FEEL THE PAIN - Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
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I could cry and groan in pain as I sit watching a movie, I could complain and whine about all the things happening to the lead, the death of a spouse, child, mistreatment, anything bad or sad that happens in the movie would shake me up and I would cry, in fact sometimes my children would come to take a peek into my face to see if I had started and sometimes they would laugh. Why don’t they cry? They tell me girls cry too easily, lol! Anyway, my husband always tells me it is only a movie, it is not real and they are only acting, as if I didn’t know all of those already. I just cannot stop, for me it is a default that as I watch I just imagine it is real, I kind of take the place of the “good guys” in the movie, so I feel their pain…

Life is not a movie (I know sometimes it feel or seems like it is), but it is real, the pain that people feel are real, the hardship is real, the sorrow is real, the challenges can be very tough and real. We meet people every day who are going through what some of us would call nightmares, no food, no shelter, no clothes and no money. Some are suffering health challenges, some have terminal diseases, and some cannot even afford proper health care.


For some the pain is emotional, broken families, relationships, some have been abandoned, hearts torn apart, betrayals, some are depressed, some are battling suicidal thoughts…the list is endless.


For everyday people like you and me, we do have our challenges I know, but we can be the hope someone has desired, that flicker of light that will reassure them that there is a chance things could get better.  We can look beyond ourselves and stretch a helping hand. That is why we are here really, to help those who are helpless in some areas of life, to be the strength and support someone needs, and to put a smile on a face that has not known smile for a long time, to encourage someone to take the next right step.


Remember one time, just one time that someone helped you up, maybe with a word, a smile, a gesture, some cash…and at the right time, just when you needed it. His or her heart went out to you and it became impossible to leave you the way he or she found you.  It must have done something in you to know that the person cared enough to do something .


Imagine how you too can make someone feel when you step in and be the help he/she needs. That would only happen if you allow yourself to feel that person’s pain; just like I (and maybe you do too) feel the pain of the persons in the movies I watch and tear up as if it were real.


I have felt people’s pain; I have felt like their burden was on me, many times I have been able to physically do something about it, some other times I could only pray for them, and some other times I have felt helpless too,  but I have felt people’s pain.


If we allow ourselves to feel the pain of the suffering people around us, we would engage ourselves more in helping them the best way we can. We must realize that life is not just about us and our loved ones, we must pay mind to those on the streets, the people we meet every day on the bus, at the stores, at church…


Philippians 2:4 (ESV)


Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others

Hebrews 13:3 (BBE)


Keep in mind those who are in chains, as if you were chained with them, and those who are in trouble, as being yourselves in the body.


Do you feel other people’s pain? Do you do anything about it?

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a mentor, encourager and influencer. She writes to inspire you to live a full life. Ugochi lives in Canada with her husband Benson and their children; Joshua, Joseph and Josiah.

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