that these would help in the area of fornication. But you must understand that we live in a sin filled world and cannot avoid seeing sin, the men must resolve not to be moved by what they see and thinking of the consequences as I stated would help them tame their minds against sinning by what they see. I however have addressed indecent dressing by our ladies, just click HERE and read it.
      Thanks for coming by and leaving this note, do have a super blessed day!

  • Harripie
    Posted at 21:44h, 21 July Reply

    This is something I find it difficult to pull out from. Cos I really love my Fiance’ and can’t resist him. He has always tried to make us stop too but we end up do it again. We r tired of it. I hope there will be a Change after following d above steps. But its not easy.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 22:19h, 21 July Reply

      If you allow the follow the Love of and for God lead you. You will receive the ability to say no. And then when you think of the consequences you will flee.
      I will keep you in prayers.

  • nathan
    Posted at 03:14h, 31 May Reply

    Ive been having this challenge but then i have realized that all that God wants is the best for me..!!, i am going to pray about it and hopefully, there will be a change in my life, thanks alot, God bless you…!!!.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 17:28h, 03 July Reply

      Amen Nathan! God will if you follow all the steps and lean on God!
      I can’t wait to hear your testimony!

  • hify
    Posted at 19:27h, 11 May Reply

    I was blessed by your exposition

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 17:27h, 03 July Reply

      Amen! I am thankful for this.

  • Lucy
    Posted at 16:20h, 28 March Reply

    A million thanks Anty Ugochi for ur advice.

    But there is a story i was told by my friend that a man once dumped his fiancee on her wedding day simply because she refuse to submit herself to him.

    My question now is; peradventure you were told in a prophecy that the man that proposed to you would remain your husband forever but all of a sudden he let you down just like i described above, should we then say is the work of the devil or a false prophecy?

    And secondly, lets assume that the girl in question had vowed never to let go until after her wedding but due to the pressure from her family members she finally give in just to secure the relationship would God ever forgive her?

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 19:42h, 28 March Reply

      First Lucy, any man who fears God would not suggest that a lady disobey God to please Him. So my take to a Christian sister is that any man who wants her to commit fornication is not the right man for her.
      Second, God’s prophecy will not permit or suggest sin, no matter how “strong” the prophet is. God’s word should always be our standard…
      Third, we should stand with God and resist pressures to sin, no matter how strong and who from…
      Love for God and the desire to please Him should restrain us and we should always think of the eternal consequences of sin.
      Thanks a lot Lucy for coming by, I hope you learnt something and I hope you will come by often.
      Have a super blessed Easter!!!

  • Anonymous
    Posted at 12:40h, 19 February Reply

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    • Ugochi
      Posted at 17:19h, 19 February Reply

      Amen! I am glad it blessed you.
      Thanks for coming by and leaving this note, do have a super blessed day!

  • Becca Acker
    Posted at 19:07h, 26 January Reply

    This is a great summary, Ugochi. I’m preparing to teach Sexual Integrity classes for youth groups and Christian schools, and Lord willing, in some public schools. Through the training, I’ve learned the importance of setting boundaries, which I think is such a huge step to staying pure. In my own relationship, I’ve noticed the importance of prayer and also avoiding the situations that would become tempting. So important. Not easy, but as you said, with God it’s possible. I think you inspired me to write another post on purity. 🙂
    Thanks for speaking the truth, sister!

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 15:40h, 29 January Reply

      Thanks Becca, it sure is possible with God. I am glad you found it useful.
      Thanks for coming by and leaving this note.
      Have a super blessed day!

  • Joi @ Rx Fitness Lady
    Posted at 19:44h, 23 January Reply

    Visiting from SITS! Great post! I feel that the touching is the gotcha & heavy attention to abstaining from it would be very helpful!

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 21:14h, 25 January Reply

      Yes they are indeed.
      Thanks a lot Joi, for coming by and leaving this note.
      Please forgive the late response.
      Have a super blessed day!

  • Lenetta Carnes
    Posted at 10:25h, 21 January Reply

    Hi I found you on the Blog hop. Now following you. Please stop by and say hi when you get a minute.
    Please check out my new Weekly Goals Blog hop. You can find it here. if you would like to check it out. Have a great evening! Lenetta

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 21:11h, 25 January Reply

      Thanks Lanetta!
      Please forgive the late response.
      Have a super blessed day!

  • Becky Moseley
    Posted at 23:26h, 18 January Reply

    I love that you wrote about this. When I first saw the title in the link up, I was intrigued.

    Girl, you got it right on the head. In our culture, we literally need to RUN away from temptation since it is ALL around us.

    Thank you for your words of truth and for linking up with us this week!

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 21:10h, 25 January Reply

      Yes indeed Becky, the temptation is very fierce these days.
      Thanks a lot for coming by and leaving this note.
      Please forgive the late response.
      Have a super blessed day!

  • Unyime-Ivy King
    Posted at 10:48h, 18 January Reply

    It takes a lot for one to dare to voice a contrary opinion about something that a lot of people trivialize or excuse- it takes one who fears God and is willing to abide by His principles for living. I have come to realize, in the course of my walk with God, that His instructions/guidelines are not meant to stifle us, or stop us from having fun, but it is for our protection and our good in the long run. Fornication carries too much unnecessary emotional baggage, apart from the spiritual consequences, and the pains are much more than the gains, if there are any gains to be had. I know it is possible not to fornicate, but first, one has to be willing not to, and also agree with God that it is wrong. Let’s call bad, that which God calls bad and not justify it with our own human reasoning.

    Thanks for sharing this girl and a happy new year to you. May all your righteous dreams never lack expression. Well done sis.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 21:03h, 25 January Reply

      The pains are indeed much more…
      I really appreciate your coming by and leaving this note.
      Please pardon my late response
      Do have a super blessed day!

  • Laura @ Upward Not Inward
    Posted at 16:47h, 17 January Reply

    Great advice! <3 Number 2 and 6 speak to me a lot! I put myself in too many situations where it is convenient. And when I find myself in that situation, I just need to leave...not excuse it away. Thanks!

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 17:05h, 25 January Reply

      That is the way out for me too. I better run than burn!
      So sorry I had to reply this late Laura.
      Thanks for coming by and leaving this note.
      Do have a super blessed day!

  • Anonymous
    Posted at 20:57h, 17 January Reply

    I can tell you from experience that Tip #4 kept me from doing a host of mess that I had no business doing. But…”I’s married now!” Very nice list. This is definitely worth posting and spreading on Twitter and/or Facebook. Visiting from SITS.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 21:01h, 25 January Reply

      Oh me too, and it still does.
      Thanks a lot for coming by and leaving this note.
      Please forgive the late response.
      Have a super blessed day!

  • Christa aka The BabbyMama
    Posted at 14:52h, 17 January Reply

    I like number 2 – which could be applied to a multitude of sins. Don’t invite temptation!

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 17:03h, 25 January Reply

      Yes, I agree. It applies to all.
      So sorry I had to reply this late Christa.
      Thanks for coming by and leaving this note.
      Do have a super blessed day!

  • ebiichyke
    Posted at 15:46h, 17 January Reply

    Very helpful.What about 6 ways to avoid adultery??? I get cold to my bones at things happening in marriages.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 17:04h, 25 January Reply

      Amen! Okay, lol.
      Expect that soon, the rates of adultery has indeed gone bizarre!
      So sorry I had to reply this late sis.
      Thanks for coming by and leaving this note.
      Do have a super blessed day!

  • Annmarie Cole
    Posted at 00:39h, 17 January Reply


    • Ugochi
      Posted at 17:02h, 25 January Reply

      And amen!
      So sorry I had to reply this late Annmarie.
      Thanks for coming by and leaving this note.
      Do have a super blessed day!

  • Susie Jax
    Posted at 23:55h, 16 January Reply

    Great advice!!!! 🙂

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 17:01h, 25 January Reply

      Amen! thanks Susie!
      So sorry I had to reply this late.
      Thanks for coming by and leaving this note.
      Do have a super blessed day!

      • Maria
        Posted at 16:11h, 14 May Reply

        I am feeling lost right now. I gave my life to Christ at 11 years, I abstained and help 1 corinthians 6 as my watch word. I was violated at 29 by a close friend, tried to make it work, it did not cos he was not a bornagain. I stayed singer for several years and two years ago I got married. My hubby was charting the same nite we married in court with his lover-or ext until 1:30 AM, i found out i was hurt, still many lies were unfolding and disloyalties, i prayed fasted, prayed with him, he was still deceitful, then I told him to be honest or give me some space- but he walked away and filed a divorce with his sister’s help.. being hurt, an old friend showed up and helped me when i was stranded, offered some help and one week-end took me for dinner, on dropping me off, i was complaining and crying and in the process of trying to calm me, he began caressing me and still having the wonderful experience of my ex in my head, i gave him two condoms to double and he had sex with me- he stopped cos i just screamed God what is happening to me am lost- he stopped and said am sorry I can’t do this to u, God please for give me, I cried till day break cos while he was making love to me in my tears, all i saw was my ex- husband but I know it was not him, I feel disconnected, I feel am not hearing from God, I feel like I have lost my annointing.. am indifferent.. please advice and pray for me…

        • Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
          Posted at 01:44h, 17 May Reply

          Maria, go to God and ask for mercy and forgiveness, He forgives.
          Then begin doing everything as I have written here, “bury” yourself in God’s word, it has the ability to cleanse you and help you live right. Do not neglect prayers, spend time just worship and praising God, His presence empowers you to live above sin and reproach.
          I pray God’s grace and strength upon you in Jesus mighty name! Amen!

  • Meredith @ The Laundry Can Wait
    Posted at 21:24h, 16 January Reply

    I applaud you for posting something like this, probably an unpopular opinion…but I agree with you whole-heartedly.


    • Ugochi
      Posted at 17:01h, 25 January Reply

      Thanks Meredith, I had to buckle up to do this one I must admit.
      So sorry I had to reply this late.
      Thanks for coming by and leaving this note.
      Do have a super blessed day!

  • Chantal Meade
    Posted at 20:12h, 16 January Reply

    Good advice!

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 16:57h, 25 January Reply

      Oh yes Chantal, we need to hold our vessels in dignity.
      Thanks for coming by and leaving this note.
      Do have a super blessed day!

      • James
        Posted at 13:25h, 01 November Reply

        Pls check your email

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