Life is a risk.
Every aspect of life has its own set of risks and as long as one is alive, we must face and deal with these risks daily. Anyone who does not want to face or take risks has decided to stop living.
Waking up and going out in the morning, maybe to work or school or any other place is risky.
Car crashes, armed robberies, kidnaps etc. are some risks associated with waking up and going out in every day. But this does not stop people from waking up every day and going about their businesses.
Even if someone decides to stay locked up indoors to avoid the risks of going out, he/she is still taking a risk. Domestic accidents have occurred and has maimed or taken lives- fire incidents, falling down the stairs with broken bones, slipping in the bath tub… Even if none of these occur, what about the financial implications, anyone who does not go out or go about his/her businesses stands the risk of losing money, even if your business is home based, there must be some physical contacts needed to grow your business.
Sleeping at night is risky too: there is no guarantee of waking up in the morning. A lot of people have died in their sleep without any sign of sickness or death. People have been shot to death while they slept; some have been raped in the middle of the night while they slept in their homes. Some have been robbed of all they had while they slept in their homes and they have had to start life all over again.
Keeping awake all night in order to avoid the risk of sleeping is risky too. First I do not know that it is possible to not sleep through every night but if anyone is able to do it, then there is the risk of a very bad state of health because sleep is needed to maintain good health. The immune system would be affected and the risk of sicknesses and diseases would be very high.
My point, Life is a risk!
And relationships are risky too; marriage is one of the most risky relationships, because ideally, you are stuck in it, lol! Marriage turns your life around, you cannot remain the same after marriage!
So our focus today is to look at some of the risks of marriage, hopefully that would help you decide if you really want to get married or not, here are some risks of marriage:
You get to get joined to a total stranger! No matter how long and well you think you know each other, you will still discover some strange things about each other after marriage.
There is no guarantee that this person would love and treat you exactly how you want it or how you have perceived all your life that you should be treated by your spouse.
You would definitely have to lay down some things, no matter how important they are to you, emotions, pride, perceptions etc. if you really want to stay married.
You would have to live to please someone besides yourself, you would have to include and involve your spouse in every decision and step, you cannot run your life solo anymore; you are not completely in charge of how you live your life any more.
You might have to leave some of your friends and all the hanging out with the boys’ and girls’ time outs would definitely reduce considerably.
You might have to contend with in-laws who think you are trying to take their child or relative away from them.
And now for laughs:
You might lift the open the water closet only to find that there is a major deposit there, it was not flushed after use…
You might find that you married a too rigid too perfection conscious person whose quest for perfect is almost choking, or you married a too carefree person who does not care one it if the house is all cluttered (courtesy of…) and it gets on every one of your nerves.
You might be a cuddle-me-tight person and find that your spouse needs freedom in sleep or vice versa.
Now like I said earlier, this list is not conclusive but I have a conclusion on this matter.
Like you run the risk of living and are still alive today, you can take the risk of marrying and still enjoy your marriage to its fullest, especially if you allow God to join you to His chosen person and make God, the creator and originator of marriage the center and director of your marriage and its affairs.
When this is the case, then He becomes your risk bearer and I tell you He reduces the risk to the barest minimum and the ones He decides to leave, He gives you the wisdom on how to handle them and make beauty out of your marriage.
So instead of being afraid to get married, no matter what satan has made out of marriages today, be bold and courageous knowing that with the backing of the creator of marriage, you cannot go wrong and you can have a satisfactory and blessed marriage.
For I the LORD thy God will hold thy right hand, saying unto thee, Fear not; I will help thee.
What risks are you or were you afraid of facing in marriage?
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