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a shattered mirror with 'my life' written on it


My life is not going the way I want it;

Almost …everything is different from the way I thought and planned it to be. I had my life all planned out, from my childhood days I knew or thought I knew what was best for me, I had ideas of what I thought was what my life should look like. But right now everything is just different!
I really thought I would be a lawyer, communicator, news caster… But I read banking, have never practised, and was a school teacher for a while, now a free counsellor.

I thought my dad would walk me down the aisle, I always dreamed of how He would march me to the altar dressed in his black suit and bow tie, with that smile I always loved right across his face. I thought he would be there to respond when the pastor asked “who gives out this lady to be married…?”
I really thought he would be here to be my children’s Grand pa, doing all those things grand pas did with their grandchildren. But he died four years before I got married, was not at my wedding and my children don’t have a grand pa!

I thought I was going to marry a nine – five man. With all weekends to ourselves, staying home or getting away. I thought I was going to marry a tall dark man, with the husky voice… But I married a not as-dark-as-I-would-have-loved husband, a public man, with not very regular work schedule, always at the beck and call of the people he minds…
I thought I was going to have four children, with equal proportion of both sexes. I had it all thought out, the two boys would come first then the two girls would come afterwards. Well, I made it to the third child, but they all turned out to be boys, lol!

There are so many more things that didn’t turn out as I planned but let the above suffice for now.

I Am Happy!

I am happy with what I do, helping people is a passion I always had, and that is exactly what I am doing though through a never envisaged channel. It can be very overwhelming some times, but I do love what I do, in fact, many times I get a kick out of it when I see the result in someone’s life.

I miss my dad, if there was a stronger word, then that would be the word instead of “miss”. But I thank God I had him, I am grateful I even got to know him and with joyful memories too. Though I cry most times when I think of him, there are times thinking of him brings laughter to my eyes.
I didn’t marry a dark, husky voiced, nine- to- five man, but I married the best for me, full of God and His love. We have plenty of time spent together since we work in the same organization, and though we are still growing in marriage, we are having the best of our times right now.

I do not have a girl child…yet. But I am pretty sure I will, we have agreed for adoption later, and I am looking forward to the day. But I am enjoying my boys, with all the rough and tumble. I am enjoying motherhood and all the lessons of life it is teaching me. I am learning how to treat men and how to enjoy being treated like a lady.

My Realization

You see, I have come to know that my life is not my own. I have come to know that I can have plans but if I allow God, He will cause His very best to happen for me. No matter how great the plans I have for my life, God’s plans are far greater. I am happy things didn’t turn out like I planned them, I would have been living a life less than God’s best for me, and for this I am grateful. I am grateful  that God came in as I let Him, and turned my life right side up.

What about you? Are you living your planned life?
Are you letting God lead you, or are you insisting on following your own plan for your life?
Psalm 73:23-24 (KJV)
23 Nevertheless I am continually with thee: thou hast holden me by my right hand.
24Thou shalt guide me with thy counsel, and afterward receive me to glory.

Jeremiah 29:11 CEB
I know the plans I have in mind for you, declares the LORD; they are plans for peace, not disaster, to give you a future filled with hope.

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Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a mentor, encourager and influencer. She writes to inspire you to live a full life. Ugochi lives in Canada with her husband Benson and their children; Joshua, Joseph and Josiah.

  • Katherines Corner
    Posted at 13:06h, 17 September

    my life is not what I had planned but it is filled with HIS glory, and I am grateful for every bit of it.. Thank you for sharing at the Thursday Favorite Things hop. Your participation helps make it a success.I’m sorry I am slow to visit I am fighting a nasty head cold and my time on the computer has been limited.Wishing you a beautiful day .xo

  • Kristin Leamy
    Posted at 17:56h, 16 September

    generally, I’m trying to live my life the way I want to think it should go, sadly. God is so gentle in His redirection though, and He comes and throws a wrench into my plans as needed. I don’t always like it at the time, but it is always for the best!

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 18:30h, 16 September

      Isn’t He gracious?! Throwing much needed “wrenches” into our lives. Hard some times but good for us. Thanks for coming by Kristin, have a super blessed week ahead!

  • aloted
    Posted at 18:08h, 15 September

    isn’t it ironic how we plan our lives but God comes to change it and makes it better for his glory,

    sorry to hear about your dad. hugs

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 17:39h, 16 September

      “Better for His glory” true my friend, He is so amazing. Thanks for your thoughts, have a super blessed week ahead!

  • Kristin Bridgman
    Posted at 22:04h, 14 September

    Isn’t it always that way…I read once…”Tell God your plans and get ready to hear laughter.” I’m so glad he had a plan for me and that I gave him my life because I probably would have messed it up big time.
    Sounds like you are very blessed. I pray you get your little girl 🙂

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 17:38h, 16 September

      Amen Kristin! Giving our lives over to God is the wisest thing to do. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts, have a super blessed week ahead!

  • Amy Shaughnessy
    Posted at 16:11h, 14 September

    What a great post! I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. I think we all have our lives planned because it is our tendency as humans to try and be in control of every aspect of our lives. I know I had plans but they turned out differently that what I had expected…


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    • Ugochi
      Posted at 18:21h, 14 September

      Thanks Amy,
      I miss him so… And it is the best thing that can happen to anyone, when there is a divine interference. Thanks for coming by and leaving a note.
      Have a super blessed day!

  • mail4rosey
    Posted at 00:25h, 14 September

    I am letting God lead me. And you’re right, God’s best for me is way better than anything I could do on my own.

    Your post is nice, a great tribute to how letting God lead the way will ensure you took the right way. 🙂

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 13:19h, 14 September

      All true my friend. Thanks a lot for coming by and leaving a note.
      Have a super blessed day!

  • A Proverbs 31 Wife
    Posted at 22:55h, 13 September

    Absolutely, nothing I planned has panned out 🙂

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 13:17h, 14 September

      Lol K! You can say that again.

  • Judy Haughton-James
    Posted at 22:20h, 13 September

    Very inspirational Ugochi! My life has turned out totally different from what I had planned. Thank God that I have learnt to trust Him and to have the strength to face the challenges and fight on with faith. Take care and enjoy the rest of your week.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 13:16h, 14 September

      Thanks Judy, trust is key if we must let go and let God. Thanks for coming by and leaving a note. You have a super blessed rest of the week too!

  • Janice's footsteps
    Posted at 17:49h, 13 September

    Our lives are not our own and I am so glad that God has interferred with mine and made the changes he has because I was really screwing things up LOL Great post loved the scriptures!
    Have a great Day :]

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 13:15h, 14 September

      I am glad He interfered in mine too! Thanks Janice for stopping by and leaving a note, have a super blessed day!