NOTES TO THE GENTS

13 Oct NOTES TO THE GENTS

Ladies are not complicated like most men think, they are just different. It is not as difficult as you think to get along with a lady, it just takes a little bit of sensitivity and determination to make your relationship with her work. Most men say ladies are just so difficult to understand, it is not true, there are men who can be difficult too.

In this post I just want to intimate men who are still waiting to find their better half, and maybe those who have already found her on some things to note about a lady, so that they can relate better with her.
No lady can be just like your mother.
A lot of times men want their mother in their wives. Unfortunately, no lady can do it just like your mother does it. She cannot talk like your mother, think like your mother, cook like your mother, sew like your mother, clean like your mother and love you just the way your mother does. Expecting any lady to be a replicate  of your mother would be fantasy. When looking for a wife, look for a unique person made for you, suitable for you, adaptable to you. Do not look for your mother in every lady, you will be making a mistake. Any lady who truly loves you will mother you in some kind of way, trust me.

There is however a flip side to this, some men have had “enough” of their mothers in some areas and they tend to detest any lady whom they find similar traits in. I would want to say that communication is important in dealing with this. Besides, her motives might just be different than you are thinking, so talk about it.

Women and are not necessary evil!
Do not listen to your friends, or men who say that women are necessary evil. Do not even listen to your thoughts, no matter the experiences you have had, if you allow those thoughts you will view every lady with a bias.
And you might just miss the lady who would have made a very good companion for you. God made women good women as blessings to the men. And there are still lots of true, and genuine ladies out there, ladies with pure hearts and good motives. Ladies who will work at making themselves blessings to their husbands.

Ladies are built to lean on their husbands.
God created ladies as the body of her husband. So a lady, a godly lady would naturally want to be led by her husband. Most times however, ladies battle with this when there is lack of trust and a feeling of insecurity. When a lady does not believe in a man, when the man has given her reasons to doubt his destination and or motives, it becomes a struggle for her to allow herself to be led by him.
So before you get married brothers, work on your leadership skills, work towards providing quality, definite and trusting leadership, this will provide the right atmosphere for the lady you would marry to yield completely to your leadership. Work towards being a loving leader instead of a hard boss.

Treat her like you would treat a precious gift. 
Something that is very precious to you, you would handle with serious care. Ladies, okay most ladies like to be treated like… Ladies. If you would treat the lady you would marry with tenderness, you would be stirring up all the positive qualities in her and you will enjoy her as a wife. Never mind the saying that you must always put the ladies down so they can know their place, this only results to rebellion, you will be unhappy at the results.

Be patient with the lady.
Every lady is like a tender plant, with some nurturing and patience, believe me, she will blossom into a beautiful flower that will beautify your life. A Gardner needs a lot of patience with his plant other wise the plant can get broken, bruised or destroyed.  So it is with the ladies, patience is required so you can enjoy the deep seated blessings inherent in her.

Finally, remember that a good wife comes from God. Lean on Him for guidance, you cannot go wrong if you follow Him.

Proverbs 18:22 (KJV)
Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing , and obtaineth favour of the Lord .

Proverbs 19:14 (KJV)
House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from The Lord.

Okay brothers, sisters and friends, what think you? What more can you add to this notes? Go on and speak up! Just scroll down to the comment box and leave your thoughts…