16 Nov THE RISKS OF MARRIAGE
Posted at 10:38h in Singles' Tidbits 36 Comments
Life is a risk.
Every aspect of life has its own set of risks and as long as one is alive, we must face and deal with these risks daily. Anyone who does not want to face or take risks has decided to stop living.
Waking up and going out in the morning, maybe to work or school or any other place is risky.
Car crashes, armed robberies, kidnaps etc. are some risks associated with waking up and going out in every day. But this does not stop people from waking up every day and going about their businesses.
Even if someone decides to stay locked up indoors to avoid the risks of going out, he/she is still taking a risk. Domestic accidents have occurred and has maimed or taken lives- fire incidents, falling down the stairs with broken bones, slipping in the bath tub… Even if none of these occur, what about the financial implications, anyone who does not go out or go about his/her businesses stands the risk of losing money, even if your business is home based, there must be some physical contacts needed to grow your business.
Sleeping at night is risky too: there is no guarantee of waking up in the morning. A lot of people have died in their sleep without any sign of sickness or death. People have been shot to death while they slept; some have been raped in the middle of the night while they slept in their homes. Some have been robbed of all they had while they slept in their homes and they have had to start life all over again.
Keeping awake all night in order to avoid the risk of sleeping is risky too. First I do not know that it is possible to not sleep through every night but if anyone is able to do it, then there is the risk of a very bad state of health because sleep is needed to maintain good health. The immune system would be affected and the risk of sicknesses and diseases would be very high.
My point, Life is a risk!
And relationships are risky too; marriage is one of the most risky relationships, because ideally, you are stuck in it, lol! Marriage turns your life around, you cannot remain the same after marriage!
So our focus today is to look at some of the risks of marriage, hopefully that would help you decide if you really want to get married or not, here are some risks of marriage:
You get to get joined to a total stranger! No matter how long and well you think you know each other, you will still discover some strange things about each other after marriage.
There is no guarantee that this person would love and treat you exactly how you want it or how you have perceived all your life that you should be treated by your spouse.
You would definitely have to lay down some things, no matter how important they are to you, emotions, pride, perceptions etc. if you really want to stay married.
You would have to live to please someone besides yourself, you would have to include and involve your spouse in every decision and step, you cannot run your life solo anymore; you are not completely in charge of how you live your life any more.
You might have to leave some of your friends and all the hanging out with the boys’ and girls’ time outs would definitely reduce considerably.
You might have to contend with in-laws who think you are trying to take their child or relative away from them.
And now for laughs:
You might lift the open the water closet only to find that there is a major deposit there, it was not flushed after use…
You might find that you married a too rigid too perfection conscious person whose quest for perfect is almost choking, or you married a too carefree person who does not care one it if the house is all cluttered (courtesy of…) and it gets on every one of your nerves.
You might be a cuddle-me-tight person and find that your spouse needs freedom in sleep or vice versa.
Now like I said earlier, this list is not conclusive but I have a conclusion on this matter.
Like you run the risk of living and are still alive today, you can take the risk of marrying and still enjoy your marriage to its fullest, especially if you allow God to join you to His chosen person and make God, the creator and originator of marriage the center and director of your marriage and its affairs.
When this is the case, then He becomes your risk bearer and I tell you He reduces the risk to the barest minimum and the ones He decides to leave, He gives you the wisdom on how to handle them and make beauty out of your marriage.
So instead of being afraid to get married, no matter what satan has made out of marriages today, be bold and courageous knowing that with the backing of the creator of marriage, you cannot go wrong and you can have a satisfactory and blessed marriage.
For I the LORD thy God will hold thy right hand, saying unto thee, Fear not; I will help thee.
What risks are you or were you afraid of facing in marriage?
Please share in the comment section.
Please share in the comment section.
Copyright© Ugochi Oritsejolomisan 2012
SegunPosted at 15:39h, 08 April
I have been blessed by your article. God bless you. I would love to read an article from you that addresses the problems of verbal and physical abuses and loss of deference in marriages. These, I believe, are strong reasons for implosions in marriages today.
Ugochi OritsejolomisanPosted at 16:07h, 08 April
Hmnnn, I quite agree… but God I believe if we listen and obey, children of God will not have to deal with this.
BeccaPosted at 01:34h, 23 July
I like your “Like you run the risk of living and are still alive today…” paragraph. It is such a cool thought that when we are in obedience to God, He will make our marriages blessed!
UgochiPosted at 14:42h, 23 July
Yes Becca, obedience makes it a guaranteed risk! With God every marriage can succeed!
Thanks for coming by, do have a super blessed day!
Gilbert MPosted at 12:45h, 28 March
Thanks Ugochi, i am always encouraged by your messages and for sure u r blessed. Please advice me as a youth on how to live a live full of God’s grace and uphold chastity.
Ugochi OritsejolomisanPosted at 07:27h, 29 March
Stay focused on God, stay focused in His service, avoid friends who do not take God’s word as absolute, refuse to join in ungodly trends, guard your heart by what you watch, read and places you go to.
You can also read my article on 6 Ways You Can Avoid Fornication and 6 Tips On How To Stop Fornication.
In summary I recommend you constantly meditate on this verse of God’s word in in Psalms 119:9, “How can a young person maintain a pure life? By guarding it according to your instructions!”
I am so glad you are getting blessed here, thanks for coming by and have a super blessed week ahead!
Gilbert MPosted at 09:45h, 01 April
Woow, i am tongue tied. Thanks a lot. I will remain focused and continue reading these amazing articles. They have helped me a lot and raised me to a new level..
Ugochi OritsejolomisanPosted at 10:02h, 03 April
Praise God bro! I am happy to know this.
Christina MorleyPosted at 07:24h, 22 November
And perfect love casts out fear. I’m sure you got a lot of people freaked out. Hahaha! Hopefully they’ll see their need for God. Marriage is a tough job, but if you follow the Holy Spirit and learn to love and forgive, then the benefits far outweigh the challenges. God bless and Happy Thanksgiving!
Tina – American mom raising 4 kids in South Africa
UgochiPosted at 17:18h, 30 March
Please forgive my late response Christina.
Following the Holy Spirit is the sure help we need for our marriages.
Thanks a lot for coming by.
Unyime-Ivy KingPosted at 11:36h, 21 November
Marriage is a risk, but it is a guaranteed risk because, once you play it by the rules of He, who instituted the marital institution, you are sure to win. The problem with many marriages is that, couples want to be married, but play by their own rules, whereas, there is an instruction manual on marriage from our Maker. If only we could dare to rely more on our Creator’s manual for life-the Bible, we would have fewer casualties.
I dared to take the risk 10 years ago, and I must say, it’s been fun all the way, in spite of the occasional challenges. Nice share as usual, Ugo. God bless you.
UgochiPosted at 17:17h, 30 March
I like the way you put it Sis. “A guaranteed risk” when in God.
I am so sorry for the late response.
Thanks a lot for coming by.
RenaePosted at 17:47h, 20 November
Deciding to get married seems risky at first, I think because of the many unknowns. You are so right that no matter how long you have known your spouse, something can always happen to leaves you shaking your head:). I’ve been with my husband for 11 years and married for 7 and it is HARD work no doubt about it. God has to be the Head of your marriage.
UgochiPosted at 17:16h, 30 March
Yes Renae, when God is the head all else falls in place.
Please forgive my late response.
Thanks a lot for coming by.
Connie ArnoldPosted at 02:52h, 19 November
Marriage and so many things in life are risky, but those risks are worth taking and with God’s help are true blessings. Hope you have a good week!
UgochiPosted at 10:39h, 19 November
Thanks Connie for coming by and sharing these true thoughts, you have a super blessed week too!
C. Michelle RamseyPosted at 23:17h, 17 November
Very interesting post. I have been married for 9 years and in a relationship with my husband for 16 years. I totally agree that marriage is a risk, yet well worth it when you allow God to be the Head. The hardest lesson for me to learn was not continuing to direct my life on a solo mission and combine the two. Beautiful post. Following from Friendly Friday blog hop.
UgochiPosted at 07:23h, 18 November
Thanks a lot Michelle. I appreciate your coming by, I hope you will visit more often, have a super blessed day!
Goldie UchePosted at 21:12h, 17 November
yeah you are right,,,,,life is full of risk,,,but we hav to take them,,,if it work out,,fine,,,if it didnt ,,,well we will surely learn from it,,,but the is a big defference btween a risk and foolishness,,u need to identify the two,,GOD IS IN CONTROL,,
UgochiPosted at 07:22h, 18 November
Before we embark on anything we should look properly, especially marriage. Marriage is not a game of chances so we should be carfule in our choices, but I agree that foolishness is definitely not the same as taking a risk. But with God, we can handle risks. Thanks for coming by and leaving a note. Have a super blessed day!
Ibifiri KamsonPosted at 02:49h, 17 November
This is very true. Me I am of the opinion that marriage is one of te most beautiful things in the world. Yes you aren’t the same when you get married but I think both partners grow together, mature and thereby get stronger and stronger again. Secondly I like the fact when you talked about all the risks in life. Every thing in life is a risk. Really sunk in for me.
UgochiPosted at 19:57h, 17 November
I am so grateful you got the message, I was a bit unsure when I was posting it but I knew someone would get it. I believe everything has its risks but wit God we can handle them. Thanks a lot for coming by and leaving this note, have a super blessed weekend!
Six Feet Under BlogPosted at 16:01h, 16 November
So true! Just when you think you know what you married!
UgochiPosted at 23:13h, 16 November
Thanks for coming by and concurring,I hope you find time to check in again soon. Do have a super blessed day!
Tessa DoghorPosted at 15:48h, 16 November
God is my help o!
UgochiPosted at 23:12h, 16 November
His help can make it happen and make it successful too. Thanks a lot for coming by, I hope you come again often, do have a super blessed day!
Christa aka The BabbyMamaPosted at 15:11h, 16 November
I didn’t think of marriage as all that risky – since I look at it as work that you put effort into to get those awesome returns. My husband saw it as a risk – it took a while to convince him otherwise!
Chantal MeadePosted at 15:31h, 16 November
Hmmm, I like that mindset.
UgochiPosted at 23:11h, 16 November
I think it depends on how you look at it, I believe everything we venture into has their levels of risk, marriage not excluded. But of course with God’s back up, we can go in and enjoy marriage.
Thanks for coming by, I hope you will check in again soon, have a super blessed day!
Chantal MeadePosted at 15:10h, 16 November
I love this. Thanks. Everything is arises but when we surrender to God, we can trust that He will take care.
Chantal MeadePosted at 15:32h, 16 November
Not arises. I meant risky.
UgochiPosted at 23:08h, 16 November
Very true Chantal, thanks for stopping by,I hope you come by often, do have a super blessed day!
Elle SeesPosted at 13:54h, 16 November
found and following via the hop!! aloha one!
UgochiPosted at 23:06h, 16 November
Thanks Elle, have a super blessed day!
Debbie McConnellPosted at 12:44h, 16 November
Stopping by via the Follow Who Hop- It’s nice to meet you! I am following you in the following locations, twitter, pinterest and liked your facebook page. Great article.. so true even when you think you know someone after marriage there are always things you learn.
UgochiPosted at 23:06h, 16 November
Thanks Debbie, will check them all out soon. Have a super blessed day!