NOT WORTH THE FIGHT - Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
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not worth the fight


not worth the fight“Leave my girl alone” Ron barked as he kicked and cleared the young man’s legs off the floor.
He fell like a heap not just because he was fat, but because he was taken unawares, he was not expecting it and was not apprehensive in any way.
And just as he fell, incessant punches and blows were dealt to him from Ron and his friends. He was too shocked to think much more speak, all he could do was try to keep breathing and avoid a blow to his eye. He struggled so hard to get back up but him against five strong men… His chances were almost non-existent.
“We are not stopping until you vow to leave his girl alone” One of the men said through fiercely gritted teeth.
“I didn’t know she was anybody’s girl, she never said so…”
A hard punch to his jaw stopped him from finishing the sentence “…Well now you know!”
They all scampered and left him covered in his blood as a state police car came round the corner,  that was his salvation; he might have been beaten to death.
I know this might not sound very strange to you; people get beaten up and even killed over a girlfriend or boyfriend. I can also paint a picture of girls fighting or getting beaten up, I have heard some stories and witnessed some too. But let’s make do with this one scenario.
I find it very funny annoying to think that someone would fight over someone who is being unfaithful or insincere to him or her. I sincerely do not see any wisdom in it.
No matter how far the relationship has gone, even if engagement has been announced and wedding is date fixed I still would not get it.
If you have any suspicions or maybe you are sure your girl/boyfriend is having an affair with someone, your questions, anger or displeasure should be directed to your lover not the other person.
I believe so much that anyone who engages in such a fight is making a fool of him/herself.
My first thought would be for you to be sure you are not just being suspicious, because you might be walking on mere assumptions. But if you are sure that you are not making just suspicious claims, you know what I think? I think believe you should call of the relationship instead of fighting over it. Why would you fight her or fight him out of a relationship because you love…? Or you want to go on your knees begging for her to love you, or for him to love you…
I believe marriage is not the cure for unfaithfulness or disloyalty. It is not correct to think that if you two get married it will not continue.
Some people do not even fight, they just go on and hope that after they get married she will or he will stop cheating on them. I really wish I could tell you marriage can guarantee that! Anyone who cannot stay true to you during courtship is not someone you should tie the knots with.
I know some ladies who knew the men they were planning to get married to was “seeing” other ladies, but because they were promised marriage, they ignored it and believed that after marriage, the man would have her as the only woman in his life. Unfortunately, that has not been so in these marriages, the unfaithfulness has continued. Sometimes when I hear some of these ladies complain, I wonder why. I wonder why they thought it would be any different after marriage.
Now I must admit that it could change if this man or woman encounters God in a very unique way, but why would you want to put yourself through the agony of knowing that she is having sexual affairs with someone else besides you, or that whenever he tells you he is working late it is not really true? And why go into it when you already have prior knowledge?
I believe when God let you see his or her unfaithfulness; He was giving you a RED LIGHTS. I truly believe that when God reveals these kinds of things to singles in a relationship, He is actually answering their questions of “Is she/he the one?”
Whatever you cannot handle, if you see it before marriage, I believe it is wisdom to call the relationship off, especially if you have tried to resolve it and still find it reoccurring. And especially with this issue of infidelity that is rocking marriages in their numbers these days.
You should not walk into it with ears and eyes wide open after you have been warned.
When your girlfriend or boyfriend cheats on you, it is not the other person’s fault, don’t go fighting THE OTHER PERSON. That is not where the problem lies. If you don’t deal with it, it will cause you future pain, please do not ignore the signs God shows you, He wants you to enjoy your marriage.
Someone said that marriage is a very strategic decision and requires very serious considerations and I strongly believe so. Do not knowingly walk into hurt, pain and unhappiness.
Do you know someone who ignored this problem, do you know how it has affected their lives or do you have a personal experience you want to share?
Please feel free to share in the comment box further down; you might just end up helping someone.



Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a mentor, encourager and influencer. She writes to inspire you to live a full life. Ugochi lives in Canada with her husband Benson and their children; Joshua, Joseph and Josiah.

  • Ugochi
    Posted at 13:11h, 04 December

    Yes there is a lot of loss of respect but God will help us. Thanks for coming by friend and leaving this note.
    Have a super blessed day!

  • Ugochi
    Posted at 13:07h, 04 December

    Truth, no magic bullet at all. Thanks for coming by and leaving this note, have a super blessed day!

  • Ugochi
    Posted at 12:58h, 04 December

    Sad how it does not really work that way. Thanks for coming by Chantal, have a super blessed day!

  • Prowess and Pearls
    Posted at 23:03h, 01 December

    I never understood that one either Ugochi…the whole blaming the other person. It is definitely deception from the enemy. This is why as believers, we need to make sure we’re heeding the voice of the Holy Spirit. But in most cases, it just takes plain old “common sense”! Thanks for sharing my friend, may the message get across to those who need to hear it! Blessings!

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 13:12h, 04 December

      Thanks Sis, for coming by and leaving this note. Have a super blessed day!

  • Terence donnelly
    Posted at 08:08h, 01 December

    Lucky me I have not experienced such horrors, it would seem the need for respect is lost here, a pity.good post, be well Agman

  • Myne Whitman
    Posted at 04:45h, 01 December

    Marriage rarely changes people, and certainly is no magic bullet for bad behavior. Very wise post 🙂

  • Cindy Saul
    Posted at 16:22h, 30 November


    I couldn’t AGREE more: I can’t begin to tell you how it pains me when I see women continuing with unhealthy relationships because they keep ignoring the RED FLAGS.

    You are right, God will not just allow us to get into wrong relationships, he uses these red flags to warn us that we are going in the wrong direction.

    I pray that people that read this post will not just read but they will take it to heart. This is an important message!

    Thank you soooo much for takin the time to post this!

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 13:03h, 04 December

      Amen Cindy, I pray so too. People who ignore these RED FLAGS do so to their own pain. Thanks for coming by and leaving this note, have a super blessed day!

  • Chantal Meade
    Posted at 15:20h, 30 November

    I’ve seen it first hand. The person just thought marriage would change the bad, not.
    Good thoughts 🙂

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 12:58h, 04 December

      Sad how it does not really work that way. Thanks for coming by Chantal, have a super blessed day!