IS IT ME TIME?! - Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
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There are lots of talk and awareness programs on “self”. We are reading a lot, learning a lot from the media on how to focus a bit more on ourselves. A lot is being said about “me time” and we are becoming very conscious of the fact that we do need to take care of ourselves.

And really I agree that we should, I mean, how else can we function properly in this world if we do not take proper care of ourselves? I do not think a “sick” person can be any good to anyone, society or even himself or herself. But I do have a little qualm about this whole talk of “taking care of me”.
Some people have taken it over the board, which is not surprising because there are people who will always take things to the extreme. Finding balance is always an issue because many people naturally find it difficult to know when to draw the line on something.
A lot of people have so taken to taking care of themselves that they no longer care for others. Women are now having more me times and bother less about their responsibilities as wives and mothers. The men spend more time at the gym, at the club or in bed after a long hard day, trying to “refresh” and their wives and children are missing them and even hardly even know them anymore.
People no longer care about the needy people around them, they are not interested in helping anyone one, there is no longer a sense of community because everyone is just too self-absorbed, because they must take care of “me”, and this is killing our society.
Even the Church is being affected; the body of Christ is no longer what it should be “a body”. People are dying all around us, both physically and spiritually but we have to take care of “me”.
I agree people have been hurt, bruised and wounded in their bid to show love and care. People have been taken for granted when bearing others burdens. Some people have been grossly misunderstood too, and this can lead someone to give up on helping and caring. That is the natural thing to do, but not for followers of Christ, he gave, and cared, and helped and bore our burdens to His own hurt, even to His death, and He commands us to follow His examples.
Let me reiterate that I am all for taking care of self and all, if I am not okay, I will not be very effective in taking care of another, or bearing another’s burden. But if I decide to look beyond my need and help someone else meet theirs, I will be sowing a seed and my own need will get God’s attention because I am walking in obedience. Jesus set an example for us, He put our need to be saved ahead of His need to remain in His glory in heaven.
God expects us to bear one another’s burdens. Sometimes the burden might be very heavy but God will help us. Remember how Jesus carried the heavy cross all the way because of you and I? He expects us to love and care for one another just like He cares for us. When we do we are simply obeying Him.
Galatians 6:2 
Bear ye one another’s burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ.
Once when I talked about this someone pointed me to few verses after this scripture in verse 5: 
For every man shall bear his own burden. 
This verse is no way a contradiction, it refers to everyone being responsible for their actions, it does not mean, we should not bear each other’s burdens. (I just needed to throw this in just in case you see it your self and wonder…)
Please do not be discouraged, do not get to self-absorbed, step out of your comfort zone and bear your husband’s, wife’s, child’s, sibling’s, friend’s, fellow believer, man-on-the-street’s burden. You gladden God’s heart when you step outside your comfort and bear another person’s burden, wouldn’t you like to gladden God’s heart?
I want to ask you two questions:
1. Have you ever taken on some one’s challenge as if it was yours and made sure it was settled?
2. Do you remember how you felt when someone stepped in and bore your own burden for you?

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a mentor, encourager and influencer. She writes to inspire you to live a full life. Ugochi lives in Canada with her husband Benson and their children; Joshua, Joseph and Josiah.

  • Anonymous
    Posted at 22:02h, 21 February

    Indeed the cares of this world is so.strrong on us and it seems that we have forgotten that we are called to care , love and share the burdens of one another. We owe everyone around us love. Only when we love then we can trully care.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 17:35h, 30 March

      Care is definitely an offshoot of love.
      Please forgive my late response.
      Thanks a lot for coming by.

  • Katherines Corner
    Posted at 00:17h, 26 November

    Balance that is the word of the day. Great post. Thank you for linking to the Thursday Favorite Things blog hop. xo

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 17:34h, 30 March

      Always my pleasure Katie!
      Please forgive my late response.
      Thanks a lot for hosting and coming by.

  • @ilola
    Posted at 09:36h, 25 November

    Like everything in life, all we need is balance. Not be on the extreme of either side

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 17:34h, 30 March

      Truth my sister!
      I apologize for this late response and I appreciate your coming by.
      Thanks a lot.

  • Becqui Nicholas
    Posted at 17:48h, 24 November

    There’s nothing wrong with having a “me” time but,when it makes you too selfish and blind to other people’s needs,then it’s wrong. We all need grace to step out of our comfort zone and help others.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 17:33h, 30 March

      Amen Becqui!
      Please forgive my late response.
      I really appreciate your coming by.

  • Anonymous
    Posted at 12:10h, 23 November

    The lord bless you ma,it’s truly a word in season.We ask for more grace to think less of ourselves and more of others,as it gladdens the heart of our master.Remain blessed ma.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 17:32h, 30 March

      Please forgive my late response.
      Thanks a lot for coming by.

  • Judy Haughton-James
    Posted at 01:52h, 23 November

    Balance is so important in our lives Ugochi. Someone should not be so concerned about himself/herself that he/she can’t think of others and help them in their time of need. There are even some who will trample on others to get ahead. The Christian way is definitely one that means that we must show love and concern for others. I am always willing to think of others and help them. Happily I am also blessed to have support from wonderful relatives and friends.I have needed it during very challenging times – the death of family members. Excellent post! God Bless!

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 17:31h, 30 March

      Thanks for your encouragement Judy!
      Please forgive my late response.
      Thanks a lot for coming by.

  • Sykik
    Posted at 12:59h, 22 November

    The grace to carry each others burden is surely needed. There are times I feel like I am taken for granted because the other person knows I’ll always be there

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 15:33h, 22 November

      I can relate Sykik, but we won’t relent now would we? It is unto the Lord and in Love for others. Thanks a lot and have a super blessed day!

  • ccPatricia
    Posted at 04:49h, 22 November

    Hi Ugochi,
    Everything about our generation screams ‘ME!ME!ME!’ I hope we will embrace balance and not forget others.


    • ccPatricia
      Posted at 04:52h, 22 November

      Thank you for the lovely comment on my last post. God bless you.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 15:30h, 22 November

      Amen!!! God help us all, thanks a lot for coming by and leaving this note. Have a super blessed day!

  • Eya
    Posted at 23:53h, 21 November

    My dear in as much as we all need some “me’ time. Too much of it is not good. We truly need to affect other people’s lives in more positive ways. Thanks.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 14:48h, 22 November

      Truth, God help us to love in deed.
      Do have a super blessed day!

  • Auntie Em
    Posted at 02:48h, 22 November

    Like so many things in our Christian walk, we have to have the right balance! Great post!

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 15:21h, 22 November

      May God help us to find balance. Thanks a lot for coming by, do have a super blessed day!